The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Ratchetman1982]

Be your genuine self. If someone doesn't like you, that's on them. You were just being you.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Be your genuine self. If someone doesn't like you, that's on them. You were just being you.

Excellent advice!

It is really hard to play someone you aren't.

I have tried it before, role play as being a dom and that just isn't me so I am sure it fell flat with the person I was experimenting it with

 

[subdudeme13]

We all have our likes and dislikes. Let your self be open to the desires of others and what they have to offer. Getting Lit Laid is a two way street with lots of twist and turns. Don't get tied up with a narrow approach. Let your self ride on the freeway!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

We all have our likes and dislikes. Let your self be open to the desires of others and what they have to offer. Getting Lit Laid is a two way street with lots of twist and turns. Don't get tied up with a narrow approach. Let your self ride on the freeway!

Or the sub way

 

[sammyIammy]

Walk. Don’t run.

 

[The_Quiet_Man]

Be patient. Let things happen at their own pace. Sometimes this can be difficult, because the experiences are new and exciting, and you want to experience even more. You have to understand that real life takes priority, but if you are patient, and mindful of your partner's needs, then your connection will grow.

There can also be the added pressure of distance -- a long-distance Lit connection may devolve into feelings of desperation, because of the lack of physical connection. To safeguard against this, communicate clearly with each other. Share your likes, dislikes, desires, and expectations. If there is a genuine connection, then your relationship will only grow and become stronger if you communicate.

Be truthful with each other. Being honest means that you can be your real self, and you only have to remember one story -- the truth.


This is what I have learned about Lit connections and relationships. Of course, this is also good advice for any relationship.

 

[Carmina24]

Be patient. Let things happen at their own pace. Sometimes this can be difficult, because the experiences are new and exciting, and you want to experience even more. You have to understand that real life takes priority, but if you are patient, and mindful of your partner's needs, then your connection will grow.

There can also be the added pressure of distance -- a long-distance Lit connection may devolve into feelings of desperation, because of the lack of physical connection. To safeguard against this, communicate clearly with each other. Share your likes, dislikes, desires, and expectations. If there is a genuine connection, then your relationship will only grow and become stronger if you communicate.

Be truthful with each other. Being honest means that you can be your real self, and you only have to remember one story -- the truth.


This is what I have learned about Lit connections and relationships. Of course, this is also good advice for any relationship.

Beautifully said!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I have had success just by saying, in that initial pm,
You sound like a fun person

 

[jacfox]

Your Turn to Teach

We’ve shared a lot here about the art of getting Lit laid -
from mystery to masks, from sparks to silence.
But the truth is: no one holds all the secrets.

Every one of us has learned something in Lit.
A trick that worked.
A line that lingered.
A way of replying that made someone lean closer.

So now, it’s your turn to teach.

What lesson have you learned about connection here?
It can be playful or practical, short or long.
Maybe it’s a warning sign you watch for,
or maybe it’s the smallest gesture that made all the difference.

Drop your wisdom below.
Because in this thread, every voice matters -
and the best lessons are the ones we learn from each other.

My lesson? Connection can come when you least expect it, from what may seem an unlikely source, from someone who you would not have expected to relate to you. Showing appreciation--of works, of comments--and being open to trying a venture that may be new and unfamiliar; those are what have given me the connections I've had so far. At the same time, that can sometimes crash into the realities of everyday life, which is sad but unavoidable. So enjoy whatever you can find and give what you can in return!

 

[Carmina24]

My lesson? Connection can come when you least expect it, from what may seem an unlikely source, from someone who you would not have expected to relate to you. Showing appreciation--of works, of comments--and being open to trying a venture that may be new and unfamiliar; those are what have given me the connections I've had so far. At the same time, that can sometimes crash into the realities of everyday life, which is sad but unavoidable. So enjoy whatever you can find and give what you can in return!

Excellent advice!
I can confirm this. Sometimes there are comments to my posts that are so compelling, I reach out to express my gratitude, and that becomes the start of a friendship. It is a wonderful way to connect.

 

[questquilya]

Relationships are based on trust. So trust is everything. And trust requires time, patience, willingness to risk something. We all wear many masks, all the time: Be yourself, as much as possible. The beauty of life is in the journey. Same as with physical intimacy: The greatest pleasure is in the wait and the foreplay. Enjoy the journey.

 

[Carmina24]

Relationships are based on trust. So trust is everything. And trust requires time, patience, willingness to risk something. We all wear many masks, all the time: Be yourself, as much as possible. The beauty of life is in the journey. Same as with physical intimacy: The greatest pleasure is in the wait and the foreplay. Enjoy the journey.

I couldn’t agree more. Trust is the soil everything else grows from - without it, nothing lasts. And yes, the masks… we all wear them, but Lit has been such a rare place to set one aside and risk being seen.

What you said about intimacy resonates deeply. The pause, the waiting, the anticipation - it’s often more powerful than the act itself. The journey is where the magic happens.

 

[Carmina24]

Be patient. Let things happen at their own pace. Sometimes this can be difficult, because the experiences are new and exciting, and you want to experience even more. You have to understand that real life takes priority, but if you are patient, and mindful of your partner's needs, then your connection will grow.

There can also be the added pressure of distance -- a long-distance Lit connection may devolve into feelings of desperation, because of the lack of physical connection. To safeguard against this, communicate clearly with each other. Share your likes, dislikes, desires, and expectations. If there is a genuine connection, then your relationship will only grow and become stronger if you communicate.

Be truthful with each other. Being honest means that you can be your real self, and you only have to remember one story -- the truth.


This is what I have learned about Lit connections and relationships. Of course, this is also good advice for any relationship.

Thank you for sharing this - it’s such grounded wisdom. Patience really is the thread that keeps everything from unraveling too soon. And yes, distance can feel heavy at times, but you’re right: honesty and clear words are the bridge.

I love how you said that truth means only one story to remember. There’s beauty in that simplicity - when masks fall away, what’s left is real, and real is what makes any connection worth holding on to.

 

[bestkeptsecret678]

Your Turn to Teach

We’ve shared a lot here about the art of getting Lit laid -
from mystery to masks, from sparks to silence.
But the truth is: no one holds all the secrets.

Every one of us has learned something in Lit.
A little magic that worked.
A line that lingered.
A way of replying that made someone lean closer.

So now, it’s your turn to teach.

What lesson have you learned about connection here?
It can be playful or practical, short or long.
Maybe it’s a warning sign you watch for,
or maybe it’s the smallest gesture that made all the difference.

Drop your wisdom below.
Because in this thread, every voice matters -
and the best lessons are the ones we learn from each other.

I’ll echo the comments about being genuine, and avoiding false pretenses; all good advice for stand up humans.

The point worth noting is the necessity of understanding expectations, both our own and those with whom we interact. We have all come to this site for a litany of reasons. I’ll list just a few:

We are here to safely explore our own sexuality
We are here to find friends
We are here to find a virtual playmate (maybe a sexual one, maybe not)
We are here to find love (virtual or physical)
We are here to express what we can’t say out loud in our real lives
We are here to create and share what we’ve created
We are here to find solace
And so on…

Yet we’re all mixed together with nothing but the written word to connect us. Layer in the anonymity afforded by the venue and a mismatch of expectations happens easily, dare I say everyday. I’ve seen countless comments from Lit friends (and other members) for whom a recent or long running connection simply disappeared without explanation or closing comments. While it’s easy to write that off as bad chemistry, we should also consider the differences in what the two parties were wanting to get from the connection, and from Lit overall.

My point is to recognize this condition; and seek to know what motivates people.

 

[Carmina24]

I’ll echo the comments about being genuine, and avoiding false pretenses; all good advice for stand up humans.

The point worth noting is the necessity of understanding expectations, both our own and those with whom we interact. We have all come to this site for a litany of reasons. I’ll list just a few:

We are here to safely explore our own sexuality
We are here to find friends
We are here to find a virtual playmate (maybe a sexual one, maybe not)
We are here to find love (virtual or physical)
We are here to express what we can’t say out loud in our real lives
We are here to create and share what we’ve created
We are here to find solace
And so on…

Yet we’re all mixed together with nothing but the written word to connect us. Layer in the anonymity afforded by the venue and a mismatch of expectations happens easily, dare I say everyday. I’ve seen countless comments from Lit friends (and other members) for whom a recent or long running connection simply disappeared without explanation or closing comments. While it’s easy to write that off as bad chemistry, we should also consider the differences in what the two parties were wanting to get from the connection, and from Lit overall.

My point is to recognize this condition; and seek to know what motivates people.

I really appreciate this, because it’s a reminder that Lit isn’t a one-size-fits-all space. We come here with different needs and different hungers - to play, to heal, to be heard, to be seen, to create, or sometimes just to breathe.

And yes, the anonymity makes it both safer and riskier. We don’t always know what the other person came looking for, and mismatched expectations can sting. I’ve felt the quiet ache when someone disappears without a word, and I’ve also been guilty of not knowing how to close a door gently myself.

Your point about seeking to know what motivates people is gold. Maybe that’s the truest seduction here: not the perfect line, not the most daring fantasy, but the willingness to ask, “What brought you here, and what do you hope to find?”

Because when we understand each other’s “why,” even if our paths don’t align, we can part with kindness instead of silence. And sometimes, in that simple act of seeing each other, we find the most unexpected kind of connection.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I’ll echo the comments about being genuine, and avoiding false pretenses; all good advice for stand up humans.

The point worth noting is the necessity of understanding expectations, both our own and those with whom we interact. We have all come to this site for a litany of reasons. I’ll list just a few:

We are here to safely explore our own sexuality
We are here to find friends
We are here to find a virtual playmate (maybe a sexual one, maybe not)
We are here to find love (virtual or physical)
We are here to express what we can’t say out loud in our real lives
We are here to create and share what we’ve created
We are here to find solace
And so on…

Yet we’re all mixed together with nothing but the written word to connect us. Layer in the anonymity afforded by the venue and a mismatch of expectations happens easily, dare I say everyday. I’ve seen countless comments from Lit friends (and other members) for whom a recent or long running connection simply disappeared without explanation or closing comments. While it’s easy to write that off as bad chemistry, we should also consider the differences in what the two parties were wanting to get from the connection, and from Lit overall.

My point is to recognize this condition; and seek to know what motivates people.

Yes I had a good thing going with a person but I fucked it up by trying to delve to deeply and over analyzing when she just wanted to remain fun free and frivolous

 

[Finger8]

Your Turn to Teach

We’ve shared a lot here about the art of getting Lit laid -
from mystery to masks, from sparks to silence.
But the truth is: no one holds all the secrets.

Every one of us has learned something in Lit.
A little magic that worked.
A line that lingered.
A way of replying that made someone lean closer.

So now, it’s your turn to teach.

What lesson have you learned about connection here?
It can be playful or practical, short or long.
Maybe it’s a warning sign you watch for,
or maybe it’s the smallest gesture that made all the difference.

Drop your wisdom below.
Because in this thread, every voice matters -
and the best lessons are the ones we learn from each other.

Not sure how wise or successful I consider myself to be on this front. Sometimes things just click and other times not so much. For me, I am drawn to the spirit of playfulness in the communication. That doesn't infer that things need to be lewd, but I think connection works best when there is an underlying understanding that in this space fantasy and reality can co-exist. I am not the most consistent at being on here, life often impinges, so I do find sometimes that can be a drawback to establishing solid connections, but if one can be understanding of that, things can beautifully unravel. As pointed out, things don't always have to be clever or instigating, sometimes a simple check in can suffice and it also provides an element of consent in that it expresses I am willing to continue, willing to explore this territory that many of us may keep hidden from our day to day lives, but here, we can give voice to some of those things that delight and bask in that energy of that possibility.

 

[Carmina24]

@Finger8
I think you captured something we don’t often say out loud - ñ that connection isn’t always about fireworks on demand, but about rhythm. Sometimes it clicks, sometimes it fades, and sometimes it’s as simple as a small check-in that says I’m still here, I’m still willing.

Your point about playfulness resonates deeply. It’s not about being lewd for the sake of it, but about letting imagination and reality dance side by side - knowing that in this space, we can voice the things we hide in daily life and still be met with curiosity instead of judgment.

And I think that’s the lesson in itself: that “teaching” here doesn’t always come wrapped in a lecture or clever words. Sometimes it’s just showing up with honesty about where we’re at, and in doing so, we remind each other that the possibility is still alive.

So thank you for this - you’ve just added your own verse to the Your Turn to Teach chorus.

 

[Carmina24]

@write_or_wrong Welcome! Glad you could visit

 

[firefox27eros]

And I think that’s the lesson in itself: that “teaching” here doesn’t always come wrapped in a lecture or clever words. Sometimes it’s just showing up with honesty about where we’re at, and in doing so, we remind each other that the possibility is still alive.

These are beautiful thoughts and I think I learned from this lesson or at least it resonates with me IRL!
Thank you, @Carmina24

 

[write_or_wrong]

@write_or_wrong Welcome! Glad you could visit

Thank you, Carmina. I just happened onto this thread and have enjoyed reading thee more intellectual posts - especially yours. I'm not so much looking to get "Lit laid" as I am to hear opinions on personalities, situations, yin/yang, and everything that goes into human interaction. However, if an opportunity should present itself ...

 

[Carmina24]

Thank you, Carmina. I just happened onto this thread and have enjoyed reading thee more intellectual posts - especially yours. I'm not so much looking to get "Lit laid" as I am to hear opinions on personalities, situations, yin/yang, and everything that goes into human interaction. However, if an opportunity should present itself ...

@write_or_wrong
Don’t let the title of our thread mislead you - it’s more than what it seems on the surface. You’ll find depth here, reflections that run profound, and conversations that wander into the very things you’re looking for: personalities, situations, yin/yang, and all the mysteries of connection.

And since you’ve stepped in, let’s make you comfortable. Here’s a seat in the lazy boy, and a drinks menu for you to choose from. The best conversations flow easier with the right drink in hand.

 

[Carmina24]

Thank you, Carmina. I just happened onto this thread and have enjoyed reading thee more intellectual posts - especially yours. I'm not so much looking to get "Lit laid" as I am to hear opinions on personalities, situations, yin/yang, and everything that goes into human interaction. However, if an opportunity should present itself ...

Btw, I am glad you enjoy my posts.

 

[Carmina24]

Thank you, Carmina. I just happened onto this thread and have enjoyed reading thee more intellectual posts - especially yours. I'm not so much looking to get "Lit laid" as I am to hear opinions on personalities, situations, yin/yang, and everything that goes into human interaction. However, if an opportunity should present itself ...

Yin/yang - a very interesting concept...I think I might write about it...
Keep drinking. I may have something after you wake up.

 

[write_or_wrong]

@write_or_wrong
Don’t let the title of our thread mislead you - it’s more than what it seems on the surface. You’ll find depth here, reflections that run profound, and conversations that wander into the very things you’re looking for: personalities, situations, yin/yang, and all the mysteries of connection.

And since you’ve stepped in, let’s make you comfortable. Here’s a seat in the lazy boy, and a drinks menu for you to choose from. The best conversations flow easier with the right drink in hand.

Well, aren't you the best hostess I could hope for! I can just imagine all of us sitting around in a big but comfy room (in our Lazy Boys), conversing about the human condition with drinks in our hands. Where do I sign up?