Giving or sending your wife to another man

[Husband55]

Not my first marriage.
I liked the idea of her continuing to date. To cuck me.

She did for awhile, then she either settled or chose my company over others.

With her having to travel to a city where one of her lovers lived now. I suggested she stay with him. Then i rang him and asked if she could stay with him.

Also suggesting she stay with him. I loved her honest response of , if she does, she would end up in his bed. Her 3 days away stretched to 7 days.

 

[liqueur]

You know, something's bothered me about this thread ever since I joined it, and I finally figured out what it is (I'm slow sometimes). It's nothing to do with the posts, it's the thread title. “Giving your wife...” — it implies the wife has no agency, as if she's some possession to be handed off at will.

What I admire is exactly opposite: the wife who knows she's nobody's possession, and makes sure you know it too. The woman who takes what she wants, when she wants, where she wants. And tells you if you don't like it, you can go sit on it.

 

[jonjonz68]

You know, something's bothered me about this thread ever since I joined it, and I finally figured out what it is (I'm slow sometimes). It's nothing to do with the posts, it's the thread title. “Giving your wife...” — it implies the wife has no agency, as if she's some possession to be handed off at will.

What I admire is exactly opposite: the wife who knows she's nobody's possession, and makes sure you know it too. The woman who takes what she wants, when she wants, where she wants. And tells you if you don't like it, you can go sit on it.

That's the hottest part of the whole experience: her agency.

 

[Phatfeet]

You know, something's bothered me about this thread ever since I joined it, and I finally figured out what it is (I'm slow sometimes). It's nothing to do with the posts, it's the thread title. “Giving your wife...” — it implies the wife has no agency, as if she's some possession to be handed off at will.

What I admire is exactly opposite: the wife who knows she's nobody's possession, and makes sure you know it too. The woman who takes what she wants, when she wants, where she wants. And tells you if you don't like it, you can go sit on it.

But that is not accurate.

It is different in a marriage because on the day you wed that is EXACTLY what she professes, to be dedicated to her husband, and in turn, the husband dedicated to the wife. It is where we get "Forsaking all others until death due us part". marriage is literally a spoken agreement between two people that holds a lot of weight.

Anyone who has ever been cheated on knows the fallacy of thinking any person cannot do anything that they want sexually. Its just any notion that somehow a vow is going to ensure that, is foolhardy and suddenly realized. Anyone can be seduced.

The "GIVING" is not the giving of permission for sex outside of marriage, it is the GIVING UP of the consequences of it.

HUGE, HUGE, HUGE difference.

And it is not forever, it is a finite amount of time and where we get the term "RECLAIMED". What the husband is saying is, "go be with whomever you want', and she does, and it is not even forsaking of her husband because she is still dedicating her life to her husband, and him to her, its just an understanding that she is having sex with another man.

If she doesn't tell her husband and goes out and cheats without him knowing, then that is forsaking him.

So wife sharing is the equivalent of having a clause added to a contract. It does not make the marriage vows null and void entirely, it just states that in this situation, what normally is considered to be wrong and hurtful, won't be. But a contract can only be ratified if both people agree to it. The same with wife-sharing. If its one-sided (cheating) consequences kick in.

 

[liqueur]

What I admire is exactly opposite: the wife who knows she's nobody's possession, and makes sure you know it too.

But that is not accurate.

Are you telling me I don't know what I admire?

It is different in a marriage because on the day you wed that is EXACTLY what she professes, to be dedicated to her husband, and in turn, the husband dedicated to the wife. It is where we get "Forsaking all others until death due us part".

Marriage is and always has been a farce. Vows Married men have had license to break these vows with whomever, wherever, whenever, for millenia. Society, and the church that invented these vows, has always turned a blind eye, or at most, responded with brief wag of the finger. For all of history (where polygamy was not accepted) adultry was been an equal institution, existing in parallel with marriage — for men!
Which is the point. What i love and admire is women who turn this institution on its head. Who say “you've had your 3K years to play. It our turn now. “

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I remember when this thread was a fun read .... None of us here need a lecture on morals, or semantics. If something about this thread bothers you, perhaps it's time to move on. If you want an argument, try the politics boars.

 

[Tom_Brown]

I remember when this thread was a fun read .... None of us here need a lecture on morals, or semantics. If something about this thread bothers you, perhaps it's time to move on. If you want an argument, try the politics boars.

Amen!

 

[Phatfeet]

Are you telling me I don't know what I admire?

Marriage is and always has been a farce. Vows Married men have had license to break these vows with whomever, wherever, whenever, for millenia. Society, and the church that invented these vows, has always turned a blind eye, or at most, responded with brief wag of the finger. For all of history (where polygamy was not accepted) adultry was been an equal institution, existing in parallel with marriage — for men!
Which is the point. What i love and admire is women who turn this institution on its head. Who say “you've had your 3K years to play. It our turn now. “

Please don't gaslight me just to try and drive your agenda home.

Married men or woman have always had the right to sleep with whomever they wanted. As I said in my earlier post; no one can dictate what another person does. It does not matter the gender. A wife that has been cheated on finds this out no differently than a man who has. Betrayal therefore is a human emotion and not gender specific.

For most men on here, wife sharing is a fantasy but it is something my wife and I have done.

You cited in you post earlier (#102) that you took issue with the title of the thread, putting it in quotes "Giving your wife"... and that is what I addressed. You are are not accurate, because you truncated your quote too early. You are trying to make a point that no one is arguing about. People are free to do as they wish, married or otherwise, that is an intrinsic human right. We all get that.

When a person gets married though, they make a vow that they will forsake all others. And my wife and I did. She was not asking me for permission to have sex, she was asking me if we could set aside her vow temporarily. In doing so, it took away any betrayal I might have felt. And when her friend asked if she could have sex with me, it was likewise that way with her.

To put it another way: I had friends who were married and he liked to have sex with Asian women. His wife knew about it and openly encouraged it. Until one night. She just did not want him to. She simply said, 'not tonight okay". But he did it anyway. A few months later they got divorced? Why? Because in all the times before she was telling him there was no consequences for what he was doing, but when she said "not tonight, hun" and just wanted to be with him, he did it anyway and she felt disrespected and betrayed. And ultimately there was consequences for that.

That is what cuckolding and cuckqueaning is: openly setting aside consequences for having sex with others in a marriage.

 

[Phatfeet]

I remember when this thread was a fun read .... None of us here need a lecture on morals, or semantics. If something about this thread bothers you, perhaps it's time to move on. If you want an argument, try the politics boars.

Because for many on here wife or husband sharing is a fantasy, and for others it has been something they have done, or are doing. There are a whole lot of ramifications when it gets real and its actually good for these realities to be found out before others blindly try something they have not fully considered.

Myself I enjoy these discussions but that is what these forums are for. A lot of valid points have been made on here that people interested in this should fully consider.

If you want pure fantasy you should try XVideos and do a search for cuckolding videos. There are 67,594 videos for you to watch with nothing you cite being on them because its the proper media what you are looking for.

 

[Islander55]

You know, something's bothered me about this thread ever since I joined it, and I finally figured out what it is (I'm slow sometimes). It's nothing to do with the posts, it's the thread title. “Giving your wife...” — it implies the wife has no agency, as if she's some possession to be handed off at will.

What I admire is exactly opposite: the wife who knows she's nobody's possession, and makes sure you know it too. The woman who takes what she wants, when she wants, where she wants. And tells you if you don't like it, you can go sit on it.

You make a good point. A woman is not really a man's to give but it works best when it is a mutual desire. The woman needs something different and the man is supportive of her exploring her sexuality. After all it may well benefit him as well as she repays his support.

 

[OldJock60]

I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

You make a good point. A woman is not really a man's to give but it works best when it is a mutual desire. The woman needs something different and the man is supportive of her exploring her sexuality. After all it may well benefit him as well as she repays his support.

Maybe we have taken "given" too literally, and should think of it in more of a figurative context. I have "given" my wife over to an old H.S. boyfriend of hers several times now. There is always the expectation that he will "give" her back to me, once they are done playing with each other. I would never, ever think of "giving" the best part of my life to anyone else. It just enhances our state of arousal for me to 'deliver' her to his condo/hotel room and give them my blessings. Again, it's not that she needs my permission, it just creates a higher level of sexual anticipation for us. And most importantly, she likes being "given" to her old boyfriend, for an afternoon, or evening.

 

[Diann_Mom]

Good grief!! This thread has gone sideways!

 

[usse]

Good grief!! This thread has gone sideways!

lol

 

[hardbiker82]

A true story about sending her to another man. Share yours too.

Great story! I love this thread, maybe one day I will share some of my experiences in sending my wife to help a married man involved in a nearly sexless marriage. She saw him on about a weekly basis. I'm not a cuckhold, but the knowing she was pleasing another guy that wasn't getting... well, I was happy to share what I was getting. This went on for months.

 

[Islander55]

Maybe we have taken "given" too literally, and should think of it in more of a figurative context. I have "given" my wife over to an old H.S. boyfriend of hers several times now. There is always the expectation that he will "give" her back to me, once they are done playing with each other. I would never, ever think of "giving" the best part of my life to anyone else. It just enhances our state of arousal for me to 'deliver' her to his condo/hotel room and give them my blessings. Again, it's not that she needs my permission, it just creates a higher level of sexual anticipation for us. And most importantly, she likes being "given" to her old boyfriend, for an afternoon, or evening.

 

[Islander55]

Maybe we have taken "given" too literally, and should think of it in more of a figurative context. I have "given" my wife over to an old H.S. boyfriend of hers several times now. There is always the expectation that he will "give" her back to me, once they are done playing with each other. I would never, ever think of "giving" the best part of my life to anyone else. It just enhances our state of arousal for me to 'deliver' her to his condo/hotel room and give them my blessings. Again, it's not that she needs my permission, it just creates a higher level of sexual anticipation for us. And most importantly, she likes being "given" to her old boyfriend, for an afternoon, or evening.

I understand the concept and really have no problem with the term giving as long as it is the wife's choice. When we first started talking about the lifestyle, I may have played a little coy and seemed reluctant but the thoughts running through my head as I considered being able to fuck other men with his approval. I did not play coy too long before I agreed.

 

[Tom_Brown]

Great story! I love this thread, maybe one day I will share some of my experiences in sending my wife to help a married man involved in a nearly sexless marriage. She saw him on about a weekly basis. I'm not a cuckhold, but the knowing she was pleasing another guy that wasn't getting... well, I was happy to share what I was getting. This went on for months.

Why not make this that “one day”?

 

[CEOescape]

Hot story!! Depends on your definition, but by mine, that's a cuckold story. Thanks for sharing!

my wife came back smiling and lead me to bed and had me masturbate as she told me all that happened.

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I don't know if I would fully classify as a cuckold but I have sent my with on a few fuck sessions with other guys. I wrote about one in the thread about sex with a stranger.
Another time, There was a guy down the street who liked to flirt with her a lot. She told me about his attention which does turn me on a lot. Love other guys lusting after her. So over the course of the next couple weeks I kept encouraging her to wear sexy stuff around him. A few times while I was there and several others where I wasn't. It was a big turn on to see a guy catching looks at her and trying to pretend he isn't. She has 36d tits and will sometimes wear tight shirts with no bra and she gets lots of attention. The times I wasn't around she would come home and tell me all about while we fucked. She had the hots for him that's for sure. So i encouraged her to go further with him and fuck him. This was early in our swinging. So to make a long story short she did fuck him one night and came home and told me all about it. I was so fucking horny hearing about it and told her I wanted to lick her pussy. That was the first time I tasted another mans cum from her pussy.
About a month later i was there when he fucked her.

You are definitely a cuckold by any definition. Your wife has had sex with other men, while married to you. Welcome to the club.

 

[LMWM321]

I want to dispel this myth that women who openly have occasional sex outside of their marriage must be cruel, hyper-sexual vixens who are married to sexually wimpy men with small dicks. Indeed, these 'Hotwife' and 'Cuckhold' caricatures are grotesque, and likely bear little semblance to the real couples that allow sex outside of their marriage.

Several years ago, I gave my wife my blessing to be with other men - why?? Well, not because she was hyper-sexual. On the contrary, it was because she was becoming hypo-sexual - ie., beginning to lose interest in sex. So, I did it because I thought it would help restore her sexual vigor.

At that point in our marriage we had been sexually exclusive for 25+ years and had had sex literally thousands of times - ie., a very consistent 2-3 times per wk. Despite all those years and repetition, my sexual interest in her had not waned one iota, but her sexual interest in me seemed to be declining, which worried me. I thought by encouraging her to occasionally be with other men, it would help to keep her interest in Sex - including sex with me - from completely disappearing.

I will point out that the thought of my wife having sex with another man would have been unbearable much earlier in our marriage. Before our relationship had fully matured, I believed sexual exclusivity was essential because I felt she might leave me if she found she enjoyed sex more with someone else. ..But after a 20+ year marriage filled with loving each other, raising kids, supporting each other through crisis after crisis, that fear had completely evaporated; indeed, the idea that my wife would leave me for better sex seemed totally ridiculous. ..So, I felt very comfortable telling her she was free to occasionally enjoy sex with others, so long as she was honest about it, prioritized her safety and was discreet.

Do I enjoy the idea of my wife being with other men, now that I don't feel threatened by it? Honestly, yes.. very much so. Knowing some handsome guy orgasmed inside of her is a huge rush and it scratches a sort of pride-of-ownership kink. To be very clear, I don't believe I own my wife, but I do own her promise to be my soulmate for the rest of my life. So, knowing this guy enjoyed her body and physical presence for a short while but can never truly have her love, feels a bit like letting a friend drive your Ferrari for an hour. When he gives back the keys, with a huge smile on his face, you revel in his envy for something you have forever, that he got to enjoy only briefly.

 

[write_or_wrong]

I want to dispel the idea that women who have occasional sex outside of their marriage are always hyper-sexual vixens who are married to sexual wimps. 'Hotwife' and 'Cuckhold' are grotesque labels that widely miss the mark - at least in some cases.

Several years ago I gave my wife my blessing to be with other men - why?? Because I thought it was necessary to restore her overall interest in sex. At that point in our marriage we had been sexually exclusive for over 35 years and had had sex literally thousands of times - ie., a very consistent 2-3/ wk. Despite all those years and repetition, my sexual interest in her had not waned one iota, but her sexual interest in me seemed to be declining, which scared me. I thought encouraging her to occasionally be with other men was necessary to keeping her interest in Sex - including sex with me - from completely disappearing.

I will point out that the thought of my wife having sex with another man would have been unbearable much earlier in our marriage. When a relationship is new, you believe sexual exclusivity is essential because your partner might leave you if they enjoy sex more with someone else. ..But after 35 years of loving each other, raising kids, supporting each other through crisis after crisis, that fear has completely evaporated; indeed, the idea that my wife would leave me for better sex seems totally ridiculous. I'm quite certain my beautiful wife is not going anywhere, so she is free to occasionally enjoy sex with others.

Do I enjoy the idea of her being with other men? Honestly, yes.. very much so. Knowing some handsome guy orgasmed inside my wife is a huge rush and scratches a pride-of-ownership kink. To be very clear, I don't believe I own my wife, but I do own her promise to be my soulmate for the rest of my life. So, knowing this guy enjoyed her body and psychical presence for a short while but can never truly have her love, feels a bit like letting a friend drive your Ferrari for an hour. When he gives back the keys, with a huge smile on his face, you revel in his envy for something you have forever, that he got to enjoy only briefly.

So well stated; thank you. The reason her having sex with you is way better than having sex with another man is the love she feels for you. Either one or the other can feel great, but both together is the ultimate satisfaction.

 

[Illgiveitatry1]

Did you get sloppy seconds

Oh fuck I love sloppy seconds I even love when she comes home with cum dripping out of her and having me clean it up

 

[phil1955]

Oh fuck I love sloppy seconds I even love when she comes home with cum dripping out of her and having me clean it up

I hear you on that. Nothing better than sliding your cock into a freshly fucked pussy or having her tell me to lay down as she dismounts and sits on my face.

 

[Mu5tang]

Its a long story... but i dated a girl who was divorced for 2 years. Her ex-husband moved out of state and re-married. Even before she started dating me, he would still stay at her (their) house when he came in to visit their 2 kids, once a month or so.
After some pillow talk and sharing fantasies, she eventually told me that he still fucks her.... and fucks her a lot. Multiple times per weekend visits.
One Sunday afternoon, I stopped by just as he was leaving. I walked in the house as he was walking off the porch. We spoke for a second, as he left in his truck.
I walked into her bedroom and she was coming out of the bathroom in her night gown. It was the middle of the afternoon.. and the kids where not there. She looked at me with a halfway grin, so I knew what just happened. She had just been a very naughty girl. I instantly became hard and was quivering, like being chilled.
She said, he stopped by on his way out of town, after dropping the kids off at his parents to visit. He was fucking the shit out of her, and had just finished flooding her pussy when they heard my car pulling into the driveway. She immediately ran to the bathroom while he put pants back on. That's why he was in a hurry to leave. She threw on her night gown because she didn't have anything else to put on.
She walked over and showed me the cum spots they had just made on her bed. I pushed her to lean over on the side of the bed, and lifted her gown over her ass. Even though she had tried to clean up, her pussy was still weeping his mostly clear cum.
That was my first sloppy seconds experience, as I pounded her freshly cum flooded pussy from behind.