Physical Attraction

[soflabbwlvr]

Over in the Author's Hangout, I used to get into arguments with another author about how physically attractive readers like the characters in the stories they read. My question here is a sort of a spin on that discussion. How physically attractive must a potential partner be in order for you to have sex with them? What is your cutoff? On a scale of 1-10, how low will you go? Assume no one will ever know and there are no repercussions of any type. If you are not currently interested in finding sexual partners, how low have you gone in the past?

 

[GuaMan085]

I think there is the common misconception that men will have sex with anything that certain groups of people like to say. To a degree it is true in some cases but not always. Me personally in order for me to want to be with a woman I do have to be extremly attracted to her physically. There is definitely a certain type of look and body type in a woman that I find more appealing. I wouldn't go after a woman im not attracted to regardless of her personality because then I would just be wasting both of our time.

 

[FMacCumhail]

I have never been able to hook up with literally anybody, but I have known plenty of dudes who could. I've been with a couple of women who I cared for deeply as a friends...tried to make it work with both of them and neither could make me cum because the spark just wasn't there. :/

In general, the vibe/connection has to be there on an emotional level, but if that's the case then physical chemistry definitely still has to be there to make it work. Things I've learned the hard way.

 

[dodgeboy2]

Over in the Author's Hangout, I used to get into arguments with another author about how physically attractive readers like the characters in the stories they read. My question here is a sort of a spin on that discussion. How physically attractive must a potential partner be in order for you to have sex with them? What is your cutoff? On a scale of 1-10, how low will you go? Assume no one will ever know and there are no repercussions of any type. If you are not currently interested in finding sexual partners, how low have you gone in the past?

From my pov which is all from my past I can say this, I am bi so I will tell from both perspectives;

With guys, whom I started my earliest endeavors with all I would say fit in the 5-8 range so I guess that would be average looks to somewhat hot while myself honestly at my very best maybe a 3 or 4.

With women I can honestly say I have a broader overall range being with ones that fit between a 2-9 range and honestly some of the best relationships were with a few that were in the 2-4 range. I saw and still do see relationships as needing a healthy mental bond 1st and well if she/he are good looking that's just a bonus.

Now those are of course long term I am talking about, I did have a few men and women one night stand pickups at bars and honestly they were all 6-7 until I woke up and they turned out to be 1-3's but honestly didn't care cause the sex was amazing and in the morning when my clear head could see we still had sober morning sex.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I think there is the common misconception that men will have sex with anything that certain groups of people like to say. To a degree it is true in some cases but not always. Me personally in order for me to want to be with a woman I do have to be extremly attracted to her physically. There is definitely a certain type of look and body type in a woman that I find more appealing. I wouldn't go after a woman im not attracted to regardless of her personality because then I would just be wasting both of our time.

Fair enough. That being said, what is your threshold?

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I have never been able to hook up with literally anybody, but I have known plenty of dudes who could. I've been with a couple of women who I cared for deeply as a friends...tried to make it work with both of them and neither could make me cum because the spark just wasn't there. :/

In general, the vibe/connection has to be there on an emotional level, but if that's the case then physical chemistry definitely still has to be there to make it work. Things I've learned the hard way.

Given those constraints, how much physical chemistry do you need? Where is your limit where "yes" is impossible?

 

[000777]

While I would like to impress everyone here and say that I have a high standard, I don't.

 

[GuaMan085]

Fair enough. That being said, what is your threshold?

I typically wouldn't put a number scale on a woman, but I will put it to you this way. A few years back I was hooking up with a woman maybe some may not deem as traditionally attractive, but she had an amazing body a small waist and an ass that was out of this world. I still wanted to bang her based on that alone.

 

[FMacCumhail]

Given those constraints, how much physical chemistry do you need? Where is your limit where "yes" is impossible?

Wish I could tell you! Case-by-case basis. If I COULD tell you, it would make my life a helluva lot less complicated

 

[000777]

Wish I could tell you! Case-by-case basis. If I COULD tell you, it would make my life a helluva lot less complicated

Well, I'm all ears, let's hear a case by case!

 

[Baztrachian]

How physically attractive must a potential partner be in order for you to have sex with them?

I have always been more interested in how physically sound someone was. Like are these ladies in generally good health, have decent teeth, good enough hair, and no indications of poor habits such as a muffin top and the temerity to show it off.

On your range my preferences would probably run 4-8.

Women who would rank 9/10 are fun to look at and appreciate but my feeling has always been that someone who is that much into her appearance isn't going to have time for me.

Give me a girl who is comfortable enough with herself to wear one of my t-shirts as a nightgown and to own the look and I'm happy.

That girl is my 10.

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

The tricky thing about this is everyone's scale is going to be different. Some girls I would rank high, others would rank low due to different tastes/wants/qualifications. There is no set in stone "this is what makes someone a 7," y'know?

I know I'd fuck, and have fucked, some girls that would probably rank pretty low for other guys. I could say a five is as low as I'd go, and what you're ethinking is a five might be radically different from what I think is a five.

 

[Britva415]

Over in the Author's Hangout, I used to get into arguments with another author about how physically attractive readers like the characters in the stories they read. My question here is a sort of a spin on that discussion. How physically attractive must a potential partner be in order for you to have sex with them? What is your cutoff? On a scale of 1-10, how low will you go? Assume no one will ever know and there are no repercussions of any type. If you are not currently interested in finding sexual partners, how low have you gone in the past?

It depends so much on non-physical factors.

I'd do a 0 if there were exciting "energy" and fun, warm connection there. I'd say hell-no to a 10 if there were no energy and a repellent personality.

I've hit it between about 3 on the low end and 9 on the high end.

It is also a documented phenomenon that how much you like someone strongly influences how physically attractive you rate them. I did hit an objective 10 once but I only regarded her then, and still do now, as like a 7. The one I'm calling a 9 might not have been a 9 to someone who didn't know her and like her.

Also, fuck what anyone else thinks. Not a factor at all.

 

[BillyWalrus]

One of your assumptions is that a man would have sex with a woman just based on physical attraction alone. I don't care how physically attractive a woman is - I am not having sex with her if I don't like her.

In fact my attraction for a woman is somewhat undefinable even to myself. The chemistry between us and by this I mean the link, the vibe, the bond between our beings is what matters. If that is there, nothing else matters.

 

[Britva415]

Women who would rank 9/10 are fun to look at and appreciate but my feeling has always been that someone who is that much into her appearance isn't going to have time for me.

I don't regard those plastic looking types as 9-10 at all. They're strictly mid, because of how much they're hiding, concealing and distorting their real appearance.

There absolutely are such people as natural 9s and 10s. Those scores are not anything that's attainable with makeup and surgical enhancement.

I'm not saying that a woman who cares about her appearance, and about optimizing it, can't be a 9 or a 10, but she would have to really understand and appreciate her natural beauty and not fuck it up with excessive masking.

 

[Wonderer67]

I find more than half of women attractive in some way.

I prefer natural beauty. Not a fan of makeup.

My wife is probably is amazing and gorgeous. I have no idea what she’s doing with me.

But a lot of women I am attracted to don’t have to be gorgeous. There are many things I can find attractive about a woman. Hair. Eyes. Smile. Body features.

But the thing I find most attractive is not looks: attitude.

Fun, humor, sexy, sassy, nerdy, cute, or just something unique. I was working with a woman today who had short hair, very plain jane… but she had a great sexy attitude.

 

[Milo9012]

Man, when I read the title of this thread I immediately thought it would be a breeze, but as I thought about it; 'Is it only physical attraction?', things got complicated.

Being Bi, sometimes it's her/his physical appearance, like her/his face, but then it's also how she/he is dressed. With women, legs, dress/skirt, and footwear are among the first things I notice but personality plays a big part.

With males it's somewhat the same, but I often wonder if the guy is into guys himself or am I going to have to deal with his awkward 'am-I-gay' guilt afterwards.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

One of your assumptions is that a man would have sex with a woman just based on physical attraction alone. I don't care how physically attractive a woman is - I am not having sex with her if I don't like her.

In fact my attraction for a woman is somewhat undefinable even to myself. The chemistry between us and by this I mean the link, the vibe, the bond between our beings is what matters. If that is there, nothing else matters.

Actually, it is the reverse. The assumption here is that there is a point where there is so little physical attraction that you would not have sex with the person, no matter how much you otherwise found them appealing. The question is attempting to discern how much of a factor physical attraction comprises.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

I definitely need to have physical attraction but as I have said on these pages that is far from what hooks me into a person as I myself find that very shallow.
Everyone has their own scale of 1 to 10
To me a 5 or 6 with an awesome sense of humor, the ability and desire to communicate with a hunger for sexual activities far out scores a 9 that is just a horrible person that thinks the world should bow down to them.
I rate those types of people a 1 and have zero sexual attraction to them.

I have known a few women that look great all made up but a 3 getting up in the morning as far as looks only go.
But a 3 waking you up with a BJ just turned into a 6 without any makeup..
Give me a natural woman, great sense of humor and fun to be with in and out of bed or wherever and she is my 10

 

[BillyWalrus]

Actually, it is the reverse. The assumption here is that there is a point where there is so little physical attraction that you would not have sex with the person, no matter how much you otherwise found them appealing. The question is attempting to discern how much of a factor physical attraction comprises.

In my case, if I had a strong connection with someone, that alone would create a sufficient physical attraction. Physical attraction does not exist in a void apart from everything else.

How often have we seen a woman that we originally thought was physically attractive but becomes physically repulsive once we know her? Likewise, the reverse is true. I have known many women that I found physically beautiful after I knew their personalities and felt a strong bond with them.