How do men view sluts?

[CaptCharles]

Like a person that enjoys sex? What's wrong with that idea?

 

[Wisconsin65]

This brings up a pet peeve of mine...why are men and women viewed so differently based on being sluts? Men seem to be idolized while women are criticized for it.

Very true. Seems to be stigma attached to each gender. Sadly.

 

[lc69hunter]

Everyone, male and female, has an inner slut who would like to come out and play, but most people never let it happen. They keep it buried in those fantasies they never talk about. And the women who do get trashed by many men and women who are secretly both terrified and envious.

 

[lowcollar]

Calling someone a slut implies a negative judgement. I just consider being horny a good thing. Never called any woman a slut unless she liked it in the sack.

 

[TellusMoon]

Calling someone a slut implies a negative judgement. I just consider being horny a good thing. Never called any woman a slut unless she liked it in the sack.

It's definitely much better, more attractive and sexy than a grumpy jealous housewife who has forgotten what it is to enjoy life and sex )

I 100% agree with both.

Unless the women likes to be called a slut, for me its just a women with a healthy libido that enjoys sex.
If she is in a relantionship, as long as all is consensual without cheating what should anyone judge? Mind your own business and get a life

 

[notexactlymelville]

I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.

I think the word slut is just loaded differently. It's not an internal state of being as much as how people see you. For me it's about degrees of possession, like I could let a partner fuck for me, on my explicit permission, but I'm not polyamorous and would find it intensely disrespectful if that boundary was crossed without my say-so. Same if she brings another girl in "for me". That girl gets affection and aftercare but she's essentially an actor in a play at that point. Am I more or less of a slut for being with another woman? You tell me.

There's a lot of weird gender roles around this that tend to be generalized. Men are "never" sluts even though historically we are sluttier than can be easily described. When the generalities are broken and it's just you, your internal compass and what your partner is happy with, you can be any degree of mono/poly/slutty/whatever, who's to say you can't? Random strangers certainly don't get a say.

 

[womaneater58]

From my experiences, they're the best in bed because they enjoy it. It's no different than me, so I guess I could be called a slut also because I love sex.

 

[NxtLvlHuman]

There should be absolutely no shame about enjoying sex. "Sluts" are the most powerful women because they have chosen to evolve past outdated ideologies. They carry themselves with more confidence, and they are the sexiest women on Earth!

 

[txfuncouple]

How do I view them? Hopefully standing above me with a pussy full of cum about to sit on my mouth!

 

[CaptCharles]

This brings up a pet peeve of mine...why are men and women viewed so differently based on being sluts? Men seem to be idolized while women are criticized for it.

Good point.. old fashioned thinking

 

[dodgeboy2]

I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.

I can't see where this makes you a slut, more so I think you are someone who wishes to please her husband and it isn't for anyone else to judge you at all. A slut would more be someone that without her husbands knowledge and laid with other men or women and that doesn't seem to be this case as everything you seemed to have down has been agreed to with both yourself and your husband.

Hopefully you are satisfied sexually yourself and are not just the one providing pleasure!

 

[leftwantingmore]

I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.

First, I am an atheist. Have been since the age of 14. Religion wants to control how you think. I am a Freethinker. I think for myself. I am not a sheep. Don't be sheep, the wolves will eat you.
IMHO a better life can be had by being true to oneself. Whoever you are inside, be true and honest about you, to yourself.

 

[magicalmoments]

I view sluts with admiration and desire. Women brave enough to chose how they will live in the face of societal norms and pressures.

The OP does not make it clear whether she fucks her husbands friends because she desires the encounters and participates with pleasure or whether she is participating solely because she is instructed to by her husband and gets no pleasure from the event. If the former, I respect her. If the latter I don't.

 

[AZsurfer45]

I think most men admitting or not, honestly wish their wife or gf to be a huge slut. Just for them. And only on their timetable for when it’s convenient to them. Not sure that’s how the world works though.

I for one, want my gal to be a slut, and look upon her confidence and ability to be one as a source of pride. I feel a sense of pride knowing she’s the best cock sucker in the room and has the wettest open fuckable pussy around. If she’s not a slut then we’re likely not compatible. My drive works best when with someone sexually open and free.

Unlike some on here, I don’t think I’d be comfortable with her being a slut with other men. Just my preference, but I don’t feel comfortable sharing. I wouldn’t mind if she has gfs she plays with and I’d encourage her to dress slutty when we are out and drawing sexual attention from the guys and gals. Arm candy But at the end of the day knowing this desirable slut is mine and that others can look but can’t touch what I have, is what gets me off.

That said, I don’t look down on any slut as long as she is empowering herself. Do it lady!

 

[Britva415]

Everyone, male and female, has an inner slut who would like to come out and play, but most people never let it happen. They keep it buried in those fantasies they never talk about

or else never do anything but talk

 

[SirSparky100]

I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.

I would love to have a submissive slutty wife but in a more of a Dom/sub dynamic where I give her structure by setting her daily tasks and she has rules and earn rewards. She would also be punished if I felt she had been a naughty girl.

But you are correct that religious and pious people are sometimes the most corrupt.

I very much prefer sluts to primary and proper women.

 

[SirSparky100]

I think most men admitting or not, honestly wish their wife or gf to be a huge slut. Just for them. And only on their timetable for when it’s convenient to them. Not sure that’s how the world works though.

I for one, want my gal to be a slut, and look upon her confidence and ability to be one as a source of pride. I feel a sense of pride knowing she’s the best cock sucker in the room and has the wettest open fuckable pussy around. If she’s not a slut then we’re likely not compatible. My drive works best when with someone sexually open and free.

Unlike some on here, I don’t think I’d be comfortable with her being a slut with other men. Just my preference, but I don’t feel comfortable sharing. I wouldn’t mind if she has gfs she plays with and I’d encourage her to dress slutty when we are out and drawing sexual attention from the guys and gals. Arm candy But at the end of the day knowing this desirable slut is mine and that others can look but can’t touch what I have, is what gets me off.

That said, I don’t look down on any slut as long as she is empowering herself. Do it lady!

Exactly this. I want my woman to be a slut for and to me, dress slutty when we are out etc, but not into sharing her.

 

[Statius]

I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.

That's always the case with religion. Slut is a shame word, that's it. Every 'slur' I've ever met has standards and shoots people down for whatever reason. Body count means nothing. If you're married and giving it up to others, man or woman, that's on them to deal with the ramifications. If it's mutual between the couple to have other partners, more power to you

 

[MerWilh]

How do I view them? Hopefully standing above me with a pussy full of cum about to sit on my mouth!

Brilliant mindset.

 

[iago84]

I know the types the original poster mentions as I was one of them. We're repressed and it takes time to get out of that. I'm still in the process, but it's getting better and better.

I would love a slut friend to have around to help out when the opportunity is there.

 

[dirk2024]

Calling someone a slut implies a negative judgement. I just consider being horny a good thing. Never called any woman a slut unless she liked it in the sack.

I think we need to work together to save the word Slut. It should be a title of honor and respect. A title both women and men could earn.

 

[lily_wall_]

I'm sometimes looked down upon when I talk about my situation as a submissive wife. They argue based on their moral standards based on their religion. But the facts show that men who claim to be very religious are actually very morally corrupt. They use religion as a mask to justify their actions. I've had sex several times with my husband's friends, who he says are very pious and religious at home. It turns out their sexual fantasies are very wild, and they seek outlets for those fantasies outside the home. Because their wives can't keep up with their fantasies... please give me your opinion... thanks.

From my personal experience, even the men who like my sexual nature usually look down on me in non sexual context. I've seen this with both religious and non religious men

Growing up I knew a religious man who called my mom "spawn of satan" and being her daughter so was I. He insisted I should attend bible study and such. When I was in college, he kissed me a few times but always stopped himself from going further. I was actually surprised of his self control (a bit dissapointed too lol). I realized he just hated his childhood and was jealous of other's carefree upbringing.

Also... I know a guy from my escort days who says I'm exactly what life should be. Sex with passion, as a fact of life, without shame and exact opposite of his wife. I used to go along when he traveled to Miami private clubs. But I've felt he'd treat me differently when he's talking anything other than sex. Doesn't matter if I'm right or wrong, he just disregards me with a smile or chuckle or a casual acknowledgement. It was odd at first and I used to think I did something to upset him. Later I realized he just doesn't think I'm good for anything else than sex.

Not only it doesn't bother me when men look down on me because of my sexual nature, I absolutely luv it. But it certainly took me a while to get used to it especially when the same man would flip his views

 

[leftwantingmore]

Both are examples of disrespect and hypocrisy. No one is one thing. We all have hopes, dreams, desires and most of all, we have feelings. No ones feelings should be disrespected, disregarded or expolited.
You should not be disrespected or disregarded for living your life on your terms, the way you see fit. And you should live it without judgement. No matter how you live your life.

 

[AverageJoe44]

There’s something that’s always attracted me to them. Growing up and in my single days, if I knew about the certain good looking female having a reputation of being promiscuous, I was immediately intrigued/attracted and curious. I wanted to see for myself. I think knowing that they were experienced probably meant they were kinky and that was even hotter and part of the pull. Needless to say, they usually were the hottest hookups!

 

[KinkStevens]

My wife admits to being a slut when we were dating in college, and I let her have a few dates with other men after we had been married a while. I love her for her openness and her ability to separate physical sex acts from the love that she feels for me.

Sluts are the best. They tend to be realist, honest, and a little more transparent