The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Biglibido99]

I agree but he’s not “hot damn that’s sexy!” And turning heads on the street. He looks like a dad with some confidence. Any of you can do this and not lead with the cock photo

But what if I dress up my cock in a three piece & bowt-ie?

It is kinda awesome the power of the mind in sex.

Of course - the biggest organ in the body - that really is worth showing off

 

[Biglibido99]

I have not received any dick pics from the guys here. In other threads, yes.

My humble opinion is this:

If you look beneath the surface of the dick pic, the act reveals something deeply human.

At its core, he is saying:
“This is me. Stripped of polish, unfiltered. Here is the part of me that carries my desire, my pride, my hope to be wanted.”

Sometimes it’s an act of vulnerability - a raw offering of self without armor. Other times it’s unabashed pride, especially when he’s well endowed. In that case, the photo becomes less about clumsy outreach and more about display - a kind of showing off, a declaration:
“Look at what I have. This is proof of my worth, the part of me I believe deserves admiration.”

Yes, it can be reckless, even arrogant. But behind both the vulnerability and the bravado lies the same plea:
“See me. Acknowledge me. Accept me.”

A dick pic, in its most honest form, is not just a body part. It is confession and performance at once - both boast and exposure, pride and longing. A way of saying: “This is what I know to offer. Will it be enough?”

Gentlemen - please correct me if I am wrong, educate me.

A pea-cock display - just animal instinct

 

[Wisconsin65]

Very good thread discussion

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Oh man does that resonate with me. I always want to be liked and to make folks happy.

I think I am an okay person and I don't lie or feel like I change who I am for others but I try to just focus on what will make them happy.

I really like this thread - thank you for it. My lit experience overall feels like it's about 49% people really know what they want and reject me (often harshly and rudely) for not being that which makes me not want to reach out and 49% people are open to getting to know you but it flames out really fast and dies (maybe I'm not interesting enough but often it feels like they found someone more interesting or most often they just had short attention span and either vanished or forgot to reply). But I'm optimistic and hopeful and try to stay positive and the advice and encouragement of this thread is really great. Thank you.

Thanks for joining in!

We are glad that the thread has resonated with so many helpful caring souls!

Thank you for the kind words!
They are appreciated

 

[Hornymwtxn]

So ladies help me out.

When reading y'alls profile it does seem to contradict your recent postings on the threads SOMETIMES.

So should we pay more attention to the recent posts or the profile which may be very old and in need of an update?

 

[JennyCapricorn]

So ladies help me out.

When reading y'alls profile it does seem to contradict your recent postings on the threads SOMETIMES.

So should we pay more attention to the recent posts or the profile which may be very old and in need of an update?

Can you give a hypothetical?

 

[cole4258]

Think it is always best to create a line of communication to learn a little about the person first. I think people come to Lit looking for something sexual, many not sure what but just exploring. Is there an art?, not sure but always nice to make a connection.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Can you give a hypothetical?

Ok well like their profile will say something like attached not looking

But in their recent posts they give a totally different impression.

I suspect the ladies put that in their profiles as to limit the inbox influx

 

[JennyCapricorn]

My instinct would be to say that we can be flirty but not looking, if that makes sense? I mean Im listed as attached but have made some longer term connections.

Edited to add: I would take the profile as being the more definitive, unless they confirm otherwise.

 

[cascadiabound]

Here are a few general tips about how to approach a PM (men to women), from my perspective. Obviously YMMV.

I recognize that it may feel scary/terrible to make a first PM. Part of what helps me feel like the ice is already a little broken is to have had some interaction on the threads. I look most favorably on people who interact with me on public threads on a human level with comments that are not super overtly sexual. I pretty much cringe/dismiss posters who quote me with comments like "I want to do such and such to you" "so hawt" "such a good girl" blah blah blah etc. I've been here a long time and have an eye for/notice posters general posting habits. I have probably formed a general impression of you before a PM lands in my box. If it is a message truly out of the blue and the person has a VERY low posting count, I am instantly deeply sceptical. IF the PM is not creepy, obviously cut and paste and they can write in full sentences and the tone is friendly/respectful, I will generally look at their profile. If it is empty, I will take a pass. Maybe I won't respond at all or maybe I will tell them thanks but no thanks. Sometimes I tell them why.

I DO notice posters who quote me with comments that tell me something about them. I look favorably when I am quoted with either emotional or intellectual engagement. Posts that give me insight into who they are, what they care about, what gives them joy (besides sex/porn/whatever), how they think about things. If I've seen a handful of posts that have left me with an impression that a person is kind, curious, thoughtful, maybe offers good advice when that is appropriate, when they pop into my in box I already have a context for why I would be inclined to be friendly to them.

Just my 2 cents

 

[Hornymwtxn]

My instinct would be to say that we can be flirty but not looking, if that makes sense? I mean Im listed as attached but have made some longer term connections.

Edited to add: I would take the profile as being the more definitive, unless they confirm otherwise.

Thanks!

Ok how bout this to you as a public "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise"

Hello Jenny,

My name is XX and some of your recent posts have intrigued me and I would like to try to reach out and see if we can have some fun in the process of learning more about each other.
Below is just an example of what I could say
We share many of the same interests, photography, old westerns, etc.

Looking forward to your reply

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Thanks!

Ok how bout this to you as a public "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise"

Hello Jenny,

My name is XX and some of your recent posts have intrigued me and I would like to try to reach out and see if we can have some fun in the process of learning more about each other.
Below is just an example of what I could say
We share many of the same interests, photography, old westerns, etc.

Looking forward to your reply

So I would add a specific example of something they said that resonated with you. It shows attention to detail and not just a basic "I dig you" vibe. It adds depth.

 

[cascadiabound]

So I would add a specific example of something they said that resonated with you. It shows attention to detail and not just a basic "I dig you" vibe. It adds depth.

100%
In my last PM feedback on this exercise I probably said that the PM should be more specific about 6 times.

 

[TomTeacher19]

100%
In my last PM feedback on this exercise I probably said that the PM should be more specific about 6 times.

More like 8 times

And it was correct every time. Thanks

 

[cascadiabound]

Thanks!

Ok how bout this to you as a public "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise"

Hello Jenny,

My name is XX and some of your recent posts

which specific post and WHY did it intrigue you?

have intrigued me and I would like to try to reach out and see if we can have some fun in the process of learning more about each other.
Below is just an example of what I could say
We share many of the same interests, photography, old westerns, etc.

According to what I have read in your posts/ read in your profile you have an interest in photography. [insert YOUR specific interest in photography here]. I also love old westerns, one of my favorites is [insert name of movie here], [say what you especially like about that movie here]. Have you seen it? What is your favorite old western?

Looking forward to your reply

 

[Hornymwtxn]

which specific post and WHY did it intrigue you?

According to what I have read in your posts/ read in your profile you have an interest in photography. [insert YOUR specific interest in photography here]. I also love old westerns, one of my favorites is [insert name of movie here], [say what you especially like about that movie here]. Have you seen it? What is your favorite old western?

Love all the help and patience you have displayed!

I will get better I promise.

I guess I just fear if I get too specific it will look like I cased the joint, so to speak and don't want to come off looking like a creep. If that makes any sense at all.

 

[MedicalMuse]

Love all the help and patience you have displayed!

I will get better I promise.

I guess I just fear if I get too specific it will look like I cased the joint, so to speak and don't want to come off looking like a creep. If that makes any sense at all.

I think the fact that you’re concerned about looking like a creep says a lot about your character already. Hopefully if you PM somebody they have the wherewithal to go do a little bit of recon on you and see that you are not just some Rando Dexter with a Boner.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I think the fact that you’re concerned about looking like a creep says a lot about your character already. Hopefully if you PM somebody they have the wherewithal to go do a little bit of recon on you and see that you are not just some Rando Dexter with a Boner.

Rando Dexter ahahahahha love it.

Stealing it too

 

[cascadiabound]

Love all the help and patience you have displayed!

I will get better I promise.

I guess I just fear if I get too specific it will look like I cased the joint, so to speak and don't want to come off looking like a creep. If that makes any sense at all.

It is not creepy to show that you are contacting a particular person because something specific sparked your interest. I appreciate someone who shows me that they already know something about me based on my publicly available words. It is better, from MY perspective to reach out to someone based on something they posted that is NOT overtly sexual. Yep - I got girl parts. But if you can't set your horny needs aside to engage me in a topic that is not sexual and show me that we might have an actual basis for a friendship, why would I want to exchange PMs with you?

Tell me something about you that I don't know or am unlikely to know from publicly available posts. Something specific. Show me you are curious, but not inappropriately nosy. If you would not ask a woman a particular question when encountering them in a retail store, don't ask it in a first PM. (ie DO THIS: in the grocery aisle you point out that the item I just picked up is especially good in such a such a recipe, or back in the old days at the video rental store - oh THAT was a great movie; NOT oh that ingredient would be so delicious licked off your pretty cunny or that movie always helps me get laid)

Just be sensible and confident and hopeful. We are all scared of rejection and we all just want to feel seen.

 

[MedicalMuse]

Rando Dexter ahahahahha love it.

Stealing it too

You’re welcome

 

[cascadiabound]

I think the fact that you’re concerned about looking like a creep says a lot about your character already. Hopefully if you PM somebody they have the wherewithal to go do a little bit of recon on you and see that you are not just some Rando Dexter with a Boner.

MM

Love seeing you here I have missed you!
And omg your signature video on "genitals are not an acceptable conversation starter" should be mandatory viewing and posted in this thread's OP. Hilarious and accurate.

 

[TomTeacher19]

Crap, I got my notes jumbled up.

"Every time I watch a video on the produce section of the grocery store I get laid"

Nope that can't be it.

Seriously I just want to say this thread is nice because apparently this is where a lot of the nice people (ladies) have been hiding. I can't tell you how many times I have basically used all these tips to be friendly and complimentary and specific about them and open about myself and gotten replies of "just tell me to bend over and what object you will stick into what hole and call me names". And kudos to them for knowing what they want but it's refreshing to see so many others like real sharing and conversation too.

 

[cascadiabound]

Crap, I got my notes jumbled up.

"Every time I watch a video on the produce section of the grocery store I get laid"

Nope that can't be it.

Seriously I just want to say this thread is nice because apparently this is where a lot of the nice people (ladies) have been hiding. I can't tell you how many times I have basically used all these tips to be friendly and complimentary and specific about them and open about myself and gotten replies of "just tell me to bend over and what object you will stick into what hole and call me names". And kudos to them for knowing what they want but it's refreshing to see so many others like real sharing and conversation too.

No doubt there are women here who just want a sexy PM quickie and want you to be her personal masturbation story writer. Seems pretty shallow to me and not worth much time unless you like being a personal sex story producer. I would say that discovering a person only wants you for the fantasy fodder you can provide them right off the bat can either lead to pages and pages of written smut, or let you know that this is not a person who is interested in making an actual connection/ friendship. Neither is necessarily better than the other. But it is best when the two people are well aligned in their goals.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

MM

Love seeing you here I have missed you!
And omg your signature video on "genitals are not an acceptable conversation starter" should be mandatory viewing and posted in this thread's OP. Hilarious and accurate.

Would be glad to add it to post 1 if you like

 

[cascadiabound]

Would be glad to add it to post 1 if you like

Your thread. Maybe decide if that is part of the tone you and Carmina want to set from the OP. I like that it is humorous and on point.