The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Lotus_Kitty]

Following this beautiful thread and cheering on @Hornymwtxn ! Were I single or poly and looking for online only emotional connections with spicy possibilities, I'd be posting a different message.

Hope that's ok to post, @Carmina24 and Hornymwtxn.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Following this beautiful thread and cheering on @Hornymwtxn ! Were I single or poly and looking for online only emotional connections with spicy possibilities, I'd be posting a different message.

Hope that's ok to post, @Carmina24 and Hornymwtxn.

Not only is it ok it is encouraged and appreciated!

Thank you for participating and sharing your thoughts.

We make each other better people when our minds are open to different viewpoints.

Especially when those different viewpoints are offered in a caring and supportive way.

Glad you are enjoying the thread!

 

[Carmina24]

Following this beautiful thread and cheering on @Hornymwtxn ! Were I single or poly and looking for online only emotional connections with spicy possibilities, I'd be posting a different message.

Hope that's ok to post, @Carmina24 and Hornymwtxn.

Most certainly! Thank you @Lotus_Kitty !
We appreciate your presence here.

 

[IrreverendBoob]

Following this beautiful thread and cheering on @Hornymwtxn ! Were I single or poly and looking for online only emotional connections with spicy possibilities, I'd be posting a different message.

Hope that's ok to post, @Carmina24 and Hornymwtxn.

Any and all input of a constructive and considerate nature is most welcome. Thank you, Lotus_Kitty!

 

[firefox27eros]

Be yourself, not the person you think they want you to be.

Don't play games, unless the other person knows you are, or are in a role playing room, etc.

Don't lie about things, because yeah eventually you will get caught in the lie.

How can I believe her now, start up with something meaningful and trust her going forward? You already dug yourself a hole.

I can't agree more with these, well done!

Some people trying to build mysteries around themselves, ghosting, playing with words, silence and feelings because maybe it can be more attractive, playful... and desirable... or just increase the adrenaline levels like the chance of caught... but we are uniq and not everyone the same luckily!

But hard truth is if you don't have core values and don't present them properly to be authoritative the wrapping doesn't help you for long and sooner or later it will fall down and nothing will be left just the naked truth.

Everyone knows that there are way much more men than women on the Lit forum.

Everyone wants to be special for at least for one or more members here and be seen, desirable and valued so we are competing on personal time and attention... with each other... this the big game it's called life.

You don't need big and fancy words just to be a human with a heart and soul with full of feelings ....

So just be yourself and believe in yourself, your values, your intuitions and your gut feelings... we have survived many things for thousands of years and if we failed the life still goes on as "Show Must Go On"

Have a lovely day all of you!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Matchmaking Corner – Whispered Introduction

She is not gentle by design.
Her words bite, her laughter burns, and she never shrinks to fit the room. She is wildness in motion, ferocity cloaked in fire.

She does not seek someone to tame her - nor anyone who must match her blaze. What she longs for is a man who understands that fire is not for extinguishing, but for wielding. One who will let her rage, create, dance, and unravel, without mistaking her chaos for peril.

She is searching for refuge, not rivalry. For a place to rest when the storm stills, where her wild edges are not only tolerated but treasured.

And know this: she believes a man’s mind is the sexiest thing of all. To undress the body is easy - but to undress the mind, to slip past defenses with wit and curiosity, is the truest seduction.

If you can meet her mind with your own, if you can stand in her fire without flinching, then perhaps you are worthy of the name that follows.

Her name is not a secret.
It is a challenge.
It is @Carmina24

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I can't agree more with these, well done!

Some people trying to build mysteries around themselves, ghosting, playing with words, silence and feelings because maybe it can be more attractive, playful... and desirable... or just increase the adrenaline levels like the chance of caught... but we are uniq and not everyone the same luckily!

But hard truth is if you don't have core values and don't present them properly to be authoritative the wrapping doesn't help you for long and sooner or later it will fall down and nothing will be left just the naked truth.

Everyone knows that there are way much more men than women on the Lit forum.

Everyone wants to be special for at least for one or more members here and be seen, desirable and valued so we are competing on personal time and attention... with each other... this the big game it's called life.

You don't need big and fancy words just to be a human with a heart and soul with full of feelings ....

So just be yourself and believe in yourself, your values, your intuitions and your gut feelings... we have survived many things for thousands of years and if we failed the life still goes on as "Show Must Go On"

Have a lovely day all of you!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts with the entire community.

Very wise words and advice!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Pm exercise
Might I suggest if you would like to participate in the "lit laid pm exercise" make a post saying good idea or I am willing to play along.

I have wanted to send out some pm exercise messages but not sure if my targets have even read or are aware of this exercise.

It would be kind of weird for them to get a pm titled "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise" and not know wtf is going on. Lol

 

[cascadiabound]

I am willing to provide feedback/critique on the PM exercise, with the caveat that I am not presently available / on the menu. Also I might be a little slower at responding than might be ideal.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I am willing to provide feedback/critique on the PM exercise, with the caveat that I am not presently available / on the menu. Also I might be a little slower at responding than might be ideal.

I just sent a "pm exercise" to @cascadiabound and wow the insights she gave me and honest helpful critique.

Honestly folks she will hone your skills to a razor sharp edge!

Edit
Shout out to @JennyCapricorn
For also helping me with the pm exercise. Simply outstanding help!

 

[Liberia]

I am willing to provide feedback/critique on the PM exercise, with the caveat that I am not presently available / on the menu. Also I might be a little slower at responding than might be ideal.

I just sent a "pm exercise" to @cascadiabound and wow the insights she gave me and honest helpful critique.

Honestly folks she will hone your skills to a razor sharp edge!

Edit
Shout out to @JennyCapricorn
For also helping me with the pm exercise. Simply outstanding help!

I'd offer to do the same but you already wrote to me. Also, I'm not as critical. But I'm always happy to give my insight if you or anyone needs it as long as my boundaries are respected.

 

[Live4themoments]

Pm exercise
Might I suggest if you would like to participate in the "lit laid pm exercise" make a post saying good idea or I am willing to play along.

I have wanted to send out some pm exercise messages but not sure if my targets have even read or are aware of this exercise.

It would be kind of weird for them to get a pm titled "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise" and not know wtf is going on. Lol

Great idea, hopefully more people will see this thread and contribute!

 

[Ratchetman1982]

This exercise allows people to refine their skills without feeling the pressure of trying to make that first impression. I think it's something that everyone should at least try.

 

[Finger8]

I think the real key is trying is understanding that everyone is different in their persuasions and ultimately how they would like to interact. The profile can often be the biggest clue. I find sometimes interaction can also be mood based and we may be seeking different things at different times. I think the PM exercise is a great way for people to try and interact if they are trying to refine their approach, but one might have to be careful to not appear too rehearsed if they should find success and apply it to an interaction. And also, I think it is still important to embrace any potential connections with the element of fun, as I would think for some taking things to seriously might be off putting to some. But for others, might be exactly what they are looking for.

 

[Jim1855]

Pm exercise
Might I suggest if you would like to participate in the "lit laid pm exercise" make a post saying good idea or I am willing to play along.

I have wanted to send out some pm exercise messages but not sure if my targets have even read or are aware of this exercise.

It would be kind of weird for them to get a pm titled "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise" and not know wtf is going on. Lol

What a great idea, I am so down for this.

@Finger8
>And also, I think it is still important to embrace any potential connections with the element of fun, as I would think for some taking things to seriously might be off putting to some. But for others, might be exactly what they are looking for.

Truer words have never been spoken written.

 

[MrGoatee]

Surely the art is in being yourself and getting to know people. Plus accepting we arent everyone's 'cup of tea' lol

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Surely the art is in being yourself and getting to know people. Plus accepting we arent everyone's 'cup of tea' lol

Yes one of my problems is I want to be liked, by everyone.

Thus I try to be a Swiss army knife so to speak.

 

[MrGoatee]

Yes one of my problems is I want to be liked, by everyone.

Thus I try to be a Swiss army knife so to speak.

Being liked is different to the aim of being laid. Its no less a decent thing to want

 

[TomTeacher19]

Yes one of my problems is I want to be liked, by everyone.

Thus I try to be a Swiss army knife so to speak.

Oh man does that resonate with me. I always want to be liked and to make folks happy.

I think I am an okay person and I don't lie or feel like I change who I am for others but I try to just focus on what will make them happy.

I really like this thread - thank you for it. My lit experience overall feels like it's about 49% people really know what they want and reject me (often harshly and rudely) for not being that which makes me not want to reach out and 49% people are open to getting to know you but it flames out really fast and dies (maybe I'm not interesting enough but often it feels like they found someone more interesting or most often they just had short attention span and either vanished or forgot to reply). But I'm optimistic and hopeful and try to stay positive and the advice and encouragement of this thread is really great. Thank you.

 

[Biglibido99]

Yes one of my problems is I want to be liked, by everyone.

Thus I try to be a Swiss army knife so to speak.

Yes, it's a common issue - I think that's why men like dogs rather than cats - dogs give unconditional love - cats do it on their terms only, they are transactional.
I prefer dogs
What is this PM exercise? Maybe you've explained it before & I missed it?

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Yes, it's a common issue - I think that's why men like dogs rather than cats - dogs give unconditional love - cats do it on their terms only, they are transactional.
I prefer dogs
What is this PM exercise? Maybe you've explained it before & I missed it?

The pm exercise was explained in this post
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/the-art-of-getting-lit-laid.1639025/post-101412629

With others replying and stating if they are interested in helping.

Just title your pm as "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise"

Or state you are willing to help critique those that pm you with that title

Thanks for joining our thread!

 

[Biglibido99]

The pm exercise was explained in this post
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/the-art-of-getting-lit-laid.1639025/post-101412629

With others replying and stating if they are interested in helping.

Just title your pm as "The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise"

Or state you are willing to help critique those that pm you with that title

Thanks for joining our thread!

OK, thanks

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Yes, it's a common issue - I think that's why men like dogs rather than cats - dogs give unconditional love - cats do it on their terms only, they are transactional.
I prefer dogs
What is this PM exercise? Maybe you've explained it before & I missed it?

I do prefer dogs but cats are fun too.

They claim dogs are more intelligent but that is debatable lol

 

[Biglibido99]

Just to say, I'm interested in participating - once I figure out the logistics of the exercise, look out, PMs incoming lol

 

[Biglibido99]

Oh man does that resonate with me. I always want to be liked and to make folks happy.

I think I am an okay person and I don't lie or feel like I change who I am for others but I try to just focus on what will make them happy.

I really like this thread - thank you for it. My lit experience overall feels like it's about 49% people really know what they want and reject me (often harshly and rudely) for not being that which makes me not want to reach out and 49% people are open to getting to know you but it flames out really fast and dies (maybe I'm not interesting enough but often it feels like they found someone more interesting or most often they just had short attention span and either vanished or forgot to reply). But I'm optimistic and hopeful and try to stay positive and the advice and encouragement of this thread is really great. Thank you.

Indeed, it seems the world has become a much more transactional, impatient place where if people don't get an instant dopamine hit, they move on to find the next thrill. Social media is to blame for a lot of this but hard to know if it's the cause or the result of people becoming more selfish, interested inwardly, not outwardly? I mean the whole thing of personal me-too rights, etc was becoming prevalent before SM took off?