The Art of Getting Lit Laid

[Carmina24]

I agree but he’s not “hot damn that’s sexy!” And turning heads on the street. He looks like a dad with some confidence. Any of you can do this and not lead with the cock photo

It is kinda awesome the power of the mind in sex.

Maybe in some threads, the men do that. In here, they don't. I have engaged with them in the thread and some via PM. Never had one send me a cock photo. The gentlemen here are intelligent, respectful, and engage in the topic of establishing meaningful connections. Their insights are quite profound.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Maybe in some threads, the men do that. In here, they don't. I have engaged with them in the thread and some via PM. Never had one send me a cock photo. The gentlemen here are intelligent, respectful, and engage in the topic of establishing meaningful connections. Their insights are quite profound.

That must be refreshing for you ladies

 

[Carmina24]

That must be refreshing for you ladies

I have not received any dick pics from the guys here. In other threads, yes.

My humble opinion is this:

If you look beneath the surface of the dick pic, the act reveals something deeply human.

At its core, he is saying:
“This is me. Stripped of polish, unfiltered. Here is the part of me that carries my desire, my pride, my hope to be wanted.”

Sometimes it’s an act of vulnerability - a raw offering of self without armor. Other times it’s unabashed pride, especially when he’s well endowed. In that case, the photo becomes less about clumsy outreach and more about display - a kind of showing off, a declaration:
“Look at what I have. This is proof of my worth, the part of me I believe deserves admiration.”

Yes, it can be reckless, even arrogant. But behind both the vulnerability and the bravado lies the same plea:
“See me. Acknowledge me. Accept me.”

A dick pic, in its most honest form, is not just a body part. It is confession and performance at once - both boast and exposure, pride and longing. A way of saying: “This is what I know to offer. Will it be enough?”

Gentlemen - please correct me if I am wrong, educate me.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I have not received any dick pics from the guys here. In other threads, yes.

My humble opinion is this:

If you look beneath the surface of the dick pic, the act reveals something deeply human.

At its core, he is saying:
“This is me. Stripped of polish, unfiltered. Here is the part of me that carries my desire, my pride, my hope to be wanted.”

Sometimes it’s an act of vulnerability - a raw offering of self without armor. Other times it’s unabashed pride, especially when he’s well endowed. In that case, the photo becomes less about clumsy outreach and more about display - a kind of showing off, a declaration:
“Look at what I have. This is proof of my worth, the part of me I believe deserves admiration.”

Yes, it can be reckless, even arrogant. But behind both the vulnerability and the bravado lies the same plea:
“See me. Acknowledge me. Accept me.”

A dick pic, in its most honest form, is not just a body part. It is confession and performance at once - both boast and exposure, pride and longing. A way of saying: “This is what I know to offer. Will it be enough?”

Gentlemen - please correct me if I am wrong, educate me.

Well I can't speak for the well endowed but yes you pretty much nailed it! Imo

 

[cascadiabound]

Same here.

Let’s be clear: I get turned on by the male form. (And also the female form, but that’s another story.) But there is so much more to the male form than just your cock. The best, 100% best thread for me is the “show us JUST your chest” one, and the second is “show is your style” where it’s clothed figures. God those can get so hot.

Cocks are fun, but I’m gonna gasp at how you present your body and your clever turns of phrase much more than your erect member.

Other threads that feature men/men's accessories that I love (and a bunch of other women do too).

Men in Kilts (obviously not everyone's cuppa)
and

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/the-allure-of-mens-accessories-fuck-yes.1487261/

 

[Hornymwtxn]

So what I think the plan is on this matchmaker service is to release a profile of those looking to make an online connection.

Say every Friday to give time to busy people their weekend to review and reply if desired.

Maybe 1 male and 1 female every Friday.

Thoughts?

 

[Apisto42]

I have not received any dick pics from the guys here. In other threads, yes.

My humble opinion is this:

If you look beneath the surface of the dick pic, the act reveals something deeply human.

At its core, he is saying:
“This is me. Stripped of polish, unfiltered. Here is the part of me that carries my desire, my pride, my hope to be wanted.”

Sometimes it’s an act of vulnerability - a raw offering of self without armor. Other times it’s unabashed pride, especially when he’s well endowed. In that case, the photo becomes less about clumsy outreach and more about display - a kind of showing off, a declaration:
“Look at what I have. This is proof of my worth, the part of me I believe deserves admiration.”

Yes, it can be reckless, even arrogant. But behind both the vulnerability and the bravado lies the same plea:
“See me. Acknowledge me. Accept me.”

A dick pic, in its most honest form, is not just a body part. It is confession and performance at once - both boast and exposure, pride and longing. A way of saying: “This is what I know to offer. Will it be enough?”

Gentlemen - please correct me if I am wrong, educate me.

Hm, somewhat.

Also: “Your words, thoughts, and the emotions you brought forth have made my brain jelly, lowered my inhibitions, made me throbbing with desire, breaking the barriers that keep us separate, to where I curse the distance between us as I just want to hold your head, my fingers tangled in your hair, your scent filling my heart, so the only poor substitute I have is to send this pic for you to see what YOU have wrought this day.”

 

[Britva415]

Is "phone" still a thing?

I mean, absolutely everybody has one

 

[Noone45]

Still making the same mistakes again

 

[Britva415]

This is an interesting question: Is “getting Lit laid” an art or a science? And maybe, truthfully, you can argue points for both. Science gives us patterns, formulas, even a kind of predictability. But in my humble opinion, it is an art.

Because connection isn’t born from equations - it’s painted with presence.
It’s not a checklist of inputs and outputs, but the brushstroke of timing, the color of words, the texture of attention.

Science can measure a spark, but only art can make it burn. Science can explain why chemistry works, but art makes it unforgettable. Science can build a bridge, but art makes someone want to cross it.

Here in Lit, we aren’t experiments under glass. We are storytellers. Lovers. Co-creators. What works in one moment may fall flat in another, because it isn’t about formulas - it’s about feel. About the rhythm of words, the silence between them, the way one phrase lands like a kiss instead of a statement.

That’s why I call it an art. And like all art, it is messy, beautiful, imperfect, and absolutely worth practicing.

I think of it as a craft.

Craft includes patterns and repeatable applications of skill, but it also depends on artistry. There really are certain patterns and skills which forming new connections with people depend upon, but connections also aren't predictable and alike either.

Any person who can create art can also - must also - exercise craft. I'll leave it to the cork-sniffers to argue about whether a work of craft is ever a work of art, but one can't improvise effectively or execute inspiration without having experience, skills and a track record.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Still making the same mistakes again

Experience.
What is experience?

I define it like:

Being able to recognize a mistake as soon as you make it....again.

We are all guilty of repeating the same stupid mistakes multiple times over.

But we want to improve ourselves so we get back up and venture out again and again being tested by the fire forging better and better tools at each step to one day slay that dragon.

 

[Ratchetman1982]

I would like to recommend an exercise. Each person in this thread picks another person in this thread and sends them a PM. Not a dick pick or the naughty things your would do to them. More like a friendly introduction. I think the recipient should then critique the introduction to let the sender know what works and what doesn't. A hands on approach is sometimes the best. And don't limit it to the opposite sex. We have all pretty much shown that we are looking out for the best interest of everyone on here.

For an added challenge, you can request a specific member to message you.

Thoughts?

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I would like to recommend an exercise. Each person in this thread picks another person in this thread and sends them a PM. Not a dick pick or the naughty things your would do to them. More like a friendly introduction. I think the recipient should then critique the introduction to let the sender know what works and what doesn't. A hands on approach is sometimes the best. And don't limit it to the opposite sex. We have all pretty much shown that we are looking out for the best interest of everyone on here.

For an added challenge, you can request a specific member to message you.

Thoughts?

Oh that is an excellent idea!

Will have to title the pm as something like...
The Art of Getting Lit Laid pm exercise.

To distinguish from all the other pm in their inbox

 

[Ratchetman1982]

I love it. Because let's face it, some of us could use some practice.

And you never know...Sparks could fly.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I love it. Because let's face it, some of us could use some practice.

And you never know...Sparks could fly.

Absolutely!

My initial pm usually follow the same theme.

"Hello,
I have been reading some of your recent posts and have really enjoyed reading your viewpoints.

You sound like a fun person to converse with."

I would say my success ratio of getting a reply is around 10%

 

[Susurration]

Something similar to this was tried many years ago and it did have some success. This seems to be a more organised way of doing it, so I hope that it works out for anyone who decides to get involved .

 

[Ratchetman1982]

If I had it my way, everyone in here would be involved in a fulfilling Lit relationship. I know that is a pipe dream, but if I can help a few people, I'm all in

 

[JennyCapricorn]

<watched in box with keen interest>

 

[Carmina24]

I would like to recommend an exercise. Each person in this thread picks another person in this thread and sends them a PM. Not a dick pick or the naughty things your would do to them. More like a friendly introduction. I think the recipient should then critique the introduction to let the sender know what works and what doesn't. A hands on approach is sometimes the best. And don't limit it to the opposite sex. We have all pretty much shown that we are looking out for the best interest of everyone on here.

For an added challenge, you can request a specific member to message you.

Thoughts?

I love love LOVE this idea!!!

 

[Carmina24]

If I had it my way, everyone in here would be involved in a fulfilling Lit relationship. I know that is a pipe dream, but if I can help a few people, I'm all in

Let's make it happen!

<watched in box with keen interest>

@JennyCapricorn Come on, Jenny! Let's try it out!

 

[Ratchetman1982]

Just a note:

When we critique, please give valuable feedback, but also be kind. Kindness is free after all.

 

[Live4themoments]

My apologies before hand if this was already discussed in the previous 13 pages. Here is my take and suggestion.

Be yourself, not the person you think they want you to be. Call it a male 6th sense but I can tell when someone isn't genuine in their actions or words. Yeah I get it, this is a fantasy for many listers, and that's fine. Which leads me to the next one..

Don't play games, unless the other person knows you are, or are in a role playing room, etc.

Don't lie about things, because yeah eventually you will get caught in the lie. Could be because you don't remember what you said to who, when you said it, wishful thinking, and so on. Let's face it, IF (and a big IF) there was ever a meeting in the future the truth will be found out. Don't say you are 6'2" and you stand 5'2", your weight, height, size, old picture, etc. Take it from someone who experienced it, she portrayed herself as 40's, about 5'3", 130....when we met my estimation was she was in her 60's, close to 200lbs. That wasn't the problem, it was she lied after several months of chatting and getting to know each other. How can I believe her now, start up with something meaningful and trust her going forward? You already dug yourself a hole.

For me I enjoy getting to know people here. Everyone has an interesting story, some I can relate with, other stories may be part of my fantasy. I don't go out searching for people to have an affair, to hook up with, one night stands, booty calls, etc. I have friends here who are strictly platonic due to a variety of reasons. If by chance through the chatting we share a lot of common grounds, then it can progress further. It frequently takes a long time getting to know someone and feel comfortable, which is perfectly fine.

Many other great points were already discussed. Great topic, thanks

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Proclamation from the Co-Conspirators

By decree of the original Co-Conspirators of the Getting Lit Laid thread,
we hereby bestow upon our most faithful supporters a sacred and scandalous honor.

From this day forward, you are no longer mere readers.
You are The Loyal Order of Lit Laid (LOLL).

This title is both a privilege and a responsibility —
to laugh, to flirt, to fan the flames, and to keep the mischief alive.

Wear it with pride.
Use it with delight.
And remember: once a LOLL, always a LOLL.

Signed, sealed, and thoroughly smirked upon,
— Carmina & Horny, Co-Conspirators-in-Chief

The first two honorees are
@Ratchetman1982
@IrreverendBoob

 

[Hornymwtxn]

My apologies before hand if this was already discussed in the previous 13 pages. Here is my take and suggestion.

Be yourself, not the person you think they want you to be. Call it a male 6th sense but I can tell when someone isn't genuine in their actions or words. Yeah I get it, this is a fantasy for many listers, and that's fine. Which leads me to the next one..

Don't play games, unless the other person knows you are, or are in a role playing room, etc.

Don't lie about things, because yeah eventually you will get caught in the lie. Could be because you don't remember what you said to who, when you said it, wishful thinking, and so on. Let's face it, IF (and a big IF) there was ever a meeting in the future the truth will be found out. Don't say you are 6'2" and you stand 5'2", your weight, height, size, old picture, etc. Take it from someone who experienced it, she portrayed herself as 40's, about 5'3", 130....when we met my estimation was she was in her 60's, close to 200lbs. That wasn't the problem, it was she lied after several months of chatting and getting to know each other. How can I believe her now, start up with something meaningful and trust her going forward? You already dug yourself a hole.

For me I enjoy getting to know people here. Everyone has an interesting story, some I can relate with, other stories may be part of my fantasy. I don't go out searching for people to have an affair, to hook up with, one night stands, booty calls, etc. I have friends here who are strictly platonic due to a variety of reasons. If by chance through the chatting we share a lot of common grounds, then it can progress further. It frequently takes a long time getting to know someone and feel comfortable, which is perfectly fine.

Many other great points were already discussed. Great topic, thanks

Thank you for deciding to post to the thread! Some very valuable points you have made.

Pull up a chair, grab a drink, get some greasy BBQ and stay awhile!

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I hope people are having fun with the lit pm exercise.

I have had two exchanges and both were very thoughtful and had helpful pointers.