๐Ÿ†โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน๐Ÿ† Dicknations for Sassy! Updates & Get Well Wang ๐Ÿ†โค๏ธโ€๐Ÿฉน๐Ÿ†

I'm afraid I have some sad news.

Just after midnight PDT, Sassy passed away with her family by her side. Of course, everyone here knows that the last couple of weeks has been extra challenging for Sassy's family and they've kept by her side as she navigated her final journey. She fought cancer with dignity and strength and did not deserve to have to endure this awful, evil disease.

@MRSassySheDevil said I should post this and he'll be along when he can.

I know Sassy meant a lot to quite a lot of people here. She was truly one of a kind and lived up to her username.

Sassy has been my best friend for the last nine years. She is - and forever will be - in my thoughts.

Rest in Peace Sassy. โค๏ธ
Deepest condolences and biggest hugs to you, @MRSassySheDevil , their family and all the many people here who loved her too ๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿซ‚
 
There are laws of the universe that affect us a beings so when a loved one passes we can put our faith in the first law of thermodynamics and that is no energy gets created in the universe and none is destroyed. This neat little trick is known as the conservation of energy.

So what does this mean for Sassy? For all her energy, every vibration, every bit of heat radiated from her, every wave of every particle of her remains in this world. All the photons that bounced of her face, all the particles that were interrupted by her smile, by the touch of her hair, the hundreds of trillions of particles have interacted with her and raced off, their paths forever changed by her.

So may Sassy rest in peace but may her energy go on forever.
This reminds me a bit of something I read once. I donโ€™t have the exact quote, so I will paraphrase and perhaps embellish a bit:

Everyone beats cancer. Some will kill it off and continue to live and thrive. Some will go down fighting and take that bitch down with them. Cancer cells need a living host to survive. Sassy's cancer is dead now, but she lives on through all the lives she touched and every person here who loved her. Rest in well-deserved peace, you badass warrior ๐Ÿ’—๐ŸŽ€
 
In honor off Sassy, something I never would do. When I did read her time on earth got close. I decided in honor of her I got the breast cancer logo tattoo. She helped me so much in those days. So Sassy for you. And when I see it , I will think of you always. ๐Ÿค—โค๏ธ๐Ÿ’‹
You are one special woman. ๐Ÿซ‚โค๏ธ
 
I mean itโ€™s totally fucking distasteful to put a picture up of someoneโ€™s most vulnerable moments, knowing full well that person has no say in it.

Fuck that person. Good on you for reporting those cunts and fighting for your girl.

Sassy always loves her some drama where she felt it mattered, I know she and I had a few exchanges in our time but we always found our way through it. Sheโ€™d be proud of you for getting into it for her. No doubt at all about that. ๐Ÿคญ
She and I had a couple of exchanges, too. But it was just so evident of her strong character and determination. The girl wouldnโ€™t back down. โค๏ธ I donโ€™t think either of us were wrong, just seeing things differently, and did have later conversations acknowledging that and becoming friendly.

Sassy was a badass โค๏ธ
 
She and I had a couple of exchanges, too. But it was just so evident of her strong character and determination. The girl wouldnโ€™t back down. โค๏ธ I donโ€™t think either of us were wrong, just seeing things differently, and did have later conversations acknowledging that and becoming friendly.

Sassy was a badass โค๏ธ
Ditto all of the above. โค๏ธ
 
She and I had a couple of exchanges, too. But it was just so evident of her strong character and determination. The girl wouldnโ€™t back down. โค๏ธ I donโ€™t think either of us were wrong, just seeing things differently, and did have later conversations acknowledging that and becoming friendly.

Sassy was a badass โค๏ธ

Take that same scenario and add married to her,lol..

Few times on the couch or stuck to each side of the bed,lol..
 
Also I don't know if she ever told anybody, but there was one word I was never aloud to call her "bitch".. One time MANY years ago in some heated argument we had, I did in fact call her that. It was the only time she ever hit me. And guess what, I never used that word again...

We had both lost parents but I can say the pain and empty feeling is nothing compared to loosing her. One feeling that hurts the most is sitting here and expecting her to walk by, but nothing. Even though the last couple of years I had used everything I had to take care of her and that "normal" wasn't there--I keep waiting for that normal to happen if that makes any sense.

We have spent the last couple days going thru and cleaning and organizing stuff. The first thing I HAD to do was tear the bedroom apart, get that god awful medial bed out and get the mattress back into the room. I also ordered a new bed because no way the old one is going back in...
 
Also I don't know if she ever told anybody, but there was one word I was never aloud to call her "bitch".. One time MANY years ago in some heated argument we had, I did in fact call her that. It was the only time she ever hit me. And guess what, I never used that word again...

We had both lost parents but I can say the pain and empty feeling is nothing compared to loosing her. One feeling that hurts the most is sitting here and expecting her to walk by, but nothing. Even though the last couple of years I had used everything I had to take care of her and that "normal" wasn't there--I keep waiting for that normal to happen if that makes any sense.

We have spent the last couple days going thru and cleaning and organizing stuff. The first thing I HAD to do was tear the bedroom apart, get that god awful medial bed out and get the mattress back into the room. I also ordered a new bed because no way the old one is going back in...
That makes perfect sense.

Normal will always be essentially the reality that lives in in our hearts, not our heads.

You will never lose that stab of pain when she doesn't walk into the room, and I'd guess you'd never actually want to either.

You are, as she was, an inspiration
 
Also I don't know if she ever told anybody, but there was one word I was never aloud to call her "bitch".. One time MANY years ago in some heated argument we had, I did in fact call her that. It was the only time she ever hit me. And guess what, I never used that word again...

We had both lost parents but I can say the pain and empty feeling is nothing compared to loosing her. One feeling that hurts the most is sitting here and expecting her to walk by, but nothing. Even though the last couple of years I had used everything I had to take care of her and that "normal" wasn't there--I keep waiting for that normal to happen if that makes any sense.

We have spent the last couple days going thru and cleaning and organizing stuff. The first thing I HAD to do was tear the bedroom apart, get that god awful medial bed out and get the mattress back into the room. I also ordered a new bed because no way the old one is going back in...
The healing process which we know that is exactly what she wants you to doโค๏ธโค๏ธ๐Ÿซ‚๐Ÿซ‚
 
Also I don't know if she ever told anybody, but there was one word I was never aloud to call her "bitch".. One time MANY years ago in some heated argument we had, I did in fact call her that. It was the only time she ever hit me. And guess what, I never used that word again...

We had both lost parents but I can say the pain and empty feeling is nothing compared to loosing her. One feeling that hurts the most is sitting here and expecting her to walk by, but nothing. Even though the last couple of years I had used everything I had to take care of her and that "normal" wasn't there--I keep waiting for that normal to happen if that makes any sense.

We have spent the last couple days going thru and cleaning and organizing stuff. The first thing I HAD to do was tear the bedroom apart, get that god awful medial bed out and get the mattress back into the room. I also ordered a new bed because no way the old one is going back in...
I think I can speak for many here when I say I'm glad you feel like you can come here and tell us these things. Vent, yell and scream (ALL CAPS), reminisce. We're here for you and will continue to be. It's a devastating loss for you. Prepared is not the same as ready. You're never ready.
 
Funny how life works. I left here a couple years ago because I no longer belonged here. But I had a dream about Sassy yesterday. Weird. Logging in...i see she was one of few that reached out after I left.

Thank you Sassy. For being you. You helped me when I was so so so lost. I have full custody. Nothing else matters beyond that. Our paths will cross again...just not in this lifetime...but know you helped me more than you will ever know.

David
It's good to see you Dribble. Wish it were under better circumstances x
 
Also I don't know if she ever told anybody, but there was one word I was never aloud to call her "bitch".. One time MANY years ago in some heated argument we had, I did in fact call her that. It was the only time she ever hit me. And guess what, I never used that word again...

We had both lost parents but I can say the pain and empty feeling is nothing compared to loosing her. One feeling that hurts the most is sitting here and expecting her to walk by, but nothing. Even though the last couple of years I had used everything I had to take care of her and that "normal" wasn't there--I keep waiting for that normal to happen if that makes any sense.

We have spent the last couple days going thru and cleaning and organizing stuff. The first thing I HAD to do was tear the bedroom apart, get that god awful medial bed out and get the mattress back into the room. I also ordered a new bed because no way the old one is going back in...
You do whatever you need to do! Everyone processes grief differently and that's ok. Some people turn the house into a shrine. Some want everything gone to keep the memories at bay.

Sassy and I had our differences when I first joined but she came back later and we made amends. After that I respected the hell out of her. โค๏ธ
 
Sassy and I had our differences when I first joined but she came back later and we made amends. After that I respected the hell out of her. โค๏ธ
When I first joined Lit, one of the dramas that was happening was a guy who was obsessed with nastynyx. Sassy and Fara were tearing him a new one for some of the posts he was making and my immediate thought was to stay the hell away from those two ๐Ÿคฃ. A few days later he stopped posting and I saw a change in both of them. They were welcoming, friendly and engaged in conversation.

A couple of months later when I finally told a few people who my ex was and why I was on Lit, they both became my friends. Fara hated the sight of him and Sassy wasnโ€™t too impressed with how he conducted himself at times. They gave me a lot of support.

Sassy and I only ever had one fallout and that was over another couple of users. We had a few words on the threads. I had Sassy on Skype so I waited a couple of days and then messaged her with a simple โ€œAre we good?โ€. A few days later she still hadnโ€™t responded so I messaged her again and told her that she could be stubborn all she wanted but unless she deleted or blocked me on Skype, I was just going to keep messaging her. She responded almost immediately and asked for my email address. Seeing as Skype used to allow really long messages (8,000 characters, I think) I knew she was going to have a good rant at me. I wasnโ€™t disappointed ๐Ÿ˜

A few hours later, my email had a novel that would rival War and Peace (I still have it). In that email, she explained (amongst other things) why she was disappointed in me and one of the users we had fallen out about. There was no way I could match that email so we ended up having a voice chat instead. We voiced our opinions calmly and respected each other for that. We never fell out again.

I loved when Sassy would talk about her family, send me pictures of her days and videos of the goats. She liked me to send her pictures of my surroundings. She liked the buildings and some of the English oddities. One day I told her I was going to have a busy day because I had to cut three lawns. I sent her pictures. She then sent me pictures of all the land on their property ๐Ÿ˜ฒ. Letโ€™s just say I never complained about having to cut my grass again ๐Ÿคฃ

Sassy often gave me very good and wise advice especially about my Lit experience. She always had a positive outlook that radiated off her. I will miss her so very much โค๏ธ
 
When I first joined Lit, one of the dramas that was happening was a guy who was obsessed with nastynyx. Sassy and Fara were tearing him a new one for some of the posts he was making and my immediate thought was to stay the hell away from those two ๐Ÿคฃ. A few days later he stopped posting and I saw a change in both of them. They were welcoming, friendly and engaged in conversation.

A couple of months later when I finally told a few people who my ex was and why I was on Lit, they both became my friends. Fara hated the sight of him and Sassy wasnโ€™t too impressed with how he conducted himself at times. They gave me a lot of support.

Sassy and I only ever had one fallout and that was over another couple of users. We had a few words on the threads. I had Sassy on Skype so I waited a couple of days and then messaged her with a simple โ€œAre we good?โ€. A few days later she still hadnโ€™t responded so I messaged her again and told her that she could be stubborn all she wanted but unless she deleted or blocked me on Skype, I was just going to keep messaging her. She responded almost immediately and asked for my email address. Seeing as Skype used to allow really long messages (8,000 characters, I think) I knew she was going to have a good rant at me. I wasnโ€™t disappointed ๐Ÿ˜

A few hours later, my email had a novel that would rival War and Peace (I still have it). In that email, she explained (amongst other things) why she was disappointed in me and one of the users we had fallen out about. There was no way I could match that email so we ended up having a voice chat instead. We voiced our opinions calmly and respected each other for that. We never fell out again.

I loved when Sassy would talk about her family, send me pictures of her days and videos of the goats. She liked me to send her pictures of my surroundings. She liked the buildings and some of the English oddities. One day I told her I was going to have a busy day because I had to cut three lawns. I sent her pictures. She then sent me pictures of all the land on their property ๐Ÿ˜ฒ. Letโ€™s just say I never complained about having to cut my grass again ๐Ÿคฃ

Sassy often gave me very good and wise advice especially about my Lit experience. She always had a positive outlook that radiated off her. I will miss her so very much โค๏ธ
We had our differences back then too. Your ex was a HUGE asshat. And I respect the hell out of you too because like Sassy, we worked it out and you have been very kind. โค๏ธ She was an inspiration for all the women of Lit!
 
When I first joined Lit, one of the dramas that was happening was a guy who was obsessed with nastynyx. Sassy and Fara were tearing him a new one for some of the posts he was making and my immediate thought was to stay the hell away from those two ๐Ÿคฃ. A few days later he stopped posting and I saw a change in both of them. They were welcoming, friendly and engaged in conversation.

A couple of months later when I finally told a few people who my ex was and why I was on Lit, they both became my friends. Fara hated the sight of him and Sassy wasnโ€™t too impressed with how he conducted himself at times. They gave me a lot of support.

Sassy and I only ever had one fallout and that was over another couple of users. We had a few words on the threads. I had Sassy on Skype so I waited a couple of days and then messaged her with a simple โ€œAre we good?โ€. A few days later she still hadnโ€™t responded so I messaged her again and told her that she could be stubborn all she wanted but unless she deleted or blocked me on Skype, I was just going to keep messaging her. She responded almost immediately and asked for my email address. Seeing as Skype used to allow really long messages (8,000 characters, I think) I knew she was going to have a good rant at me. I wasnโ€™t disappointed ๐Ÿ˜

A few hours later, my email had a novel that would rival War and Peace (I still have it). In that email, she explained (amongst other things) why she was disappointed in me and one of the users we had fallen out about. There was no way I could match that email so we ended up having a voice chat instead. We voiced our opinions calmly and respected each other for that. We never fell out again.

I loved when Sassy would talk about her family, send me pictures of her days and videos of the goats. She liked me to send her pictures of my surroundings. She liked the buildings and some of the English oddities. One day I told her I was going to have a busy day because I had to cut three lawns. I sent her pictures. She then sent me pictures of all the land on their property ๐Ÿ˜ฒ. Letโ€™s just say I never complained about having to cut my grass again ๐Ÿคฃ

Sassy often gave me very good and wise advice especially about my Lit experience. She always had a positive outlook that radiated off her. I will miss her so very much โค๏ธ
She could NEVER EVER say anything in less than a page,,trust me I know. Many years ago we separated for a few weeks, I was being an ass, she was being very stubborn and she had written novels in our back/forth email interaction..

When she was here and I would peek over her shoulder I would always give her crap for writing long ass replys lol..
 
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