Any advice on writing “morning after” or “day after” scenes (i.e., when she’s just lost her virginity to a well-endowed stranger)?

[erotica_n_s]

Am working on a ‘first-time story’, There are other aspects to it, e.g., an ‘inter-racial’ aspect – a Caucasian dude and a woman from India, but that's a different discussion.

He’s well-endowed and they have sex in multiple positions, etc.

I want to write the “day after” scene, where we see the young woman the following day, with some aches and pains, and a little post-coital dysphoria.

How do I make the “aches and pains” accurate and believable? What “aches and pains” is a woman likely to experience after vigorous penile-vaginal and penile-anal sex? I mean how much detail to put into this?

I think this is as important as the sex scenes themselves, if not more important – it’s about how it has affected/impacted her. I think it's this 'day after' scene that's really going to give weight to the sex scenes themselves, to depict how 'impactful' the sex was, physically and emotionally.

As for the emotional impact it’s likely to have had, well, I can work on that, and of course, input is welcome. It's the details regarding the physical sensations that I could most use some help with.

 

[NuclearFairy]

How old is she, and how active is her life?

 

[erotica_n_s]

19-year-old female university student, she's 5'6". The dude is 6'3".

 

[NuclearFairy]

Okay, but how active is she? That'll play more of part in where she'll hurt and how than their size differences do.

 

[StillStunned]

Okay, but how active is she? That'll play more of part in where she'll hurt and how than their size differences do.

I interpret the OP's reference to "first time" as meaning that it's her first time. (As opposed to her first time with someone who's well-endowed.)

 

[NotWise]

Okay, but how active is she? That'll play more of part in where she'll hurt and how than their size differences do.

She might want to shower all day until she feels clean again.

 

[NuclearFairy]

I interpret the OP's reference to "first time" as meaning that it's her first time. (As opposed to her first time with someone who's well-endowed.)

Yes, but activity levels outside of sex do influence how tight each hole will be and how intact a hymen might be and therefore how much the first time will or will not hurt.

 

[Bamagan]

The amount of pain or discomfort experienced is not a universal constant. Don't overthink it and try to be overly precise. If you're describing the temperature, your believability will not increase if you say 33.1875 Celsius instead of 33, or even better, "It's hot." Trying to get very specific about how her aches affect her movement or things like that is more likely to invite readers to question your accuracy than appreciate your story, because you're drawing too much attention to the decimal places, so to speak.

 

[TheWritingGroup]

Unless the woman is talking to her doctor, or it's first-person and she's thinking about the details of her discomfort, I agree with the advice to be vague. If she just says she's feeling "sore", no normal person (who isn't her doctor) is going to press for details.

If you want to be evocative, have her walking funny and someone asks her what's wrong, and she just says she's feeling a little sore, and winces as she straightens her back and unconsciously puts her hand on her belly. If you wanted to make a joke out of it, have a (female?) friend think she's just having a bad period and her not want to argue with the friend about it.

--Annie

 

[EmilyMiller]

Am working on a ‘first-time story’, There are other aspects to it, e.g., an ‘inter-racial’ aspect – a Caucasian dude and a woman from India, but that's a different discussion.

He’s well-endowed and they have sex in multiple positions, etc.

I want to write the “day after” scene, where we see the young woman the following day, with some aches and pains, and a little post-coital dysphoria.

How do I make the “aches and pains” accurate and believable? What “aches and pains” is a woman likely to experience after vigorous penile-vaginal and penile-anal sex? I mean how much detail to put into this?

I think this is as important as the sex scenes themselves, if not more important – it’s about how it has affected/impacted her. I think it's this 'day after' scene that's really going to give weight to the sex scenes themselves, to depict how 'impactful' the sex was, physically and emotionally.

As for the emotional impact it’s likely to have had, well, I can work on that, and of course, input is welcome. It's the details regarding the physical sensations that I could most use some help with.

Can I ask why this aspect is important to your story? I know you reference it adding weight to the sex scenes and also talk about her emotional state. But I’m not clear what you are trying to achieve. To emphasize what a stallion the MMC is? Can you please clarify?

 

[lovecraft68]

My advice is to stop crediting men and acting like first time sex is some type of physically punishing experience.

Seriously, I just can't sometimes with the male ego and lack of anything resembling realism regarding women.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I'm not sure why you would take a story in this direction.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Can I ask why this aspect is important to your story? I know you reference it adding weight to the sex scenes and also talk about her emotional state. But I’m not clear what you are trying to achieve. To emphasize what a stallion the MMC is? Can you please clarify?

I guess it’s not that important to the OP after all.

 

[Baztrachian]

19-year-old female university student, she's 5'6". The dude is 6'3".

The average height of a woman in India is five feet even.

Also, the physical aspects of post-coital sex for a recent virgin are far less important than the emotional aspects. Focus on the emotional aspects if you want to write a believable and impactful story.

 

[Baztrachian]

I'm not sure why you would take a story in this direction.

IMHO he is heading in the right direction for writing something believable as opposed to one of the usual bullshit stories where the virgin is mesmerized by some dude's impossibly long dick and then she 'takes it all' while wantonly moaning in lustful pleasure.

 

[TheWritingGroup]

In principle, the first-timer woman could be very ignorant of her own anatomy and the mechanics of sex. I know a woman who was very surprised how her first time didn't hurt, because she was told the painful hymen tear story as a girl.

--Annie

 

[Pabiporffor]

I'd forget the physical side, just say she felt different the next day, let the reader come to their own conclusions. For most women the emphasis is always going to be on the emotional side. Does she have regrets? How does she feel about losing something she'll never get back? Are there any worries she has about how she'll be viewed? Will people know just by looking at her? The stupid little things that run through her mind.

 

[NuclearFairy]

I'd forget the physical side, just say she felt different the next day, let the reader come to their own conclusions. For most women the emphasis is always going to be on the emotional side. Does she have regrets? How does she feel about losing something she'll never get back? Are there any worries she has about how she'll be viewed? Will people know just by looking at her? The stupid little things that run through her mind.

My thoughts the next day were, "Well he waited to be an ass until after. The during was nice though. He was a virgin at least, so I don't have to worry about catching anything." Then I continued my day as if nothing had changed, because really other than blocking his ass out of my life nothing had.

Although, I was 21 when I lost my virginity, so maybe that had something to do with it? I dunno how much more mature can a 21 year old be than a 19 year old?

 

[EmilyMiller]

IMHO he is heading in the right direction for writing something believable as opposed to one of the usual bullshit stories where the virgin is mesmerized by some dude's impossibly long dick and then she 'takes it all' while wantonly moaning in lustful pleasure.

It’s hard to tell without full context, but my concern is that this becomes a male ego trip. “Look what my massive dick has done to her tight virgin holes.” It’s kinda sad how much anal porn has words like “destroyed” or “ruined” in the title.

It’s totally feasible to have your first time be with an above average guy and to just enjoy the experience with no physical side effects. Particularly if you have spent time exploring your own body first. Deflowering (a pretty term often used in a non-pretty way) doesn’t have to be painful. First time for a woman doesn’t have to be about her enduring the experience and limping away afterwards.

But, again, this may not be the author’s intent at all. He may have some other idea in mind. Unless he comes back here and clarifies, we have no way of telling.

I have a negative reaction to the ‘woman hurt by consensual sex’ vibe. I’m more in the ‘woman loved consensual sex’ camp. But… again it’s hard to say without context. It’s realistic that some women experience discomfort, or even pain. The question is this a touch of realism, or is her discomfort fetishized and a badge of honor for the MMC? And I have no idea which based on the information provided.

 

[NuclearFairy]

It’s totally feasible to have your first time be with an above average guy and to just enjoy the experience with no physical side effects. Particularly if you have spent time exploring your own body first. Deflowering (a pretty term often used in a non-pretty way) doesn’t have to be painful. First time for a woman doesn’t have to be about her enduring the experience and limping away afterwards.

I used to have a FWB who absolutely loved anal. I was nervous about it at first but I was willing to try it once. It didn't hurt at all, and I achieved what at the time had been my biggest orgasm because he knew what he was doing when doing anal on a woman.

Now granted he wasn't above average, he was on the small side of average. And when I got an above average boyfriend to do the same later it did burn a bit at first, but even though I could still feel it the next day it didn't really hurt either. Although I have a higher pain tolerance than most, so make of that what you will.

I also can't do anal with any of the same sort of ease I used to be able to because my activity level and bm have tightened it too much for any sort of comfort with the small amount of time we have when we have the privacy for it.

 

[Noor]

Her ab muscles might hurt and she may have perineal or anal tears.
Frankly, I can’t see why a virgin would be interested in a “ well endowed “ man as she would have no comparison, also most virgins are not interested in multiple sexual
Positions or going all night. Usually it’s just piv, once and it’s over.
A more experience person might have the stamina and/or interest for what the op suggests but doubt a virgin would have.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

This is why some of us are saying not to go there.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I used to have a FWB who absolutely loved anal. I was nervous about it at first but I was willing to try it once. It didn't hurt at all, and I achieved what at the time had been my biggest orgasm because he knew what he was doing when doing anal on a woman.

Now granted he wasn't above average, he was on the small side of average. And when I got an above average boyfriend to do the same later it did burn a bit at first, but even though I could still feel it the next day it didn't really hurt either. Although I have a higher pain tolerance than most, so make of that what you will.

I also can't do anal with any of the same sort of ease I used to be able to because my activity level and bm have tightened it too much for any sort of comfort with the small amount of time we have when we have the privacy for it.

It’s almost as if women are kinda different to each other and have different experiences (much like men do too).

In my experience whether you derive pleasure from an act or not is partly anatomy (shape and where nerves lie), partly how you are wired mentally, and a big chunk of who the other person is, what you feel about them, and how considerate of your needs they are.

I’ve used the trope of an experienced lover taking the protagonist to places they have never been before. But I really think from a woman’s perspective a lot of pleasure is to do with feeling safe and able to just enjoy the feelings. That’s not so much about the other party’s technique as them caring about what things are like for you.

And safety becomes ever more important when you get into more extreme experiences.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Her ab muscles might hurt and she may have perineal or anal tears.
Frankly, I can’t see why a virgin would be interested in a “ well endowed “ man as she would have no comparison, also most virgins are not interested in multiple sexual
Positions or going all night. Usually it’s just piv, once and it’s over.
A more experience person might have the stamina and/or interest for what the op suggests but doubt a virgin would have.

Some bits don’t add up, right? Then I write about supernatural beings and space octopuses, so what do I know ?

 

[Kumquatqueen]

It's going to depend on how careful the couple were to ensure it didn't hurt (or not), and how much time they took. Could go from no ill effects at all, totally happy, in love, maybe a trickle of lube felt when she goes to the loo, to lots of pain and possible trauma, or anywhere in between. Without more info from OP, no-one can advise.

The size of his cock and her height is pretty much irrelevant.