The Isolated Blurt Thread XXXVII: You're Welcome, Fuckers

[thør]

Time for lunch.

Today, I popped by Sweet Caribou and got a Spenard Smoked Turkey (smoked turkey, crispy bacon, havarti, cheddar, chili aioli, herbed cream cheese, whole leaf lettuce, sliced ripe tomato, sliced red onion, wheat bread, Alaska chips).

 

[TwinkleStars]

For sure! My girls were always opening and shutting doors.. For no reason, in and out of their bedrooms 20 times in a minute. Pretty sure they were playing some game with each other, but seriously, open, slam, open, slam, open, slam.. "STOP WITH THE DOORS!" was another dad classic. They even do it now. Two weeks ago, they were all three together, except with boyfriends and Jesus, it was still happening! They are all adult women and i still had to say it!

Etc..............

Charge a $20 slam fee. They have to pay 20 for each slam they make. Things would quiet down after shelling out cash all day.

 

[Lorilei]

Today, I popped by Sweet Caribou and got a Spenard Smoked Turkey (smoked turkey, crispy bacon, havarti, cheddar, chili aioli, herbed cream cheese, whole leaf lettuce, sliced ripe tomato, sliced red onion, wheat bread, Alaska chips).

I should not have read this while I'm fasting.

 

[juttjaw]

Charge a $20 slam fee. They have to pay 20 for each slam they make. Things would quiet down after shelling out cash all day.

Good idea! I'll try that the next time they are pushing each other around and squealing.. However, they know id never collect. Im a pushover when it comes the those girls.

 

[silver gurl]

Summer colds suck. Go outside too hot. Inside too cold.

 

[HarryHill]

Pasta for breakfast?

 

[juttjaw]

Pasta for breakfast?

Thats a breakfast i can get behind!
Add some cold fried chicken, and the rest of the day is gravey.. Mmmm gravey

 

[butters]

was outside for just minutes, twice, this morning... weather predicting even hotter temps next week. When I came back indoors, my head was so hot and long hairs getting on my nerves, so I trimmed off a couple of strands and then sorta went all edward scissorhands and now I'm short 'n' curly

feels cooler on my head, anyway

he hasn't seen it yet since he was out.

 

[butters]

apparently he loves it—so that, combined with no more of my hairs getting in my mouth during sex, is a win-win for me

 

[Plasmaball]

My auntie Elisa passed. I hadn't seen them in decades though. 2 left from that generation and that will be a wrap.

I don't handle death well. I dont mean like it ruins my life to where I cant go on. Its hard to explain because most people might find it cold and uncaring... I dont know, I doubt ill be able to make it back for the funeral..which stinks but it is what it is.

Dont be sorry, Im not. Like I said I havent seen these folks in decades. There is no real attachment to be there.

 

[juttjaw]

My auntie Elisa passed. I hadn't seen them in decades though. 2 left from that generation and that will be a wrap.

I don't handle death well. I dont mean like it ruins my life to where I cant go on. Its hard to explain because most people might find it cold and uncaring... I dont know, I doubt ill be able to make it back for the funeral..which stinks but it is what it is.

Dont be sorry, Im not. Like I said I havent seen these folks in decades. There is no real attachment to be there.

I deal with death, seemingly, unaffected. Ive had people dying, that were close to me, my whole life. No Grandparents left by the time i was 8 and my father died when i was 9. My mother passed about 10 years ago amd ive had lots of aunts and uncles cease to exist. I remember my first funeral at the age of 3. There were deaths before that, but i probably wasnt allowed to go. Plus, it was my Grandpa (mothers dad) so i guess they decided to include me.

I never remember being afraid or nervous, just "unaffected". Ive had a concept of death since i remember. Parents did tell me they were sleeoing, or going away on a trip, just that they had died. Not sure how that has played a role in my life, other than ive been coming to terms with death for a very long time.

We all deal with it how we deal with it. I guess, unless we dont. My family has always used humor. Nothing was too solemn where a joke didnt seem appropriate. Its how we were taught. Laughing can be a huge preassure relief.

Dont worry how other people see how you deal with it, its none of their business. Its not wierd if it works for you. Others judging it, is just their way of avoiding, coming to terms, in their own life. We all get through it the best we can. Survival instinct is an individual journey. Has been for millions of years.

 

[TwinkleStars]

The only time death scared me was when I watched my father die before my eyes. Worst day in my entire life. Ever.

 

[Plasmaball]

I deal with death, seemingly, unaffected. Ive had people dying, that were close to me, my whole life. No Grandparents left by the time i was 8 and my father died when i was 9. My mother passed about 10 years ago amd ive had lots of aunts and uncles cease to exist. I remember my first funeral at the age of 3. There were deaths before that, but i probably wasnt allowed to go. Plus, it was my Grandpa (mothers dad) so i guess they decided to include me.

I never remember being afraid or nervous, just "unaffected". Ive had a concept of death since i remember. Parents did tell me they were sleeoing, or going away on a trip, just that they had died. Not sure how that has played a role in my life, other than ive been coming to terms with death for a very long time.

We all deal with it how we deal with it. I guess, unless we dont. My family has always used humor. Nothing was too solemn where a joke didnt seem appropriate. Its how we were taught. Laughing can be a huge preassure relief.

Dont worry how other people see how you deal with it, its none of their business. Its not wierd if it works for you. Others judging it, is just their way of avoiding, coming to terms, in their own life. We all get through it the best we can. Survival instinct is an individual journey. Has been for millions of years.

Thank you. Yeah I know. My problem is watching what I say so I dont come off cold.

I just always feel awkward and my thoughts dont always mesh well with other people.

Ill be supporting of people who need it in the moment but otherwise I just kinda keep going.

 

[silver gurl]

The only time death scared me was when I watched my father die before my eyes. Worst day in my entire life. Ever.

Been there my friend.
When I die, throw a party. I don’t want doom and gloom.

 

[thør]

When I die, throw a party. I don’t want doom and gloom.

That's written in my will.

 

[thør]

My auntie Elisa passed

My uncle, mom's younger brother, has days to live. Not weeks. We did some awesome things together when we were both younger. I'm going to miss him dearly.

 

[butters]

yesterday was a day of grinding up yellow cukes, onions and bell peppers using the ancient hand grinder... it's fun and takes me back to being a kid watching my mum use hers), cooking up cucumber relish, and skinning and chopping another bunch of tomatoes. This morning, cooked up the chopped toms and canned them along with the relish.

the chickens are enjoying all the fresh veggie scraps they get in the summer

 

[juttjaw]

Thank you. Yeah I know. My problem is watching what I say so I dont come off cold.

I just always feel awkward and my thoughts dont always mesh well with other people.

Ill be supporting of people who need it in the moment but otherwise I just kinda keep going.

Supporting is great! Patronizing is not helpful. People patronize a lot, thinking its "the right thing to say". There is no right thing, in fact, giving a large hug and letting them weep on your shoulder, saying nothing, is better than "im so sorry for your loss" and then say something about the weather.. Supportive, means they can trust you if they need you. Most people wont ask for anything, but when they do, show up. Be reliable and always let them have their emotions. Its the only way to get through it.

Im still doing it for my wife. Her dog died a year ago. I was sad, i loved him, but she was his person and he was her best friend. Shes still struggling. I tell her, she will get over it when shes done grieving. That hasnt happened yet, but i show up every time she breaks down. Which is a couple times a week... Maybe "getting over it" isnt the best term to use.

Everyone feels awkward after a death. Hell, i feel just as awkward at a wedding! We wont talk about that.

 

[TwinkleStars]

Im still doing it for my wife. Her dog died a year ago. I was sad, i loved him, but she was his person and he was her best friend. Shes still struggling. I tell her, she will get over it when shes done grieving. That hasnt happened yet, but i show up every time she breaks down. Which is a couple times a week... Maybe "getting over it" isnt the best term to use.

Sorry, you never get over a precious angel sent to love you with all it's heart. My Yorkie passed 7 years ago and sometimes I still cry about him.
You never 'get over it' but you do learn to cope and move on. Let her bawl buckets of tears. It means she loved that sweet angel with all her heart.

 

[Lazaran]

One or two more days of hell heat

and then some relief…

“supposably”…

 

[Plasmaball]

Supporting is great! Patronizing is not helpful. People patronize a lot, thinking its "the right thing to say". There is no right thing, in fact, giving a large hug and letting them weep on your shoulder, saying nothing, is better than "im so sorry for your loss" and then say something about the weather.. Supportive, means they can trust you if they need you. Most people wont ask for anything, but when they do, show up. Be reliable and always let them have their emotions. Its the only way to get through it.

Im still doing it for my wife. Her dog died a year ago. I was sad, i loved him, but she was his person and he was her best friend. Shes still struggling. I tell her, she will get over it when shes done grieving. That hasnt happened yet, but i show up every time she breaks down. Which is a couple times a week... Maybe "getting over it" isnt the best term to use.

Everyone feels awkward after a death. Hell, i feel just as awkward at a wedding! We wont talk about that.

Better to say get over it here than to her though.
But yes saying that would be wrong. Maybe "accepting he is gone"?

I prefer support and just listening over anything else.

 

[Noor]

Better to say get over it here than to her though.
But yes saying that would be wrong. Maybe "accepting he is gone"?

I prefer support and just listening over anything else.

“ accepting he is gone” will go over like a lead balloon.

 

[pink]

I want a new hobby. Maybe learning to draw? Maybe cross stitch?

 

[Plasmaball]

I want a new hobby. Maybe learning to draw? Maybe cross stitch?

Lead balloons

 

[FataMorgana]

I want a new hobby. Maybe learning to draw? Maybe cross stitch?

Junk journalling?