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Questionnaire
Let’s (high)lighten the mood! I love a good questionnaire, especially one that allows for some creativity. Below you will find 20 questions. Yes, 20. That’s a lot. You do not have to answer all 20. You can answer whichever ones you want to answer. We won’t judge.

  1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?
Not for a long time. Nor do I typically wish upon a star.
  1. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?
Call my wife to deal with it cause she doesn’t like when I squish them.
  1. What is your favorite comfort meal?
In the summer probably a gooey PB&J on a thick slab of white bread. In the winter I do love some butternut squash soup.
  1. What is something about which people have a misconception?
so many things. Everyone thinks they’re a better than average driver, lover and intellect. And really almost everyone is average at everything. And that’s okay
  1. Where do you feel the most at peace?
By the river
  1. Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.
Director, Kogonada
  1. What are you looking forward to?
I don’t know. It’s sort of an issue at this juncture in my life tbh.
  1. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?
We had otters on our dock last summer! I’m so sad I haven’t seen any this year!
  1. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?
I’m very….superficial in my interests and hobbies. I don’t master things, I dabble.
  1. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? And what is your grilled cheese recipe?
I don’t eat grilled cheese but I’ll have a PB&J with Albert Camus. PB smooth as the two of us would be.
  1. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?
I don’t take heroes as a rule. Even people with great ideas and/or who do good things are often deeply flawed.

And I’d never take a two dimensional representation as anything other than an idea I’d like to embrace. Most fictional chatacters I’m thinking of typically serve as counter examples anyway 🤣
  1. Are you optimistic about the future?
In the short term….not really…I think we’re kinda in a bad place and it’s gonna take a lot of work and probable sacrifice from folks who don’t like sacrifice to make it better.

In the long term? I mean..:the earths gonna keep spinning no matter what we do.
  1. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?
Grilled onions and peppers….yum yum yum
  1. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?
Bonobo. Duh. No other answer makes a lick of sense.
  1. What is something new you’ve done recently
Nothing….😬
  1. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort
Nothing that brings joy is insignificant. But the example that leaps immediately to mind is the thump of my dogs tail when I come in and she’s too tired or hot or lazy to get up but still so happy to have me around.
  1. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?
I just took that leap last year.
  1. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?
So many educators throughout my life. I’ve connected with some of them over the last decade or so. But my 6th grade teacher passed away a while ago. He was OLD when he taught me.

I did happen to randomly be in a D&D group 20 years ago with someone who was married to a teacher that taught with him his last year before he retired. She said he was admired and beloved his last year too. So that is nice.
  1. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special?
Oh jeez…
  1. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why?
 
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And I’m extra happy to see you check in. Your attendance has been noted! 📋
Thanks! I've just found this thread. I don't know how I could miss it, but I'm now a subscriber. :giggle:
We need some theme music.

What are some songs that remind you of the UK?
When I was in London several years ago (same year Prince Charles and Lady Diana got married) this was played every were! So when ever I hear it I think about that week.

 
My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back?
Lit will always be special to me 🥰 In a sea of unsupervised, unlimited internet access filled with flashy ads and overstimulating banners, Lit has stayed neutral, safe and unassuming.

It’s always worked perfectly for what I need and want, so this is where I return - over and over and over again.

What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here?
People are weird and I’m somehow even weirder
Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you?
Um, no? Noooooo I wouldn’t be happy. I don’t care how gOoD FoR mY mEnTaL hEaLtH it would be. NoOoOoooOooo! 🫱🏼

Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?
I guess it depends on what your idea of an “upside” is.

Like yea, I’d probably be more consistent and present in my “real” life, pecking my husband on the cheek before work, baking, folding laundry for hours, blah blah blah.

Meanwhile my brain would be going brrrrrrrrrrrrrr all day, just buffering and buffering and buffering.

So yeaaaa, maybe an upside for some but a real bummer for me. I need a little edge in my life and Lit is basically foolproof. Basically 😋
 
Say It Ain’t So…
On Friday, there’s a possibility that many Litsters in UK will not be able to access the Lit website due to some restrictions on sites with adult content. Maybe it won’t affect Lit at all. Maybe VPN can be a solution to this issue. Time will tell. But if it does, a huge section of our Lit community will suddenly be missing.

Most likely, you can find various ways to connect with those you’re close with here off of Lit. Or the Discord Lit at Night is another viable option to consider. But, neither of those will replace the original Lit.

My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you? Why have you stayed, or keep coming back? What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense). Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?

Whether you are among those awaiting the new legislation to take effect, think about how you found this site. Looking back over your time here, what stands out to you as memorable? Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?

Well, I have to say, I'm very glad it seems like the UK folks are still here! I really enjoy the humor a lot of them bring here...

What makes Lit Lit for me? Why have I stayed or come back? It's just a unique place, as far as I've found. I think I've said here, or in another similar thread, that I grew up in a house where sex was a verboten topic, so I just really appreciate a place where it's treated as just a natural part of life. And where flirting and dirty thoughts aren't necessarily taken as something more as something light and playful.

Some lessons I've learned is that I still have a lot of Catholic guilt and uptightness (that's a word, right?) that I need to work through, even after all these years of being on here. I have a lot more leniency for others' kinks and sexuality than I do for my own.

I would not be happy if Lit just ended and can't see any upsides for it. I don't see it as a hot bed of anything, really, just a fun place for people to be themselves. Though I don't really venture out of the Playground anymore so maybe there's more depravity other places? I don't think it can be too bad, though...
 
Say It Ain’t So…
I need to answer my own questions but I’m not sure of my answers.

Thankfully, the UK D-Day did not come to be and we still have all of our friends from across the pond (from my POV) here with us. But the threat of losing all of you made me reflect on my Litting (it can be a verb).
My question is, what makes Lit LIT for you?
The people. Without a doubt. Individually and as a whole. Everyone. The people who I look up to. The people I love. The people I miss. The people who I’ve upset. The people who have left. Those who just arrived and are learning the ropes. The people who surprise me — especially them. I love it when people who I think of in a certain way come out with something that makes me see them in a different light.
Why have you stayed, or keep coming back?
Different reasons. Sometimes it’s the subject matter. I like being able to discuss sexual topics
With real people. But really it comes back to the people, right? That’s the common denominator.
What are some lessons about yourself or others that you learned here? (This isn’t an invitation to call out anyone specifically. I mean this in a very general sense).
If someone shows you who they are, believe them.

Are you, or would you be happy if Lit just ended or was taken from you? Can you see any up sides from not being able to visit this site anymore?
There have been times when I have been too wrapped up in Lit and if it was just taken from me, I wouldn’t have liked it but it may have been a good thing for me. I think that I’m in a better place now tbough.
Whether you are among those awaiting the new legislation to take effect, think about how you found this site. Looking back over your time here, what stands out to you as memorable?
Times that were memorable? My picture thread was at first. But then it was friendships - some have faded- but overall they have been pivotal. Really it’s just been moments when I’ve made a connection with someone.
Is what you remember the most the reason you came here in the first place?
To feel a sense of belonging overall. And to talk about things that are sort of looked down upon otherwise.
 
Um, no? Noooooo I wouldn’t be happy. I don’t care how gOoD FoR mY mEnTaL hEaLtH it would be. NoOoOoooOooo! 🫱🏼
I spent three minutes trying to find a secret message in the capital letters. OD FRY ETL ELH NOOO. I'm not sure if you're actually locked in a basement somewhere and this is a call for help? Or an attempt to write FROODY HELLO NOTE? Either way, your autocorrect needs some attention.
It's just a unique place, as far as I've found. I think I've said here, or in another similar thread, that I grew up in a house
Popular choice. Other types of residence are available. YMMV.
where sex was a verboten topic, so I just really appreciate a place where it's treated as just a natural part of life.
...oh, that wasn't the end of the sentence. Anyway. Interesting point. Do you feel sex on Lit is treated naturally? It's discussed with great openness sometimes, and in great detail, but that itself can feel a little unnatural to me. I sometimes think we normalise things here, rather than accepting and respecting them for being different.
Litting (it can be a verb).
It can. You missed the initial C ;)
 
Questionnaire
Let’s (high)lighten the mood! I love a good questionnaire, especially one that allows for some creativity. Below you will find 20 questions. Yes, 20. That’s a lot. You do not have to answer all 20. You can answer whichever ones you want to answer. We won’t judge.

  1. Do you make wishes on your birthday candles before blowing them out? Would you care to share what your last birthday wish was?
I don't. But maybe I should. It's such a quintessential act of childlike wonder and delights. And everyone's life could use more childlike wonder and delight.
  1. You discover a spider in your kitchen. What do you do?
Administer a swift death and then a viking funeral.
  1. What is your favorite comfort meal?
Steak and french fries. With a glass of bourbon. Eaten with really close friends at leisure.
  1. What is something about which people have a misconception?
Everyone thinks that it's a bifurcated choice between whether the moon landing actually happened or it didn't happen. But what if there's no actual moon at all?! And it's simply a holographic projection and there's nothing actually there at all? That's a nice way to slice the Gordian knot...
  1. Where do you feel the most at peace?
At home. In my spot. Reading my books.
  1. Finish this sentence. My favorite _____ is ______.
My favorite dance is the bachata. It's the vertical expression of a horizontal desire. Literally.
  1. What are you looking forward to?
Being able to quit my job and work on my business full time!
  1. What was your last memorable encounter with something found in nature?
I went rucking at a local nature preserve. A hidden gem really...barely anyone knows about it. It's a small waterfall that's hollowed out a shallow cave behind it. However, it had just rained 3 days straight, and the waterfall was simply majestic. I stood in the shallow cave behind it with the spume flying all around me and dozens of little rainbows shining through the splintered sunshine.
  1. Hidden talents or hobbies? Something you are trying to master?
I can play chess blindfolded. I can sew a button back onto a shirt (real proud of that one). And I'm trying to learn how to host JSON files in Python in 4 weeks or less.
  1. If you could make grilled cheese sandwiches with anyone alive or dead, who would it be? And what is your grilled cheese recipe?
I would make a grilled cheese sandwich with my mother who passed away. She always made the best sandwiches. It would be simple: pepper jack cheese on homemade bread.
  1. Who are your heroes or heroines, real or fictional?
1. Winston Churchill. I've read almost all of his major biographies, as well as his memoirs and books. He ignored what everyone else around him was saying to do what be believed needed to be done to combat evil.
2. Theodore Roosevelt. Again, I've read almost all of the major biographies as well as his autobiography. He loved his first wife so passionately (she died in childbirth) that the day she died, he simply wrote in his journal for that day "Darkness" and then never mentioned her again, even in his autobiography.
3. Augustine. I've read his complete works, as well as several excellent biographies. This dude would come to conclusions other men would take thier whole lives to decide, and he'd do it in 5 years. He reinvented himself almost every 10 years, and never stopped reinventing until he died. So he essentially lived 5 regular lives.
  1. Are you optimistic about the future?
Very.
  1. What is a smell that stops you in your tracks?
Coco Chanel #5. So many memories come are wrapped up in that scent.
  1. If you could come back as any organism, what would you come back as?
A peregrine falcon. I wanna go FAST.
  1. What is something new you’ve done recently
I started to learn the python coding language. I started experimenting on lawnmowers to see if I can soup them up and make them more fun.
  1. What's a small, seemingly insignificant thing that brings you immense joy or comfort
A single espresso shot sweetened with honey in the mornings while I read my book before work.
  1. What's a goal or dream you've been hesitant to pursue? What's holding you back, and what's one small step you can take towards it?
I tend to move rather ruthlessly in the pursuit of my dreams and goals. So to the best of my knowledge, I'm moving towards them all, even if they are in a hierarchy of priority.
  1. If you could write a letter of appreciation to someone who deeply impacted your life, who would it be and what would you say?
I would write a letter to my mom. I'd thank her for all the cups of tea at the kitchen counter, where she would listen to all my crazy ideas and everything I was reading, even though she wasn't interested in any of the subjects. She listened because she loved me. I'd thank her for protecting me, and being the wisest woman I knew.
  1. Describe a time when you experienced a deep connection or understanding with another person. What made that moment special?
We met way back when I was bartending at the time. She walked into the bar while I was behind the counter and asked where the restroom was. I answered in a British accent. She responded in a British accent. We spent the whole night talking in a British accent, and the conversation spiraled around books and alcohol and philosophy and starting companies and building cob houses. You know when you meet someone and you're almost the same person, and you join like two raindrops on a wet window? That's what happened. We were incredibly, eerily similar...and we still message on FB almost every single day. The conversation continues!
  1. If your life had a theme song, what would it be and why?
The Halo theme song. Epic. Intense. Hallowed.
 
Let’s Get Organized
Are you an organized person or do you struggle with keeping things in order? Are there areas in which you are orderly but you’re a hot mess in others?

I got to thinking about this while trying to find a certain icon on the home screen of my phone. “Where is the Dominion Power app?!??” I growled because for some reason that is the company that I had to schedule monthly insurance that covers the plumbing line from your house to the street ($2.50/month - do it! A neighbor learned the hard way!)

Again another tangent. Sigh

So there I was, flipping between screens on my phone, trying to find this app, and my family was standing there watching me get more harried. After I found it and paid for the insurance, we got to talking about how their home screens are organized. I learned that this is yet another way that I am doing things harder and not smarter.


I have a square with all the health icons titled “Health” with my fitness apps, my heart health etc apps, my food journal apps, etc. I have another square with all the car related icons titled “Car” with my insurance apps, the Toyota app, the Edmunds app, etc. And so on. So I try to minimize the number of actual squares on my home screen and organize each square by theme.

Then I bunch them together on as few pages as I can. I don’t want to flip through 5 pages of icons.

Now. Others in my family have a whole Car page and an Entertainment page, and a Health page, there is so much blank space on the page but it doesn’t matter. Each topic has a new page. So they have like 15 pages.

This made my eye twitch.

Then my teenagers customized their homepages to look .. beautiful or really cool but I can’t find a thing. So. I’m an old fogey, too, maybe.

I started looking at ways others organized their home screens. (Yes. I went down the rabbit hole.)

Some organized their icons by verb.

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Some by color. Wtf.

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Some alphabetically. I could get behind this one. Maybe. It still takes up too much space!

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And some by.. emoji??? I can’t.

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I had to take a nap after looking at how people did this. Then when I woke up, it made me think about how people organize their libraries.

Does anyone here organize their library by color? Just curious.

Do you have a particular way of organizing anything? Is there something that HAS TO BE just so? Are you particular about … the food pantry? The car? Your desk? Your bedside table? Spreadsheets? Garden tools? Toys? Your lingerie drawer? Something else?
 
I have a huge crush on my wife's best friend. And I still do. But that crush took a little bit of a hit when I saw that she'd "organized" her books by color. Yes, I suppose it looks good (maybe). But it's the least organized way of organizing anything. How are you supposed to find the book you actually want? Sort by genre, then by author. Anything else is just being a chaos gremlin.

The only other thing I'm particular about is CD's (yes, I still listen to CD's). They're arranged alphabetically by artist. And the CD is ALWAYS put back in the case with the title right side up.

Other than that my world is a disheveled mess and I'm fine with it.
 
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