I'm working on some ideas and wanted to get input from others into femdom and JOI. In your opinion, what’s the most degrading or humiliating thing a dominant woman can do or say during a JOI scene? I'm especially interested in creative or intense examples that really reinforce control and power dynamics, whether it's verbal, psychological, or physical. Open to all ideas — curious to see what people think pushes the limits in a consensual, erotic way.
What’s the most humiliating thing a woman can do in a femdom JOI scenario
- Thread starter ba2plus
- Start date
slavejason
Experienced
- Joined
- Mar 9, 2024
- Posts
- 64
I’d say probably the Domme ordering the sub to perform a self facial or to swallow own cum/cum play.
CEI is cool. but it lacks creativity? i am looking for something that is out side the box?
LeinadVirgo
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Jun 7, 2016
- Posts
- 1,841
Something frustrating, forced to use your non dominant hand.
this is nice. but i would add a small touch to it. using the non dominant hand to do some task to earn a stroke? maybe even writing a sentence or doing a task? idk i am trying to be creative here lol
OldGoodPup
Pup
- Joined
- Sep 12, 2023
- Posts
- 246
"Are you ready to cum?"
"Yes, Miss."
"Show him your little acorn."
"Here, Sir, do you see my little mushroom being rubbed raw?"
"You're going to stop when I say stop, right pup? Give me your orgasm?"
"Yes, Miss"
"Now, Pup. Stop and ruin. Right onto Sir's balls. Good pup. Now kiss and make them clean."
"Yes, Miss."
"Show him your little acorn."
"Here, Sir, do you see my little mushroom being rubbed raw?"
"You're going to stop when I say stop, right pup? Give me your orgasm?"
"Yes, Miss"
"Now, Pup. Stop and ruin. Right onto Sir's balls. Good pup. Now kiss and make them clean."
This is hot. But do you have smth that pushes the limits?
I am soo confused. How many people are there in this scenario?
OldGoodPup
Pup
- Joined
- Sep 12, 2023
- Posts
- 246
3, Miss, Miss's lover and Miss's pup.Curious_about_kink
Loves Spam
- Joined
- Jul 19, 2025
- Posts
- 16
Basically anything regarding the size of his penis you can use long term chastity combined with prostate milking but put a time limit on it so he has to cum in a certain amount of time or he looses the chance until next time
Dearelliot
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Feb 21, 2010
- Posts
- 1,423
I haven't been, but I think being taken to a glory hole and made to kneel and suck cock would be quite humiliating. She, presenting her sub with used condoms and telling him what he will soon be doing.
SissySalina
Sissy Smart
- Joined
- Sep 3, 2016
- Posts
- 6,791
Humiliating would be taking a sub to a glory hole making the sub place a condom on the cock then sucking it, saving the condom. Doing this several times and collecting the condoms each time and not allowing the sub the pleasure of tasting the product. Then once finished leave the glory hole and on the sidewalk outside of the establishment empty the condoms on the sidewalk then make the sub to lick it all up.
Dearelliot
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Feb 21, 2010
- Posts
- 1,423
Oral servitude during her period has been humiliating for me.
I mentioned this to a professional Mistress I used to see in Haddonfield NJ. I told her, I had thoughts about this and wondered what it would be like. She told me the next date she expected this to happen, and when that date rolled around, I called her. She reminded me of the issue we had discussed, and asked me if I was sure, because she had no intentions of giving refunds or letting me off easy...it would be the standard meeting...I would do as I was told.
I was a bit apprehensive when I arrived, but she took control. We went up to her attic dungeon..She told me to undress and slapped my face, then started the session by lifting her leg up on a chair and fishing it out. She said open and she just put it in my mouth, no questions. The woman was from Iceland and this was in the early 70s...She used a small ball of cotton...not the store bought tampons.
She stood very close, face to face, and spanked my cock with a ruler as she told me to chew...and if I didn't, I could leave, and not come back. If any of you have had a very confident, tall, angry, naked woman's face almost touching yours and giving you orders, you know how extremely humiliating that can be.
Next she made me lay down on the floor and she stepped over my face and squatted on my mouth, and rode my face. I don't recall if I ever did that with her again, but I did it once more with a different Mistress some years later.
I mentioned this to a professional Mistress I used to see in Haddonfield NJ. I told her, I had thoughts about this and wondered what it would be like. She told me the next date she expected this to happen, and when that date rolled around, I called her. She reminded me of the issue we had discussed, and asked me if I was sure, because she had no intentions of giving refunds or letting me off easy...it would be the standard meeting...I would do as I was told.
I was a bit apprehensive when I arrived, but she took control. We went up to her attic dungeon..She told me to undress and slapped my face, then started the session by lifting her leg up on a chair and fishing it out. She said open and she just put it in my mouth, no questions. The woman was from Iceland and this was in the early 70s...She used a small ball of cotton...not the store bought tampons.
She stood very close, face to face, and spanked my cock with a ruler as she told me to chew...and if I didn't, I could leave, and not come back. If any of you have had a very confident, tall, angry, naked woman's face almost touching yours and giving you orders, you know how extremely humiliating that can be.
Next she made me lay down on the floor and she stepped over my face and squatted on my mouth, and rode my face. I don't recall if I ever did that with her again, but I did it once more with a different Mistress some years later.
Last edited:
NancyPan
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Apr 11, 2014
- Posts
- 867
What some might find humiliating others of us would consider to be a privilege!
whenagain
Literotica Guru
- Joined
- Jul 21, 2015
- Posts
- 2,630
Yuuuuuuup. . .
Dearelliot
Really Experienced
- Joined
- Feb 21, 2010
- Posts
- 1,423
Yes that is quite true, Anything associated with a Mistress is to be treasured.
I've posted a few ideas in the past but one in particular: She should order the slave to kneel in front of the toilet and jerk off into it. Let him know that his inferior seed gets to be flushed down with the sewage. For even more depraved and dirty behavior, after he finishes, she can push his head into the commode with her boot and then order him to swallow it.
This really should break their soul, huh?
LinusLattimore
Virgin
- Joined
- Jan 15, 2024
- Posts
- 24
For me, a powerful dynamic when under her JOI instruction is her tone of voice. Everything she tells me to do is a suggestion rather than an order. She speaks in a very soft, understanding tone, like an older sister instructing her younger brother who knows he's about to do something very naughty. She often acts very surprised when I ejaculate, followed by disappointment at being so naughty. And sometimes punishment follows, if she feels like it.
countdowntolov3
Switch
- Joined
- Sep 7, 2022
- Posts
- 133
I once told a boyfriend, while I was giving him a face-down "massage", that his asshole was "winking" with the rhythm of my handjob. He seemed pretty embarrassed by that.
TheIntrepidBoyager
Virgin
- Joined
- Jul 20, 2025
- Posts
- 15
Paint his toenails and fully makeup his face. Even better if he has facial hair as he'll look ridiculous. Make him stand fully naked, looking into a mirror (even one that just shows his face) and jack off. The Dominant stands behind and smacks his ass hard with a paddle or some such if he closes his eyes. The Dominant can also says demeaning things about how he's about to get hard when he looks so damn silly and sissy.
I was very new to visiting a mistress, this beautiful but stern Czech girl spanked me and ridiculed my small endowment, which excited me hugely. She had me lying face down on her wooden floor, and was teasing my red bottom with her finger nails. She was dressed and I felt aroused but vulnerable. She then proceeded to play with my ass before inserting an Aneros prostate massager in to me. OMG the pleasure was indescribably good, my whole body was in a state of submissive ecstasy. She got up to get something across the room, but these sensations in my body were so great that I had my first ever assgasm…. It was truly a watershed moment for me, a first, I came all over her floor. She was so angry and began shouting at me, how I was a girly-boy with a premature ejaculation issue. I felt ashamed but still amazed as it was my first anal orgasm. She continued to humiliate me verbally, in truth I never went back to her as she was quite hateful.
