FUCKING DICK SIZE

[adlon]

What an awful fucking thing to say! Not once have I read a post where @Escierto has been unkind to someone, and you just blast him with the most cruel, and personal attack. And why!? Because you don't like the thread?! Well, who the fuck made you the arbiter of what is and isn't a worthy thread topic? ..Don't we have monitors for that?

Yes, there's been many threads about dick size, but this is the first where the poster is expressing justifiable frustration with the endless misinformation seen on Lit regarding the subject. By contrast, the other threads about size seem to be mostly kink scratching

I'm no arbiter just voiced my opinion on an open forum which I'm entitled to do. If you don't like it too fucking bad. Feel free to block me so you don't have to see it.

He's a cranky old man, bitter and sad with the world, who's been conned by someone half way across the world.

And if anyone is concerned about misinformation as you put it, than maybe Lit is not the place for them, as 99.9% of what's on here is fantasy. If they want facts there are some very good science based sites they could look at.

 

[Stopokochac]

Someone sounds bitter that they have a small dick

 

[LMWM321]

Someone sounds bitter that they have a small dick

And the irony is no one cares if he HAS a small dick but they are quite bothered that he IS a big dick.

 

[adlon]

And the irony is no one cares that he HAS a small dick but they are quite bothered that he IS a big dick.

Wow, what a terrible thing to say about someone and from a person who likes to lecture others on how they should talk to others.
Is your hypocrisy directly related to your sexu as l frustrations or is it a completely separate issue?

 

[whenagain]

I think a problem with sites like this is that 1) people don’t come here with their whole brain. They show up to indulge a fetish and that’s it. 2) they start new threads before doing any searches to see if what they are interested in has been covered.

So you get a lot of unnecessary repeat content.

 

[firefox27eros]

I don't carry a measuring device around with me but if I can't touch my thumb and middle finger around it, well then it's just right!!

@Beth_Anne90 you said you don't carry but you have a built-in tool and a trusted method to do that properly.
I have 3 questions for you.
1, Is not too late for the decision making when him is in your hands?
2, Do you have any other methods to increase the success or decrease the failure rate?
3, Do you have tiny hands and fingers, don't you?

 

[lovecraft68]

If I have to read one more thread where some fucking idiot with a 7 inch dick claims he is average or another group of fucking morons are whining about having small dicks of only 5 to 6 inches, I AM GOING TO SCREAM!

Do your research. It's not that hard. There have been numerous scientific studies done on the topic. Porn is not research. Your wife who is a size queen is not research. Your anecdotal evidence is not research.

Science. I know in this country we have decided to dispense with science but in the name of fucking Christ, dick size is not a mystery. Science.

You can't help cold male insecurity.

 

[purvis2]

If I have to read one more thread where some fucking idiot with a 7 inch dick claims he is average or another group of fucking morons are whining about having small dicks of only 5 to 6 inches, I AM GOING TO SCREAM!

Do your research. It's not that hard. There have been numerous scientific studies done on the topic. Porn is not research. Your wife who is a size queen is not research. Your anecdotal evidence is not research.

Science. I know in this country we have decided to dispense with science but in the name of fucking Christ, dick size is not a mystery. Science.

Well, it is like average height for an adult male. I think it is about 5 foot 8 inches across the world. Are there guys over 6 feet or even 7 feet? yes, we can easily see that. Most guys "actual" size is completely hidden away from the public.

 

[TheSearcher51]

When it comes to sex we all want to feel like we are desirable and able to please out partner. At 74 y/o I yet to find that the size of a man's dick matters but what does is the way a person sees his or her self. If you obsess with your dick then you probably won't satisfy or even enjoy it yourself. My suggestion is fuck like you have the best cock there is or like this is the last fuck of your life.

 

[FlirtyWordy]

If I have to read one more thread where some fucking idiot with a 7 inch dick claims he is average or another group of fucking morons are whining about having small dicks of only 5 to 6 inches, I AM GOING TO SCREAM!

Do your research. It's not that hard. There have been numerous scientific studies done on the topic. Porn is not research. Your wife who is a size queen is not research. Your anecdotal evidence is not research.

Science. I know in this country we have decided to dispense with science but in the name of fucking Christ, dick size is not a mystery. Science.

Thank you! I make this point frequently, including on here. But far too many (most?) guys seem too stubborn to do what you suggest: Go to the best available science, the data.

Here is a solid chart: https://www.penissizedebate.com/images/doc/penis_size_preference_chart1.gif

Also, it would be great if we could all stop exaggerating our size. Does anyone think someone who actually sees their penis is going to be fooled?

Fuck, we're embarrassing.

 

[SophiaQ]

FUCKING DICK SIZE

As opposed to Masterbating Dick Size?

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Over seven inches can be incredibly uncomfortable and difficult. And, to be honest, a real myth that guys perpetuate through porn movie regurgitation. Four or five is verrrry sexy and six to seven is VERY big.

 

[madmatt618]

Over seven inches can be incredibly uncomfortable and difficult. And, to be honest, a real myth that guys perpetuate through porn movie regurgitation. Four or five is verrrry sexy and six to seven is VERY big.

There is hope for us yet!

 

[Addam829]

Over seven inches can be incredibly uncomfortable and difficult. And, to be honest, a real myth that guys perpetuate through porn movie regurgitation. Four or five is verrrry sexy and six to seven is VERY big.

And it is about how you use it, and use four play correctly.

 

[SandraMaus]

If I have to read one more thread where some fucking idiot with a 7 inch dick claims he is average or another group of fucking morons are whining about having small dicks of only 5 to 6 inches, I AM GOING TO SCREAM!

Do your research. It's not that hard. There have been numerous scientific studies done on the topic. Porn is not research. Your wife who is a size queen is not research. Your anecdotal evidence is not research.

Science. I know in this country we have decided to dispense with science but in the name of fucking Christ, dick size is not a mystery. Science.

AT least you don't get the dick size as message or as greeting in a chat. ' Do you enjoy 7 inch cock?" My response is ' if that is your standard conversation opener you will die as old virgin. Sometimes I get a dick pic first. Next message will be 'do you like it? and then another message 'Hi'
I don't get it. How was it done before we had smartphones. Did people send letters at random addresses or did did they knock on doors?

 

[Pabiporffor]

OK, I've taken your advice and done my own research. Actually if truth be told I've been researching it for many a year and have fucked and gobbled a large enough sample size to come to a conclusion. So here are the facts.

There's two averages. The scientific average which comes from measuring random people, and the real world average. Guys with little dicks rarely approach us for sex, the bigger he is the more confidently he will try his luck. Small dick guys are far more cautious who they show it too, they've been burnt before.

As a result our view of dicks is somewhat skewed. Science may say 5 inches and it may be true, but the ones we actually experience are mostly 6 to 9 inch.

 

[LMWM321]

I don't get it. How was it done before we had smartphones. Did people send letters at random addresses or did did they knock on doors?

Haha... Seriously...

It's ridiculous the way men disembody dicks from the person they're attached to - eg., "dick picks" - as though the decision of whether to have sex with man is simply a matter of what his dick looks like.

And regarding dick size, I'm pretty confident in saying that if a woman is not attracted to the "whole" guy, his dick being extra large only makes the idea of sex with him even more unappealing.

So many clueless men....

 

[LMWM321]

As a result our view of dicks is somewhat skewed. Science may say 5 inches and it may be true, but the ones we actually experience are mostly 6 to 9 inch.

I think there's some truth to what you're saying. Guys with bigger dicks are imbued with an over abundance of self-confidence about their desirability; the fact that it's based on a false premise (ie., that most women prefer bigger dicks) is beside the point.

But there's also the issue of measuring. ..Like, who the fuck is measuring dicks during hookups? More likely, people are estimating. And given the fact that a 9" dick is about as rare as a 7' man, it's highly likely that a person who claims to have encountered several such dicks is simply overestimating their size.

 

[Pabiporffor]

I think there's some truth to what you're saying. Guys with bigger dicks are imbued with an over abundance of self-confidence about their desirability; the fact that it's misplaced is beside the point.

But there's also the issue of measuring. ..Like, who the fuck is measuring dicks during hookups? More likely, people are estimating. It's highly likely that women claiming their partner has a 9" dick is greatly overestimating its size. ...Such a large dick is about as rare as a 7' man

Good point. It would be interesting to see just how good we are at measuring by eye.

 

[Whynotyeahwhynot]

It not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean that makes you sick.

All you guys that think a monster dick 9 inches plus is going to have women ripping there clothes off and beg you to fuck them, good luck with that. The most important thing no matter how big or small you are is to know how to use it.

 

[JennyCapricorn]

AT least you don't get the dick size as message or as greeting in a chat. ' Do you enjoy 7 inch cock?" My response is ' if that is your standard conversation opener you will die as old virgin. Sometimes I get a dick pic first. Next message will be 'do you like it? and then another message 'Hi'
I don't get it. How was it done before we had smartphones. Did people send letters at random addresses or did did they knock on doors?

I have a mild fetish for glory hole fiction and have more than one spent time in the chat rooms for that topic. Most men describe their offerings as what I would call average - I’ve had some 5”, mostly 6-7”, some 8.5” (yes they had the decimal point for precision) - but you can tell the insecure or the the young by their fictive dicks being the length and girth of their forearm.

I just burst out laughing every single time. No, it’s not. And if it is, it ain’t going in me.

As a 5’2” girlfriend once said “if I see i guy who is hung like a horse i am running away!” (I realize much taller women might feel different but… no.)

 

[FlirtyWordy]

First, I have never once sent an unsolicited dick pic, except to my spouse. This includes to "lifestyle" friends with whom I have regular, sexy conversations via text; I always ask permission.

So I'm not defending men who send unsolicited dick pics. But as with almost everything in our unfortunate internet age, I see a gross deficit of compassion and an unwillingness to step away from our pre-ordained judgments.

I just heard a good podcast on which sex research Justin Lehmiller interviewed two (straight) women researchers who have delved deeply into the psychology of sending/receiving dick pics, both solicited and unsolicited. It's worth a listen if one can set aside judgment for a bit. If you aren't willing to listen, then perhaps a comment on the podcast is not warranted.

You can listen to "The Science of Dick Pics" here: https://www.sexandpsychology.com/blog/podcast/episode-415-the-science-of-dick-pics/

Someone here informed me that the only reason I have consistently heard from men, women and couples that my dick is large is that they are all (at this point, approaching 100 individuals) lying to me. I've been going to "lifestyle" resorts, where open conversation and nudity are the norm, and bullshit is at a minimum: it's all there for people to see, flaccid and erect. It simply is not the case that people at resorts are remarking on my size as some form of phony flattery.

I treasure the nicknames I've gotten, especially since I am not otherwise a super "manly" man. I'm naturally smooth, very fit, but not hugely muscled. I am small in stature (5'7") and have quite small hands and feet. And I am precisely 7 inches long and 6.5 inches in girth (at the base) when erect. Best not to judge books by their covers!

My size is noted in private and public. I have no reason to disbelieve any of the scores of people who have made that observation to me. Many many have said mine is the largest they have "been with."

This is not a boast; it's the opposite. It's a recognition that my size is considered by most (North American, at any rate) people as large, which suggests that the prevelance of dicks larger than that is low. This is a plea that we all just stop the lying and shaming about dick size. Different people, both men and women, prefer different lengths, girths and appearances of penises. There is no "ideal," though surveys may show a preference for a range of sizes.

I feel so bad seeing how many men online — very possibly a majority, from my experience — feel they are "too small" when in fact they are average or just below, or even well above average. I agree with the original poster: Any time some poor guy is bemoaning the size of his "6-inch" cock, it's maddening — but it's also a good opportunity for some empathy and compassion.

It's also passing strange that so many men online will display photos of penises that are clearly not the size they are claiming; it's really not hard to tell.

Anyone claiming to have seen many 8+-inch dicks is probably making an inaccurate assessment, given the prevalence of such size in the overall population. The question of whether smaller sized men are less likely to approach for sex is valid, but that merely indicates that someone claiming, for example, an average of 6-9 inches, has a sampling-size problem; science does not.

So while it's plausible that a person is self-selecting larger cocks because that's what they prefer, it's simply a mistake to claim that "real world" size is 6-9 inches.

Let's normalize normal dick sizes and recognize that different people have different preferences.

 

[RP_Goals]

Over seven inches can be incredibly uncomfortable and difficult. And, to be honest, a real myth that guys perpetuate through porn movie regurgitation. Four or five is verrrry sexy and six to seven is VERY big.

Men only pretend they have a big dick until it comes to anal sex. Then suddenly it's "not that big!"

 

[LMWM321]

Thank you! I make this point frequently, including on here. But far too many (most?) guys seem too stubborn to do what you suggest: Go to the best available science, the data.

Here is a solid chart: https://www.penissizedebate.com/images/doc/penis_size_preference_chart1.gif

Also, it would be great if we could all stop exaggerating our size. Does anyone think someone who actually sees their penis is going to be fooled?

Fuck, we're embarrassing.

That size chart is comically bogus and is often referenced by shady companies promoting some bullshit penile enlargement contraption or supplements. I mean, c'mon... 11" of length and 7.5" of girth is supposed to be "Enjoyable"? That's pretty close to being fisted. Seriously, that data is made up and is absolutely ridiculous. And just because it resembles a chart doesn't make it scientific.

The most credible studies on penis size preference show that women's preference is in line with average size (5.6", or whatever). Likewise, the most commonly purchased dildo size is "average." - at least when purchased by women. This does not mean women don't care about size, but it does suggest they prefer average to outliers.

As I've said countless times in countless threads.. I have a huge penis (length is 8 1/8"; girth is 6 1/4" the entire length) and it has NEVER BEEN ANY KIND OF AN ADVANTAGE when having sex. All forms of penetrative sex (oral, vaginal, anal) are rendered uncomforable by my girth, and even when PIV happens, it's far less fun for me and my partner because at least 2" - 3" of me is still outside of my partner when my head hits her cervix - which is unpleasant for both of us! I've even had single night hookups say, "Oh jeez, sorry but it's just a handjob for you - you're so big it's going to be uncomfortable for me." Yeah... not great.

It is interesting that so many men fantasize about having a dick that makes sex painful for women. Hmm... wonder why.

 

[LisaMayTurner]

Men only pretend they have a big dick until it comes to anal sex. Then suddenly it's "not that big!"

I've had that offer made many times! Sooo funny. You hit it!