I know you too well to share my kinks.

[hotwords229_A]

My thoughts on CFNM are very much like yours. Humiliation and degradation are not for me. Another aspect I have no interest in is cuckoldry. I am not and have never been a cuck. My experience with CFNM has been in a loving, nurturing environment. A real love born of trust and understanding. With that woman, I am hers and she knows it. She is gentle and loving and ready to take me/us to places that the two of us will enjoy and share. I consider it something like gentle femdom.

Yes. For me, I like the embarrassment edge to it, but not humiliation. There is a fine line between fun teasing and encouragement and just being mean/humiliating.

Maybe it’s not a fine line, but it’s hard to explain that the sexy teasing is more than welcome and a huge part of it.

 

[Wildfly11]

I did not start posting right away but lurked around for quite awhile reading threads and stories but when I did start posting I shared a little to much detail. It got to the point that I thought someone I knew would be able to identify me based on all the info I shared so I went back and edited most of my older posts. I shared a lot of what I thought was too kinky..real desires, fantasies, fetishes, turnons that I had not shared with my partner as it is not a safe environment. Now I clearly realize that I am not as kinky as many others on this site but it was moving out of my comfort zone at the time. I tend not to share as much in posts anymore but rather save the good stuff for private chats.

 

[Pad_Foot]

What I have share openly here has certainly reduced many possible friendships. I know this having had some turn away when such things were shared in pm’s

But? I can’t argue about the reasons for some pulling back. One must honor others’ limits.

 

[Erosfan]

Yes. For me, I like the embarrassment edge to it, but not humiliation. There is a fine line between fun teasing and encouragement and just being mean/humiliating.

Maybe it’s not a fine line, but it’s hard to explain that the sexy teasing is more than welcome and a huge part of it.

A little embarrassment is certainly appealing. Her knowing just how far I am willing to go, and then pushing a little more. Therein lies the fun. Teasing me and encouraging me to push the limits, gets me every time. Seeing that sly grin on her face when she knows I will do whatever she wants. Me knowing that I am safe with her.

 

[Endless_Night]

Did you have your current predominate sexual kink your whole life, or did it develop over time?
It's always been there.

Did Literotica play a part in developing your kink?
No. But it did provide a platform for me to gain an understanding of my desires. Prior to Lit I genuinely thought I was damaged.

When you visit threads on Lit based on your kink, are you horrified at the other people in the thread, or are they the people you’ve been looking for?
My kink is submission based, but it's not single focus in nature. Most of the submissive threads are very focused as to particular outlook and culture. There are aspects to appreciate in all, but I am most definitely an outlier.

Do you have a kink that is so specific that you just can’t seem to find the right place to interact with others who feel the same way?
Yes, but less about it being specific than genre crossing. My submission weaves together aspects of Dd/lg and consensual noncon. On top of which, I tend to bolt from interaction at the drop of a hat.

Not the most usual combination. Most conversations I have end up with people trying to fix me. *sigh*

Did writing or reading stories on Lit scratch your proverbial kink itch?
Yes. To both. Or, at least they did in the past. I haven't visited either option in some time.

What kink would you like to see get more nuanced attention?
Not that comes to mind.

I have found the breeding and associated conversation interesting. It's not a kink I've put much thought into.

 

[Mei5ter]

No. But it did provide a platform for me to gain an understanding of my desires. Prior to Lit I genuinely thought I was damaged.

I'm sorry you felt that way. I'm glad you no longer do.

Those feelings come from both sides of the line. If you're thinking "Why do I want this done to me?", then I can assure you others are thinking "Why do I want to do this to my person?"

Someone once said that if you can think about quantum physics without getting a headache, you haven't understood it (or something to that effect). I think if you're exploring BDSM without it feeling weird and disturbing, that's a sign you're damaged, and probably some flavour of word ending _path.

There's a balance. Lit is a place where you can safely post this:

My submission weaves together aspects of Dd/lg and consensual noncon.

...which I'm guessing is something you wouldn't share with your offline friends. And Lit is Lit, and this is a kink thread, so you can do that here knowing there won't be a massive online dry heave of collective revulsion that anyone could possibly want that done to her. But there's a difference between accepting and normalising, and that's where I sometimes think Lit can be dangerous. Kinks are kinks. They aren't normal, by definition, and they probably shouldn't be.

 

[hotwords229_A]

The games we play . . .

Many of us started out with Truth or Dare, Strip Games, Naked Twister (or regular Twister, for that matter ), Seven Minutes in Heaven, etc.

But as we “mature” we stop playing these games. Why?

Do you still engage in sexual games (the fun kind)?
What sexual games would you still play if your partner was into it?
What was your best sexy game experience when you were definitely 18 or older?
Do you feel less interested in seeing your friends, neighbors, strangers naked, now that you’re a “mature adult” with bills, mortgages, etc. or do you think about inviting the lawn service guys, or UPS girl in for a round of strip poker?
Are you the type of person that still enjoys swinging on a swing, going down a slide, racing to the next tree, or is that in your past?
Will you take part in Naked Bingo when you’re in the Old Folks Home?
Have you ever invented a fun sex game that we should know about?

 

[CuriousCat89]

Kinks are kinks. They aren't normal, by definition, and they probably shouldn't be.

Except most people have them. Isn’t that normal?

 

[Endless_Night]

Someone once said that if you can think about quantum physics without getting a headache, you haven't understood it (or something to that effect). I think if you're exploring BDSM without it feeling weird and disturbing, that's a sign you're damaged, and probably some flavour of word ending _path.

Particularly the further down the kink scale you slide. Few thinking people are egocentric enough not to wonder at having desires society views as potentially criminal. It's probably natural to look for reasons.

...which I'm guessing is something you wouldn't share with your offline friends.

Oops. I forgot predator/prey, which may account for the bolting to some extent.

I've discussed it offline with two people. One of those, is accepting, but has no understanding. The other, a long time friend, accepts, but the blank expression on her face prevented me from saying more than: I'm sexually submissive.

And Lit is Lit, and this is a kink thread, so you can do that here knowing there won't be a massive online dry heave of collective revulsion that anyone could possibly want that done to her. But there's a difference between accepting and normalising, and that's where I sometimes think Lit can be dangerous. Kinks are kinks. They aren't normal, by definition, and they probably shouldn't be.

This is tricky. The normalization Lit brings can be dangerous. Too comfortable can lead to being lulled into a sense of safety talking about your interests offline. People are, and always will be, dangerous.

However, am also of the mind that individuals should be able to express themselves openly, without the risk of being ostracized. Or worse. So often what is seen as "normal" is nothing of the sort. More . . . a bending to fit in to previously established norms, which leads to a fair amount of grief and suffering. And I'm not just talking about sex.

People are different. They should be allowed to be different.

Yes, I realize that is wildly idealistic.

So unusual for me.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

The games we play . . .

Many of us started out with Truth or Dare, Strip Games, Naked Twister (or regular Twister, for that matter ), Seven Minutes in Heaven, etc.

But as we “mature” we stop playing these games. Why?

1. I've actually never participated in any naughty/sex-based games. My "games" involved going to adult/sex clubs or being invited to someone's private dungeon.

Do you still engage in sexual games (the fun kind)?

2. Not really; teasing is the only "game" I want to play when I'm in the mood.

What sexual games would you still play if your partner was into it?

3. I can't say that any of them interest me.

What was your best sexy game experience when you were definitely 18 or older?

4. Not applicable.

Do you feel less interested in seeing your friends, neighbors, strangers naked, now that you’re a “mature adult” with bills, mortgages, etc. or do you think about inviting the lawn service guys, or UPS girl in for a round of strip poker?

5. Most of my friends I've met through BDSM I've already seen naked multiple times, in various scenarios. Being an "adult" or paying bills doesn't really have any influence on whether or not I want to see or imagine someone naked. I've seen so many naked bodies that I think I'm becoming a bit desensitized to them, tbh. I'd really have to be attracted to someone to actively want to see what they look like underneath their clothes.

Are you the type of person that still enjoys swinging on a swing, going down a slide, racing to the next tree, or is that in your past?

6. I just had a foot race with my nephews last week LOL

Will you take part in Naked Bingo when you’re in the Old Folks Home?

7. No, I will still be old and naked in my own home.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I've seen so many naked bodies that I think I'm becoming a bit desensitized to them, tbh.

This is something I wonder about nudists. Do they see someone and think “they’d look so hot in a nice tight sweater”.

 

[Endless_Night]

The games we play . . .

I mean, honestly, most of these aren't relatable for me. I've never played any of the sexy games. They don't seem interesting. Maybe if they tied into my kinks somehow.

These, I can answer:

Do you feel less interested in seeing your friends, neighbors, strangers naked, now that you’re a “mature adult” with bills, mortgages, etc. or do you think about inviting the lawn service guys, or UPS girl in for a round of strip poker?
Less interested? I have never been interested.

Are you the type of person that still enjoys swinging on a swing, going down a slide, racing to the next tree, or is that in your past?
Oh, I still do a fair amount of running around.

Will you take part in Naked Bingo when you’re in the Old Folks Home?
Nope. I fear this may interfere with our plans to go to an old folks' home together.

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

The games we play . . .

Many of us started out with Truth or Dare, Strip Games, Naked Twister (or regular Twister, for that matter ), Seven Minutes in Heaven, etc.

But as we “mature” we stop playing these games. Why?

Life! You get busy with school, jobs, kids, relationships change.

Do you still engage in sexual games (the fun kind)?

My husband and I used to play strip poker with a few couples. BUT, we never went fully nude. Topless and panties for the women and underwear for the guys was the limit.

What sexual games would you still play if your partner was into it?

If we had friends like we used to (before we had kids), possibly strip poker. I can be competitive!

What was your best sexy game experience when you were definitely 18 or older?

See above.

Do you feel less interested in seeing your friends, neighbors, strangers naked, now that you’re a “mature adult” with bills, mortgages, etc. or do you think about inviting the lawn service guys, or UPS girl in for a round of strip poker?

I prefer and almost need to feel a strong physical attraction AND mental connection to WANT to see someone new naked.

Are you the type of person that still enjoys swinging on a swing, going down a slide, racing to the next tree, or is that in your past?

N/A

Will you take part in Naked Bingo when you’re in the Old Folks Home?

Absolutely and even more likely if I start losing my mind! lol

Have you ever invented a fun sex game that we should know about?

Nope.

 

[hotwords229_A]

Topless and panties for the women and underwear for the guys was the limit.

This hardly seems fair. I’m all for it, but . . .

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

This hardly seems fair. I’m all for it, but . . .

It was OUR fun and WE liked it that way! Lol Wow time flies! lol

 

[Wildfly11]

It was OUR fun and WE liked it that way! Lol Wow time flies! lol

Kept things from going to far??

 

[LatinaCarmen1980]

Kept things from going to far??

Pretty much. We were young and alcohol was involved. Last thing any of us wanted was an oopsie or ruin our friendship.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

This is something I wonder about nudists. Do they see someone and think “they’d look so hot in a nice tight sweater”.

I'd imagine the enjoyment ultimately comes from them personally being nude. Other people being nude is a by-product, I suppose. I would think, to them, they almost become like window dressing.

I've been to nude beaches before; after awhile, the shock of it is gone and you really do just get used to seeing bodies as bodies.

 

[Wildfly11]

Pretty much. We were young and alcohol was involved. Last thing any of us wanted was an oopsie or ruin our friendship.

That's some smart drunk people to put limits on lol

 

[Apisto42]

I'd imagine the enjoyment ultimately comes from them personally being nude. Other people being nude is a by-product, I suppose. I would think, to them, they almost become like window dressing.

I've been to nude beaches before; after awhile, the shock of it is gone and you really do just get used to seeing bodies as bodies.

Kinda like working at a strip club. Nudity becomes normal.

I like women in clothes.

 

[munch2much]

I like women in clothes

Let’s not get silly.

 

[ladventures]

Yes. For me, I like the embarrassment edge to it, but not humiliation. There is a fine line between fun teasing and encouragement and just being mean/humiliating.

Maybe it’s not a fine line, but it’s hard to explain that the sexy teasing is more than welcome and a huge part of it.

I totally see the nuance. I also dislike the humiliation and degradation. But I enjoy the CFNM (or any partially clothed sex stories or visuals) with playful embarrassment that can be fun. For me, the embarrassment/teasing is nostalgic.

I remember some early encounters, where both I and the young woman were inexperienced and a little nervous. We ended up partially clothed or one of us more clothed than the other a lot because we had to fool around whenever we had time and a little bit of privacy.

Now, my wife and I almost always have sex in our bed or in a hotel. We have time to get undressed.

But sometimes I miss the quick blowjobs in the dorm when a college roommate was out, or a handjob in the car dropping a woman off at her parents’ house. Some of the CFNM stories and visuals I enjoy remind me of those days.

 

[Erosfan]

I totally see the nuance. I also dislike the humiliation and degradation. But I enjoy the CFNM (or any partially clothed sex stories or visuals) with playful embarrassment that can be fun. For me, the embarrassment/teasing is nostalgic.

I remember some early encounters, where both I and the young woman were inexperienced and a little nervous. We ended up partially clothed or one of us more clothed than the other a lot because we had to fool around whenever we had time and a little bit of privacy.

Now, my wife and I almost always have sex in our bed or in a hotel. We have time to get undressed.

But sometimes I miss the quick blowjobs in the dorm when a college roommate was out, or a handjob in the car dropping a woman off at her parents’ house. Some of the CFNM stories and visuals I enjoy remind me of those days.

I too, like the fun side of CFNM. It just seems to feel so natural.

 

[Apisto42]

Let’s not get silly.

I know right? But in general, I prefer people with clothes on unless we’re actually having sex. Nudist beaches and such are NOT sexy to me. A tease is always better (at least at first) with online relationships as well for me.

 

[munch2much]

I know right? But in general, I prefer people with clothes on unless we’re actually having sex. Nudist beaches and such are NOT sexy to me. A tease is always better (at least at first) with online relationships as well for me.

Well actually I do agree tbh.
I was just after a cheap laugh. I should probably give up that though, based on my success rate so far