LadyLascivious1
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If it is something that matters to me and I decide I want to do it, I can be unwavering. Some of those include when I decided to workout every day (for years), cut a toxic family member out of my life, lose a lot of weight, change careers, and rearrange my life to parent two teenagers in adverse conditions. Those are all separate things
I am about the things that I’m passionate about, but I don’t feel a need to change other people’s opinions. I’m happy to have a conversation with another respectful adult who genuinely wants to get a different perspective though - and vice versa. If it’s something that I am not willing to deal with, I just stop engaging. I enjoy banter, but not arguing.
I don’t have any tolerance for hateful or discriminatory behavior though. I’m usually very even keeled, but that’s one of the few things that will make me snap at someone. There are times when I think I could handle things more diplomatically in those instances, but I have a hard time holding any patience or kindness for that behavior. I’ve called out relatives or acquaintances on their words and it’s usually very direct and sharp real time and then will mellow to a conversation. I’ve also told relatives their behavior isn’t welcome in my house and they have a choice to make. No regrets there even if I escalated an uncomfortable situation.
I’m usually very flexible. My sense of right and wrong and values don’t change drastically, but I’m always learning and evolving. I appreciate people who are thoughtfully direct and help me grow.
At work I’m logical and practical, but very opened minded. I changed my mind this morning on a project I was largely convinced wouldn’t be a good fit, but someone presented a strong case. So we’re likely to proceed and experiment with it.
In my personal life, I’m flexible on many things and stubborn about a few. I’ve learned to protect my time and mental space and have zero FOMO. So trying to convince me to do something when I’ve decided I don’t want to is really a pointless endeavor. Most of the time though? I’m up for anything and very laid back. I’ve traveled places where I don’t make plans until the flight or after arriving. Or other times happily agreed to plans that have no details just to change numerous times along the way. I’m comfortable with change in general and can roll with it. I’m also good at verbalizing if one small thing matters to me and the rest I can be flexible about.
I’m with @morelikeasong though, spite is not a driver for me at all. I certainly enjoy it if someone underestimated me and are proven wrong, but those types of negative setups are things I have to work to mentally ignore, not fuel.
) the little puddle of sugar syrup water at the bottom after it pools there making you crunch through a few inches of plain ice to reach. It teaches you a lesson I tell ya.
