❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

 

[hotwords229_A]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

Getting over my total disdain for emojis was a big thing when I came to Lit, but I realized it is a necessity when my words can have a different meaning if read the wrong way.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

I’m having a hard time thinking of one.
If we go back to when I first became active on the chats boards…well I’ve changed a lot. But I don’t know that I’d call that compromise as much as just growing up.

Being super honest, I don’t think I do compromise much. But not because I think I’m particularly inflexible. More because I know the sorta few things that really matter to me and don’t feel any need to compromise them, here especially where I’m at because I’m looking for something specific for me. And things outside of those things don’t really phase me enough to require compromise. You wanna talk in Gifs or sing song or baby talk, knock yourself out. You wanna love pineapple on pizza or the MCU, be free. I just don’t care enough to argue it.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

I used to have way more red lines about what I would or wouldn't do in PM's, chat, etc. Some of those lines have been moved because of personal compromises. Others because my wife has said, "yeah, go ahead - as long as I don't see it I don't care." I've got me a good one.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

I think in my mind compromise can be a form of forced growth. Not always but sometimes.
- I've compromised on being understood. If people want to understand me, they can. If they don't or they want to purposely miss the point, that's fine too. What people think of me isn't really my business.
- I've found a happy compromise on how much of myself I give to people. I used to try and really give 100% to everyone who I came in contact with but quickly learned that leads to burn out, people taking advantage, and really losing myself to support others.
- I've compromised on being private - both keeping my business to myself but being ok with not be as acknowledged as I used to think was a total must for me. People need to keep who they talk to private for all kind of good reasons.
- I think I compromised my standards and boundaries much more when I was new and now I find it much easier to politely, respectfully build a strong boundary wall.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Getting over my total disdain for emojis was a big thing when I came to Lit, but I realized it is a necessity when my words can have a different meaning if read the wrong way.

Why (broadly speaking) do men hate emojis so much?! Lol

 

[hotwords229_A]

Why (broadly speaking) do men hate emojis so much?! Lol

For starters, we all know that the and the were designed specifically to not be going in the same direction in order to prevent us from using them properly.

It feels like an attack.

 

[velona]

Why (broadly speaking) do men hate emojis so much?! Lol

Men generally hate emojis?!? Is this true?

Honestly I had no idea, I really like using them to indicate tone or for emphasis

 

[Wriggle]

Why (broadly speaking) do men hate emojis so much?! Lol

Due to my brain not being able to read subtext in written messages, and someone who uses a lot of sarcasm that could be misconstrued, I have welcomed emojis into my world with open eyes - but even still, I don't understand what some are supposed to mean and I'm sure I used them wrong all the time.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Men generally hate emojis?!? Is this true?

Honestly I had no idea, I really like using them to indicate tone or for emphasis

I may be speaking from a lot of personal experience. I think Lit men are more likely to use them but I've always heard guys grumble about them. On a largely text based website, they add much needed tone.
It reminds me of when I taught children's drama classes and we would always have the kids draw the face they thought they were supposed to be making before their lines so they could put the right emotions into things. One sentence can be read so many different ways. A little emoji helps guide the brain a little I think.

 

[deft]

It can be a nuisance when they subconsciously wheedle their way into a conversation, though.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

I think in my mind compromise can be a form of forced growth. Not always but sometimes.

I'd agree, but would emphasize "sometimes". In my mind, it's at least as if not more common that it's maintaining a comfortable social environment at a cost, typically of desires/goals or opportunities taken. Is that growth? Again, sometimes, but it can also be stasis or regression.

- snippity -
- I think I compromised my standards and boundaries much more when I was new and now I find it much easier to politely, respectfully build a strong boundary wall.

I'd like to point out that last is an example of growth in spite of compromise IMO.

 

[UsuallyPresent]

Why (broadly speaking) do men hate emojis so much?! Lol

I don't hate emoji, but I am not fond of them being used as a language-substitute as too many different groups interpret them differently, and this site/group isn't the only one using them. Keeping it all straight in my head is... difficult. That being said, I'm not particularly good at picking up languages...

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I'd like to point out that last is an example of growth in spite of compromise IMO.

I don't disagree now but fresh meat PLP made much more of an effort to engage, be patient, tolerate, and never count anyone out. When it started to happen, it felt like a compromise on optimism.
Now I know it's just a compromise on naivete.

 

[Paul_Chance]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

I can't think of anything significant that I learned on Lit regarding compromise. I came to Lit years ago from an active online presence in other sites and forums, so my expectations and "lines" were pretty well established. One area of compromise that I have honed on Lit is the constant juggling of time zones.

You meet someone, you connect, and as you develop you have to take into account the time zone differences. That is definitely a game of compromise. but itd not Lit specific or unique.

 

[Neanderthal247]

07.23.25

What's one thing you've had to OR learned to compromise on since becoming active on Lit? (Remember compromise isn't always a bad thing.)

On how I react to things I don't like and realizing I don't need to share every opinion I have.