Why do so many want the women pregnant?

[Five_Inch_Heels]

I get so many of those comments.

OK, so I get it, just another fetish for some. Why do so many want their mother, sister, brother, son, wife, daughter, co-worker, neighbor and so on to do this that or whatever.

Pregnant is life changing, no matter how it turns out.


Why can't adults just have fun without consequences?

 

[rteny3245]

Not exactly the same, but I’ve had similar experiences—like getting comments asking, “Why didn’t the male protagonist film them?” It points to a particular domination or exhibitionism fetish that’s often at play. There's a desire to heighten the thrill by layering in things like recording, taboos, or family dynamics—but without the messy aftermath. In those readers' minds, the act is exciting because it brushes up against real-world consequences... which the fantasy then neatly sidesteps or ignores.

I think it’s worth remembering that erotica, like romance novels or Lifetime dramas, often operates as escapism. I was reading recently about how many stories in those genres feature the wealthy or the powerful—people who live in a kind of emotional or financial bubble. Why? Because no one’s tuning in for a steamy story about medical debt, job instability, or worrying about rent. Realism exists, but it's selective. The conflict needs to feel emotionally real to resonate—but the surrounding world can be unreal in just the right ways.

That’s why I don’t mind when readers want certain kinks or setups that are way outside the bounds of everyday life. But at the same time, I understand your frustration—pregnancy isn’t just another “tag.” For a lot of us, it's huge, life-altering. So when someone treats it like it’s just a prop for a kink, it can feel a little off-putting.

In the end, I think the difference lies in whether readers approach erotica as a sandbox for fantasy or as a form of emotional storytelling. Both are valid, but not always compatible.

 

[NotWise]

I get so many of those comments.

OK, so I get it, just another fetish for some. Why do so many want their mother, sister, brother, son, wife, daughter, co-worker, neighbor and so on to do this that or whatever.

Pregnant is life changing, no matter how it turns out.


Why can't adults just have fun without consequences?

I think you pegged it with "it's just another fetish for some." People commenting are sometimes just entertaining their own kink. I try to filter those out.

 

[lovecraft68]

The male ego to claim a woman.

I'm tired of my own gender.

 

[OverconfidentSarcasm]

Honestly? Contrary to the usual misogyny talk, I think this is just the next instance of "upping the stakes".

Look at the I/T crowd. I genuinely believe that one of the main reasons it became this popular over the last fifteen years is the shock value/taboo nature. Put on any "Help me Stepbro, I'm stuck" video on Pornhub, mute it, and what you're left with is basically every "boring" porn video ever made. It's purely the (implied) context that elevates it to something "special".
While all you can get on those video platforms is very obviously fake stepcest, I/T on this site goes beyond that and provides stories of actual incest, making I/T the second-biggest category here.
Now, pregnancy is the logical next step, I guess. Long-term consequences give an even higher taboo-value, so to speak.

 

[Voboy]

I used to get comments like that alllllll the time. Some of the comments were very... extensive.

I paid them no mind. Just another comment. There've been many worse. In all cases, my unspoken reply is the same: "Write your own, then."

 

[ShelbyDawn57]

The male ego to claim a woman.

I'm tired of my own gender.

Me, too. That's why I'm working to change it.

 

[lovecraft68]

Me, too. That's why I'm working to change it.

Best of luck in your quest.

I'll just sit back and be like the two old guys on the Muppet show that heckled everyone.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

Honestly? Contrary to the usual misogyny talk, I think this is just the next instance of "upping the stakes".

Look at the I/T crowd.

Readers want the 25 year old guy to get his 45 year old Mom pregnant.

Come on now. That's partially why I avoided that story line for so long. Bit they don't care who the woman is or what the relationship is as long as she gets knocked up. My female characters are in charge.

Maybe I can understand it in some other cases. Partially the risk factor, is she or isn't she?

 

[pink_silk_glove]

Pregnant is life changing, no matter how it turns out.

Why can't adults just have fun without consequences?

Fetish aside, "fun without consequences" as you put it, makes for bland plot unless you completely isolate your sex from your plot, and integrating sex and plot is a big element in well-written erotica. Fun without consequences is simply daydream fantasy. There is no up and down plot arc. There is just middle starting going straight up and up and up.

Although, you're right. In the lit-verse the majority are like you. Plot? What's that? Just gimme the hot sex fantasy and make sure that you include all my fave kinks the way that I want them. And there is nothing wrong with that (I have to say that or some asshole will throw rotten eggs at me). It's just that for some folks, those kinks actually include pregnancy or at least the risk of. So they are the same as you, just have different kinks.

 

[SimonDoom]

I too am surprised how common this request/kink is.

I only indulged this in one story, and it was in my "mom the hucow" story, which already was so ridiculous that a little mom pregnancy couldn't make it more so.

 

[NotWise]

Impregnation is a kink, and some of the comments here amount to kink-shaming.

I wrote a story based on an impregnation kink, and posted it in Romance. A lot of effort went into showing that the woman was willing and the man was responsible.

Romance readers didn't love the story. The ending was pretty abrupt for a Romance, but it probably wasn't if you're influenced by the impregnation kink. I followed up on some of the readers who favorited or commented positively and found that a lot of them had favorited other stories that (based on titles, mostly) also used the impregnation kink.

 

[Bamagan]

I get so many of those comments.

OK, so I get it, just another fetish for some. Why do so many want their mother, sister, brother, son, wife, daughter, co-worker, neighbor and so on to do this that or whatever.

Pregnant is life changing, no matter how it turns out.


Why can't adults just have fun without consequences?

A hypothesis.
Part of the appeal of pornography is that it is transgressive. For some, any porn feels that way. For others, the boundaries between the experiential and the implausible (or impossible) have to be pushed further. This is probably also why some people consider porn to be addictive, insofar as it can lose its effectiveness with habituation, although that's kind of beside my point.
However we may feel individually about pregnancy, reproduction is something that pretty much all humans have a degree of hard-wiring related to. As you said, it's life-changing, which is also, by nature, transgressive in a sense: one is different on the other side of the divide. Crossing that boundary in a story could be construed as a kind of cognitive orgasm for those seeking ever-more-transgressive content, or at least specific transgressions. After all, no matter what the reader is doing to their genitals during or after reading something here, their brain is acting as their primary sexual organ for written smut. Some readers may need more than just detailed descriptions of sex acts in order to be completely satisfied with a tale.

 

[stickygirl]

Control.

How easy can it be to ruin a person’s life and teach her a lesson for simply being a woman? It’s not different to kids pissing up a wall

 

[Paul_Chance]

I think it\s the Burger King effect due to the commodification of pornography. A significant set of readers want it their way - and they can be vocal. One of the things I always do is some basic statistics. A story can have a thousand views and one comment. So, how much weight should you put on that comment? Statistically, 0.001. Ignore it.

 

[Bazzle]

The fear of firing blanks?

 

[Abbafan]

It probably seems like more people than it is. There are just more vocal about it - possibly.

I think it has a lot more to do with making the story that much more naughty and transgressive than any misogyny. It's not a subgenre I seek out, though I've read plenty of stories that ended with a pregnancy.

I do come across stories that involve a man claiming a woman in some way, and a few of them also involve pregnancies. I can see how you might call it misogyny when it's done that way.

 

[TheRedChamber]

If Lit has taught me anything, it's that everyone has different proclivities and even fetishes which look the same on the surface have a million different variations and underlying causes.

At the nice end of the spectrum, you have the fact that sex with the intent of starting a family is a very different emotional beast from sex just for fun. Pregnancy is no picnic for women, but, as a man, lying in bed at night with your hand resting on the belly of a woman you love who is going to have a child you know you are going to love is a pretty amazing feeling. I'm lucky enough to have both lived and written about this.

Then you have the cuckolding/cuckoo stuff - ranging from the interracial child obviously isn't the husband's, to only the husband and wife knows the child isn't his, to the poor shlub husband doesn't know the child isn't his. Another angle of this is when the husband can't get the job done and another guy is brought in.

Then you have the Ghengis Khan fantasies of near infinite fertility, or the last man on Earth stories where he gets to pick from the entire female population who he is going to bless with his child tonight.

There are also pregnancy scares. Not having birth control shows that the woman isn't sleeping around (assuming that's a desired trait), then having sex despite not being prepared shows how hot the situation has become. What about the men coming prepared? Wha about condoms, you may ask? Nothing sexier than starting with one on and then the sex being so good that she wants it off and damn the consequences.

In the real world, climbing Mount Everest is a challenge. In fiction it's as easy as writing "He climbed Mount Everest." So it is with pregnancy, labour and child-raising.

 

[MrHereWriting]

I get so many of those comments.

OK, so I get it, just another fetish for some. Why do so many want their mother, sister, brother, son, wife, daughter, co-worker, neighbor and so on to do this that or whatever.

Because it's fiction, an illicit fantasy meant to excite the people who fantasize about it.

Do you have an uncommon fetish, or just a fetish in general? If you do, then you know why people like it because it's the same rationale that makes you enjoy your fantasies.

Pregnant is life changing, no matter how it turns out.

It's fiction. It's fantasy. Everything changes for the better in the fantasizer's mind.

Why can't adults just have fun without consequences?

It's not a consequence to those who get off on it.


It makes no sense to use reality to desexualize fantasy. If you want to discuss the 'deeper' meaning behind a kink-fetish-fantasy, then that's a different story, but being exasperated with other people's desires is a waste of time.

 

[Comshaw]

The male ego to claim a woman.

I'm tired of my own gender.

Na dude, you've just had too much exposure to the despicable ones. A site like this collects such people like a dog does fleas. There are a whole lot of good men and boys out there, but they just don't get the recognition they deserve. Why? Because they aren't the loud ones. They do good stuff without a "look at me!" to accompany it. Everybody sees the bad boys, but few notice the good ones doing what they ought to. Family men doing family things, teaching their daughters and sons how to navigate life.

Don't get me wrong, the good ones aren't perfect. They try and sometimes fail to live up to their own standards. But instead of making excuses they get up, take responsibility and go on. Yeah, I've seen both in my life, the good ones and the others that are a waste of oxygen. It's like the saying, "you can't see the forest for the trees". Sometimes you can't see the good ones for the assholes.

My son is a police detective. Doing that he sees nasty fuckers all day long. After a while it begins to color a persons view, and it feels like the entire world is populated with nothing but those nasty ass holes he deals with. It isn't true, but it feels that way. And many times, perception is reality, until you walk away from that insular little part of the world you've been wrapped in and see the rest.

That's 'nuff pontificating on my part.
Comshaw

 

[pink_silk_glove]

How easy can it be to ruin a person’s life and teach her a lesson for simply being a woman? It’s not different to kids pissing up a wall

For some, yes absolutely, but for others conceiving a child is just the most intimate thing that you can do with another person, even if you are not 'in love' with them, and how is intimacy not hot?

 

[stickygirl]

For some, yes absolutely, but for others conceiving a child is just the most intimate thing that you can do with another person, even if you are not 'in love' with them, and how is intimacy not hot?

I’m not sure there’s any members of mumsnet at lit and trying to provide balance by saying that we’re discussing the intimacy of conception is not something that I’ve read or seen discussed so it’s a straw man point on a sex site.
The OP was asking about the fetish not chaffed nipples

 

[pink_silk_glove]

I’m not sure there’s any members of mumsnet at lit and trying to provide balance by saying that we’re discussing the intimacy of conception is not something that I’ve read or seen discussed so it’s a straw man point on a sex site.
The OP was asking about the fetish not chaffed nipples

Pregnancy can't be sexy on a sex site. Pfft.

News Flash: Your personal ons and offs are not the same as everyone else's. Deal with it.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Depending on the reader/writer, it is one or more of the following:

1. Pregnancy as the end game of a healthy sexual relationship/fantasy
2. Pregnancy as a fetish in itself, tied perhaps to the idea of fertility
3. A struggle to separate what can be fantastic and what is realistic (likely due to an innate guilt about having consequence free fantasy in the first place.
4. Another unearned sense of achievement that hits the dopamine just right (look ma! I need everyone!)
5. A twisted, juvenile sense of humour

And I get the distaste some people may have for it. It's a messy, unpredictable thing, and not always the fairy tale that you see in movies. But ultimately it's down to the person and their taste. I personally am a 5, but I can see why someone might fetishize pregnancy because of their reasons.

TL;DR: such is life.

 

[calmlikeabomb]

Readers want the 25 year old guy to get his 45 year old Mom pregnant.

Come on now. That's partially why I avoided that story line for so long. Bit they don't care who the woman is or what the relationship is as long as she gets knocked up. My female characters are in charge.

Maybe I can understand it in some other cases. Partially the risk factor, is she or isn't she?

Alright, how would you feel about the issue if the woman was in charge and at no risk?

For instance, imagine a shlocky b grade thriller where the nubile young second wife entraps the scorned son of her old husband. Her rich old husband is on his last legs and she needs to produce a child so that she can make her claim on his estate. The old guy has already disinherited his son from the first wife, but unless she produces an heir, the money goes to some stupid charity.

Now, the plot is... Barebones, let's say. But within this, the main character has agency, motivation and a clear end game. The world around her is fictional and stylized, a world where everything was black and white and cigarettes were a harmless vice. There is no conceivable way it could be real, and it's not meant to be real. It's meant to be fun.

This is an extreme example, but it addresses agency and risk. without any judgement, would you still have issues with something like this?