❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[morelikeasong]

06.18.25

Changing Hearts and Minds

Have you ever changed your mind about someone? I’m most interested in the positive turn - did you have a negative opinion about someone that slowly warmed up? Did you find out new information about them, did someone give you bad intel, or was it a case of a bad first impression? Or did someone completely ruin their good rep with you? What happened? How easy is it for you to change your opinion of someone? What about Lit specifically?

I have a pretty decent intuition about people. Rarely have I ever had a bad feeling about someone and then warmed up to them. In fact, I can’t think of a single instance. I listen to the opinions of others and will sometimes be wary based on that, but I generally like to form my own opinions. If I have formed a solidly positive opinion of someone, I’m likely to forgive deficits here and there.

Sometimes I’ll decide I like someone well enough but don’t want to get close to them because of certain elements of their personality or things they’ve done I’ve disagreed with, but I still enjoy them when they’re around.

Sometimes I have a neutral or somewhat wary opinion of someone and then they do something that puts them squarely on my IDFWU list. That has happened a decent amount on Lit. After the whole smokingfap photo saving thing went down, my opinions of a handful of people I previously interacted with completely tanked. I’m not going to go out of my way to start problems with them. But… IDFWU.

Only a few times in my life have I ever had a high opinion of someone and they went on to show me that they were not the person I thought they were at all.

Have you ever changed someone’s mind or something big or small? Sell the brilliance of your favorite movie, change their political stance, or open their eyes to something? Has someone ever changed your mind on a subject? How flexible are your thoughts and opinion to change?

I love to argue. I prefer to call them spirited discussions. But, whatever you want to call it, I enjoy it. Disagreeing about things. Stating my case, hearing yours. I’m usually open to having my mind change (unless it’s a firm moral stance). I am skeptical and will often ask someone to show me some evidence of what they’re claiming if I don’t agree—but, if I ask you to prove it, I’m open to being wrong.

 

[MindYaBitness]

06.18.25

Changing Hearts and Minds

Have you ever changed your mind about someone? I’m most interested in the positive turn - did you have a negative opinion about someone that slowly warmed up? Did you find out new information about them, did someone give you bad intel, or was it a case of a bad first impression? Or did someone completely ruin their good rep with you? What happened? How easy is it for you to change your opinion of someone? What about Lit specifically?

In real life, rarely has my negative opinion of someone changed without something truly dramatic happened that altered their behaviors/actions that created the negative opinion in the first place. An extreme example would be my brother who just celebrated 10 years clean & sober. He is a horrible, mean & nasty human being when using. But, clean & sober, he scratched tooth & nail to get his life back together, and drug free he is a successful, fun, and funny friend.

On lit I can think of one guy I blocked because though we'd never had a conversation, he got in his head that I was some sort of "mean girl". He was tagging me in threads and making weird jabs. Eventually I realized that he's just a bit awkward, perhaps a bit tickled by the 'tism, and it really just him trying to be seek connection. I let it go, because at the end of the day I hope people offer me the same grace.

Have you ever changed someone’s mind or something big or small? Sell the brilliance of your favorite movie, change their political stance, or open their eyes to something? Has someone ever changed your mind on a subject? How flexible are your thoughts and opinion to change?

I'm not the sort to even attempt to change anyone's mind, especially these days where micro-casting has created such division, and everyone has a PhD in google-my-favorite-site-that-agrees-with-me. However, I do love rich conversation. I'm not easily triggered by people who live, think, vote, or believe differently than I do. But, I do love learning what life experiences brought them to where they are. I choosecto approach life with the attitude that everyone I meet has something positive to teach me... sometimes that positive thing is reaffirming that I'm really, really good at boundaries.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

In real life, rarely has my negative opinion of someone changed without something truly dramatic happened that altered their behaviors/actions that created the negative opinion in the first place. An extreme example would be my brother who just celebrated 10 years clean & sober. He is a horrible, mean & nasty human being when using. But, clean & sober, he scratched tooth & nail to get his life back together, and drug free he is a successful, fun, and funny friend.

On lit I can think of one guy I blocked because though we'd never had a conversation, he got in his head that I was some sort of "mean girl". He was tagging me in threads and making weird jabs. Eventually I realized that he's just a bit awkward, perhaps a bit tickled by the 'tism, and it really just him trying to be seek connection. I let it go, because at the end of the day I hope people offer me the same grace.


I'm not the sort to even attempt to change anyone's mind, especially these days where micro-casting has created such division, and everyone has a PhD in google-my-favorite-site-that-agrees-with-me. However, I do love rich conversation. I'm not easily triggered by people who live, think, vote, or believe differently than I do. But, I do love learning what life experiences brought them to where they are. I choosecto approach life with the attitude that everyone I meet has something positive to teach me... sometimes that positive thing is reaffirming that I'm really, really good at boundaries.

Tbf, you’re very mean.

Wait, no, I meant instigator. You’re an instigator. NVM.

 

[MindYaBitness]

Tbf, you’re very mean.

Wait, no, I meant instigator. You’re an instigator. NVM.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.24.25

Sexual Appetites

Create a menu of your sexual cravings and tastes.
Most creative wins!

 

[Whiskeyjack]

06.24.25

Sexual Appetites

Create a menu of your sexual cravings and tastes.
Most creative wins!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

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Welp.... I guess everyone else can play for runner up!

 

[EvaLane]

06.24.25

Sexual Appetites

Create a menu of your sexual cravings and tastes.
Most creative wins!

It’s a sandwhich shop (that I would go to)

 

[Whiskeyjack]

It’s a sandwhich shop (that I would go to)
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I want to eat here.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

It’s a sandwhich shop (that I would go to)
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Ooooooh!!! Yummy!

We have stiff competition!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.24.25

Sexual Appetites

Create a menu of your sexual cravings and tastes.
Most creative wins!

Ok the bar was set way too high but .... I did my best!

 

[EvaLane]

Ok the bar was set way too high but .... I did my best!

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I want the rump!!!!

 

[dkak001]

Yeah, I can't even compete with these!

 

[Whiskeyjack]

It’s a sandwhich shop (that I would go to)
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Uh-oh... I was going to ask which one of us won. But I think we broke her thread.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Uh-oh... I was going to ask which one of us won. But I think we broke her thread.

Ahh I think it's a dead even tie
@Whiskeyjack for setting the bar impossibly high
and
@EvaLane for giving us menu pics to drool over!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.29.25

(Submitted - all my planned questions will go over like a lead balloon atm so if you have a suggestion, let me know!)

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower? Are strong willed? Stubborn? Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

 

[Apisto42]

06.29.25

(Submitted - all my planned questions will go over like a lead balloon atm so if you have a suggestion, let me know!)

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower?

Shutting the fuck up even though I’m right.

Are strong willed?

Sure. I’ve also been called an obdurate, annoying, stubborn asshole.

Stubborn?

See above

Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

I’m very flexible. Unless it’s something that I want to do for me and then I’d just like everyone else to let me be.

 

[cocokittysurprise]

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower?

Becoming a dancer during a time when there weren't many that looked like me. Dealing with the insular nature of the ballet world can be daunting, and I've had friends who gave up on their dance careers because of the noxious attitudes of those in that circle.

Are strong willed? Stubborn? Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

I am very strong-willed. I am flexible when I need to be, but I am not easily swayed by other people's opinions or manipulation; I believe this has served me well, both professionally (I work in a male-dominated field) and in personal relationships.

 

[Paul_Chance]

06.29.25

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower? Are strong willed? Stubborn? Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

I am flexible and open to other people’s will. Sometimes other people have better ideas than I do, in which case opposing them would be stupid. Sometimes their ideas are as good as mine, so stepping aside and letting them achieve their desire and just going along for the ride is awesome.

Sometimes, when someone is wrong, I just check what’s at stake and then go along with them, so I’ll be there to help when their idea goes to shit. I don’t confuse will with ego.

I can be very strong willed and stubborn, especially if it matters or if the consequences of failure are high (significant loss, injury). The way I express my will is compassion and gentle persuasion.

Probably the single greatest act of will power was recovering from a near debilitating physical injury which took several years of physical therapy and accompanying psychological therapy.

 

[Whiskeyjack]

06.29.25

(Submitted - all my planned questions will go over like a lead balloon atm so if you have a suggestion, let me know!)

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower? Are strong willed? Stubborn? Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

I have zero willpower. I am susceptible to the slightest suggestion. My biggest act of willpower was I once saw a commercial for pizza bagels and waited 10 whole minutes to make pizza bagels.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

06.29.25

(Submitted - all my planned questions will go over like a lead balloon atm so if you have a suggestion, let me know!)

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower? Are strong willed? Stubborn? Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

I'm finding this question difficult because I'm very stubborn but I don't have a ton of Willpower. When it comes to people, I usually do whatever will make someone else happy. But I think I'm growing and doing a lot of deep introspection on that because of school (everyone's tired of hearing about school already yes?). My biggest acts of willpower that comes to mind is learning just to keep my mouth shut (there are zero situations in which my mouth has made things better) and pushing through hard times and overwhelming feelings without wanting to fully run away (a lesson forced on me this April and one I'm proud Iearned).

I do thing creatively (whatever I mean by my brand of creativity) I am extremely stubborn and applying that feeling to personal expectations and boundaries has been most rewarding.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I’ve also been called an obdurate . . .

Anyone who uses a word like that to insult you doesn’t deserve and emotional response.
Whenever you have to stop mid-argument to look up a word to see if it’s an insult, the power of it is totally lost!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Anyone who uses a word like that to insult you doesn’t deserve and emotional response.
Whenever you have to stop mid-argument to look up a word to see if it’s an insult, the power of it is totally lost!

Nah when I need to pull out a dictionary that's a total panty dropper.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

06.29.25

(Submitted - all my planned questions will go over like a lead balloon atm so if you have a suggestion, let me know!)

What's been one of your biggest acts of willpower? Are strong willed? Stubborn? Or are you more flexible? Open to others wills?

I don’t know about will power.

I’m very…confident…in who I am, what I believe to be right and what I believe to be wrong.

If I have a disagreement about something factual or objective I used to be more argumentative before Google in our pocket. Now I’ll usually just check and see if I’m right and if not I’ll correct myself. If I am I’ll usually move on. I don’t really care if they know what’s right as long as I do.

I don’t tend to argue matters of aesthetic taste anymore. It’s really boring. And I’m open to being influenced but only if we’ve sort of established our tastes generally align already. In that framework I can be guided. But I’m not doing a 180 on the MCU for example.

Where I am very stubborn I right and wrong.i can be guided and influenced in how I see or interpret a particular action. But if the best possible light still paints it as wrong to me, there’s no way you’re gonna convince me it’s okay. Now, not all rights carry the same weight, there’s lots of things people do that I find distasteful and wrong but not gonna do anything about it. But I think y’all have seen I don’t give up some bones very easily