Did anything make you cry today?

[cheekygirl75]

Yes, reading the obituary of a Lit friend who passed away and knowing it was entirely my fault that we’d lost touch.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Yes, reading the obituary of a Lit friend who passed away and knowing it was entirely my fault that we’d lost touch.

That is heartbreaking. I’m sorry

 

[Azing_21]

Oof, yup. Woke up crying a bit after I had a dream about hearing my late uncles voice. Tough not being about to just call him to say hello.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Oof, yup. Woke up crying a bit after I had a dream about hearing my late uncles voice. Tough not being about to just call him to say hello.

That does sound quite rough. I’m sorry that happened

 

[birdy]

Goodbyes and farewells.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Goodbyes and farewells.

They can do that

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

yes, out of both loss and anger. Just because I wouldn't be able to make the funeral, does not mean you don't tell me of the loss at the time.

This resignates with me...
So my grandpa passed away in June 2018... I was close to him, helped him with things like his new electronics, lots of visits, talks etc...

He was 90 and had memory loss, so my uncle placed him in a memory loss home in May 2018....
I was going to visit him there, but never got the chance.
He passed away, and my aunt and uncle were there at his time of passing...
I got the call... THE NEXT DAY that he died...
I have been angry and resentful since. Who does that to close family??

 

[cactusjack0584]

This resignates with me...
So my grandpa passed away in June 2018... I was close to him, helped him with things like his new electronics, lots of visits, talks etc...

He was 90 and had memory loss, so my uncle placed him in a memory loss home in May 2018....
I was going to visit him there, but never got the chance.
He passed away, and my aunt and uncle were there at his time of passing...
I got the call... THE NEXT DAY that he died...
I have been angry and resentful since. Who does that to close family??

It wasn’t your fault, it’s not like you intentionally didn’t visit. But I am sorry that you experienced that.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

This resignates with me...
So my grandpa passed away in June 2018... I was close to him, helped him with things like his new electronics, lots of visits, talks etc...

He was 90 and had memory loss, so my uncle placed him in a memory loss home in May 2018....
I was going to visit him there, but never got the chance.
He passed away, and my aunt and uncle were there at his time of passing...
I got the call... THE NEXT DAY that he died...
I have been angry and resentful since. Who does that to close family??

I found out 6 months after their passing. We weren't that close any longer, but, we would still toss each other a message around birthdays or certain holidays. I sent a message for their birthday, and got a call saying they had passed and they didn't want to bother me because they knew I wouldn't be able to attend the funeral.

 

[PFWilly]

Nope.

My cancer has accelerated, and returned for a fourth time.

Crying in my beer, just ruins the beer.

As with previous editions, I’ll just deal with it best I can.

Perhaps by having wee dram of Single Malt.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Nope.

My cancer has accelerated, and returned for a fourth time.

Crying in my beer, just ruins the beer.

As with previous editions, I’ll just deal with it best I can.

Perhaps by having wee dram of Single Malt.

Well I’m sorry to hear about your health issues. But there is nothing wrong with crying, if you need to you should. I also respect if you’ve already done enough of it before. Regardless

 

[B_mossy24]

I'm about to. My daughter (8) is having a tough time socially at school and getting bullied by a really mean and destructive kid. Talked to some of the other parents about it, one mom volunteers in their class regularly and apparently this kid makes my daughter cry every single day. Daughter hasn't mentioned this but it makes my heart ache.

 

[jays78]

I'm about to. My daughter (8) is having a tough time socially at school and getting bullied by a really mean and destructive kid. Talked to some of the other parents about it, one mom volunteers in their class regularly and apparently this kid makes my daughter cry every single day. Daughter hasn't mentioned this but it makes my heart ache.

That sucks. My oldest went throught that a bit at the same age. Hope this gets sorted out quickly for your daughter and you. Hugs.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

Too many things. I need to just stop.

 

[Jw75766]

I'm about to. My daughter (8) is having a tough time socially at school and getting bullied by a really mean and destructive kid. Talked to some of the other parents about it, one mom volunteers in their class regularly and apparently this kid makes my daughter cry every single day. Daughter hasn't mentioned this but it makes my heart ache.

I'd address this soon. I've read too many heartbreaking stories of young people going to drastic measures to stop the bullying. It's the schools responsibility to ensure children's safety and well being. Hold their feet to the fire. In my school days, I was always picked on, bullied. I dealt with it, buried the pain inside. It made me hate people, fueled my introvertedness. I learned to live in my head where I could be happy, I still battle with those struggles and sometimes insecurities. Those early encounters shape your life, shape who you are. Please, for your daughters sake, confront the school, not in anger or in a threatening manner, at least not unless nothing is done. Forgive me if I am sounding offensive or presumptive. It's truly not my intention. It kills me to see or hear about children getting bullied. It's still a very personal thing that gets me very worked up.

 

[Chillygirl]

I didn’t quite cry but I got teary and angry. A very close friend might have cancer again. She’s been through so much already.

 

[PMarky2]

Got very frustrated with my wife's complete lack of understanding about my past traumas.

 

[Jw75766]

This thread is going to make me cry and I almost never cry. My heart aches for so many in this thread.

 

[cactusjack0584]

I'm about to. My daughter (8) is having a tough time socially at school and getting bullied by a really mean and destructive kid. Talked to some of the other parents about it, one mom volunteers in their class regularly and apparently this kid makes my daughter cry every single day. Daughter hasn't mentioned this but it makes my heart ache.

That is horrible. I’m so sorry for you and your daughter. My heart also goes out and aches for her.

Too many things. I need to just stop.

I get it

I didn’t quite cry but I got teary and angry. A very close friend might have cancer again. She’s been through so much already.

Oh that is such sad news. I’m sorry

Got very frustrated with my wife's complete lack of understanding about my past traumas.

This thread is going to make me cry and I almost never cry. My heart aches for so many in this thread.

Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

Take care of yourself with this, it can get to be way too much... but it's a great thread you've started and that you answer everyone is wonderful. I like not having to worry about bringing the What are you Thinking thread or others down with sad things.

 

[Jw75766]

That is horrible. I’m so sorry for you and your daughter. My heart also goes out and aches for her.

I get it

Oh that is such sad news. I’m sorry



Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

I'm sure it helps some just being able to reach out and get comfort. Sometimes it's the little things that make a significant difference.

 

[B_mossy24]

I'd address this soon. I've read too many heartbreaking stories of young people going to drastic measures to stop the bullying. It's the schools responsibility to ensure children's safety and well being. Hold their feet to the fire. In my school days, I was always picked on, bullied. I dealt with it, buried the pain inside. It made me hate people, fueled my introvertedness. I learned to live in my head where I could be happy, I still battle with those struggles and sometimes insecurities. Those early encounters shape your life, shape who you are. Please, for your daughters sake, confront the school, not in anger or in a threatening manner, at least not unless nothing is done. Forgive me if I am sounding offensive or presumptive. It's truly not my intention. It kills me to see or hear about children getting bullied. It's still a very personal thing that gets me very worked up.

You're not sounding threatening or presumptuous at all, I've talked to the teacher multiple times about it and will definitely reach out again about it. They don't sit near each other in class because of the way he treats her, and he bullies a lot of other kids, too. My daughter and her friends have tried keeping their distance but it's tough in a small community, ya know? Her bestie already switched to a private school because of this kid. How much can the school really do, they can't control him

 

[Jw75766]

You're not sounding threatening or presumptuous at all, I've talked to the teacher multiple times about it and will definitely reach out again about it. They don't sit near each other in class because of the way he treats her, and he bullies a lot of other kids, too. My daughter and her friends have tried keeping their distance but it's tough in a small community, ya know? Her bestie already switched to a private school because of this kid. How much can the school really do, they can't control him

The mad face is about the feeling of hopelessness, not at you.

My wife worked as a 1 on 1 aide. She suggested going to the teacher, if that doesn't work, then principal, superintendent, then the school board. Get more parents involved, write a letter, get signatures from other parents whose children are also affected by this bullying. Bring it to the school boards attention, give them a copy of the letter with the signatures. Board meetings are legal meetings and keep a record of events. The board could become liable if a situation is presented to them and they do nothing.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Take care of yourself with this, it can get to be way too much... but it's a great thread you've started and that you answer everyone is wonderful. I like not having to worry about bringing the What are you Thinking thread or others down with sad things.

I answer as many as I can. And when I started it I was rather down myself. I still have times it ebbs and flows just like everyone else. I want this to be a safe place for anyone that needs it. And post whatever and whenever you need to, it doesn’t me bring me down or this thread at all.

I'm sure it helps some just being able to reach out and get comfort. Sometimes it's the little things that make a significant difference.

That’s the idea of this whole thread.

And in case others don’t know or didn’t read the first post. My PMs are always open if someone really needs to talk to even just vent.

 

[Jw75766]

I answer as many as I can. And when I started it I was rather down myself. I still have times it ebbs and flows just like everyone else. I want this to be a safe place for anyone that needs it. And post whatever and whenever you need to, it doesn’t me bring me down or this thread at all.

That’s the idea of this whole thread.

And in case others don’t know or didn’t read the first post. My PMs are always open if someone really needs to talk to even just vent.

You're good people, sir.