Did anything make you cry today?

[cactusjack0584]

I'm about to. My daughter (8) is having a tough time socially at school and getting bullied by a really mean and destructive kid. Talked to some of the other parents about it, one mom volunteers in their class regularly and apparently this kid makes my daughter cry every single day. Daughter hasn't mentioned this but it makes my heart ache.

That is horrible. I’m so sorry for you and your daughter. My heart also goes out and aches for her.

Too many things. I need to just stop.

I get it

I didn’t quite cry but I got teary and angry. A very close friend might have cancer again. She’s been through so much already.

Oh that is such sad news. I’m sorry

Got very frustrated with my wife's complete lack of understanding about my past traumas.

This thread is going to make me cry and I almost never cry. My heart aches for so many in this thread.

Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

Take care of yourself with this, it can get to be way too much... but it's a great thread you've started and that you answer everyone is wonderful. I like not having to worry about bringing the What are you Thinking thread or others down with sad things.

 

[Jw75766]

That is horrible. I’m so sorry for you and your daughter. My heart also goes out and aches for her.

I get it

Oh that is such sad news. I’m sorry



Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

I'm sure it helps some just being able to reach out and get comfort. Sometimes it's the little things that make a significant difference.

 

[B_mossy24]

I'd address this soon. I've read too many heartbreaking stories of young people going to drastic measures to stop the bullying. It's the schools responsibility to ensure children's safety and well being. Hold their feet to the fire. In my school days, I was always picked on, bullied. I dealt with it, buried the pain inside. It made me hate people, fueled my introvertedness. I learned to live in my head where I could be happy, I still battle with those struggles and sometimes insecurities. Those early encounters shape your life, shape who you are. Please, for your daughters sake, confront the school, not in anger or in a threatening manner, at least not unless nothing is done. Forgive me if I am sounding offensive or presumptive. It's truly not my intention. It kills me to see or hear about children getting bullied. It's still a very personal thing that gets me very worked up.

You're not sounding threatening or presumptuous at all, I've talked to the teacher multiple times about it and will definitely reach out again about it. They don't sit near each other in class because of the way he treats her, and he bullies a lot of other kids, too. My daughter and her friends have tried keeping their distance but it's tough in a small community, ya know? Her bestie already switched to a private school because of this kid. How much can the school really do, they can't control him

 

[Jw75766]

You're not sounding threatening or presumptuous at all, I've talked to the teacher multiple times about it and will definitely reach out again about it. They don't sit near each other in class because of the way he treats her, and he bullies a lot of other kids, too. My daughter and her friends have tried keeping their distance but it's tough in a small community, ya know? Her bestie already switched to a private school because of this kid. How much can the school really do, they can't control him

The mad face is about the feeling of hopelessness, not at you.

My wife worked as a 1 on 1 aide. She suggested going to the teacher, if that doesn't work, then principal, superintendent, then the school board. Get more parents involved, write a letter, get signatures from other parents whose children are also affected by this bullying. Bring it to the school boards attention, give them a copy of the letter with the signatures. Board meetings are legal meetings and keep a record of events. The board could become liable if a situation is presented to them and they do nothing.

 

[cactusjack0584]

Take care of yourself with this, it can get to be way too much... but it's a great thread you've started and that you answer everyone is wonderful. I like not having to worry about bringing the What are you Thinking thread or others down with sad things.

I answer as many as I can. And when I started it I was rather down myself. I still have times it ebbs and flows just like everyone else. I want this to be a safe place for anyone that needs it. And post whatever and whenever you need to, it doesn’t me bring me down or this thread at all.

I'm sure it helps some just being able to reach out and get comfort. Sometimes it's the little things that make a significant difference.

That’s the idea of this whole thread.

And in case others don’t know or didn’t read the first post. My PMs are always open if someone really needs to talk to even just vent.

 

[Jw75766]

I answer as many as I can. And when I started it I was rather down myself. I still have times it ebbs and flows just like everyone else. I want this to be a safe place for anyone that needs it. And post whatever and whenever you need to, it doesn’t me bring me down or this thread at all.

That’s the idea of this whole thread.

And in case others don’t know or didn’t read the first post. My PMs are always open if someone really needs to talk to even just vent.

You're good people, sir.

 

[cactusjack0584]

You're good people, sir.

Thank you I appreciate it. And I just do what I hope others would do for me.

 

[B_mossy24]

The mad face is about the feeling of hopelessness, not at you.

My wife worked as a 1 on 1 aide. She suggested going to the teacher, if that doesn't work, then principal, superintendent, then the school board. Get more parents involved, write a letter, get signatures from other parents whose children are also affected by this bullying. Bring it to the school boards attention, give them a copy of the letter with the signatures. Board meetings are legal meetings and keep a record of events. The board could become liable if a situation is presented to them and they do nothing.

Oooooo thank you, tell your wife I appreciate her advice, as well! Also I'm sorry that this resonates so strongly with you, too... It's so tough

 

[B_mossy24]

That is horrible. I’m so sorry for you and your daughter. My heart also goes out and aches for her.

I get it

Oh that is such sad news. I’m sorry



Imagine being the guy who started and reads every single one…
But seriously it is good to get these things out sometimes. Even if it’s similar to screaming (or crying) into the void. I hope that some at least know I’m listening. And try and comfort as best I can from afar.

You're an amazing human truly. Nothing but respect and adoration coming from me.

 

[Love_Is_Blonde]

@B_mossy24 I work in schools too— I’m wondering about the school counselor or the behavior management specialist in your district/county? If this child has this long of a history, they should have a behavior intervention plan somewhere in the system and if not, there needs to be one started. So sorry this has happened.

 

[Fillingthevoid]

My daughter graduates high school Friday. I was going to give her her moms ( who passed last year) favorite earrings and necklace but couldn’t find them which had going through all of her things which sucked so bad

 

[Shady_nz]

I didn’t quite cry but I got teary and angry. A very close friend might have cancer again. She’s been through so much already.

 

[B_mossy24]

@B_mossy24 I work in schools too— I’m wondering about the school counselor or the behavior management specialist in your district/county? If this child has this long of a history, they should have a behavior intervention plan somewhere in the system and if not, there needs to be one started. So sorry this has happened.

I'm not sure if they're allowed to tell me this but I would assume so I'm gonna reach out to the counselor and teacher later and also request that they not be in each other's class next year

 

[cactusjack0584]

My daughter graduates high school Friday. I was going to give her her moms ( who passed last year) favorite earrings and necklace but couldn’t find them which had going through all of her things which sucked so bad

That is hard. I’m sorry you had to do that but at least it was for a good reason.

 

[ericalauren]

Please tell me that I’m not the only person who has to hold back tears when I see an animal rescue commercial on tv?

 

[Melodi24]

I found out today that my son needs neck and brain surgery. We thought it was a meet and greet appt with maybe further imaging and meds to try first. Nope, surgery and everything else was scheduled right away

 

[cactusjack0584]

Please tell me that I’m not the only person who has to hold back tears when I see an animal rescue commercial on tv?

I do too

I found out today that my son needs neck and brain surgery. We thought it was a meet and greet appt with maybe further imaging and meds to try first. Nope, surgery and everything else was scheduled right away

That is some sad news. But I hope it all works out.

 

[Melodi24]

I do too

That is some sad news. But I hope it all works out.

Thank you

 

[PMarky2]

Same thing as made my smile, curiously,

"A three-year old blonde girl playing carelessly in the sun stopping to look at the man with hair on his face."

I realized when I turned 50 that although I had had a relatively successful career, what I had really wanted was a nice wife, three kids, and a minivan life.

 

[MissMaidenMinx]

The news that sober ex is telling me that he intends on doing the best he can by both of us when it comes to settlement, but drunk ex is telling people I am trying to ruin him.

I am now doing what I can to not spiral

 

[cheekygirl75]

Talking to my therapist - that usually does it!

 

[cactusjack0584]

Same thing as made my smile, curiously,

"A three-year old blonde girl playing carelessly in the sun stopping to look at the man with hair on his face."

I realized when I turned 50 that although I had had a relatively successful career, what I had really wandered was a nice wife, three kids, and a minivan life.

I’m sorry that life hasn’t worked the way you had hoped. But it doesn’t always work out the way any of us hope, unfortunately sometimes, that is just how life is.

The news that sober ex is telling me that he intends on doing the best he can by both of us when it comes to settlement, but drunk ex is telling people I am trying to ruin him.

I am now doing what I can to not spiral

That must be incredibly difficult to deal with. I’m truly sorry you’re in that position.

Talking to my therapist - that usually does it!

When I was in therapy it happened a lot to me too. But hopefully you and your therapist are working through it.

 

[PMarky2]

Held it together well on Thursday. I am not sure how and why, but a lot of the emotional pressure I have been under recently has subsided.

 

[GraiceeGirl]

Just some tears, after surgeon spoke to me about my husband's surgical procedure. Mostly relief and glad that part was over.