❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[morelikeasong]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

How do you handle change?

Not well. It makes me anxious.

Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you?

I think about its approach often before the approach even approaches.

Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable?

Very much. I like the known.

Do you find silver linings in the new? Does it take a transition period?

It depends on what the change is. If it’s truly a negative change in my life, I find it very hard to see silver linings.
If it’s a more neutral change, there is a transition but I’m usually able to pull something positive out of it. Or at least make adjustments to a new normal.

Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

It depends how concrete the changes are. If I know for sure something is going to change and how it will change, it’s easier for me to stay present. But if the change involves a lot of unknowns, I’m likely to dwell in that anxious space often.

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best?

My new glasses

What about things that you wish would stay the same forever?

Most things. But I’ll go with a lighthearted one… my phone operating system and apps. I don’t want to update. Except for the few bugs that I want fixed. Stop changing the interface and moving my functions and taking away buttons and changing the colors and the app icon. All of it.
I don’t update shit until my phone forces me to which is a bad habit but I truly hate the change.

Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often?

Going back to work. If/when/how/to what.
When I left my career to stay home with my kids, I was very burnt out. I’m not sure if I can go back to doing the same work. I’m not sure if I’m marketable to do anything else. And then there’s all the logistics of figuring out two parents working and who will be able to take days off when they are out of school and all that jazz. I still have like 3 more years, but I think about it more than I should.

A change you wish you could make now?

I want to move.
That’s also a big source of stress and something I think about a lot.

Did I mention I don’t like change?

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

I think about its approach often before the approach even approaches.

Twin with me??

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

My new glasses

If you see as good as they look….

 

[morelikeasong]

Twin with me??

 

[RosewoodTulip]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

How do you handle change?

Badly
Change for others is amazing and I love it but change for me is scary.

Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you?

I overthink to the point of inaction usually but unexpected curve balls are actually pretty manageable in a kind "Oh I guess this is happening now, ok" way

Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable?

The biggest change in my life was something I had little real control over so yes I mourn before. But outside of that I do like to be challenged - I just get stuck on the best ways to make changes and push myself.

Do you find silver linings in the new?

We have to really don't we? Can't go back after all.
Like with Lit right now I don't really like what's happening but I'm gonna try and make the best of the new normal however I can.

Does it take a transition period?

I guess that depends. If it's something out of my control then I can adapt easy because what else can you do? But if it's a change I've made then it takes me a good while to relax into it.

Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

Not really sure. I know I retreat a lot when I get overwhelmed but I guess it's the nature of the change.

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best?

Leaving a terrible relationship. It took a few attempts but it was honestly the best thing I ever did.

What about things that you wish would stay the same forever?

Unfortunately I don't think anything ever stays the same. And my anxiety levels mean I'm always waiting for someone or something to pull the rug out from under my feet.

Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often?

Just the usual. Aging. Me, my parents, my child, my dog even. And what the next few years can bring

A change you wish you could make now?

I want to speed run all the things I'm trying to achieve. I'm working on improving my fitness, losing weight, starting therapy, getting some more qualifications.. I don't want to wish my life away but I would like to cheat code through the hard work! But the work is part of the reward really.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

How do you handle change?

I am a very odd mixture of extreme anxiety over change combined with a more stoic understanding that it is inevitable. I can get worked up about the details and the unknowns and the things that can go wrong. But I don’t try to stop the change. But neither do I really plan for the unknowns. Similar to what I said in the bombshell thread, I get anxious but trust I’ll figure it out. Or I won’t. And I’ll die. And really, is that the worst thing? Actually not dying but just screwing it up so badly I end up sick and living in a dumpster…wow my brain…I tell you what.

Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you?

See above

Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable? Do you find silver linings in the new?

Itsa me! Monkey!

Does it take a transition period? Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

Depends on the change but usually…No

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best?

All of them? Not to be glib, but I’m generally pretty happy with who I am and where I am. Could things be better? Yes. But they could be worse and my life ain’t bad.

“I had been right, I was still right, I was always right. I had lived my life one way and I could just as well have lived it another. I had done this and I hadn't done that. I hadn't done this thing but I had done another. And so?”

What about things that you wish would stay the same forever?

My 5th decade on this planet was a pretty good one. And I did often think how good it would be if nothing ever changed. But again I knew that was impossible. Finding the balance between being present and planning for the change was difficult, but I managed it. Until Covid. Fucking covid.

Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often? A change you wish you could make now?

I made my big change last year. I’m done for a bit

 

[AlpineFresco]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

How do you handle change? Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you? Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable? Do you find silver linings in the new? Does it take a transition period? Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best? What about things that you wish would stay the same forever? Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often? A change you wish you could make now?

https://voca.ro/1eBok62AxwkB

It's 8m52s - I fully understand if nobody's got time for that, your life won't be missing anything noteworthy for it either way

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

https://voca.ro/1eBok62AxwkB

It's 8m52s - I fully understand if nobody's got time for that, your life won't be missing anything noteworthy for it either way

Self deprecate much?

Answers of all kinds are welcome.

 

[AlpineFresco]

Self deprecate much?

Answers of all kinds are welcome.

Nope. It just genuinely is a long time to listen and I while I frequently am Solomon-like in my wisdom I don't know this was much more than an exploration of myself.
If you dig that, dig in.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Nope. It just genuinely is a long time to listen and I while I frequently am Solomon-like in my wisdom I don't know this was much more than an exploration of myself.
If you dig that, dig in.

It made me miss the audio thread big time I like hearing people process their thoughts.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

How do you handle change? Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you? Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable? Do you find silver linings in the new? Does it take a transition period? Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best? What about things that you wish would stay the same forever? Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often? A change you wish you could make now?

Old school audio

(Apologies for weird background noise )

 

[cheekygirl75]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

Oh, boy... I have *thoughts* about changes recently! Essay incoming...

How do you handle change?

I think I handle it all right... not great but not as badly as, say, my sister who absolutely would like everything to say the same forever. I can accept change, even if I sometimes regret some of it having to change. I also have ADHD, so I get bored with things staying the same for too long!

Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you?

I'm an anxious person, too, so I always worry about it, but of course there are some that you just can't see coming.

Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable?

Yes, I do. For example, even though I gave it up for a good change (more on that later) and as silly as it might seem, I mourn the loss of an apartment I had. It was my second time living alone and I was going through a lot of changes at the time - I think it was when I first joined Lit, actually, and I was just learning a lot about myself. I needed the change, but I wish I could go back to that apartment and have my own space again (that's probably the part I'm mourning, not the specific apartment, that I'm forced right now to live with family and don't have my own space). But I had a comfortable life when I lived there and if I could have grown a little bit more, I could have had a really good life living there and in the job I was in.

Do you find silver linings in the new?

I think I do. I'm naturally pretty optimistic, so even though I have regrets, I do really try to find the silver lining.

Does it take a transition period?

I think it does, but it's a delayed one for me... it takes me a while to process things, so I've often gone along with changes and new situations without really recognizing how it impacts my life fully.

Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

No, I'm really bad at staying present in general, so when things are uncertain or even if there's a change coming that I know everything about, I'm going to be thinking about all possible outcomes and what I'll be leaving behind.

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best?

Yes, similar to Alpine - I moved to another country. In my case, I went to S. Korea to teach English. I spent a good 6 months debating and researching it and wondering if I was crazy to give up my perfectly fine and stable life to move to the other side of the world. And if I would be able to handle it. But ultimately, it was the absolute best thing I've done in my life. I needed to get away from the comforts of home and push myself into new situations. I gained a lot of confidence from that time in my life.

What about things that you wish would stay the same forever?

After university, most of my friends moved out of state or even out of the country. I wish they all would have stayed here instead. That I would like to stay the same forever. I'm sure there are other things I wish wouldn't have changed, but that's the biggest one that's coming to mind. Other than that, I know things have to change at some point, that's just how life is.

Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often?

Yes, not to be too morbid, but my parents dying. I'm living with them now because they can't live on their own anymore. My mother has a terminal diagnosis, though they haven't really given us any sense of how long it might be. My father has a variety of things, but mostly is cognitively declining every year. It's an ever present worry and thought.

A change you wish you could make now?

I wish I could go back in time and reconnect with someone I just found out passed away recently. It was completely my fault for falling out of touch and I had been thinking of trying to get in touch again for a couple of years, but it turns out he passed away last fall. In terms of future changes that I wish I could make, I also wish I could move out of the country again and especially move somewhere that I have my own space.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Old school audio

(Apologies for weird background noise )

One thing I forgot to mention was the inevitability of change. Whether you like it or not, every single thing in our lives will change. Your body will change, your kids will grow up, you will break up or someone will die, your job role will expand or cease to exist, your house will need repairs, your car will get wrecked or break down, the person who said you'd never be too much will ask for less, youll go bald, the government will turn over in good ways or worse ways, you will look at your friends one day and dislike them suddenly or desire them suddenly, you'll get a new allergy, you'll get cancer or find a cure, you'll go back to school, you'll find religion, you'll adopt a cat, an asteroid will hit earth....

Acknowledging that change is impending BUT choosing to soak up all the special, wonderfulness of now is kind of amazing. I'm trying to spend just 5% less energy considering the future and converting that to enjoying the present for as long or short as it lasts.

 

[morelikeasong]

Whether you like it or not, every single thing in our lives will change. Your body will change, your kids will grow up, you will break up or someone will die, your job role will expand or cease to exist, your house will need repairs, your car will get wrecked or break down, the person who said you'd never be too much will ask for less, youll go bald, the government will turn over in good ways or worse ways, you will look at your friends one day and dislike them suddenly or desire them suddenly, you'll get a new allergy, you'll get cancer or find a cure, you'll go back to school, you'll find religion, you'll adopt a cat, an asteroid will hit earth....

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Someone PM me how to gif!!!!

 

[AlpineFresco]

One thing I forgot to mention was the inevitability of change. Whether you like it or not, every single thing in our lives will change. Your body will change, your kids will grow up, you will break up or someone will die, your job role will expand or cease to exist, your house will need repairs, your car will get wrecked or break down, the person who said you'd never be too much will ask for less, youll go bald, the government will turn over in good ways or worse ways, you will look at your friends one day and dislike them suddenly or desire them suddenly, you'll get a new allergy, you'll get cancer or find a cure, you'll go back to school, you'll find religion, you'll adopt a cat, an asteroid will hit earth....

Acknowledging that change is impending BUT choosing to soak up all the special, wonderfulness of now is kind of amazing. I'm trying to spend just 5% less energy considering the future and converting that to enjoying the present for as long or short as it lasts.

What I get from this, is that sometimes people get cats.
I like cats.

'I meant,' said Ipslore bitterly, 'what is there in this world that truly makes living worthwhile?'
Death thought about it.
'Cats,' he said eventually. 'Cats are nice.'
-Terry Pratchett

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

What I get from this, is that sometimes people get cats.
I like cats.

'I meant,' said Ipslore bitterly, 'what is there in this world that truly makes living worthwhile?'
Death thought about it.
'Cats,' he said eventually. 'Cats are nice.'
-Terry Pratchett

Your reading comprehension astounds me. ️

 

[RosewoodTulip]

https://voca.ro/1eBok62AxwkB

It's 8m52s - I fully understand if nobody's got time for that, your life won't be missing anything noteworthy for it either way

Old school audio

(Apologies for weird background noise )

How dare you both post vocas when the schools are off and I have no time to listen?
I'll try to remember to check these again next week

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

How dare you both post vocas when the schools are off and I have no time to listen?
I'll try to remember to check these again next week

Well I'll say one of these will be well worth your time.

I'll be mindful of that though moving forward. I love audio but I know everyone can't work with it easily.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

What I get from this, is that sometimes people get cats.
I like cats.

'I meant,' said Ipslore bitterly, 'what is there in this world that truly makes living worthwhile?'
Death thought about it.
'Cats,' he said eventually. 'Cats are nice.'
-Terry Pratchett

A very wise man Sir Terry was

 

[RosewoodTulip]

Well I'll say one of these will be well worth your time.

I'll be mindful of that though moving forward. I love audio but I know everyone can't work with it easily.

Oh I'm only pretend grumbling. Usually I find time during the day but I have absolutely none this week

 

[dkak001]

So, I've had this open in a browser tab since you posted it. Maybe it says a lot, that I couldn't bring myself to answer...

05.22.25

1. Other people would use to describe you

Smart, caring. Sisu (that might be hard to translate...)

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

???

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Asshole, stubborn, slow.

4. You are not but you wish you were

Musical, Healthy, Open-minded.

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Over-thinker, Hyper-sexual, stubborn.

 

[dkak001]

How do you handle change?

Change to improve things is fine. Change just for the sake of change pisses me off. (Like, why does my phone need to update apps and change how they operate!)

Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you?

Again, depends on the change. Kids growing up and moving out is natural. My truck getting an update and my phone not working in it!

Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable?

Oh fuck yes! Why, oh why, can't I do things efficiently like I used to be able to?

Do you find silver linings in the new?

Usually not. Sometimes, but rare in comparison to "new and improved" changes that wreak havoc on my life.

Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

No.

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best?

One or two.

Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often?

Yes. Something coming up soon may be causing me to give up on a dream I've spent most of my life working towards. I get nauseous thinking about it. I'm hoping there is a path to avoid that, but in my heart I doubt it's possible.

A change you wish you could make now?

Yes. Too difficult to list.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

05.26.25

With all the recent online changes, let’s talk change in general -

How do you handle change? Do you think about its approach or does it often seem to sneak up on you? Do you mourn the loss of the comfortable? Do you find silver linings in the new? Does it take a transition period? Are you able to stay present easily when changes are on the horizon?

Change has been a Constant in my life, even when I was little, my Mother's job had me going all over the US and living there for at least 3 months at a time. It's what ultimately ended in divorce with my step-father. I made almost no friends because of it. Which also added to my "Know It All" persona growing up since pretty much all I really had to do was spend time learning things.

Even after my Mother's passing, I was thrown in a constant flux of change, which did not endear me to my Father, Step-Mother or my Half-Siblings. I had to learn to adapt ASAP, and, usually, as soon as I did adapt, the rug would get yanked out and I would have to start all over again. Then Adulthood hit, that was a constant flux, moving every few months, working jobs that came and went every few months, most were due to layoffs because of being the "Low Man". A few were because the company went belly up, but, only a couple. It wasn't until my late 30's that things finally slowed down enough that I could begin to see change coming in advance instead of having it slam into me at Mach1. Gave me a chance to prepare. Hindsight being what it is, I can see where I made a number of mistakes in how I dealt with those new changes, mostly in not wanting the change to happen, and taking the easy road, when the harder road would have been the much better decision. Now, I mostly just roll with it. I can rely on past mistakes to help make better decisions, when, that is, I have any input on the changes that are rolling over me. Since my Divorce, most of the changes that have occured are things that no one could have foretold, let alone been prepared for, nor a lot of the fall out of those events and the decisions that others made, which directly impacted my life, and forced me to make changes that were not in my favor. Still, I have my short time of grief over the change, put my head down and see what kind of change I myself can make to better adapt.

Can you think of changes that you fretted over that ended up for the best? What about things that you wish would stay the same forever? Is there a big change that is impending that you think about often? A change you wish you could make now?

My last divorce, I just wish I had paid more attention to some of the side details, the only thing those would have changed is how the divorce initiated, rather than the shit show it became. As for the impending... waves hand at the current American situation... take your pick. My health limits any kind of chance I could make, so, I am stuck riding this constant roller coaster.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.30.25

I've got a few more serious questions coming up on the docket so let's have a sexy one for the weekend.

Swapping Spit
I think it's fair to say a few of us are pretty orally motivated but what other ways do you like to use your mouth? Are you okay getting messy? Do you like kissing after oral? Tasting yourself after/during sex? Is saliva a turn on - i.e. messy oral, using it for lube, spitting on someone?
Science says what we call physical chemistry can also just be compatible pheromones. Have you ever been turned or/off to the way someone smells or tastes?