❓ PLP Inquires II ❓

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

 

[FormerAllStar2]

That’s true. People do read in the bathroom—something I never understood.

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[hotwords229_A]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

Yes*

If it’s a big and “real” mistake, I learn on the first try. But I also make the same smaller stupid mistakes a lot, causing me to wonder what the hell is wrong with me.

I also try to learn new things, however, and that requires making all kinds of mistakes, because that seems to be the only way I learn.

Passing on advice is like talking to a woodchuck. He can hear that you’re making noise, but to no avail. I still try.

A big mistake I made once was trying to play psychiatrist with a friend. She was telling me some stuff and I probed deeper (not like that, pervs) and suddenly she exploded in tears and starting telling me every horrible thing that ever happened to her. We got through it, but I learned to tread very lightly with someone’s past trauma.

*sometimes

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

Like do I learn that putting regular wall paint on concrete doesn’t work? Yes.

But I think this question is probably more tuned towards interpersonal relationships

I’m a pretty self reflective guy. I have always thought probably too much about what I do and why I do it and what the results were. I think I do learn from my mistakes with people….but….I think the only general lesson that seems trivial but is so hard to actually keep at the forefront is that other people aren’t the bit characters in the play of your life. The specifics of how I may have messed up or hurt individual people are so tied up in the particulars of those relationships that I hesitate to generalize much from them.

Just try and be kind and remember folks are living their own stories.

I’ll tell people that shit all day long.

 

[cheekygirl75]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

I like to think I do eventually. It took me a long time to learn a few lessons when I was younger - I think I’m more observant of how my actions have caused some negative things in my life now. Some things I learn right away, some things take a few times still. I do try to pass on lessons sometimes, but usually think it’s not going to stick until they’ve made the mistake themselves. Unless they’re asking for advice, then they probably won’t be able to shut me up!

I think I learned very young that not everyone is coming from a good or logical place, but it took me a lot longer to learn that sometimes it’s better to operate like they are. It tends to defuse situations or make people confused and then you can get or do what’s needed. (This is especially true at work, I think.)

 

[AlpineFresco]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

Generally? Yes, I think I do learn from my mistakes, but the bigger the mistake the more likely I am to learn. Perhaps I should say, I learn as a result of the consequences of my mistakes. If it’s tiny, honestly I might not learn so much, although I don’t like to admit that. Consequences can be my own feeling of failure or letting myself/others down, I should say - I have a certain amount of pride and that can sting.

Now, warning others… again, bigger the potential incoming fuckup the more likely I am to say something. But, as others have noted, doesn’t mean anyone will listen. Sometimes it’s good to know you tried and then be at peace with being ignored (and not then be the utter asshole who says ‘told you so’ cause we’re none of us 15). It’s a dick move to know you could possibly avert something bad but not try. Then again, you have to pick your moments - nobody likes to be corrected repeatedly so you kind of how to make a judgement call on what you want to point out, sometimes.

I suppose, as is so often the case, the answer is actually a maddening ‘it depends’ followed by lengthier explanation

As for a mistake I’ve learned from? Too many to count, dear darling readers. But, perhaps, you do not know what someone else means for sure and I’ve got into arguments because I assumed some intent and got angry instead of just calming down, taking a breather, then coming back and engaging in a more chill and good faith way.

Good question. I like it when we are encouraged to show some foible or vulnerability.

 

[dkak001]

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes?

I don't make mistakes. At least not big ones. Which in itself is a problem, I think. I analyze things too thoroughly, maybe. But not to the point of paralysis or anything, I still do the things, but just make sure it's the right decision.

And I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Not making mistakes, it might mean not trying things I should have or could have. It's something on my mind, because having spent a half a lifetime working toward some specific goals, and achieving them, I feel them being ripped from my grip. Not by force of others or myself, but circumstance. If I had done things differently, I wouldn't have achieved these goals, having to see them go would not be so painful.

So, maybe that's my mistake. Not making mistakes???

Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves?

I certainly try to guide people. Not by telling them what to do or what not to do, but talking through things with them. Trying to provide perspectives they might not see, so they can understand their decisions, and not regret making them.

Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

Not a lesson from making a mistake, but a lesson about decisions. ALWAYS be decisive. Don't hover at a crossroads indefinitely deciding on if left or right is the 'correct choice'. Make a the choice based on what you know now. If you learn it was a mistake, be decisive! Backtrack and make the other one!

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

05.17.25
Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

I didn't until I got into my 40's when I started going to AA and getting sober. Once I got a good handle on my sobriety, I began to recognize my mistakes more and more, took accountability for those mistakes and worked very hard not to make them again. It still happens, I haven't learned how to walk to Hawaii yet.

As for other people, it is situational. Sometimes I will off advice, especially if not doing so could lead to real harm. Otherwise, I would rather just let them make their own choices.

Not so much lying to get a job, but, not being entirely truthful about my ability to perform the job. Had I listened to my gut about my physical limitations, I wouldn't have needed extra physical therapy and a long fight over Work Comp. I eventually won, there was additional job training I was supposed to get that would have revealed I wasn't up for the job that was skipped by the employer, but, the truth is, I knew I really wasn't up to the job itself.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

I learn from the consequences of a mistake and very rarely on the first go ( stubborn much?). Sometimes the fallout was so profound, hurtful, life-altering etc. that it stuck after the first fuck up. I'm much more likely to learn if someone else experienced pain because of me. I play pretty fast and loose with my own ouches.
I do like to try and pass on wisdom but I'll always ask someone if they want the advice or make sure to say it's just my personal experience. Every person and situation is so different that it's hard to always compare. I also love taking lessons from others. I may not always take the recommendation or advice, but I'm more educated going forward.
I've learned a lot about myself from Lit. One of the very first lessons was to always be authentically me and never try to be what I think someone else wants or to change myself to be something more or something less to please someone else. I don't like being a facade and I prefer people who like weird lil me.

 

[dkak001]

One of the very first lessons was to always be authentically me and never try to be what I think someone else wants or to change myself to be something more or something less to please someone else. I don't like being a facade and I prefer people who like weird lil me.

I think this is huge!

If you try to be what you aren't, you're being disingenuous to yourself and the others involved. That is really a sorry state to go through life. Be yourself, be free, enjoy those who truly enjoy who you are!

 

[morelikeasong]

05.17.25

Learning From Mistakes (nope this definitely isn't about me regretting the whole M word thing)

Do you tend to actually learn lessons from your mistakes? If so, does it happen on the first go or does it take a few mistakes? Do you try to pass on lessons and save others from a mistake or do you just let people make their choices for themselves? Can you tell us a lesson you learned after making the mistake?

I’ve never made a mistake in my life! Just ask @SalaciousMonkey22


I think, interpersonally, I do tend to learn from mistakes on the first go.
When it comes to mistakes like time management and screwing myself over, no, I never learn.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you
2. You wish more people would use to describe you
3. You secretly use to describe yourself
4. You are not but you wish you were
5. You are but you wish you weren't

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

 

[Shymidwestgirl]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Kind, quiet, organized

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Funny, smart, silly

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Persistent, resilient, adventurous

4. You are not but you wish you were

Outgoing, spontaneous, adaptable

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Impatient, judgmental, reserved

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

Great topic and I may use this for a journal entry. Thank you @PrettyLilPussy19!

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Kind, quiet, organized

Funny, smart, silly

Persistent, resilient, adventurous

Outgoing, spontaneous, adaptable

Impatient, judgmental, reserved


Great topic and I may use this for a journal entry. Thank you @PrettyLilPussy19!

Beautiful answers!

 

[AlpineFresco]

1. Other people would use to describe you

Charming, reliable, creative

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Fun, smart, warm

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Patient, organised, stubborn

4. You are not but you wish you were

Decisive, brave, relaxed

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Hesitant, argumentative, envious

 

[Whiskeyjack]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Kind, Lazy, Perverted

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Sexy, Generous, Talented

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Wickedsmaht, Whimsical, Lecherous

4. You are not but you wish you were

Musical, Fit, Memorable

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Fat, Fearful, Tired

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

 

[EvaLane]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Observant, empathic, and inclusive.

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Genuine, capable, and selfless.

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Stagnant, hopeless, and ridiculous.

4. You are not but you wish you were

Secure, unique, and dependable.

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Forgetful, complacent, and indecisive.

 

[SalaciousMonkey22]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Thoughtful. Gentle. Funny.

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

I don’t know. I think the people who’s opinions I care about got it pretty spot on.

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Old. Decrapitated. Coasting.

4. You are not but you wish you were

Decisive. Focused. Disciplined.

5. You are/can be but you wish you weren't

Judgmental. Haughty. Stubborn.

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

 

[hotwords229_A]

1. Other people would use to describe you

Reliable, easy-going, friendly.

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Sexy, shredded (), tanned.

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Dark, lazy, unmotivated.

4. You are not but you wish you were

Educated, patient, calm.

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Average, hesitant, angry. <—I don’t mean for those to sound as bad as they do.

 

[inkandiridiumnibs]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you
2. You wish more people would use to describe you
3. You secretly use to describe yourself
4. You are not but you wish you were
5. You are but you wish you weren't

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

1) Ass Hole Supreme
2) Mellow, Resourceful, Confident
3) Sick, Broken, Defective
4) Strong, Confident, Healthy
5) Broken, lonely, Anonymous

 

[MindYaBitness]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirati9.3ons. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you
2. You wish more people would use to describe you
3. You secretly use to describe yourself
4. You are not but you wish you were
5. You are but you wish you weren't

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

1. Other people would use to describe you
Confident, Competant, Compassionate
2. You wish more people would use to describe you
Gentle, giving, kind
3. You secretly use to describe yourself
Wounded, resilient, persevering
4. You are not but you wish you were
Gentile, Suave, Sophisticated
5. You are but you wish you weren't
Loud, plump, foolish

 

[lindi_85]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

I love this!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Charismatic, kind, cheeky

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Resilient, assertive, brave

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

underwhelming, annoying, inconsistent

4. You are not but you wish you were

Intelligent, Confident, beautiful

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Voluptuous, chaotic, forgetful

 

[QwertyMaster]

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Intelligent, Quiet, Introverted

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Diligent, Kind, Humorous

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Conscientious, Analytical, Perverted

4. You are not but you wish you were

Bold, Charismatic, Sexy

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Anxious, Uptight, Unfocused

 

[Neanderthal247]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you
2. You wish more people would use to describe you
3. You secretly use to describe yourself
4. You are not but you wish you were
5. You are but you wish you weren't

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!

1. Strong, tough and Hulk lol
2. I don't really care what anyone thinks of me, I don't wish to be described as anything. I care only about the important people in my life.
3. I am loud and don't describe myself as anything in private, publicly I call myself the G lol.
4. I don't wish I was anything I am not, I always try to learn and become better, at everything I do. I'm just trying to be the best version of me.
5. I love who I am and wouldn't change anything about myself, only goal is to improve on my weaknesses.

 

[RosewoodTulip]

05.22.25

Descriptions, adjectives, aspirations. Words. They are even more important around here now than when I first wrote the idea for this question down!

Tell me three words that -

1. Other people would use to describe you

Kind, friendly, shy

2. You wish more people would use to describe you

Fun, interesting, hot

3. You secretly use to describe yourself

Awkward, unattractive, boring

4. You are not but you wish you were

Confident, flirty, outgoing

5. You are but you wish you weren't

Introverted, insecure, anxious

Show me those big, sexy beautiful words!