I'm getting hooked on cheating

[MaturemanAJ]

Totally agree with others on this thread it's pretty rare two people have the same sexual appetite and I personally think what throws that off is women tend to do whatever their boyfriend or fiance wants until she is married and whoever said a ring doesn't plug any holes obviously wasn't talking about people that are married to each other.

I am not in the medical field but I am guessing endorphins get released in mass amounts for people that like to cheat.

 

[TonyF862]

I think its the thrill of actually cheating and not getting any consent from the partner. Sex seems more illicit, cheating becomes an exciting word. And committing sexual acts in carparks and motels becomes thrilling.

Is this the voice of experience talking or an acute observation??

 

[TonyF862]

Totally agree with others on this thread it's pretty rare two people have the same sexual appetite and I personally think what throws that off is women tend to do whatever their boyfriend or fiance wants until she is married and whoever said a ring doesn't plug any holes obviously wasn't talking about people that are married to each other.

I am not in the medical field but I am guessing endorphins get released in mass amounts for people that like to cheat.

I give thanks daily that my wife matches my sexual drive, is always down for it, and will even explore with the right couple/guy. Hasn’t always been like this but after 30 years of marriage, we have found our groove and it is MAGNIFICENT!!

 

[tristantrotsky]

My friend is similar. She planned to ease off once she was married - but has been with guys since marrying, some dangerously close to home

'Cheating' is such an archaic term. It's an anachronism.
We all have sexual appetites that need to be satisfied.
They can seldom be met by a single lover, or even by a single gender.

 

[MaturemanAJ]

'Cheating' is such an archaic term. It's an anachronism.
We all have sexual appetites that need to be satisfied.
They can seldom be met by a single lover, or even by a single gender.

Your life's work should be convincing the world of that

 

[tristantrotsky]

Your life's work should be convincing the world of that

It is a responsibility... nay, a duty, that I am prepared to shoulder!

 

[TonyF862]

It is a responsibility... nay, a duty, that I am prepared to shoulder!

The struggle is REAL!!

 

[Foxed]

'Cheating' is such an archaic term. It's an anachronism.
We all have sexual appetites that need to be satisfied.
They can seldom be met by a single lover, or even by a single gender.

Often is the case. She is defo a boundary pusher at home and work. But loves all her exploits

 

[Nellie60]

Is this the voice of experience talking or an acute observation??

Bits of both

 

[tristantrotsky]

Often is the case. She is defo a boundary pusher at home and work. But loves all her exploits

To love what you do shall be the law...

 

[jimmyturtleman]

I'm sure I'll get judged for this but, whatever. For some context, we had done a bit of swinging until he said that he wanted us to stop. I told him I would, but I continued having my own fun. At first, it was just about wanting to continue having fun with others and enjoying new experiences, but in recent months I've really started to get a thrill out of the sneaking around and coming home after being someone else's dirty slut without my husband having a clue. The last thing I want is for me not to be able to enjoy sex for the lack of the thrill of cheating, but it has truly become such an addicting feeling that I've been really pushing the boundaries. Almost like I'm trying to see how far I can take things before I get caught. And maybe it's that danger. That makes it so enticing as well. Don't know if anyone else can relate but it has been an incredibly fun year for me.

We are not here to judge. Have your fun, and enjoy the excitement. Let's just hope your hubby is forgiving for your dalliances. For some reason, I suspect it's the 'cheating factor' that makes the sexy fun more exciting.

 

[ManOfOne]

Lol!! Did you divorce because she was cheating on you!?

No actually we were just headed in different directions, more mutual divorce. But the cheating thing with her was great! We had sex like we never had before when we were together. Role playing and all. Secret meet up’s, sneaking around. Meeting at restaurants and hotels too.

 

[liqueur]

I'm sure I'll get judged for this but, whatever. For some context, we had done a bit of swinging until he said that he wanted us to stop. I told him I would, but I continued having my own fun.

I had a long-term affair with a married woman, so I'm in no place to judge. I think cheating always leads to somebody getting hurt, and all three of us got hurt in our little triangle. I will always be sorry for that, and yet it's very hard to think of the fun we had (and yes, the love) without getting turned on.

like I'm trying to see how far I can take things before I get caught. And maybe it's that danger. That makes it so enticing as well

I think danger is a real turn on for a lot of people. I'm certain it was for her. We had great sex in her house, and at least three different times we had sex when her husband was in another room or otherwise nearby. She had very intense orgasms on those occasions.

 

[Nellie60]

I had a long-term affair with a married woman, so I'm in no place to judge. I think cheating always leads to somebody getting hurt, and all three of us got hurt and our little triangle. I will always be sorry for that, and yet it's very hard to think of the fun we had (and yes, the love) without getting turned on.

I think danger is a real turn on for a lot of people. I'm certain it was for her. We had great sex in her house, and at least three different times we had sex when her husband was in another room or otherwise nearby. She had very intense orgasms on those occasions.

How did it all come to an end?

 

[ilovetoeat42]

We all have needs, those needs change. I've started a few times and would love to again.

 

[magicalmoments]

Before I convinced my wife to start "swinging" I cheated fairly regularly. All of them were one night stand type encounters with people I met through adult contact magazines (pre internet days). There were no long term affairs. I don't think I was addicted to them. I was simply a selfish bastard who liked sticking his dick in women, preferably different women. My wife never found out.

 

[TonyF862]

Before I convinced my wife to start "swinging" I cheated fairly regularly. All of them were one night stand type encounters with people I met through adult contact magazines (pre internet days). There were no long term affairs. I don't think I was addicted to them. I was simply a selfish bastard who liked sticking his dick in women, preferably different women. My wife never found out.

I often wonder how many swingers are former “cheaters”?

 

[liqueur]

How did it all come to an end?

We eventually told her husband, hoping he would be open to a polyamorous situation. But my ideals were not his ideals, and everything blew apart. I'm convinced to this day that in some part of his mind he knew what was going on. But people are capable of incredible cognitive dissonance. To know it “in some part of your mind”— and decide it's fine so long as you “don't know”— and to have it spelled out plainly before you, are two different things.

There's a lot more to the story, but the bottom line is that I went my own way, and they did their best to patch things up. I did write to them once, but never heard back. So I have no idea whether they stayed together in the long run or not.

 

[magicalmoments]

I often wonder how many swingers are former “cheaters”?

Out of the dozens of "swinging couples" I met over the years I only ever met one other couple where their backstory involved the wife being caught cheating and then they became "swingers". Mind you, cheating is not something people admit to readily, even in the "swinging" community. I've met with many married cheaters, men and women, for casual sex who were appalled at the idea of "swinging"

 

[Fufumberuk]

Before I convinced my wife to start "swinging" I cheated fairly regularly. All of them were one night stand type encounters with people I met through adult contact magazines (pre internet days). There were no long term affairs. I don't think I was addicted to them. I was simply a selfish bastard who liked sticking his dick in women, preferably different women. My wife never found out.

I can relate to your story
But my outcome was a divorce

 

[BlackFlame112000]

This whole thread is a

"I'm a misunderstood intellectual philosopher-poet who’s bravely challenging society’s constraints with my genitals"

"I want to sleep with whoever I want, whenever I want, without consequences, accountability, or respect for the people I claim to love"

Smh

 

[Bigboobbabe]

Cheating sex…always better then romantic sex

You are so right. When I was married (age 55) I was cheating with a 32-yr old guy. There was such a thrill between the cheating and our age difference. I cheated a few more times and loved the thrill.

I am single now. And I still love cheating sex. Now it's married men I sleep wit whenever possible. One guy has been taking me for 3 1/2 years. It's not often, but when it happens, it's amazing. It's especially hot when I go to his house and we fuck in the spare bedroom.

There is a married man I need to seduce and convince to cross the line. I know he will be hooked. The excitement of cheating, the thrill of finally realizing his 5 year fantasy. His thrill when he finally feels my tongue on his cock rather than imagine it while we masturbate together over camera.

 

[magicalmoments]

This whole thread is a

"I'm a misunderstood intellectual philosopher-poet who’s bravely challenging society’s constraints with my genitals"

"I want to sleep with whoever I want, whenever I want, without consequences, accountability, or respect for the people I claim to love"

Smh

I like this. The second sentence fits my philosophy. The first sentence is not me. I'm not that deep a thinker. I just like fucking women, a range of different women.

 

[BlackFlame112000]

To each their own..
Each to their own rightful claim...

 

[Norfolkguy49]

You are so right. When I was married (age 55) I was cheating with a 32-yr old guy. There was such a thrill between the cheating and our age difference. I cheated a few more times and loved the thrill.

I am single now. And I still love cheating sex. Now it's married men I sleep wit whenever possible. One guy has been taking me for 3 1/2 years. It's not often, but when it happens, it's amazing. It's especially hot when I go to his house and we fuck in the spare bedroom.

There is a married man I need to seduce and convince to cross the line. I know he will be hooked. The excitement of cheating, the thrill of finally realizing his 5 year fantasy. His thrill when he finally feels my tongue on his cock rather than imagine it while we masturbate together over camera.

I'm in lol