Mature Married Couple: How do I get my wife to try letting me watch her with another guy? Role play this in bed all the time and really makes her wet but won't try it for real (YET). I am 99% sure she has been unfaithful in the past even though she adamantly denies it...so why won't she do this for me. Any ideas why and any ideas how to get her to move on this
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Sure. Let her know honestly and clearly that it’s something that appeals to you.
Then drop it.
Stop trying to manipulate your partner into something she isn’t comfortable doing.
The ‘why’ is because she’s an entire person, not an object or a prop that you can use for your fantasies without regard.
Then drop it.
Stop trying to manipulate your partner into something she isn’t comfortable doing.
The ‘why’ is because she’s an entire person, not an object or a prop that you can use for your fantasies without regard.
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You are asking her to perform in front of you and she’s not into it . You say she’s been screwing others and maybe she’s into that and loves knowing she’s got what others want without you being around . My wife sneaks around and I’ve told her it’s ok but she still after years of her playing around she denies it . I still love knowing she’s enjoying life
Some things to think about. It's about her stupid.
Sharing can be one of the most thrilling sexual events you could possibly experience. Just make sure you discuss it together without coercion. If you coerce her she may do it for you, not the ideal situation. It must be about her!!! She has to be 100% on board with it. If you approach it as an experience to bring her sexual bliss and pleasure and she trust you implicitly, go for it!!!
After it's over, there could be a feeling of regret and guilt. You will absolutely have to reinforce your love for her ( reclaim her ). Let her pick out someone she feels comfortable with. In our case she was ecstatic that the choice we made was a much older guy, my work associate and good friend John who was 30 years our senior.
Make sure you're mature enough to handle it. Watching your wife descend into sexual bliss, passionately kissing and then being penetrated by someone other than you right before your eyes can lead to extremely powerful emotion. Jealousy will ruin the experience!!
If your not prepared for the emotions she will exhibit, it will ruin your marriage. Make sure your counterpart is safe ( DD/F, mentally stable and most of all respectful of boundaries ).
Make sure your ready to rescue her if she exhibits doubt and fear. If she's comfortable than encourage her to completely let go and enjoy. Feel free to show your affection for her as she gets the brains fucked out of her.
Afterward have your counterpart leave you two alone and spend some quality time alone with her. Give her another good fucking unless she's too sore LOL.
If she's lucky she will have selected someone with a large package. In our case that wasn't an issue. If you're sure your counterpart is safe ( which John was ) then let them fuck bareback it adds to the excitement. For me, it blew my mind to know my wife's pussy was full of another mans cum. If done right it will strengthen your marriage. It has to be an event of pure primal hedonistic sex. Have fun and keep everything in house and at home.
I agree and appreciate all your comments. I'm sure I probably push to hard but have wanted this for so long and so badly. exciting to send her pictures to guys and know they are looking at her thinking about her in bed and some stroking...just don't understand if she cheated why she won't try this for me
maybe I should encourage her to try it without me? But then I don't get to be involved...maybe a threesome??
She seemed ok having affairs without regard
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Having an affair is about satisfying her needs, not putting on a performance for you.
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She did that with her own body, yes?
Great idea!! maybe second step would be same room soft swing
Sure ...but if she isn't satisfied in our relationship why not talk about it and decide what she needs
Good point I do think that me wanting to be there is the problem
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Those are separate issues. If you aren’t satisfied with her fidelity, then deal with that.
Nothing entitles you to decide that she should have sex with someone to appease you.
Why would she cheat but not fuck someone for you? Only she can answer that, but I’d guess it’s that she doesn’t trust you and feel safe being open and vulnerable with you.
we have been married 30 + years so she must feel a little safe. But I do appreciate your comments while your don't seem completely open to both sides you make very insightful observations
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You posted here asking how to coerce your wife into performing a sex act that she has said she doesn’t want to perform.
The answer is: you don’t. There are not ‘both sides’ to that.
You don’t trust her, so why would you expect her to trust you?
Enjoy the lit incel parade telling you how to get her to do it, though.
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I’m not bitter, I’m just not taking the time to cushion my comments to ease your feelings.
You asked her to do it.
She said no.
You asked for advice on how to get her to do it, after she said no.
That’s coercion.
It is not bitter to say listen to your wife. Listen to hear her, not to respond to her.
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Well role play and real life totally different realms!
No means no, not sure how many times you have asked her, but maybe have the conversation why she says no.
I enjoy sex but not enough to play around in real life no matter how much we role play it. Not worth the risk of a 25 year marriage.
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What does she say about you sharing her photos?
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I don't want to sound like I"m just repeating Katie,
but the point is, if you tell her what you want and ask how she feels about it, and she says "no," then you don't "get her" to do it. You respect her wishes.
If you want to know why she had an affair, you can ask her if you want to know.
But, there really is no connection between her being attracted to another man and wanting to have sex with him, and her wanting to have sex in front of you. Those are just two different fantasies and forms of sexual expression.
I admit that I have fantasies and desires that my wife does not share.
There have been times when I have expressed those desires in ways that would make her unhappy, that she would consider cheating
But I don't try to get her to do things that make her uncomfortable.
Yeah once she got into the right mood, we were both turned on by the other couple. Touching goes a long way
I am sure it does
I am sure it does. Love to try the same room adventure. Even maybe just have a guy watch us during sex and stroke. Working on getting her to have a massage I line up on vacation where I find an attractive guy and tell him I want her to have a sensual experience so he completely understands my goals. I would have it arranged in our room and tell her to relax and enjoy having another mans hands on her but she wouldn't know about my instructions to him. If she didn't like it he would be told to back off. ?? We role play the massage fantasy in bed and it makes her very wet.Yeah once she got into the right mood, we were both turned on by the other couple. Touching goes a long way
Yeah sounds like a good idea. Maybe let her pick the type of guy. Get her more involved so she knows you’re comfortable too. But incentives into it, it’s an amazing couple experience for sure.
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This is sexual assault. You’re talking about paying a man to sexually assault your wife.
Save the ‘she can tell him to stop if she doesn’t like it’ bullshit. There are a million reasons a woman wouldn’t stop it even if she didn’t want it. Go google ‘Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn’
Any massage therapist who would agree to do this is someone who your wife would not be safe with.
So far you’ve asked for advice on how to coerce your wife into performing sex acts she has already said no to. You’ve admitted to sharing intimate photos and details about her without her consent to strange men over the internet to jerk off to. Now you’re planning to pay someone to sexually assault her.
And when I point out that ‘Hey, your wife is a person with bodily autonomy. Not a prop or object for you to use to get off.’ You say that I must be a bitter harpie. Fuck right off.
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