Cock Talk

I think this question is so difficult because it's framed as one person wanting more, or moving faster, and ends up looking like a yes/no rather than "I want X and you want Y, so we settle on Z." But it needn't be. If you see it as "I want privacy and you want confidence and trust" then...maybe that's easier to find a middle ground?
Thank you. This was a thoughtful answer. Reframing perspective is always a great place to start when it seems you are facing a wall.

I don't know if you've found this, but I've met a few people who want the confidence they feel from a face pic before they'll invest time in building a friendship (as opposed to a Lit relationship of some kind). I get that people want to be sure they're engaging with someone who's basically who they same, but I was surprised that a face pic would matter for that, rather than just...chatting?
I have not had this experience. Of course, it's unusual that I do more than swap the occasional PM. Most of my interactions remain very casual. However, I have noticed that with few exceptions, most people send a picture of themselves very quickly.

All this talk of visuals has brought home to me how differently I do Lit than most.

Not a problem. But - a little surprising, no less. 🤔
 
Are you talking about Lit or non Lit friends? You've never shared porn with your Lit girlfriends?
I don't think so, but to be fair, my favorite kind of porn is the bespoke variety that's made just for me, and I ain't sharing that!
I absolutely have not shard porn with Lit girlfriends.

Wait.

Come to think of it, @aussiegeekygal did share an audio clip once. From which I promptly got side tracked and forgot about. (As I do. 🙄).

I need to go back through my PMs. 😂
 
When I joined Lit, I never thought I would show my face (or any picture of me) to anyone on here. But things change when you get to know and start trusting people. A couple of people know exactly who I am and I don't hide who I am with a few more friends so they could probably pretty easily figure it out. I'm comfortable with it because I know they are people who, even if something happened and they hated me, they wouldn't be out to ruin my life. Mostly cause no one would care that much about me.

A face picture from someone I enjoy on here is always my favorite. I like knowing what people look like and it helps me think of them as real people when I can see what they look like. I do think a face picture on here is much more intimate than a body nude. I've seen a lot more dicks than I have faced and I've sent a lot more boobs than I have my face. I feel weird asking to see someone's face if I'm not comfortable reciprocating so I haven't done it much, but I'm always curious what everyone looks like behind their usernames.
 
I would never share porn with others. That’s a part of one’s essence that seems should stay just with you
I wonder if we are all defining porn the same way.
Some people have mentioned gifs and tumblr as “not porn”. I guess you know it when you see it?

In terms of tumblr, gifs and pics, I’ve shared porn with every single one of you! 🤣
 
Few people are brave enough to actually share the stuff that gets them off and I’m not interested in the fluff. I don’t care if it’s weird, or gross, or tame, I just want it to be genuine.

Maybe it would be better sharing with girls, there wouldn’t be the pressure some men feel to preform and adapt to suit what they think I want.
 
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I know you all value my opinion highly, so here goes. I've consumed enough porn over the last nigh on twenty years to know what I like and don't like. If someone knows my taste I'd love to be exposed to new stuff through friends or acquaintances. If they don't know, I don't care.

If someone had to give me a porn recommendation I would rather it be a woman who explained why she liked it. I don't fully understand women's taste in porn. There have been many a time I've been blindsided by finding out that there are women that like something.

TLDR: I don't want A dude showing me random porn. For all I know it could be gay horse cock porn.
 
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