Cock Talk

[MindYaBitness]

... or if you have nerve damage?

Oh, I found that video I told you about!!!!

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

Oh, I found that video I told you about!!!!

This guy needs to learn about shampoo. It does a fantastic job cleaning hair

 

[MindYaBitness]

This guy needs to learn about shampoo. It does a fantastic job cleaning hair

you dint just wipe your hair down each night with a paper towel?

 

[deefalttwunnyfor]

you dint just wipe your hair down each night with a paper towel?

Call me crazy, but I just don't think that would get the job done

 

[MindYaBitness]

Call me crazy, but I just don't think that would get the job done

https://media3.giphy.com/media/v1.Y2lkPTc5MGI3NjExeDR6aWViYnR0ZWlicmx3aTJjNW53aGJjOGRpNDRsNzdvemgwMDh1cCZlcD12MV9pbnRlcm5hbF9naWZfYnlfaWQmY3Q9Zw/Cfun4zCShcOlO/giphy.gif

 

[hotwords229_A]

I’ve always been sort of turned on by the fact (apparently) lots of guys share and swap porn with each other.

It’s sort of gross.

But it’s also sortaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Do a lot of guys do this?
Do you mean on Lit or in person?
I think it happens more in person—like, “hey, come here, look at this!”, but sending a PM on Lit?

If HW is cool with it then I am

I’m always .

 

[Photog1rl]

We share smutty books, audio porn links, and Tumblr pages. I dint think I've ever shared straight up porn

Are you talking about Lit or non Lit friends? You've never shared porn with your Lit girlfriends?

 

[MindYaBitness]

Are you talking about Lit or non Lit friends? You've never shared porn with your Lit girlfriends?

I don't think so, but to be fair, my favorite kind of porn is the bespoke variety that's made just for me, and I ain't sharing that!

 

[dawn_of_night]

We're talking actual porn clips right....
And not just Tumblr gifs and stuff....

Cause.....
Well.
Reasons.
AFAF....

 

[Photog1rl]

I don't think so, but to be fair, my favorite kind of porn is the bespoke variety that's made just for me, and I ain't sharing that!

I don't consider that porn. I consider that my personal inspiration
And I don't share that either

I don't watch much porn but there is a soft BDSM lesbian clip that is hot AF and I've shared that with friends.

 

[Mei5ter]

This. It seems like an oil and water mix. How do you resolve one person's needs with another's boundaries?

Personally? With time, trust, communication and compromise. All of which you'll need in a friendship or relationship anyway, so no harm in seeing if you've got those bases covered at the start.

I think this question is so difficult because it's framed as one person wanting more, or moving faster, and ends up looking like a yes/no rather than "I want X and you want Y, so we settle on Z." But it needn't be. If you see it as "I want privacy and you want confidence and trust" then...maybe that's easier to find a middle ground?

I don't know if you've found this, but I've met a few people who want the confidence they feel from a face pic before they'll invest time in building a friendship (as opposed to a Lit relationship of some kind). I get that people want to be sure they're engaging with someone who's basically who they say they are, but I was surprised that a face pic would matter for that, rather than just...chatting?

 

[EvaLane]

Do a lot of guys do this?
Do you mean on Lit or in person?
I think it happens more in person—like, “hey, come here, look at this!”, but sending a PM on Lit?

You may be showing your age here boys typically aren’t swapping porn in person anymore.

It is that casual though, a simple “hey, look at this!”. I mean, it can be that casual. Those group chats can also be cess pools not even I could find a shred of arousal in.

Are you talking about Lit or non Lit friends? You've never shared porn with your Lit girlfriends?

I’ve never had a lit girlfriend to share anything with, which I had no idea was so uncommon.

Sort of scary how I’ve been navigating these waters for over a decade with purely male influence. I can’t believe I haven’t turned out worse.

 

[deft]

It is so hot to think of Lit girlfriends sharing porn. Like... ridiculously.

 

[Endless_Night]

I think this question is so difficult because it's framed as one person wanting more, or moving faster, and ends up looking like a yes/no rather than "I want X and you want Y, so we settle on Z." But it needn't be. If you see it as "I want privacy and you want confidence and trust" then...maybe that's easier to find a middle ground?

Thank you. This was a thoughtful answer. Reframing perspective is always a great place to start when it seems you are facing a wall.

I don't know if you've found this, but I've met a few people who want the confidence they feel from a face pic before they'll invest time in building a friendship (as opposed to a Lit relationship of some kind). I get that people want to be sure they're engaging with someone who's basically who they same, but I was surprised that a face pic would matter for that, rather than just...chatting?

I have not had this experience. Of course, it's unusual that I do more than swap the occasional PM. Most of my interactions remain very casual. However, I have noticed that with few exceptions, most people send a picture of themselves very quickly.

All this talk of visuals has brought home to me how differently I do Lit than most.

Not a problem. But - a little surprising, no less.

 

[Endless_Night]

Are you talking about Lit or non Lit friends? You've never shared porn with your Lit girlfriends?

I don't think so, but to be fair, my favorite kind of porn is the bespoke variety that's made just for me, and I ain't sharing that!

I absolutely have not shard porn with Lit girlfriends.

Wait.

Come to think of it, @aussiegeekygal did share an audio clip once. From which I promptly got side tracked and forgot about. (As I do. ).

I need to go back through my PMs.

 

[hotwords229_A]

You may be showing your age here boys typically aren’t swapping porn in person anymore.

This happened, like, a week ago!
It was done as a joke, but still . . .

 

[Endless_Night]

This happened, like, a week ago!
It was done as a joke, but still . . .

 

[OrdinaryPerson]

When I joined Lit, I never thought I would show my face (or any picture of me) to anyone on here. But things change when you get to know and start trusting people. A couple of people know exactly who I am and I don't hide who I am with a few more friends so they could probably pretty easily figure it out. I'm comfortable with it because I know they are people who, even if something happened and they hated me, they wouldn't be out to ruin my life. Mostly cause no one would care that much about me.

A face picture from someone I enjoy on here is always my favorite. I like knowing what people look like and it helps me think of them as real people when I can see what they look like. I do think a face picture on here is much more intimate than a body nude. I've seen a lot more dicks than I have faced and I've sent a lot more boobs than I have my face. I feel weird asking to see someone's face if I'm not comfortable reciprocating so I haven't done it much, but I'm always curious what everyone looks like behind their usernames.

 

[ydahecnot]

I would never share porn with others. That’s a part of one’s essence that seems should stay just with you

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I absolutely have not shard porn with Lit girlfriends.

Wait.

Come to think of it, @aussiegeekygal did share an audio clip once. From which I promptly got side tracked and forgot about. (As I do. ).

I need to go back through my PMs.

That was library porn, too

 

[deft]

That was library porn, too

Your book porn is kinda elite.

 

[Wand3rlust]

I would never share porn with others. That’s a part of one’s essence that seems should stay just with you

You had to bring essence into it.

 

[hotwords229_A]

I would never share porn with others. That’s a part of one’s essence that seems should stay just with you

I wonder if we are all defining porn the same way.
Some people have mentioned gifs and tumblr as “not porn”. I guess you know it when you see it?

In terms of tumblr, gifs and pics, I’ve shared porn with every single one of you!

 

[MindYaBitness]

I don't consider that porn. I consider that my personal inspiration
And I don't share that either

I don't watch much porn but there is a soft BDSM lesbian clip that is hot AF and I've shared that with friends.

I mean, I wouldn't turn down a recommendation

 

[Wand3rlust]

I wonder if we are all defining porn the same way.
Some people have mentioned gifs and tumblr as “not porn”. I guess you know it when you see it?

In terms of tumblr, gifs and pics, I’ve shared porn with every single one of you!

I know. Colour me disgusted.