Kinkier as we get older?

[skitzoid]

As we get older, our sex life grows stale. I'm 73 and she's 64. We had a adequate sex life up to years ago, then it went downhill to a blow job every 3 months or so. I agree that I could of done more but that damn ED sure slowd me down. Now we are almost at a stand still. Playing with another male, unknown to us, is a inviting adventure. My wife doesn't have to be there, and she would not agree. ( she's very straight ) I have gone to a nudist resort alone. In years past we went together, not no more. So, maybe I'm on the hunt, I don't know. Something has to change and it will not be her.

 

[vanishing_girl]

I’m a girl who’s “involved” with my own mom and dad and I’m basically a direct attestation that their interest have expanded as they’ve gotten older.

 

[9to5]

I’m a girl who’s “involved” with my own mom and dad and I’m basically a direct attestation that their interest have expanded as they’ve gotten older.

keeping them feel young I hope

 

[Sol41]

I think its less getting kinkier specifically, and more as tou get older you just learn to accept more and more parts of yourself.

Cause I dont have the energy for repression and denial at this stage of my life lol

 

[JodyLynn]

I was probably just as kinky but with age comes freedom. I know I act out more of my kinks and explore even more. Life gets better the older you get.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I hate aging because of my wrinkles and crows' feet. Or getting fatter. But you become more free and care less about what others think, it's true.

 

[CuriousRick]

I don’t think the only thing that has change is what I am into.

 

[MyHappyPlace]

I like this discussion. I’ve a thought I would perhaps like to add to this and it goes like this…. When I was younger sex was much more available… good sex too and intimate and emotional as well. With some dry periods of course and the usual mismatched relationships. And so forth. Now it’s become much rarer and if I’m honest with myself some of my more wild and kinky fantasies (of which I have enough) are driven by frustration. The less I have on my table the wilder my desires become. Does that make sense to anyone?

It rings very true. I also feel like I get kinkier every day and constantly seem to discover new interests to explore. Partly due to being older, maybe a tad more self-confident in regards to likes and dislikes.
But my intense kink drive definitely stems from me being hungry for love, affection, intimacy and sex, too (sexless marriage in my case)

This is not to discount people getting kinkier who are in „healthier“ relationships, this is just my experience

 

[spawnofdavey]

Personally, I've definitely gotten kinkier as I've got older. I guess I've spoken to more people as time has gone on and had my eyes opened to other things.

 

[merrilylirrem]

Maybe this is why I like older men so much

 

[ShaneoD]

Maybe this is why I like older men so much

Dare I say they like you too

 

[9to5]

I guess its just that we had more time to come up with all sorts of kinky ideas

 

[jonnoback]

Maybe this is why I like older men so much

That and the increased depravity...

 

[HornyExecutive]

I was probably just as kinky but with age comes freedom. I know I act out more of my kinks and explore even more. Life gets better the older you get.

I can associate with this statement, a lot. Age has allowed me more time to learn and lean into what was always underneath the surface.

 

[Will527]

In my first marriage, it was vanilla sex because we were young. After our divorce, I dated some girls who liked trying different things and I learned a lot about kinks. Second marriage turned out perfect sexually, she enjoyed doing things to me and "making" me do things for fun. After she died, I had to resort to finding the right escort who knew how to take care of my needs. As it has been previous said, the older I get, the kinkier I get - I want younger and younger woman and girls and I want to do nastier things.

 

[DinglyDangly]

I was kinkier at a young age, but lacked the experience to approach my partners at the time to delve into any of them. Only with age have I managed to read my partners better to play out some fantasies, enjoying sharing some of them.

 

[Sol41]

In my first marriage, it was vanilla sex because we were young. After our divorce, I dated some girls who liked trying different things and I learned a lot about kinks. Second marriage turned out perfect sexually, she enjoyed doing things to me and "making" me do things for fun. After she died, I had to resort to finding the right escort who knew how to take care of my needs. As it has been previous said, the older I get, the kinkier I get - I want younger and younger woman and girls and I want to do nastier things.

Sorry for your loss, friend.

 

[Oralexplorer]

I was probably just as kinky but with age comes freedom. I know I act out more of my kinks and explore even more. Life gets better the older you get.

you only get one life might as well live it up to its potential

 

[Beacht28409]

i have had experience of men encompassing a wide range of ages in a submissive role. I think older men are possible more focused and experimental. They want to use and experiment with (younger) women and know exactly what they want.
Surprisingly, some quite old gentlemen have a playfully perverted energy.

Personally, I fit into this category. As I “live” I am now open to do things that I would never do when I was younger.

 

[Beacht28409]

Personally, I fit into this category. As I “live” I am now open to do things that I would never do when I was younger.

Life is a lot more fun now.

 

[Talbet]

I think for those of us in our 60's and above, it has to do with the availability of more porn than when we were young.

 

[9to5]

I think for those of us in our 60's and above, it has to do with the availability of more porn than when we were young.

that is so true and so more variety

 

[graysilver]

This is quite true for me in my early 70s. I never dreamt that I would enjoy watching men jack off or even engage in jacking off with other men online. I’m also very comfortable with sexting with women as we jill and jack. I also love prostate massage and prostate orgasm. These more edgy activities would never have crossed my mind two or three decades ago.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I think for those of us in our 60's and above, it has to do with the availability of more porn than when we were young.

Well said, didn't think of that.

 

[Davidwa1]

I think for those of us in our 60's and above, it has to do with the availability of more porn than when we were young.

I agree, and you inevitably see that you aren't the only freak who just likes to watch.