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[Chloe_Harper]

This... damn, wish I was good with words...

Oh thank you

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Was your post about billionaires not saying that you didn't like them because they didn't stop accumulating wealth? Maybe I misunderstood what you were trying to say.

My point was to simply say once humans have something they desire they move the goalposts real quick onto their next quest or desire.

I have a feeling some on lit will never be satisfied for very long for once they achieve a goal it's onto the next one.

There is no right or wrong answer to this provocative question.

 

[TXRafe]

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[Chloe_Harper]

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[Chloe_Harper]

I think I need food. I'm losing track of my on damned opinions, let alone everyone else's!

Eat something yummy

 

[TXRafe]

I'm just trying to understand what he was saying with that in regard to relationships.

oh yeah, i think he is saying the same thing...never being satisfied is a character flaw...imo...find happiness, but ambition for ambitions sake is counter productive and one of the biggest problem the world faces as a global community and always has been, again, imo.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I think one person can be both. I've had this conversation quite a bit recently.

I think it's more like looking for a specific needle in a stack of needles. It will be painful, sometimes seem fruitless. You will find a needle that will seem good enough to get the job done, but is ultimately not the needle you need. So, you go back to the needle sack. It's tedious, tiring, and, at times, seemingly pointless (despite all those little points pricking you).

When you find that needle though, the art that is created happens more naturally, easily, and with an end result that cannot be surpassed.

Cool.

Just realize all those needles you are sorting through to find the "best one" are all within such tight tolerances they are virtually indistinguishable from another.

I would be willing to bet once you found your perfect needle and it got tossed back onto the pile you wouldn't be able to find that needle again even though it was "perfect"

 

[TXRafe]

Cool.

Just realize all those needles you are sorting through to find the "best one" are all within such tight tolerances they are virtually indistinguishable from another.

I would be willing to bet once you found your perfect needle and it got tossed back onto the pile you wouldn't be able to find that needle again even though it was "perfect"

i think finding the "perfect" needle shouldn't be the goal, but when you find it you should appreciate, cherish and nurture it. i think a lot of people get bored or tired or frustrated and allow something small to derail the relationship rather than focusing on quality communication, empathy, and inward reflection.

 

[Fiestykitten]

Good morning @NewStartQueen, I hope you slept well beautiful
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[Hornymwtxn]

i think finding the "perfect" needle shouldn't be the goal, but when you find it you should appreciate, cherish and nurture it. i think a lot of people get bored or tired or frustrated and allow something small to derail the relationship rather than focusing on quality communication, empathy, and inward reflection.

1,000% Rafe very well said!

If our lives were perfect we wouldn't be on lit imo

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Cool.

Just realize all those needles you are sorting through to find the "best one" are all within such tight tolerances they are virtually indistinguishable from another.

I would be willing to bet once you found your perfect needle and it got tossed back onto the pile you wouldn't be able to find that needle again even though it was "perfect"

Who is tossing the needle back in the pile?!

"When you find that needle though, the art that is created happens more naturally, easily, and with an end result that cannot be surpassed."

I can't dream of making the art I mentioned if I toss it back in.

i think finding the "perfect" needle shouldn't be the goal, but when you find it you should appreciate, cherish and nurture it. i think a lot of people get bored or tired or frustrated and allow something small to derail the relationship rather than focusing on quality communication, empathy, and inward reflection.

This. As I said, perfection shouldn't be what we strive for. You are looking for the right needle for the job. Once you find it, it doesn't go back into the pile of needles. It has its own pin cushion, ready to be what you need at any time, treasured in its spot away from all the others.

 

[NewStartQueen]

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Currently contemplating who I want to see in leather

Good work! Excellent gif choice

I hope today is better than yesterday, which fucked me with a spiked dildo (joystick?) and no lube. I hope today at least brings lube, but I'm not too optimistic.

Ouch. Seems like Tuesday was a bitch for lots of people. Mmm your perfume still lingers even after you've gone

 

[AlwaysDancing]

That makes me wonder how many people on Lit are with their absolute ideal mate right now, or ever have been.

I'm betting it's around the 1% mark.

People have often been in their ideal relationship.

A thing isn’t beautiful because it lasts. Maybe that’s the distinction you meant.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

Who is tossing the needle back in the pile?!

"When you find that needle though, the art that is created happens more naturally, easily, and with an end result that cannot be surpassed."

I can't dream of making the art I mentioned if I toss it back in.

Things change my dear. I am not the same man I was nor is my partner.

Health issues, familiarity, boredom, just because you found the perfect needle today does not mean it will remain perfect tomorrow.

I believe you have unrealistic goals and expectations. I truly do hope you achieve them tho.

 

[NewStartQueen]

So Australia doesn't do Meyers-Briggs?

((X)NFP)

Oh my goodness... You just keep bringing up all the good stuff that hits my persnickety button....

The Meyers-Briggs test was created by a mother and daughter that had no psychological training AT ALL. Why did they design it? Because the Mum thought the daughter's husband was an awful fit with the rest of the family, so she designed a test to show that. I concede that some aspects of the test are based on real aspects of psychology. However, research has shown that if you give the test at different times of your life span, or day or even at different hunger levels you will come out with a different outcome. There is more consistency in BuzzFeed click bait quizzes and horoscopes

Thank you for coming to my Ted talk

 

[NewStartQueen]

Ask @NewStartQueen about that. Just drop your drawers and no one pays attention. But I think she pulled it off well.

Desperation inspired innovation

She on the fly, turned a t-shirt into a skirt and then strutted into a business meeting!!! @NewStartQueen is my fucking hero!!!

Thank you ... I probably wouldn't have been brave enough to do it without @AlwaysDancing 's pep talk.

 

[AlwaysDancing]

Desperation inspired innovation

Thank you ... I probably wouldn't have been brave enough to do it without @AlwaysDancing 's pep talk.

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It was all you.

 

[TXRafe]

Things change my dear. I am not the same man I was nor is my partner.

Health issues, familiarity, boredom, just because you found the perfect needle today does not mean it will remain perfect tomorrow.

I believe you have unrealistic goals and expectations. I truly do hope you achieve them tho.

this also speaks to the much larger issue of restrictions and importance placed on monogamy, particularly because of the influence of "christian" religions. i agree that the mindset that one person will fulfill all your needs for the rest of your life is unrealistic, illogical, and naive. now, im not saying that it can't work and there are a billion examples of lifetime couples making it work. i readily admit that those idyllic examples stir emotions every time i see them. however, i think communication, empathy, and understanding are far more important. people grow apart, feelings and circumstances and even needs change. knowing the real difference between needs and wants is also important. i might want to find myself in a puddle of gorgeous naked woman who live to worship me and pleasure each other for my enjoyment, but i dont NEED it. now, ive never been married, i will probably never be married, but finding a partner to share my life with is ultimately the goal. life is hard, for everyone. having a partner to share your fears, frustrations, bad times, and good times with makes life so much easier. i completely understand that. polyamory has its own set of difficulties and requires letting go of ego, which the huge majority of people are unable to do. im finding through my own experiences that i at least need the option while having that main relationship, that main person that brings me joy and fully understands me (which i realize is a difficult job all in itself). ultimately we all as individuals need to find our own happiness or we will be unable to truly make anyone else truly happy. there is no perfection, but you can get close if youre willing to work and sacrifice for it.

 

[AlwaysDancing]

this also speaks to the much larger issue of restrictions and importance placed on monogamy, particularly because of the influence of "christian" religions. i agree that the mindset that one person will fulfill all your needs for the rest of your life is unrealistic, illogical, and naive. now, im not saying that it can't work and there are a billion examples of lifetime couples making it work. i readily admit that those idyllic examples stir emotions every time i see them. however, i think communication, empathy, and understanding are far more important. people grow apart, feelings and circumstances and even needs change. knowing the real difference between needs and wants is also important. i might want to find myself in a puddle of gorgeous naked woman who live to worship me and pleasure each other for my enjoyment, but i dont NEED it. now, ive never been married, i will probably never be married, but finding a partner to share my life with is ultimately the goal. life is hard, for everyone. having a partner to share your fears, frustrations, bad times, and good times with makes life so much easier. i completely understand that. polyamory has its own set of difficulties and requires letting go of ego, which the huge majority of people are unable to do. im finding through my own experiences that i at least need the option while having that main relationship, that main person that brings me joy and fully understands me (which i realize is a difficult job all in itself). ultimately we all as individuals need to find our own happiness or we will be unable to truly make anyone else truly happy. there is no perfection, but you can get close if youre willing to work and sacrifice for it.

I’m going to piggy back on this.

We change all the time. We grow. Every day.

If you’re in a relationship that lasts ten years, neither of you are the same person.

We use words like “work at it!”

God. Just talk. Otherwise, the person in ten years will be a stranger.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Hey @UnquietDreams, how come you haven’t liked my Gigli post yet?

May I interest you in a copy?

 

[NewStartQueen]

Ok guys, I put this song in Monthly Song Challenge today, but I can't stop listening to it, and the video is gold @BrendaBear this duo is heavily 80s inspired in all their music, so you may like it, and it's just silly with the video and lyrics. If you've already seen me share this before, I don't give a fuck because it should be watched again

You're welcome

That is pure gold. Thanks for sharing!

 

[Chloe_Harper]

That is pure gold. Thanks for sharing!

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I'm bored at the airport, so here I go!

If you were to go out and find someone to spend your life with, would you settle for someone who was wonderful but not into the D/s thing at all, or would you hold out to find someone who can be that for you?

Never settling again! Not just D/s, but the sexual spectrum. I'll include more after I respond to Rafe's part, but our culture has set us up for incredible failure in so many ways when it comes to finding a long-term partner. I come from an insanely uptight religious paradigm where sex was the last thing to consider in a relationship. That's like saying to ignore if your potential mate absolutely refuses to live in the city (if you're a country person) and vice versa. It's important, ESPECIALLY as it's the physical manifestation of your shared emotional bond.

Not only that, but sexual interest is a spectrum, no different than musical, athletic, hobbies, etc. For some people, they see sexual activity as a hobby in and of itself, they read books on it, go to classes, try new options, meet with others to discuss, etc. How is that any different than model rocketry? It's not - except the puritanical influence of mainstream culture says that it's deviant, immoral (how can anything be immoral between consenting, informed adults?!), or just flatly wrong

My answer? I'm holding out. I lived the hiding it and don't want that anymore. So.... what say you??

As Toto said, Hold The Line!

I always thought I would settle. I thought "no one can have it all. No one can fulfill every need." I've been realizing that that just isn't true at all.

I was going to say I doubt one person can do this, then realized that the differentiation here is that we all need to know our personal needs and what are personal wants. I think it's highly unlikely you'll check every single box, but if you have a (semi-rational) needs list, you should be able to satisfy that with a monogamous relationship, if that's part of your need list, or a polyamorous one if that's part of your needs list.

You can have both. Someone wonderful who also fulfills every D/s or other kinky need. They aren't something you should have to table and only dream about. It sounds selfish, but it's good to be selfish sometimes.

I've said this probably a thousand times before, but probably mostly in private - to me, I want it all. I can only really explore the full gamut of the dynamic if I have absolute trust and a steadfast bond with my sub. That extends beyond the scene. For example, to me, knowing that a kid is in deep shit and helping navigate that with my sub in her "real" life makes us emotionally connected and informs our play and dynamic, or causes us to pause and just be intimate, or talk, or whatever else is needed. It's not selfish, emotional security with a romantic/erotic/dynamic partner is part of Maslow's hierarchy.

Nope wouldn’t go for settling again. Did it for 18 years and know that I can have it all. I work hard professionally, I give my all to my kiddos, I deserve to be happy with exactly what I know I want!

How long have you known? AFAF

I think one person can be both. I've had this conversation quite a bit recently.

Go on....

I think it's more like looking for a specific needle in a stack of needles. It will be painful, sometimes seem fruitless. You will find a needle that will seem good enough to get the job done, but is ultimately not the needle you need. So, you go back to the needle sack. It's tedious, tiring, and, at times, seemingly pointless (despite all those little points pricking you).

When you find that needle though, the art that is created happens more naturally, easily, and with an end result that cannot be surpassed.

That's a beautiful word picture!

this also speaks to the much larger issue of restrictions and importance placed on monogamy, particularly because of the influence of "christian" religions.

The Abrahamic religious influence is interesting, especially since he himself had 2 wives and a concubine.

And then there's this purity obsession. If I had any clue just how incompatible my wife was to me before we were married, it never would have happened.

i agree that the mindset that one person will fulfill all your needs for the rest of your life is unrealistic, illogical, and naive.

I think this goes back to differentiating between a need and a want. Needs should be simpler and by and large met. Wants...? There's room for negotiation

however, i think communication, empathy, and understanding are far more important.

Couldn't agree more.

people grow apart, feelings and circumstances and even needs change.

I would amend this thought to say people *may* grow apart

knowing the real difference between needs and wants is also important. i might want to find myself in a puddle of gorgeous naked woman who live to worship me and pleasure each other for my enjoyment, but i dont NEED it. now, ive never been married, i will probably never be married, but finding a partner to share my life with is ultimately the goal. life is hard, for everyone. having a partner to share your fears, frustrations, bad times, and good times with makes life so much easier. i completely understand that. polyamory has its own set of difficulties and requires letting go of ego, which the huge majority of people are unable to do. im finding through my own experiences that i at least need the option while having that main relationship, that main person that brings me joy and fully understands me (which i realize is a difficult job all in itself). ultimately we all as individuals need to find our own happiness or we will be unable to truly make anyone else truly happy. there is no perfection, but you can get close if youre willing to work and sacrifice for it.

You hit the nail on the head. Know your needs vs. wants.

 

[MissLabelled]

May I interest you in a copy?

I love that you remember that stupid little joke

 

[dawn_of_night]

Nathan? Was something wrong? I hadn’t heard.

I just hadn't seen him.... Maybe that was intentional on his part, I dunno
But I was just glad to see him post...