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[MissLabelled]

Okay... I've got a @crazychemgirl type question for you. I'm not posting this in Shenanigans because that's her house, and I don't want to infringe on her and two... this question is really about doms and subbies which is super prevalent here.

If you were to go out and find someone to spend your life with, would you settle for someone who was wonderful but not into the D/s thing at all, or would you hold out to find someone who can be that for you?

My answer? I'm holding out. I lived the hiding it and don't want that anymore. So.... what say you??

The joy of being poly is I can find multiple people and they can tick boxes that the others do not. And those relationships can look different based on situations, and what needs are being met. So while I wouldn’t settle, I’m also not going to ignore my needs of the moment.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I think there's a lot of misconception about what Brenda is asking. Even someone wonderful with the D/s (or other needs) being fulfilled, doesn't mean perfect necessarily.

Perfection isn't the concept we should be striving for, I agree. But waiting for that person that meets all your needs, not just "enough" of them, isn't something that should have to be negotiable.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Actually should have just been named "Garbage". Because "Only Movie That Comes Close to How Terrible 'The Room' Was" is too long a title.

I fucking love The Room it is garbage, but entertaining garbage

"You're tearing me apart Lisa!!"

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I like the range of answers to this latest provocative question.

On the don't settle life is short angle...***** is short and before you know it y'all wasting time pursuing perfection, which isn't a thing btw, will have missed out on a wonderul life imo

 

[FistfulOfMyHair]

Okay... I've got a @crazychemgirl type question for you. I'm not posting this in Shenanigans because that's her house, and I don't want to infringe on her and two... this question is really about doms and subbies which is super prevalent here.

If you were to go out and find someone to spend your life with, would you settle for someone who was wonderful but not into the D/s thing at all, or would you hold out to find someone who can be that for you?

My answer? I'm holding out. I lived the hiding it and don't want that anymore. So.... what say you??

If we aren’t ready to answer hard questions are we allowed to lash out at the person asking the hard questions?

 

[SmokingFap]

I fucking love The Room it is garbage, but entertaining garbage

"You're tearing me apart Lisa!!"

It's just so hard to believe that any of those actors were playing it straight in that movie. Surely all of them but the director/producer/protagonist/keygrip/best boy knew that what they were making was so terrible it was an unintentional comedy.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

If we aren’t ready to answer hard questions are we allowed to lash out at the person asking the hard questions?

Just tongue lashings

 

[SmokingFap]

I think there's a lot of misconception about what Brenda is asking. Even someone wonderful with the D/s (or other needs) being fulfilled, doesn't mean perfect necessarily.

Perfection isn't the concept we should be striving for, I agree. But waiting for that person that meets all your needs, not just "enough" of them, isn't something that should have to be negotiable.

That makes me wonder how many people on Lit are with their absolute ideal mate right now, or ever have been.

I'm betting it's around the 1% mark.

 

[MissLabelled]

Hey @UnquietDreams, how come you haven’t liked my Gigli post yet?

 

[Hornymwtxn]

I think there's a lot of misconception about what Brenda is asking. Even someone wonderful with the D/s (or other needs) being fulfilled, doesn't mean perfect necessarily.

Perfection isn't the concept we should be striving for, I agree. But waiting for that person that meets all your needs, not just "enough" of them, isn't something that should have to be negotiable.

Well I view it like I view billionaires.

Are they ever fucking happy with what they got? Fuck no they aren't! they want the 2nd billion, then they want that 10 billion, then they want to be on Forbes 100 list, then they want to be the richest in the world.

It never stops.

 

[Hornymwtxn]

That makes me wonder how many people on Lit are with their absolute ideal mate right now, or ever have been.

I'm betting it's around the 1% mark.

I am taking the under on that!

 

[Chloe_Harper]

That makes me wonder how many people on Lit are with their absolute ideal mate right now, or ever have been.

I'm betting it's around the 1% mark.

It's hard to speculate that kind of thing, I think. I would bet it's a higher percentage, but not by much.

But, it's hard. You are fishing through the wrong threads, the right threads, worrying about catfish (no, @Peter_Out I'm not one ), dancing around reaching out to those that interest you, etc.

Regardless, it's possible. You have to have hope. Have faith. Nurture the dream.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

Well I view it like I view billionaires.

Are they ever fucking happy with what they got? Fuck no they aren't! they want the 2nd billion, then they want that 10 billion, then they want to be on Forbes 100 list, then they want to be the richest in the world.

It never stops.

And that's your opinion. And that's fair. I, quite simply, disagree.

Yes, you can what you want and need all in one person. And then, you are happy. The ones that aren't happy with that, were never going to be happy to begin with.

When you find the person that fills and fulfills you, you don't need more of anything but them.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I... don't know why I got mentioned here!

Teasing you i just enjoy teasing you when you're... up

 

[SmokingFap]

It's hard to speculate that kind of thing, I think. I would bet it's a higher percentage, but not by much.

But, it's hard. You are fishing through the wrong threads, the right threads, worrying about catfish (no, @Peter_Out I'm not one ), dancing around reaching out to those that interest you, etc.

Regardless, it's possible. You have to have hope. Have faith. Nurture the dream.

I've already found two women on here who check all of the critical boxes for me...

 

[Fiestykitten]

I've already found two women on here who check all of the critical boxes for me...

I'm so happy for you!

 

[TXRafe]

It's hard to speculate that kind of thing, I think. I would bet it's a higher percentage, but not by much.

But, it's hard. You are fishing through the wrong threads, the right threads, worrying about catfish (no, @Peter_Out I'm not one ), dancing around reaching out to those that interest you, etc.

Regardless, it's possible. You have to have hope. Have faith. Nurture the dream.

https://media1.tenor.com/m/TrtIjPZZlAYAAAAC/lafuddyduddy-penguin.gif

 

[Hornymwtxn]

And that's your opinion. And that's fair. I, quite simply, disagree.

Yes, you can what you want and need all in one person. And then, you are happy. The ones that aren't happy with that, we're never going to be happy to begin with.

When you find the person that fills and fulfills you, you don't need more of anything but them.

I respect your opinion.

But trying to find one person to do all that is like trying to find a needle in a haystack on Mars.

I am not a romantic. I am a realist.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

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[TXRafe]

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[FistfulOfMyHair]

No.

Just deflecting with bad humor, I assure you.

 

[TXRafe]

Was your post about billionaires not saying that you didn't like them because they didn't stop accumulating wealth? Maybe I misunderstood what you were trying to say.

billionaires are horrible people...hoarding wealth and power for the sake of hoarding wealth and power is a gigantic character flaw.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

I respect your opinion.

But trying to find one person to do all that is like trying to find a needle in a haystack on Mars.

I am not a romantic. I am a realist.

I think one person can be both. I've had this conversation quite a bit recently.

I think it's more like looking for a specific needle in a stack of needles. It will be painful, sometimes seem fruitless. You will find a needle that will seem good enough to get the job done, but is ultimately not the needle you need. So, you go back to the needle sack. It's tedious, tiring, and, at times, seemingly pointless (despite all those little points pricking you).

When you find that needle though, the art that is created happens more naturally, easily, and with an end result that cannot be surpassed.

 

[Chloe_Harper]

https://media1.tenor.com/m/gj2hXQcjhyYAAAAC/swerve-strickland-daddy.gif

 

[Fiestykitten]

I think one person can be both. I've had this conversation quite a bit recently.

I think it's more like looking for a specific needle in a stack of needles. It will be painful, sometimes seem fruitless. You will find a needle that will seem good enough to get the job done, but is ultimately not the needle you need. So, you go back to the needle sack. It's tedious, tiring, and, at times, seemingly pointless (despite all those little points pricking you).

When you find that needle though, the art that is created happens more naturally, easily, and with an end result that cannot be surpassed.

This... damn, wish I was good with words...