Wife doesn’t think she’s attractive

[Mustang5589]

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[Randomguy126]

Awaiting photo for verification but a suggestion you could “plan” a date that ends up somewhere where people can interact and have a buddy she doesn’t know hit on her tell her how hot she is etc. i mean you could take it as far allowing her to take him home to fuck threesome or not. That might do the trick

 

[Mustang5589]

Awaiting photo for verification but a suggestion you could “plan” a date that ends up somewhere where people can interact and have a buddy she doesn’t know hit on her tell her how hot she is etc. i mean you could take it as far allowing her to take him home to fuck threesome or not. That might do the trick

I have not tried that but I have shown her videos of guys checking her out but she just doesn’t see it. I do like your idea though.

 

[Randomguy126]

I have not tried that but I have shown her videos of guys checking her out but she just doesn’t see it. I do like your idea though.

The key will have to be i that it has to be someone she doesn’t know. Also depending on what you’re looking for if you follow the second part of the plan you may regret tot if the guy you choose has a bigger dick than you do so choose accordingly

 

[JennyCapricorn]

Less dramatic, but for years I doubted how good I looked and hubby helped getting me out of my head by just… taking pictures of me. Every new outfit, several times a week just commenting on it, having me pose, and snapping a picture.

Then he would share them with me for me to share with my female friends (especially my Domme) to ask about Cute Top Checks. It was a simple feedback loop of complementary reinforcement.

 

[cdstefi]

My wife is 54 years old and she thinks she is not attractive. I have tried everything I can think of to prove to her that she is beautiful. I know everyone says this about someone they love but she looks like she is in her late 30’s maybe early 40’s. I did convince her to do a sexy photo shot and she still doesn’t think she’s beautiful. I’m sure I’m not the only one with this problem so I’m asking what others have done to help with this problem. I’m going to attach one photo and it has not been photoshopped.

I don't think self-esteem for many women has much to do with how superficially attractive they may look or how much affirmation they get from others based on that. It's something more internalised and however much we try, men can't "fix it".

Women are trained by society to think that just by looking good, either groomed or hot, or both, that that's all that's required. It's no surprise that it isn't enough. The outward appearance thing is probably somewhat analogous to how men obsess over cock size.

 

[Mustang5589]

The key will have to be i that it has to be someone she doesn’t know. Also depending on what you’re looking for if you follow the second part of the plan you may regret tot if the guy you choose has a bigger dick than you do so choose accordingly

That I’m not worried about.

 

[NightL]

Did you post that photo with her permission? Maybe it is your ideals of attractive she believes she can’t compete with. Then there is that ugly word “convince”, about getting her to do something you want. I wonder how this would read if you swapped out the word attractive for loved? Before you defensively jump in and profess your undying devotion, remember “she thinks”.

I wonder what “she thinks” is missing in order for her to feel attractive?

 

[Mustang5589]

Did you post that photo with her permission? Maybe it is your ideals of attractive she believes she can’t compete with. Then there is that ugly word “convince”, about getting her to do something you want. I wonder how this would read if you swapped out the word attractive for loved? Before you defensively jump in and profess your undying devotion, remember “she thinks”.

I wonder what “she thinks” is missing in order for her to feel attractive?

Of course I got her permission and stop playing on words!

 

[NightL]

They are your words that I can only take at face value for how you present them.

I can only but sigh for your “do a lingerie shoot, that will make you feel attractive”. That only reinforces that this is your standard you want her to achieve. Ask yourself if she really did that to assist and assert her own confidence or when she finally gave in to the “convincing” she was purely hoping it would live up to your ideals?

Concentrate more on having fun together. Suggest having a week to individually come up with five or more ideas of events and evenings out where you dress for the occasion. Talk them through, prioritise them and get out there. They maybe formal dinners, dancing (dancing lessons), festivals, burlesque show or could even be bush walking – anywhere you both make an effort in appearance and have a sense of fun and achievement for the occasion.

Just get out and have fun together, make wonderful and cherished memories.

If you feel you have to intervene directly, which I doubt is being requested, maybe “I love you so much. Let’s go out and have some fun” is enough.

I have one question directly of you (to think of, not list here), what are you doing of your own appearance and the surroundings you share that make her feel special?

 

[Hipshot1554]

Do whatever you have to to find the reason she feels this way. That should be your first step.

 

[MightyMilly]

Do men look at her longingly and lustfully when you are out together? That's got to be the best guide, surely....

 

[amber1312]

As a young lady growing up i was always taught to sit with my knees together, skirt down, so as not to show off any leg or heavens forbid a glimpse of a pantie. I never understood why I was the problem and not the men I was supposedly to hide myself away from. The onus has always been on the woman not to tempt the man.
Growing up, thankfully before social media, magazines taught us you needed to look like Kate Moss or Naomi Campbell nothing else was attractive.
I was on the thicker side of obese with large boobs, long legs and blond hair but not attractive at all according to what the media decided a woman should be.
Women are bombarded every day with what should be acceptable as attractive. The lingerie stores only do lacy pretty bras and knickers in small sizes the bigger busted people get beige minimiser bras and waist high control knickers. So feeding the idea we need to hide and minimise if we don't fit societal stereotypes ingrained in us since before we could talk. So forgive every single one of us ladies, be we scrumptiously curvaceous or lithe and willowy, for not feeling sexy, attractive or comfortable in our own bodies. We have all subconsciously been raised to believe we are automatically not desirable if even the slightest bump, blemish or imperfection should mar our mapped out requirements.

Rant over
I would love to look like Mrs Mustang but then we all want what we haven't got.

 

[cdstefi]

As a young lady growing up i was always taught to sit with my knees together, skirt down, so as not to show off any leg or heavens forbid a glimpse of a pantie. I never understood why I was the problem and not the men I was supposedly to hide myself away from. The onus has always been on the woman not to tempt the man.
Growing up, thankfully before social media, magazines taught us you needed to look like Kate Moss or Naomi Campbell nothing else was attractive.
I was on the thicker side of obese with large boobs, long legs and blond hair but not attractive at all according to what the media decided a woman should be.
Women are bombarded every day with what should be acceptable as attractive. The lingerie stores only do lacy pretty bras and knickers in small sizes the bigger busted people get beige minimiser bras and waist high control knickers. So feeding the idea we need to hide and minimise if we don't fit societal stereotypes ingrained in us since before we could talk. So forgive every single one of us ladies, be we scrumptiously curvaceous or lithe and willowy, for not feeling sexy, attractive or comfortable in our own bodies. We have all subconsciously been raised to believe we are automatically not desirable if even the slightest bump, blemish or imperfection should mar our mapped out requirements.

Rant over
I would love to look like Mrs Mustang but then we all want what we haven't got.

I agree it's ridiculous and just to affirm a little bit, some of the sexiest women I've known have not been conventional centrefold type stunners. It's far more about an attitude, a confidence in the body you've got rather than the one Cosmo tells you you need.

Of course it's not as easy as saying "just be confident" because it isn't and the pressures to conform are huge, but to those women who genuinely are comfortable in their skins, I raise a glass.

 

[Mustang5589]

As a young lady growing up i was always taught to sit with my knees together, skirt down, so as not to show off any leg or heavens forbid a glimpse of a pantie. I never understood why I was the problem and not the men I was supposedly to hide myself away from. The onus has always been on the woman not to tempt the man.
Growing up, thankfully before social media, magazines taught us you needed to look like Kate Moss or Naomi Campbell nothing else was attractive.
I was on the thicker side of obese with large boobs, long legs and blond hair but not attractive at all according to what the media decided a woman should be.
Women are bombarded every day with what should be acceptable as attractive. The lingerie stores only do lacy pretty bras and knickers in small sizes the bigger busted people get beige minimiser bras and waist high control knickers. So feeding the idea we need to hide and minimise if we don't fit societal stereotypes ingrained in us since before we could talk. So forgive every single one of us ladies, be we scrumptiously curvaceous or lithe and willowy, for not feeling sexy, attractive or comfortable in our own bodies. We have all subconsciously been raised to believe we are automatically not desirable if even the slightest bump, blemish or imperfection should mar our mapped out requirements.

Rant over
I would love to look like Mrs Mustang but then we all want what we haven't got.

Very well said. Thank you. Of course I don’t know what you look like but you sound beautiful both inside and outside.

 

[JerseyJugHandler]

That I’m not worried about.

Is that why you have chosen that particular name?

 

[Winchester3030]

My wife is 54 years old and she thinks she is not attractive. I have tried everything I can think of to prove to her that she is beautiful. I know everyone says this about someone they love but she looks like she is in her late 30’s maybe early 40’s. I did convince her to do a sexy photo shot and she still doesn’t think she’s beautiful. I’m sure I’m not the only one with this problem so I’m asking what others have done to help with this problem. I’m going to attach one photo and it has not been photoshopped.

She is gorgeous! I do think we need to see more of her!!

 

[Britva415]

My wife is 54 years old and she thinks she is not attractive. I have tried everything I can think of to prove to her that she is beautiful. I know everyone says this about someone they love but she looks like she is in her late 30’s maybe early 40’s. I did convince her to do a sexy photo shot and she still doesn’t think she’s beautiful. I’m sure I’m not the only one with this problem so I’m asking what others have done to help with this problem. I’m going to attach one photo and it has not been photoshopped.

stop playing on words!

You haven’t really described why it’s a problem, or even for-whom it’s a problem.

Does she care whether she feels attractive or not? Or is that something you want her to feel?

What is the negative consequence of her not feeling attractive? We don’t know what the real problem is.

This isn’t playing on words, this is asking you for more of them, because it’s hard to answer the question without knowing what the problem is and why it’s a problem and whose problem it really is.

 

[Mustang5589]

The problem is with her, she does not see how beautiful she is and she is always putting herself down. I tell her all the time how beautiful she is but I feel she doesn’t believe me because I’m her husband.

 

[Mustang5589]

Is that why you have chosen that particular name?

Not particularly, I love Mustangs and own two of them.

 

[Mustang5589]

Do men look at her longingly and lustfully when you are out together? That's got to be the best guide, surely....

Yes they do and I always point that out.

 

[cdstefi]

The problem is with her, she does not see how beautiful she is and she is always putting herself down. I tell her all the time how beautiful she is but I feel she doesn’t believe me because I’m her husband.

That's why you just keep doing it dude. Not to get a response from her or gratitude, this shit isn't a transaction like Trump and Melania or Stormy, it's the real life stuff that makes relationships work.

Also, don't see it as a problem. It's just how she is, embrace it and love her.

 

[Playwithmee]

My wife is 54 years old and she thinks she is not attractive. I have tried everything I can think of to prove to her that she is beautiful. I know everyone says this about someone they love but she looks like she is in her late 30’s maybe early 40’s. I did convince her to do a sexy photo shot and she still doesn’t think she’s beautiful. I’m sure I’m not the only one with this problem so I’m asking what others have done to help with this problem. I’m going to attach one photo and it has not been photoshopped.

This is a joke right! Fuck!

 

[Mustang5589]

Definitely not a joke! It drives me crazy

 

[Playwithmee]

Definitely not a joke! It drives me crazy

Show her my comment. She’s stunningly hot!