What do all of you in sexless marriages do for sex? What alternatives?

[Vitriolhack]

Ultimately, most in “sexless” or low sex or unsatisfying or unfulfilling relationship find coping mechanisms.

Reading sexual stories, talking about it with others help. Even the occasional jerk off buddy helps. It’s somehow comforting to know that others understand how one feels.

 

[Swuchrow]

As I mentioned some are fucking bottoms like me.

 

[4yourpleasureiam]

In a way a sexless marriage is a form of sex. In this case I am the sub who waits and prays ands hopes. I lie others remember the times I had with others and keep looking and hoping to meet someone who I can connect with. Meanwhile at home I remain the sub slave waiting like a good boy

 

[Britva415]

The wife started hormone treatment once. She quit early on saying "Its too much of a hassle". This is/was directly related to the lack of interest in my opinion.

Exactly - hormones are a scapegoat but often they're nothing more than that. They won't work and she won't take them if she doesn't want it in the first place.

 

[Britva415]

In a way a sexless marriage is a form of sex

Not to me it ain't

Does she play the withholding/cum control game with you? Or is this all non-interactive except for in your imagination?

 

[mark_j]

What do I do?

Pretty much nothing... Unless I want to start hanging out in bars or using an escort service.

I don't think choking the old chicken really counts for much..

 

[Croquet11]

Come Lit, pm's, video, read stories... And jerk off. I so miss the intimacy of deep kissing a woman, and making love. Or just some good fucking !!

Me too. A man knows what a man likes. I am now an "edging" expert.

 

[Tessinwales]

I joined a hook up site. Got me what I wanted.

 

[Fufumberuk]

I joined a hook up site. Got me what I wanted.

I opted for swinging sites and got a similar result

 

[TemptationTango]

How did you deal with that situation then?

A FWB found me here on Lit.....it has been amazing!

 

[El_Dempo]

Hope/Pray.. what else is there to do after years of it

 

[LR42]

I joined a hook up site. Got me what I wanted.

Out of interest, as I have considered it myself, how did the experience compare to what you imagined?

Was their guilt? Did you wonder why you hadn't done it sooner? Was it everything you wanted? more?

Sorry, just genuinely curious!

 

[Tessinwales]

Out of interest, as I have considered it myself, how did the experience compare to what you imagined?

Was their guilt? Did you wonder why you hadn't done it sooner? Was it everything you wanted? more?

Sorry, just genuinely curious!

This I feel is more for a PM.

 

[strongnsensual]

Shoot me a PM too, Tess, if you're willing.

 

[Blueeyes4u100]

Lotta jerkin off

Same here

 

[BDA73]

Porn...webcam site .here..chat...stroking

 

[hulmule]

Well i tried again this morning and momma wouldnt play. So i come lit to chat, threads, whereby.. What ever to get it done sometimes

 

[HampshireBoy]

Well i tried again this morning and momma wouldnt play. So i come lit to chat, threads, whereby.. What ever to get it done sometimes

I asked last night and this morning, nothing doing either time. Just bought my first cock rings, put them on under my clothes this morning when I got dressed. When my wife went out, immediately undressed and reading stories on Lit. Such an intense feeling stroking woth a ring on, wish I'd discovered rings before. Doesn't replace sex with the woman I love though.

 

[Easyvirtue]

I dialed up an old coworker. Subtle flirting and after having some drinks a few time, had an affair! It was intense. However when I wouldn’t leave my wife after 2 years off and on, she called it off. So now I’m missing it twice as much.

 

[Cardinal]

A sexless marriage is mean and cruel by the one that refuses sex.
It’s hard to come to grips with and often leaves me angry.

 

[Snow-Guy]

This I feel is more for a PM.

Did you get ALL of the PMs?

 

[Yknot1169]

Like most my wife used to be as kinky and loved sex,but then the dreaded menopause hit and almost immediately her sex drive stopped.yes it sucks but it allowed me to learn my body and all the amazing things I could do.ive always enjoyed toying my ass and found that i can have amazing multiple full body orgasms .my nipple are large and very sensitive.

 

[Easypeter]

The wife started hormone treatment once. She quit early on saying "Its too much of a hassle". This is/was directly related to the lack of interest in my opinion.

My wife is 60 and she takes hormone treatments . She’s still an active older woman that loves teasing and kinky sex . I hope this continues for years . Married to a slut is fun for me

 

[ffdan]

I got my Bluetooth toys

 

[Easypeter]

I re-started my erotic hobby of sucking cock

Haha . I did that for fun and not for relief . I can’t blame that on my wife