Sex & Shenanigans

[Deadbed1968]

Well shit... Am I neuro-spicy too?

Neuro-spicy !?! I’m totally stealing that line!

 

[Sammysub07]

Glad it's worked out well for you guys. I've gone back and forth thinking about divorce, but haven't gotten serious about it because of the kids. Coparenting can be a bitch.

I don’t think there much going back and forth. I think we were both kinda at peace with it. We’d been apart often more than we were together per year, sometimes it was more like roomates, a lot of individual hyper independence. All came together.

We still live together for the kids. Mainly because after his retirement, this is the first one our kiddos have had him home for any length of time and our situation shouldn’t take that from them.

I’d say at least for me, if there was any back or forth, there’s something that can be done, fixed, worked on, etc. I wouldn’t have moved forward if there was anything to hesitate over.

I hope you come to something that works for everyone! Hugs!

 

[Deadbed1968]

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[UnquietDreams]

i think its difficult for nongamers to understand the dopamine high from a game that presses all the right buttons

Want to know where else you can get dopamine?

Sex.

 

[Bbl87]

Want to know where else you can get dopamine?

Sex.

I mean, if you have willing partner. That's the problem for me.

But that's where my other non-video game hobbies come in too.

 

[morelikeasong]

Oh it's not restricted to men. SO has a pretty elaborate pulley-and-winch system set up to pry me away from the Steam summer sales..

Oo sounds kinky

 

[UnquietDreams]

I mean, not in my house. All she has to do is even hint at sex and I'm stripping on my way to the bedroom.

That being said, I have gotten a blowjob while playing MarioKart, which was kinda the best of both worlds. I finished 1st on 3 of the 4 races, she was very proud of making me finish 3rd in the last one. Closest I've ever gotten to roadhead.

I used to play "The Book Game." She would read aloud while I went down on her until she couldn't keep reading. Great game when everyone wins...

 

[Bbl87]

I used to play "The Book Game." She would read aloud while I went down on her until she couldn't keep reading. Great game when everyone wins...

Ya, she'd have to not be weirded out by oral first. But that doesn't sound like my kinda game.

 

[Qky75]

I attempted to read and catch up. This is a hill for another day. Good night.

 

[UnquietDreams]

Ya, she'd have to not be weirded out by oral first. But that doesn't sound like my kinda game.

I my be just a touch oral obsessive...

It is higher on my "enjoy doing" list than breathing.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

Haha no Honey about it. Similar situation, yes. Separation, yes. 18 years of marriage and military life. We still get along very well and coparent well. I’m all about doing for Sammy and if you’re not onboard with that..choo choo

Military life is AWFUL. The havoc it wrecks on families and children... Oof. Not to mention, 20 straight years of war and conflict. Even when Dad (or Mom) comes home - they're never really actually home.

We had a saying in my world, you're there for the conception or the birth, but never both.

 

[Sammysub07]

Military life is AWFUL. The havoc it wrecks on families and children... Oof. Not to mention, 20 straight years of war and conflict. Even when Dad (or Mom) comes home - they're never really actually home.

We had a saying in my world, you're there for the conception or the birth, but never both.

It is hard. What you think is normal family life of being gone more often than home, when it’s all done, that normal is sooo far off of everyday Americans normal; it’s unsettling.

 

[MissRadiant]

Military life is AWFUL. The havoc it wrecks on families and children... Oof. Not to mention, 20 straight years of war and conflict. Even when Dad (or Mom) comes home - they're never really actually home.

We had a saying in my world, you're there for the conception or the birth, but never both.

It isn't so bad.
Been a military spouse well first girlfriend and then fiance even for more than 10 years.
Of course I medically can't have kids.
And well it isn't a lifestyle for everybody. But it's one I wouldn't trade in for the world. Seeing the joy it brings to my loved one's eyes that he is doing something he loves everyday and that not many get the chance, warms my heart. And what can I say him pulling a hum-v in under 2 minutes well.....yeah I was impressed.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

It is hard. What you think is normal family life of being gone more often than home, when it’s all done, that normal is sooo far off of everyday Americans normal; it’s unsettling.

My wife rolls her eyes (to herself) when someone complains their spouse has to travel 3 days a year for work. My eldest just turned 18 a few days ago. We haven't lived here (out now) for 5 years and it's the longest he's live anywhere. And he's severely autistic. The constant moves, upheaval, etc. have been catastrophic for him. I carry the guilt of all the struggles he's had because of what I did for work.

It isn't so bad.
Been a military spouse well first girlfriend and then fiance even for more than 10 years.
Of course I medically can't have kids.
And well it isn't a lifestyle for everybody. But it's one I wouldn't trade in for the world. Seeing the joy it brings to my loved one's eyes that he is doing something he loves everyday and that not many get the chance, warms my heart. And what can I say him pulling a hum-v in under 2 minutes well.....yeah I was impressed.

Everyone's experience is different, but my former career field has an 80% divorce rate, and for good reason.

 

[Sammysub07]

It isn't so bad.
Been a military spouse well first girlfriend and then fiance even for more than 10 years.
Of course I medically can't have kids.
And well it isn't a lifestyle for everybody. But it's one I wouldn't trade in for the world. Seeing the joy it brings to my loved one's eyes that he is doing something he loves everyday and that not many get the chance, warms my heart. And what can I say him pulling a hum-v in under 2 minutes well.....yeah I was impressed.

The life was great. It allowed us to go places, travel, and explore. At least in my case he was gone more times in a year than he was ever home. Sometimes a year plus. It was easier and had less problems in the 9 years before having kids. There was one period of time that while we were overseas the first time, in the four years we were there, he was collectively home for 1.5 years; not all at once. I collectively spent 2.5 years on my own in another country out of 4.

After kids the long extended times away and gets harder two years unaccompanied at times. We thought it would be better after service but really we’d just learned how to be together but hyper independent.

 

[MissRadiant]

My hubs prior job the divorce rate was just as high and his coworkers were jumped, mugged, knifed, and some died. His boss thought military orders were suggestions. So I didn't see him for summers, my birthday or even holidays. Forget vacation that was denied.

 

[DannieB]

The life was great. It allowed us to go places, travel, and explore. At least in my case he was gone more times in a year than he was ever home. Sometimes a year plus. It was easier and had less problems in the 9 years before having kids. There was one period of time that while we were overseas the first time, in the four years we were there, he was collectively home for 1.5 years; not all at once. I collectively spent 2.5 years on my own in another country out of 4.

After kids the long extended times away and gets harder two years unaccompanied at times. We thought it would be better after service but really we’d just learned how to be together but hyper independent.

I’m an Army brat and I think I got lucky with my dad not having to be away as long as that when I was young. My mom, having four by 24, not so much. He was gone more when I was younger and I’ve heard all the stories from my siblings about him being gone for so long and read all the letters he wrote home.

I hated the moves (even if we got to see some pretty places) and having to find new friends, which I am so not good at. When he retired it really started the problems with them because they didn’t know how to be together after all of that time apart anymore.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

I’m an Army brat and I think I got lucky with my dad not having to be away as long as that when I was young. My mom, having four by 24, not so much. He was gone more when I was younger and I’ve heard all the stories from my siblings about him being gone for so long and read all the letters he wrote home.

I hated the moves (even if we got to see some pretty places) and having to find new friends, which I am so not good at. When he retired it really started the problems with them because they didn’t know how to be together after all of that time apart anymore.

If he hasn't said it, I'm sure he's thought it, but from a brat's dad's perspective, thank you for the sacrifices YOU made in order to allow him to do the mission.

 

[Sammysub07]

I’m an Army brat and I think I got lucky with my dad not having to be away as long as that when I was young. My mom, having four by 24, not so much. He was gone more when I was younger and I’ve heard all the stories from my siblings about him being gone for so long and read all the letters he wrote home.

I hated the moves (even if we got to see some pretty places) and having to find new friends, which I am so not good at. When he retired it really started the problems with them because they didn’t know how to be together after all of that time apart anymore.

It is tough!! Your experience is what I think of for my kiddos. My oldest knows, my youngest does not. That’s why despite our separation, we are still living together and we do honestly get along, and there’s love; just not in love. So our kiddos can know what it’s like to have Mom and Dad home.

You are not alone. So many military brats like you out there! If you ever wanna chat, my inbox is open!!!

 

[DannieB]

If he hasn't said it, I'm sure he's thought it, but from a brat's dad's perspective, thank you for the sacrifices YOU made in order to allow him to do the mission.

It wasn’t really a sacrifice I made as much as a life I lived as a child. I didn’t have a choice and I am very proud of my dad but that shit can wear on a child. I always had to say goodbye to friends and struggle to make new ones. It also put pressure on my brothers to one up each other and join so they could somehow impress my father (who 100% did not want that). One couldn’t because of scoliosis but the other did and I don’t know what he saw but I don’t like trying to wake him up from a nap on the couch.

 

[MischiefMakerAlways]

It wasn’t really a sacrifice I made as much as a life I lived as a child. I didn’t have a choice and I am very proud of my dad but that shit can wear on a child. I always had to say goodbye to friends and struggle to make new ones. It also put pressure on my brothers to one up each other and join so they could somehow impress my father (who 100% did not want that). One couldn’t because of scoliosis but the other did and I don’t know what he saw but I don’t like trying to wake him up from a nap on the couch.

I understand and relate to all of this. But it was a sacrifice for you. It was for all of you. My kids know that the last thing I want for any of them is to join.

 

[UnquietDreams]

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[Qky75]

"Go Down" to Egypt...


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[crazychemgirl]

Happy Humpday shenanigang ….


Which Christmas-themed sex position are you most looking forward to trying today!

 

[Lmizzler]

Morning pervs