NightL
smoke'n'mirrors
- Joined
- Mar 14, 2004
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I was largely stirring as I felt your post more role playing than genuine questions. If you are genuine to follow through on your kinks then the person you need to communicate with is your wife. Playing the victim then trying so solicit sympathy from strangers here kind of indicates your mindset would not listen to any advice anyway.Hahaha, almost!
I'll give it attempt though. You want to role play in your relationship and you want your wife to willingly participate, not be coerced or pushed into it. If you make it all about "me" then you may well lose your marriage and you will have no one to demean and dominate you as it seems to be your desire.
What benefits are in this for your wife? What are her desires that you can assist with and perhaps trade off on. You are going to have to "man-up" and have an adult conversation with her to negotiate your desires before she will ever consider you her worthless toy.
I have witnessed those who have become so obsessed with their own kinks in believing everyone should adjust to them they ultimately became lonely and single. What you desire needs two willing participants. What have you got to trade? Perhaps you should talk to a sex therapist to get advice on how to introduce the idea to your wife.
If your wife feels like you are not listening to her or respecting her views it will never happen. You need to develop a very deep connection with your wife for this to come from a place of love. If there is no love in this you will be single if you push it.