Strixaluco
Owned little owl
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You're not alone. Though I'm still probably trying to to get a formal diagnosis - just for dealing with employment officials and healthcare professionals. Oh and I may have ADHD as well, and that might even be treated perhaps, so...I'm somewhere on the autism spectrum.
But the thing is... My psychologist started suspecting it 2 months after I started dating my Dom. Because he's safe enough that I dropped masking in many situations! It's still a work in process, but a lot has happened. Apparently I even appear softer now. Now wonder...
Anyway, in the BDSM scene neurodivergent people are highly overpresented. Sometimes even the majority. Some neurodivergent people may for example have under- or oversensitive sense of touch in the surface vs deeper, so ordinary caressing might just not feel good or do anything. And some of us are "perpetually 12" inside. (Feels damn good to be accepted as such and be taken care of, btw.) And many other kinds of ways that make neurodivergent more suspectible to turning towards other than vanilla sex and relationships.
And needing to know how to spot safe (dominating or not) partners, too. We don't need more traumas, many of us have them already.