What Is Your Motivation?

[Massive Grooves]

For objectifying yourself.

I've been around for a long, long time. Maybe you recognize my user name.

Maybe not.

I have to face facts and understand that I've been here since some of you were just children. True story.

Look to the left of this line and says I've been around for over a decade. I hate to think about it.

I have made many friends. Some through email. Some I have let text me. I've even talked to a couple on the phone.

The dynamics of lit has definitely changed over the years.

Realistically speaking, most of the people here are normal everyday people. Maybe uncomfortable or more comfortable in our skins. Depends on the person.

What I am saying is that lit seems to be a decent representation of most of society. Probably not the extreme right. But others.

So, I've always been very curious, and today I'm asking.

What is your motivation? Why do you post pictures? What drives you to seek the attention?

I originally started posting simply because I was curious if I still had it at some level. The nervousness I would feel as I posted a picture. My finger shaking over the left mouse button as it hovered over the submit button. I wondered if anybody would reply. Like. Care.

I can say that I was in a relationship in which she wasn't all that interested in me anymore.

After some time, the nervousness disappeared. I posted pictures like any junkie needing his fix. I ate up the adrenaline rush. The responses. The occasional PM.

Tell me you wanted me.

I'd try to find ways to be more creative. Better backgrounds to me. I started considering it all art.

I guess, at some level, it was.

I'd go away from lit when I knew the demand was low, but I'd always come back. Time and time again. Craving attention at some level.

I'm done now.

I think.

But this isn't about me. This is about anybody else.

As I was growing up, there was tons of attention regarding the objectification of women in porn and Playboy and in advertising, but that was an outsider's view. Had to be.

If you look at it, the objectification of one another absolutely has to be at an all time high. Social media, news, youtube, and on and on.

Anybody with a webcam can create porn at some level. And make money from it.

Which brings me to this.

Why do I want this information? I am trying to develop characters. I'm trying to understand. Not characters for erotica, but in real life. Not everybody is like me. Can't be.

Maybe it's a novel one day. Not sure.

Please give me your story.

If you are not comfortable sharing for everybody's eyes, send me a message.

I'd certainly appreciate it.

 

[Massive Grooves]

eh, supposed to be in the darkroom lounge.

coulda swore I was posting from there.

 

[Paendragon]

I'll take care of it.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Great question. I've been pondering it lately as well. I've been on lit in many forms for about 11 years now. I don't wear it as a badge of pride. I'm curious to see what kinds of responses you get.

 

[Massive Grooves]

I'll take care of it.

Thanks.

You're okay.

 

[Massive Grooves]

Great question. I've been pondering it lately as well. I've been on lit in many forms for about 11 years now. I don't wear it as a badge of pride. I'm curious to see what kinds of responses you get.

Consider how much has changed over those years.

It's a far different world now.

Picture taking is a little easier. Maybe too easy.

 

[sandie350]

i have a very high sex drive,like my mum....and i love the attention that promiscuity gets me....

 

[vibes]

i have a very high sex drive,like my mum....and i love the attention that promiscuity gets me....

Why not posting pictures then?

 

[Massive Grooves]

Attention does seem to be a great motivator.

I have received a few PMs with some interesting stories.

Exactly what I was hoping for.

 

[SweetSam42]

I lack sexual attention in my real life, so I decided to start to post, just to see if anyone would notice. Turns out, folks did, and it became addicting. And I have felt more sexy and beautiful this past year than at any other point in my life.

And I found out I'm pretty good at taking sexy selfies. Who knew? Hidden talent.

Posted pretty regularly over the last year, then just recently decided to take a break. I still get an itch to post every now and then, so no one forgets me I suppose. I don't find taking pictures as much fun right now, but suspect I'll return. Maybe.

 

[Pervy_Sage]

Consider how much has changed over those years.

It's a far different world now.

Picture taking is a little easier. Maybe too easy.

I totally agree. Its far different now. Shoot, I've even had 3-4 pic threads, and I'm no Adonis. Its just a different cyberworld

 

[Massive Grooves]

I lack sexual attention in my real life, so I decided to start to post, just to see if anyone would notice. Turns out, folks did, and it became addicting. And I have felt more sexy and beautiful this past year than at any other point in my life.

And I found out I'm pretty good at taking sexy selfies. Who knew? Hidden talent.

Posted pretty regularly over the last year, then just recently decided to take a break. I still get an itch to post every now and then, so no one forgets me I suppose. I don't find taking pictures as much fun right now, but suspect I'll return. Maybe.

A good friend of mine tells me all the time to go to your thread. That you have it all and are worth paying attention to.

I don't listen very well. Rarely do what I'm told.

Does your sexual attention online make you want to seek more sexual attention in the real world? Demand it?

 

[Massive Grooves]

I totally agree. Its far different now. Shoot, I've even had 3-4 pic threads, and I'm no Adonis. Its just a different cyberworld

Long gone are the days of polaroid beaver shots.

I had a friend who delivered pizzas in the evening for a little extra money. He was tipped with a polaroid of the girlfriend topless.

What kind of lame shit would that be today?

The digital camera gave way to the smartphone.

It's not about being an adonis. For sure.

 

[Massive Grooves]

My motivation was simple. I wanted to know what sexy felt like.

Did you find out?

Should lit be packaged in a bottle and prescribed to those who are not sure?

 

[SweetSam42]

A good friend of mine tells me all the time to go to your thread. That you have it all and are worth paying attention to.

I don't listen very well. Rarely do what I'm told.

Does your sexual attention online make you want to seek more sexual attention in the real world? Demand it?

Well now you have to tell me who! And alas, my thread is all but dead, for the moment.

Answers: yes and yes. Neither of which get me very far.

But, I am more confident that I deserve it, and less bothered by things that have bothered me about my body in the past. Usually. For example, I have always assumed I would have breast reduction surgery in my 40s. After my time on Lit, I know that I won't now. I'm more comfortable in my own skin, I suppose.

 

[Massive Grooves]

Well now you have to tell me who! And alas, my thread is all but dead, for the moment.

Answers: yes and yes. Neither of which get me very far.

But, I am more confident that I deserve it, and less bothered by things that have bothered me about my body in the past. Usually. For example, I have always assumed I would have breast reduction surgery in my 40s. After my time on Lit, I know that I won't now. I'm more comfortable in my own skin, I suppose.

I need you to understand I'm a very stubborn man. I do not have to tell you who she is. But she has more than once told me to look at you.

I have an interest in breast altering. Nobody should do it for any reason other than health. If your marvelous breasts are breaking your back, reduce them.

I am, for the record, a breast man. Large or small, I don't care.

I think you hit on a very key word for this topic: Confidence.

 

[Massive Grooves]

In other ways. More so from actions not words.

Words and actions go hand in hand sometimes, no?

I think that lit could look for kickbacks from Congress and prescribe confidence over all the other shit that makes the grade.

Slight warning: Not for all. Please proceed cautiously.

 

[Massive Grooves]

Words and actions are usually two different things in my experience. I was raised that actions speak louder than words.

I was in the military and I learned that confidence comes from within one's self. It was always there people just need to find it for themselves. But I see the forest for the trees and the world in black and white.

You may be mixing cliches.

Do what feels right.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Like Sam, for me to post pics, was a way of attention. Feeling wanted and desired. Making up for what I lacked in my real life. I have gone through some serious ups and downs in the last two years and as my body has changed, my self esteem roller coasted with it, and at times, I just felt like I needed to feel beautiful to someone, since I rarely do to myself.

That hasn't worked out for me so well, which is why I don't pics like I once did, but when I do, it's a temp fix by the few who do comment.

For me it's simple. Insecurity.

 

[sweetguava]

Because I'm afraid of becoming invisible.

 

[Massive Grooves]

Like Sam, for me to post pics, was a way of attention. Feeling wanted and desired. Making up for what I lacked in my real life. I have gone through some serious ups and downs in the last two years and as my body has changed, my self esteem roller coasted with it, and at times, I just felt like I needed to feel beautiful to someone, since I rarely do to myself.

That hasn't worked out for me so well, which is why I don't pics like I once did, but when I do, it's a temp fix by the few who do comment.

For me it's simple. Insecurity.

I think we all seek attention.

Insecurity is as valid a reason as any other.

Attention can be fleeting. And not at all easy.

Thank you for using the word "fix" as I think it's what we all crave.

Ultimately.

 

[Massive Grooves]

Because I'm afraid of becoming invisible.

The ludicrous side of me asks, "with that ass?"

But this is a great statement

just is

 

[rubydlite]

Hmmm....I've asked myself why before. I was so sold on the idea that desire and beauty meant anything that I wasn't since no one in my real life seemed very interested. And I can hear the people saying 'sure you are' as I type the words but I was painfully shy in the real world. My circle was small.
However, in my head and my heart I felt all these wild sexual things...desired what I thought was taboo. I stumbled onto lit looking for information related to that and found all these different desires, likes, pleasures out in the open, saw women who were just like me.
I was at a point in my life where I needed some validation and decided taking pics would either validate or end the debate. After almost a year....I feel better about my body....my desires....My confidence in being me is better. I realize I deserve what makes me happy.
I'm sure my women's studies prof and anti porn supporters would kill me and argue it's degrading but this has been the most powerful year of my life...taking control of my sexuality and doing what I want with it....not what's 'acceptable'.

 

[PetNora]

It seems like so many are looking outside for what they should have within. I would think the empty inside would return once you leave this site... Love of self can only come from yourself.

 

[rubydlite]

It seems like so many are looking outside for what they should have within. I would think the empty inside would return once you leave this site... Love of self can only come from yourself.

Possibly......I was empty before I came here.....and because of here I am now whole. I no longer need the site like I once did and it's morphed into something healthier for me.