sub2femdom
Really Experienced
- Joined
- May 26, 2018
- Posts
- 261
Hi all,
I haven't posted in a long time, and have only rarely lurked over the last year. I was trying to re-invent myself, lay off the porn, masturbation, etc.. Which also meant avoiding sexual content sites like this.
I've had very mixed results, as it seems my cuckold/submissive desires just intensify the longer I go. I find myself dwelling on specific acts and desires.
My wife and I had a long LONG dry spell, mostly due to her being on meds that inhibited her sex drive. And now, after literally 6 years, she's back and wants to have sex again.
It's been an abysmal failure so far. She only wants vanilla sex. Kissing, humping, and that's it. Maybe a little oral foreplay, but pretty standard stuff. And it does nothing for me. I mean nothing. I can't even get it up for her anymore. She thinks I have ED, and I've allowed her to think that, but truth be told, I just have zero interest in vanilla sex to the point that I can't even fake it for her sake.
So we tried to talk it out, and she's not into any kink whatsoever, and she thinks it's sick and depraved so there's no meeting halfway. No middle ground.
Outside of the bedroom, our marriage and life is in a great place.
I've made mistakes. Not long ago, I suggested she find a man who will give her what she needs. She took that as my refusal to try to give her what she sees as normal, healthy sex and was a little offended that I would so easily let her sleep around. From my point of view, I was simply trying to give her what would make her happy. She did try, but the guy she had lined up was acting like a juvenile tool about it so she got frustrated and dropped the idea.
I changed my tact, and managed to get it up and "make love" to her once so far, but it was touch and go a few times during. I agreed to focus more on meeting her needs, but she refuses to even discuss mine. Neither of us want to divorce over it, but we are at an impasse.
I don't know how to make her understand that kinks aren't dirty, disgusting, etc.. She used to be kinky when we met, but after a kid and a long dry spell, she just decided that kink is depraved and lacks passion or love.
I don't know if I'm asking advice or just venting about an impossible situation, but that's where I'm at right now.
I haven't posted in a long time, and have only rarely lurked over the last year. I was trying to re-invent myself, lay off the porn, masturbation, etc.. Which also meant avoiding sexual content sites like this.
I've had very mixed results, as it seems my cuckold/submissive desires just intensify the longer I go. I find myself dwelling on specific acts and desires.
My wife and I had a long LONG dry spell, mostly due to her being on meds that inhibited her sex drive. And now, after literally 6 years, she's back and wants to have sex again.
It's been an abysmal failure so far. She only wants vanilla sex. Kissing, humping, and that's it. Maybe a little oral foreplay, but pretty standard stuff. And it does nothing for me. I mean nothing. I can't even get it up for her anymore. She thinks I have ED, and I've allowed her to think that, but truth be told, I just have zero interest in vanilla sex to the point that I can't even fake it for her sake.
So we tried to talk it out, and she's not into any kink whatsoever, and she thinks it's sick and depraved so there's no meeting halfway. No middle ground.
Outside of the bedroom, our marriage and life is in a great place.
I've made mistakes. Not long ago, I suggested she find a man who will give her what she needs. She took that as my refusal to try to give her what she sees as normal, healthy sex and was a little offended that I would so easily let her sleep around. From my point of view, I was simply trying to give her what would make her happy. She did try, but the guy she had lined up was acting like a juvenile tool about it so she got frustrated and dropped the idea.
I changed my tact, and managed to get it up and "make love" to her once so far, but it was touch and go a few times during. I agreed to focus more on meeting her needs, but she refuses to even discuss mine. Neither of us want to divorce over it, but we are at an impasse.
I don't know how to make her understand that kinks aren't dirty, disgusting, etc.. She used to be kinky when we met, but after a kid and a long dry spell, she just decided that kink is depraved and lacks passion or love.
I don't know if I'm asking advice or just venting about an impossible situation, but that's where I'm at right now.