Men more than women

[DaddysYogaBabyGirl]

Would be a nice starter when chatting up a new woman..........."Hon, where are you in your cycle?"

That is true. Instead of asking the dreaded "Are you horny?" -- the other way is much classier! lol

 

[drobert44]

That is true. Instead of asking the dreaded "Are you horny?" -- the other way is much classier! lol

LMAO.............I am nothing but class!

 

[2tallpaul]

Back to the original question. What I've witnessed in swingers play, the women around 40 demand more than men. Some have passed the birthing age either naturally, tubes tied etc where I see multiple partners and the freedom to play. Obligations at an early age seem to be the deterrent. I asked some in our group and the fear of being labeled a slut was a big issue. Several said being bi helped, as people didn't notice the girls night out. We did have comments that weight gain was a big loss for sex. Hormones being the cause.

 

[2tallpaul]

So I'm sitting here at lunchtime so I asked my secretary (female). Her comments is that if her ex was any good at it he would have received it so much more. she's released her bi side and said she didn't know what real oral sex was until she had a girlfriend. Why she liked those, "shopping trips". The article is good but it really casts doubts on the quality of sex in the early years. Better sex comes from between the ears, communicate.

 

[RandyRebecca]

Would be interested to hear your opinion: do men want sex more than women?

Check out article;
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...9/why-women-dont-enjoy-sex-as-much-as-men?amp

Is that why taboo is popular.. like this site?

I think the female sex drive is just as high as the male sex drive, in some ways more so.

There is, however, usually a difference in psychology. Women usually need a deeper reason, intellectually or emotionally, whereas with men their primitive lustful desires alone are enough much more often. This is why women tend to love erotica more than men, while men are more into porn. There's also the social shaming factor in society's culture from conservatives, which is scared of sexually confident women who fully embrace their sexual desires, which makes a lot more women wary of publicly expressing their sexual confidence and desires compared to men who do so.

 

[DoctorSmith8]

Would be interested to hear your opinion: do men want sex more than women?

Check out article;
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...9/why-women-dont-enjoy-sex-as-much-as-men?amp

Is that why taboo is popular.. like this site?

That was an extremely interesting article. It appeared that females have so many things working against them that ruin the sexual experience.

 

[DoctorSmith8]

I think the female sex drive is just as high as the male sex drive, in some ways more so.

There is, however, usually a difference in psychology. Women usually need a deeper reason, intellectually or emotionally, whereas with men their primitive lustful desires alone are enough much more often. This is why women tend to love erotica more than men, while men are more into porn. There's also the social shaming factor in society's culture from conservatives, which is scared of sexually confident women who fully embrace their sexual desires, which makes a lot more women wary of publicly expressing their sexual confidence and desires compared to men who do so.

I think this contributes to men deciding to enjoy the company of other men. There is less reason not to enjoy sexual pleasure.

 

[Booboobear84]

That part's actually valid. But modern birth control's lifted the majority of that burden and women's behavior has remained largely unchanged. As I noted in my other post, if you look at other countries like the Scandinavian ones where there's free birth control, easy access to abortion, HUGE social safety nets, guarantees of employment protection, day care, WAY lower instances of any form of violence towards women, etc. - in other words, the lowest costs & risks - the number of partners & amount of sex still doesn't go up.

Like I said towards the end of my longer post tho, what I do NOT get, and would love to understand, is why some women make a big deal out of this? It's something every bit of research confirms, but some women are REALLY offended by the idea - even when other women say it. Both the sources Savage cited in the first comment I made were women researchers.
It's not a BAD thing that the levels of desire and interest are different, it's just something that IS different between men & women. Worth noting that studies of people who transition show some shift to lower in MtF who're on estrogne and progersterone, and the opposite in FtM who're on testosterone. We can also see some of those shifts in cis people as age affects hormones. But even then it never rises to commensurate levels.
But some people don't like this fact & treat it like saying it is some sort of personal affront and throw out trash and attacks at anyone who discusses it, like they're being judged.

I would observe that women have tended to be more risk averse. While the statistical chance of pregnancy with birth control is low, it is non-zero. As you observed with other statistics people's behavior rarely correlates with the probabilities. I think this is also true with the risk of being hurt. while women's actual risk of being hurt through promiscuous behavior isn't that high, they still fear that risk (generally having less mass, and less upper body strength).

 

[Elayne_Hawke]

As it's already been said, some women want it just as much as men, but a woman gets that stupid 'label' put on them that their a slut, whore, their easy, so to keep that 'good girl image' they have a tendency of not going out and exploring/playing more. When I was younger I know I was afraid of being 'labeled' for a while until one day I just didn't give a shit anymore. I had an itch that needed scratching so I went and took care of that itch. I have needs, wants, I want to explore. I have a high sex drive especially more so now than before with life's changes and a dildo only does so much, I'm not into women, did try it but not my cup of tea.

If people would quit labeling then yea, men would find out that women are just as horny as men if not more.

 

[forgotmyantidepressants]

I can only speak for myself, but I was never big on casual sexual encounters because a strong emotional connection is a big part of what makes sex enjoyable for me. Not saying I have to be in "love", but when I at least have to like that person and enjoy their company before I'd even think about having sex with them. I'd guess there's many other women out there who'd agree.

 

[Gory]

Dear Ladies. i like to ask Something without getting my Ass NailEd to the Wall. Can I have some open mind Ladies answer it. Just give a . Thanks and Peace be with all.

 

[Vinylguy]

I can only speak for myself, but I was never big on casual sexual encounters because a strong emotional connection is a big part of what makes sex enjoyable for me. Not saying I have to be in "love", but when I at least have to like that person and enjoy their company before I'd even think about having sex with them. I'd guess there's many other women out there who'd agree.

Agreed