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Call it what you will, white hat, black hat, "twue" dom. I just don't agree. I personally think these twue sub/twue dom conversations are for the birds. And I don't mean when someone discusses dominant traits in the way that I did in this thread. I mean the way that you have chosen to discuss it.
Manipulative is certainly not a trait that I would ever relate with dominance.
Dominance comes from strength, the other from weakness.
This is all very scary will-to-power stuff that doesn't just explain the presence of charismatic nutjobs throughout history who have wielded immense power, it kind of justifies them. In conflating the strong and the good, we have a problem.
I'm saying the strong come from any and all kinds of input. You're saying if the input isn't pure, the strength isn't REALLY strength, the power isn't REALLY power.
That's a luxury I think we can't afford. As a community I've seen this kind of thinking support some downright dangerous people simply because they held sway in a confident and seductive manner.
I strongly dislike the idea of "I am submissive so I simply CANNOT turn off that lizard brain response to power!" - because that is sometimes your social responsibility as a human and not a lizard. Very Bad Things ensue from an unquestioning and unchallenging response to the allure of strength.
You want to give it up in your interpersonal relationships, rock on. If you want to roll over and shy away every time you sense a glimmer of it on your radar, you become a danger to people other than yourself.
You'll have to indulge me, I am the daughter of a hyper-submissive mother, who has never felt the need to push back hard in her life, I imagine. I don't think a lot of people see this as a form of self-indulgence when it is. (As is everything I'm into, but we tend to label sexual dominance as decadence.)
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