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Nope... but, then again... I'm not married.Originally Posted by subwannabe: Is it possible for a woman to have zero sexual thoughts?
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Nope... but, then again... I'm not married.Originally Posted by subwannabe: Is it possible for a woman to have zero sexual thoughts?
Nope... but, then again... I'm not married.
But it does for many, and neither position deserves castigation IMO. . Fwiw, I have done things the otherway around. My husband is monogamous and it was a non negotiable for him that I be so too, while dating etc. Its worked well for us, and while I felt I would feel caged its been very fulfilling in other ways. A lot of my friends didn't think we'd last a month let alone the many years we have done.
The trick For me has ben however you do it, and to throw yourself wholeheartedly into whatever your relationship is, to be fully communicative, even in times when ebbs exist, and to remember why we are together. Marriages can survive with strength all kinds of tragedies, or terrible circumstances, but I think to do so they demand love, communication and sometimes doing stuff you might feel is a bit of an effort.
It is entirely possible that your (more out of shape than you and therefore probably having some self esteem issues) wife who is capable of orgasm and enjoys sex on the rare occasion that she deigns to fuck you is simply unaware until she is mid orgasm that sexual feelings are fun and exciting.
To sum up, It is definitely not you, it is probably totally just her and some weird quirk that every time she is around you she happens to not be thinking about sex.
I need to talk to your self-esteem coach. I hit on a lot of women and a fair percentage of them don't seem to want to fuck me. It never occurred to me that those women probably NEVER think about sex.
Many years ago I discovered a significant difference between a man and a woman when it comes to sex. If you want a man to feel better, fuck him. If you want to fuck a woman make her feel better (good). If a woman is troubled all day with money,and housekeeping, and job and kids, and satisfying her husband, etc., she is never going to feel good enough to fuck.
A man who is greatly depressed can have his situation greatly improved by a 30 minute blow job.
A woman, however is going to want to feel pretty good BEFORE she decides to have sex.
I am not sure how this gets you off your merry-go-round, but You should try improving her mood with no eye to sex. Instead of trying to make her fuck you for the next month, make your target to make her laugh a lot.
Many years ago I discovered a significant difference between a man and a woman when it comes to sex. If you want a man to feel better, fuck him. If you want to fuck a woman make her feel better (good). If a woman is troubled all day with money,and housekeeping, and job and kids, and satisfying her husband, etc., she is never going to feel good enough to fuck.
A man who is greatly depressed can have his situation greatly improved by a 30 minute blow job.
A woman, however is going to want to feel pretty good BEFORE she decides to have sex.
I am not sure how this gets you off your merry-go-round, but You should try improving her mood with no eye to sex. Instead of trying to make her fuck you for the next month, make your target to make her laugh a lot.
If you want a man to feel better, fuck him. If you want to fuck a woman, make her feel better (good). If a woman is troubled all day with money,and housekeeping, and job and kids, and satisfying her husband, etc., she is never going to feel good enough to fuck.
^^^ This!
If my head is full of stresses and concerns, I don't have the mental energy for sex and, for me, my head needs to be engaged in order to get my body interested. The idea of sex then becomes just one more thing for me to *have* to do, or to feel bad about not doing.
Hubby, on the other hand, can switch off from worries at the merest hit of a sexual opportunity - for him, it is a stress reliever.
To cut some people off at the pass, I'm really just looking for an answer to my question and not advice but to satisfy them:
1. No, I'm not romantic anymore although I tried holding hands and her, kissing, etc. out in public the other day. No go. The fact is over the years I have just grown tired of being the one who has to do all the work. It's always me that has to get the ball rolling, being romance or whatever and I've just gotten tired of it. I used to be good in the romance department but I don't understand why it always has to be me. Oh, I think I already said I probably do more housework than she does and watch the kids more than she does.
2. I'm an average guy. I don't look like Fabio and I don't work out and have a hot bod. I've got a small belly and slightly overweight but I'm not a dirty unbathed slob and she is more overweight than I am and doesn't work out either.
3. I seriously doubt that she has someone on the side. That's only a 1 % chance. I just don't see it.
4. She enjoys sex when we do do it and has multiple orgasms, not faked.
5. We really don't have any marital troubles any more than any other couple. Nothing's perfect in any relationship. I just really want to know if it is possible that she NEVER has any sexual thoughts of any kind, EVER.
5. We really don't have any marital troubles any more than any other couple. Nothing's perfect in any relationship.
Are you sure you're a chick? What self-respecting woman would think anything PUA-related is a good idea?a PUA posted a video on Feb 14 2015 on youtube on how to flip a woman's soulmate switch.
It's a step by step formula already in her psyche from movies and novels and fairy tales. The PUA just exploits her preprogramming.