How to do public play that isn't offensive to the public

[TinyDancer1490]

I love the idea of exhibitionism but I also get nervous about going too far...
- In my early 20's a guy and I went to a strip club, and I blew him in the car, in the parking lot, before we went inside. A man walking by saw us and cheered me on. That was fun!
- Also in my 20's, my boyfriend needed to pick something up at work on the weekend. No one was at the office, and I let him fuck me on his desk. The risk of being caught was very intense for him!
- A few years ago I was chatting online with a guy and he was asking me to pose in front of the windows of my apartment and send him the pictures of myself doing what he asked. In one pic I was spread eagle pressed up against the window, facing another row of apartments.
- Also a few years ago, I was hiking with a guy way up in the mountains. We found a rock in the middle of the river and fucked on it. Not so much exhibitionist but very liberating.

I've fantasized a lot about having a remote-controlled toy inside me at a club or the beach while my partner holds the remote. Haven't had the chance to try it yet...Though I do have the toy!

 

[AlwaysInTrouble]

A personal favorite is to tie a pet in a Rope Dress and have her wear it under a loose sundress or equivalent as we go out….it has a pleasure knot in just the right place, and is soaked by the trips end. It’s also quite fun to subtly grab the rope through the dress for added subtle domming.
https://www.theduchy.com/hishi-karada/

 

[woodworkerdom]

Masturbating in a public dressing room. People already expect someone to be undressed in them. be quiet about it and who will be the wiser?

 

[BCJ111]

The padding in my bike short bibs is not outrageous. Normally just a smooth hint at what is underneath. But if it is cold it doesn't curve out. Especially if the cold means I am a bit shrunk. When that happens it sometimes folds in and looks like I have a nice camel toe. Usually I am not really aware of this. But if I do become aware after I dismount and I think others might have seen it......I quickly warm up and have to go find somewhere private to relieve the pressure.

 

[SweetieGinger69]

When I go on dates with the hubby, I wear a dress with nothing under it. He knows. I know. Not another soul around us knows.

A public restroom is only “safe” if it’s a single stall

Movie theaters can be fun, as can some bars, clubs and restaurants.

Unless I’m on the ground floor in a hotel, I’m not likely to close the curtain. As someone else mentioned, allowing you and your partner to be as loud as you want while in the hotel gives an exhibitionist flavor without being seen.

ETA: remote/app controlled panties or toys. One person wears the toy while the other controls it

 

[red13502]

I love the idea of exhibitionism but I also get nervous about going too far...
- In my early 20's a guy and I went to a strip club, and I blew him in the car, in the parking lot, before we went inside. A man walking by saw us and cheered me on. That was fun!
- Also in my 20's, my boyfriend needed to pick something up at work on the weekend. No one was at the office, and I let him fuck me on his desk. The risk of being caught was very intense for him!
- A few years ago I was chatting online with a guy and he was asking me to pose in front of the windows of my apartment and send him the pictures of myself doing what he asked. In one pic I was spread eagle pressed up against the window, facing another row of apartments.
- Also a few years ago, I was hiking with a guy way up in the mountains. We found a rock in the middle of the river and fucked on it. Not so much exhibitionist but very liberating.

I've fantasized a lot about having a remote-controlled toy inside me at a club or the beach while my partner holds the remote. Haven't had the chance to try it yet...Though I do have the toy!

If you send me the app I would love to play with you and it could be totally anonymous,that is if you don’t need to be close, lol

 

[JamesandAnn]

Wife and I recently had a campground all to ourselves.

A nice grassy hillside under a full moon made for an incredible time.

 

[slavecaro]

Will try to give a few examples of the list I have given.
1. Chastity belt. I have worn a full steel belt many times. I went on a trip to Frankfurt Germany for a week while my KH kept the key. I have also worn multiple cages. With tight pants or shorts these make you very self-conscious. In Europe most of the Saunas are nude. You are very careful with your towel. In the US, a wet swimsuit shows more than you want. You have to be careful not to show anything. I have been forced to stay in a hot tub much longer than I wanted.

 

[CuttingEdge]

A miniskirt or sundress could be fun.

My ex-wife was similar to you in that she liked to show herself off, but not be over-the-top-so. She would often wear a miniskirt, or minidress without panties on underneath. When she did that, I would purposefully walk up stairs or an escalator where people were seated underneath. A great example would be the food court at the mall. Looking up, people could see everything as she even shaved her sex. For her, she followed where I went, so for her, she had no choice but to go. This was a way that allowed her to feel as if she was showing her sex off, but it not being her fault as she did so.

But it need not be just stair wells. Anywhere there are people below and could look up, could be places and times strangers saw her exposed sex.

Wearing the same thing, in a restaurant or getting out of a car where people are present; she would pivot on the seat. Wearing a short skirt with nothing underneath, there are proper ways to do that, and not so proper ways, but no one will ever suspect you did so on purpose to show your sex underneath your skirt or minidress. Trust me; in a minidress or short skirt, men will be looking and see what you show, even if it is just for an instant.

Everyone knows in a miniskirt or minidress you stoop down and do NOT bend over, but women often forget this. Feel free to "forget" as you pick trash up off the street and put it into a refuse can, or some other act that requires you to bend over. Don't do it properly.

If all this is too much for you, try safety pins. Put your miniskirt or minidress with a hemline as high as you dare, mark it, then... pin it with safety pins an inch higher than even that! Wearing it, you will feel like you are showing everything, even if you are not. Remember, the goal is not always to show everything, but for you to get that euphoric feeling when you do. You can physiologically do that in a variety of ways without physically showing all of yourself off.

 

[SoCali_DDD]

This question is specifically for public kinky play that does not force the vanilla public to knowingly be exposed to your scene. E.g. Having someone spank you in public while you are tied to streetlamp would force the public to be exposed to your scene without their consent. On the other hand wearing a chastity belt would not.

How would you do discrete public play? I have a few ideas and I am sure it really involves the person and what would make them self conscious or turn them on.

1. Wearing a chastity belt
2. A male wearing a womens closthing under their own
3. Being driven around while handcuffed
4. Tied up on a hotel balcony below sight of anyone. (There could be a whole scene here)
5. Tied up near a road or in the woods but out of sight of people.
6. Vibrating toys
7. FOrced to dress sexily if you are uncomfortable getting lots of attention
8. Diapers in public
9. Wearing extremely long nails (2+inches) This draws a lot of attention and makes tasks difficult
10. Hands tied together inside of a hoody front pocket or in pockets of pants or jacket
11. Chewing on a condom filled with cum


I know the list is only limited by how creative you are but the key here is that the public should not know that something kinky is going on. It should also be erotic to the Domme or sub.

I wore a skirt and no panties on a date with a guy at a bar. There was a long banquette along the wall where we were sitting next to each other. It was a little dark inside, but he pushed my skirt up and fingered me out in the open Only one guy watched us from 10ft away. We locked eyes as my date's fingers went in & out.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife was fingered almost to orgasm in a crowded club. Her partner was an older man who hid the action under a napkin in her lap as they sat at a table in dark corner. Even other people at the table didn't know what was going on.

 

[NancyPan]

Panty shopping is fun! My wife has taken me to buy matching panties, the same styles and colors, but my size and hers (smaller). She then stands aside while she has me go to the checkout counter. I have had the SA notice and comment that I have two different sizes.

 

[PFWilly]

A few situations come to mind. Maintain privacy, comfort, and safety is the main concern. Sex in a public park is unwelcome in most circumstances. Do it late at night under a tarp in the back of a pickup truck, you’re considerably more confident. Until the rain starts coming down. And after it’s over, when you see a tree nearby that has visible recent lightning damage.

Similar situation- sex in a public bathroom in a crowded theater is dangerous. Do it with your spouse in a private family bathroom with a friend watching the locked door, not so much.

Similar situation- sex on a public highway is not advised. Unless you’re two people in the backseat of a car with tinted windows and a driver who is able to refrain from paying attention.

I couldn’t refrain from watching my best friend and my wife’s sister in the back seat…lol.

 

[PFWilly]

My wife was fingered almost to orgasm in a crowded club. Her partner was an older man who hid the action under a napkin in her lap as they sat at a table in dark corner. Even other people at the table didn't know what was going on.

My wife rubbed one out against my braced knee on the walkway in front of Sleeping Beauty Castle at Disneyland one night. She still talks about that one…lol.

 

[Elle4u2use]

This question is specifically for public kinky play that does not force the vanilla public to knowingly be exposed to your scene. E.g. Having someone spank you in public while you are tied to streetlamp would force the public to be exposed to your scene without their consent. On the other hand wearing a chastity belt would not.

How would you do discrete public play? I have a few ideas and I am sure it really involves the person and what would make them self conscious or turn them on.

1. Wearing a chastity belt
2. A male wearing a womens closthing under their own
3. Being driven around while handcuffed
4. Tied up on a hotel balcony below sight of anyone. (There could be a whole scene here)
5. Tied up near a road or in the woods but out of sight of people.
6. Vibrating toys
7. FOrced to dress sexily if you are uncomfortable getting lots of attention
8. Diapers in public
9. Wearing extremely long nails (2+inches) This draws a lot of attention and makes tasks difficult
10. Hands tied together inside of a hoody front pocket or in pockets of pants or jacket
11. Chewing on a condom filled with cum


I know the list is only limited by how creative you are but the key here is that the public should not know that something kinky is going on. It should also be erotic to the Domme or sub.

I like #4

 

[Elle4u2use]

Rather than being seen, I have a strong fetish for being heard. Most obviously in hotels.

There's something about staying somewhere anonymous, and having vocal, bedspring creaking, headboard-banging sex loud enough to be heard by others. Even better if you can hear somebody else fucking or even masturbating at the same time.

I remember one occasion staying at a Holiday Inn near Heathrow with a woman I was seeing at the time. She was married so we didn't get a lot of chances to see one another and I was determined to make as much of it as possible, so after a bath and massage we were down to it, and making plenty of noise. During mid-thrust I became aware of the sound of someone quite evidently bouncing on the bed next door. We paused a moment and so did the bed noise. Started up again and so did next door. It seemed as if we were being listened to, probably by a single guy, maybe a businessman, and he'd chosen our soundtrack as masturbation material over the porn channel but was attempting to be at least a little discreet about it. So naturally we turned it right up, got into doggy position so I could fuck her really hard with my hips slapping loudly on her buttocks and working the poor bed for all its frame-creaking worth, and we both got very loudly vocal with dirty talk and moans and could hear the neighbour getting very excitable too, working his bed and panting and moaning. I like to think we had three fairly closely synchronised orgasms, my partner and I announcing we were cumming loud enough to penetrate the wall, although other than vague noises next door wasn't quite so obvious. It all felt deeply kinky and exhibitionist anyway and we had a fun discussion afterwards about how turned on it had made both of us.

such a turn on.
Ive had this exp too

 

[pumperguy191]

I was working in Hollywood, CA on Hollywood Blvd. And had not seen my wife for a whole. She flew out to see me and the sexual tension was through the roof. We went to dinner at Musso and Frank's, a very old and well known place. They had the longest tablecloths I ever saw. After a drink or two, she slips off her sandal and starts rubbing my already hard cock. It was the most erotic thing that she had ever done, up to that point. No one was the wiser.

 

[slavecaro]

means I am a bit shrunk. When that happens it sometimes folds in and looks like I have a nice camel toe.

You need to get a fufu clip. You can have that even when you are warm.

 

[DrHappy]

What a great topic! Here are some ideas that we've either done, or I'd like to do!

Discrete flashing: One of you discretely flashes the other while in a public place. It could be a parking lot or a public park away from unintended eyes. I've seen photos and videos of people flashing in grocery stores, elevators, and other places of business, but those places tend to have security cameras these days. Most likely, any captured video footage would never be noticed and would likely either be erased or archived and never reviewed. However, it could be used against you if you are caught.

Nudity or sex in a public park on a weekday: My wife and I have had some fun a few times by taking a vacation day to do some hiking and naked antics in public parks. We filmed her giving me a blowjob in a public park by a lake while I was completely naked. We've done some naked hiking and sex in another deserted park on another weekday. The mornings are even more deserted. I have some great photos and videos of her topless and both of us naked and having sex under blue skies.

Sex in the car at night in a mostly empty parking lot: We've had sex a few times in the back of our car (and our mini-van) in front of a furniture store after they were closed. There were other business around and it was next to a busy highway, so we could look out the windows anytime and see lots of other cars, but none were close to us.

Riding bottomless or completely naked in the passenger seat or the back seat at night: We've done this and I'd love to do more. She most recently did it when she rode home bottomless in the passenger seat after we went out to dinner. I took off my clothes and gave myself an orgasm once in the passenger seat while she was driving us home from dinner. I'd love to drive her around while she is naked in the back seat giving herself an orgasm. We once had sex in our car in a semi-public place while it was raining outside.

Cum walk with cum in mouth: I've seen porn videos where the woman walks in public with cum on her face. It's hot, but I think that a more discrete activity would be walking in public with cum in her mouth. Maybe she gives her guy a BJ in the car in the parking lot, and then they get out and walk around with cum in her mouth. Or maybe she kisses him and makes him walk around with his own cum in his mouth. Maybe they play a game first, and the loser (winner) has to walk with cum in their mouth. Or maybe she shares some and they see who can go the longest without swallowing.

 

[MorlockIam]

I chatted to a woman about this in regards to a Female Led Relationship and she was full of ideas.

1/ Woman always drives.
2/ Woman pays for meals, even orders for the man.
3/ Man walks a step or so behind the woman.
4/ Man in chastity cage.
5/ String tied around penis that is threaded through the pocket so woman can discreetly tug at it when she wants to.
6/ Woman answers any questions posed to the couple whether she is the one addressed or not.
7/ Woman chooses man's clothing before heading out.
8/ Woman points out and discusses men she would have sex with - whether it is a cuckold relationship or not.
9/ Somewhat public but if on a picnic and no one around woman makes man undress for her while she takes some pics.
10/Man carries shopping bags that might be filled with lingerie etc that she only wears for her lovers.
11/ Not really public but the person is tied to a bed naked and blindfolded. The one tied to the bed is uncertain if the door is closed or not. The other person has friends over and the blindfolded one can hear them and wonders if they can be seen or not but won't dare make a sound just in case. They hear the door open it is the friend who tied them but they do not know that.