I’m 20 years old and my boyfriend is losing interest in me.
I really need some advice, my parents have a biased opinion because they hate the man I’m dating, I’ve literally lost all my friends, because we’ve gone on to do different things, and generally, I feel as though I cannot talk to anyone else?
More than anything, I feel as if I need to rant, so excuse me if I ramble on. I’m only young, and I just have no idea what to do, I’m looking for decent advice and not silly comments. Thanks in advance.
When I was 15, I had my first boyfriend and we were dating for about 3 months when he began emotionally blackmailing me and cheating on me; my friends noticed I became distant from them. My present boyfriend, who at the time was just a close friend, helped me through it, and gave me the courage to leave him, so I did. However, that’s when the phone-calls at 3 am came in, and the threats through texting and the threats through Facebook.
I spoke to my personal tutor, and we agreed that I would undertake therapy. After having therapy, I felt better; and a year later I was back into dating again – sort of. My boyfriend was typically a shy person, who loved to laugh, who was lazy – he didn’t really do any extra activities, and would enjoy just sitting in front of the TV or go camping. He is a family man, he puts his family before anything, and that’s where it gets difficult.
After what had happened with myself; I became a very shy and distant person; I hated the physical contact but enjoyed the comfort of having someone to be there permanently for me.
We’ve been dating now for three years and out of those three years, we don’t have a sexual relationship, we don’t go away on little vacations and we meet up say, once every week. I’m a full time student and he is a full time trainee estate agent. However, we talk every single day, of every single minute, of every single hour. It’s non-stop. He messages me as soon as he gets up and we’ll talk straight on through until we have to go to sleep? It’s so bizarre.
We have a tradition, we meet up every Christmas Eve, have a meal, and exchange gifts; however, this year, his brother fell ill and had to go to hospital, so he cancelled. Now, this isn’t the first time he’s cancelled, and it isn’t the first time he’s made an excuse of a family member being sick. I don’t know if it’s me being annoyed or what?
The relationship feels more to be on the e-dating side than a realistic side? I can’t leave him, he’s what makes me smile, and he’s what motivates me to go onto University in 2014. He’s my rock, without him, I’d be a typical woman going onto benefits and having a thousand babies all with different dads.
I just don’t know how to tell him that I need to see him more often that this is not a relationship, it’s more of a friendship, and I want that relationship back? I’m just scared that if I tell him how it is, he’s going to run for the hills, and I’ll have no-one?
I’m that girl in everyone’s class, who is very made up, quiet and shy and doesn’t like to go out clubbing and drinking. I prefer my quiet life, and I’m afraid that’s lost me a great deal of friends.
If we split, then I’m literally alone. He’s all I’ve got left.
I just need advice on what to do, I’m fed up of sitting in bed all night, wondering if we’re going to last and what will happen to me. I truly miss seeing him, yet whenever I try to tell him let’s meet up, something pops up or it’s not the right time to tell him, there’s always something.
I feel like I’ve buried a hole and I’m never coming out
Thanks for your help
Jasmin xo
I really need some advice, my parents have a biased opinion because they hate the man I’m dating, I’ve literally lost all my friends, because we’ve gone on to do different things, and generally, I feel as though I cannot talk to anyone else?
More than anything, I feel as if I need to rant, so excuse me if I ramble on. I’m only young, and I just have no idea what to do, I’m looking for decent advice and not silly comments. Thanks in advance.
When I was 15, I had my first boyfriend and we were dating for about 3 months when he began emotionally blackmailing me and cheating on me; my friends noticed I became distant from them. My present boyfriend, who at the time was just a close friend, helped me through it, and gave me the courage to leave him, so I did. However, that’s when the phone-calls at 3 am came in, and the threats through texting and the threats through Facebook.
I spoke to my personal tutor, and we agreed that I would undertake therapy. After having therapy, I felt better; and a year later I was back into dating again – sort of. My boyfriend was typically a shy person, who loved to laugh, who was lazy – he didn’t really do any extra activities, and would enjoy just sitting in front of the TV or go camping. He is a family man, he puts his family before anything, and that’s where it gets difficult.
After what had happened with myself; I became a very shy and distant person; I hated the physical contact but enjoyed the comfort of having someone to be there permanently for me.
We’ve been dating now for three years and out of those three years, we don’t have a sexual relationship, we don’t go away on little vacations and we meet up say, once every week. I’m a full time student and he is a full time trainee estate agent. However, we talk every single day, of every single minute, of every single hour. It’s non-stop. He messages me as soon as he gets up and we’ll talk straight on through until we have to go to sleep? It’s so bizarre.
We have a tradition, we meet up every Christmas Eve, have a meal, and exchange gifts; however, this year, his brother fell ill and had to go to hospital, so he cancelled. Now, this isn’t the first time he’s cancelled, and it isn’t the first time he’s made an excuse of a family member being sick. I don’t know if it’s me being annoyed or what?
The relationship feels more to be on the e-dating side than a realistic side? I can’t leave him, he’s what makes me smile, and he’s what motivates me to go onto University in 2014. He’s my rock, without him, I’d be a typical woman going onto benefits and having a thousand babies all with different dads.
I just don’t know how to tell him that I need to see him more often that this is not a relationship, it’s more of a friendship, and I want that relationship back? I’m just scared that if I tell him how it is, he’s going to run for the hills, and I’ll have no-one?
I’m that girl in everyone’s class, who is very made up, quiet and shy and doesn’t like to go out clubbing and drinking. I prefer my quiet life, and I’m afraid that’s lost me a great deal of friends.
If we split, then I’m literally alone. He’s all I’ve got left.
I just need advice on what to do, I’m fed up of sitting in bed all night, wondering if we’re going to last and what will happen to me. I truly miss seeing him, yet whenever I try to tell him let’s meet up, something pops up or it’s not the right time to tell him, there’s always something.
I feel like I’ve buried a hole and I’m never coming out
Thanks for your help
Jasmin xo