MeekMe
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I've been thinking about this since my husband brought it up. We were talking about what happens after an intense scene. How we tend to ourselves as aftercare.
He told me he really has to step back from it all afterwards. Not out of guilt, or shame, or anything like that. I asked all of those questions. But because he has to go back to his everyday self. Like in those moments, he exercises a great deal of authority, and then has to take some time to get his equilibrium back. I don't know if that makes sense, and I may be describing this wrong. There's no real way for me to fully grasp his thought process (because I'm not him).
He mentioned that he worries sometimes about abusing the power he has. He used this experiment as an example which he had learned about long ago in a college course. I only ever knew about it because he told me about it after his class. Of course, recently I decided to look it up and read about it.
For me, I don't think he has anything to worry about. He clearly doesn't want to abuse his authority over me. I don't believe that power corrupts or that absolute power corrupts absolutely. Also, I'm not a prisoner. I think communicating regularly about these things will also keep the power trip in check.
But it leads me to the question: can having such authority lead to the abuse of power?
Have you or anyone you know of ever abused authority in a power dynamic relationship (started off fine but over time became abusive)? Is it a problem that happens often? Or is this just another "to each their own/compatibility" kind of thing?
Note: The experiment failed and since then there have been other experiments conducted that are contrary to the findings of the one linked. I just thought I'd put this in so we don't get caught up in how right or wrong this particular case was as it was just the example given to me.
He told me he really has to step back from it all afterwards. Not out of guilt, or shame, or anything like that. I asked all of those questions. But because he has to go back to his everyday self. Like in those moments, he exercises a great deal of authority, and then has to take some time to get his equilibrium back. I don't know if that makes sense, and I may be describing this wrong. There's no real way for me to fully grasp his thought process (because I'm not him).
He mentioned that he worries sometimes about abusing the power he has. He used this experiment as an example which he had learned about long ago in a college course. I only ever knew about it because he told me about it after his class. Of course, recently I decided to look it up and read about it.
For me, I don't think he has anything to worry about. He clearly doesn't want to abuse his authority over me. I don't believe that power corrupts or that absolute power corrupts absolutely. Also, I'm not a prisoner. I think communicating regularly about these things will also keep the power trip in check.
But it leads me to the question: can having such authority lead to the abuse of power?
Have you or anyone you know of ever abused authority in a power dynamic relationship (started off fine but over time became abusive)? Is it a problem that happens often? Or is this just another "to each their own/compatibility" kind of thing?
Note: The experiment failed and since then there have been other experiments conducted that are contrary to the findings of the one linked. I just thought I'd put this in so we don't get caught up in how right or wrong this particular case was as it was just the example given to me.