StrangeLife
Eater of beef
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I recently became aware of the fact that a remote cousin of wifey's has separated from his young wife and is considering filing for divorce. That in itself created some disturbances because in her family "the d-word" is not an option (if I ever want out I'll need to run far and fast ).
But the reason has made an even bigger stir: She got fat.
Yep, the guy married a small and skinny girl, but today - three years and at least 80 pounds later - he is the spouse of a small but no longer so skinny wife. If you are barely pushing 5 feet 80 pounds is a lot to put on. And the pregnancy excuse doesn't apply because she hasn't had kids yet.
I have no idea whether her weight gain has affected their sex-life - I don't know the guy well enough to ask that kind of question - but I remember that he always seemed to date slim girls which could indicate that he isn't turned on by curves. And agility-wise it must have affected her.
Anyway, there are essentially two factions in the family - one that understands him and one that is on her side. The positions can be summed up as follows:
She selfishly changed the parameters of the marriage.
In a marriage you are supposed to fulfil each others needs and wishes, which means that he has to be a hunk for her and she has to be a hottie for him. By letting herself go like this, she has put her own love of food over any consideration for her husband and is essentially saying: "Fuck you - and go fetch me another piece of cake!"
Why should he stay married to a woman who holds him and his needs in such low regard? He is obviously not her first priority in life.
He promised to love her and honor her for better and for worse.
Beauty is only skin deep and you should remember that you married a person and not a pretty picture. Eventually we all change - we grow old, gravity takes it's toll, guys may lose their top-fur, women may get stretch-marks and so on and so forth. The point of a marriage is that you enter into a contractual relationship where you promise to stand by each other through life regardless of what might happen.
How can he be so superficial and desert his wife just because she changed physically?
Wifey's crazy family issues aside, I think this is an interesting conundrum, so I would be interested in seeing which faction would have the majority in the forum. And I elected to post it here in the hang-out because I see a use as a plot bunny (would something like this be a valid excuse for cheating for instance). I can sort of understand both sides, while my better half wants the guy castrated without anesthesia and fed to a pack of wild dogs....
But the reason has made an even bigger stir: She got fat.
Yep, the guy married a small and skinny girl, but today - three years and at least 80 pounds later - he is the spouse of a small but no longer so skinny wife. If you are barely pushing 5 feet 80 pounds is a lot to put on. And the pregnancy excuse doesn't apply because she hasn't had kids yet.
I have no idea whether her weight gain has affected their sex-life - I don't know the guy well enough to ask that kind of question - but I remember that he always seemed to date slim girls which could indicate that he isn't turned on by curves. And agility-wise it must have affected her.
Anyway, there are essentially two factions in the family - one that understands him and one that is on her side. The positions can be summed up as follows:
She selfishly changed the parameters of the marriage.
In a marriage you are supposed to fulfil each others needs and wishes, which means that he has to be a hunk for her and she has to be a hottie for him. By letting herself go like this, she has put her own love of food over any consideration for her husband and is essentially saying: "Fuck you - and go fetch me another piece of cake!"
Why should he stay married to a woman who holds him and his needs in such low regard? He is obviously not her first priority in life.
He promised to love her and honor her for better and for worse.
Beauty is only skin deep and you should remember that you married a person and not a pretty picture. Eventually we all change - we grow old, gravity takes it's toll, guys may lose their top-fur, women may get stretch-marks and so on and so forth. The point of a marriage is that you enter into a contractual relationship where you promise to stand by each other through life regardless of what might happen.
How can he be so superficial and desert his wife just because she changed physically?
Wifey's crazy family issues aside, I think this is an interesting conundrum, so I would be interested in seeing which faction would have the majority in the forum. And I elected to post it here in the hang-out because I see a use as a plot bunny (would something like this be a valid excuse for cheating for instance). I can sort of understand both sides, while my better half wants the guy castrated without anesthesia and fed to a pack of wild dogs....
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