How do you get your wife to swallow when she is totally against it?

This is something I so miss in my relationship. My wife has never swallowed me before and her excuse is the texture triggers her gag reflex. Now when I ask her she says the thought of it makes her gag. I have giving her a cream pie before and went down on her right after, I don't find it to be that bad of a taste. Any suggestions?

Sorry that she doesn't swallow. In my opinion, either someone is a swallow-er, or is not. Not sure it is something you can get her to do.

Just like me with mushrooms, don't get a pizza and tell me I can pick them off, somewhere under the cheese, will be a tiny piece of mushroom. Makes me gag every time.

Now, cum, yep, love to swallow... crave it even. Just be grateful you are getting bj's at all, some men don't even get that.

Goodie

goodlife3738 said:

Sorry that she doesn't swallow. In my opinion, either someone is a swallow-er, or is not. Not sure it is something you can get her to do.

Just like me with mushrooms, don't get a pizza and tell me I can pick them off, somewhere under the cheese, will be a tiny piece of mushroom. Makes me gag every time.

Now, cum, yep, love to swallow... crave it even. Just be grateful you are getting bj's at all, some men don't even get that.

Goodie

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mushrooms are funny that way, people either love them or hate them

You obviously knew this before you married her...

It reminds me of the people who all bought homes around O'Hare Field then complained about the noise.

Hey there are worse things in life than a wife who won't swallow. If everything else is good, thank your lucky stars. A marriage is compromise, so give a little.

If she knows when you're going cum, she can make sure your cock is at the back of her throat when you ejaculate. That way she can swallow quickly without it coming into much (if any) contact with her tongue.

It can also help to suck the cum out of your cock as though she's drinking from a straw. Again, it makes it go down quickly versus the ejaculate spilling and pooling over her tongue.

Using flavoured lube when she blows you won't help with texture but it might help a little with taste and/or aftertaste- artificial flavours like chocolate or bubblegum are usually better than fruit flavours imo (they usually taste like cough syrup). Make sure there is a fresh glass of water and box of tissue within easy reach.

But, if she's really dead set against it she'll never enjoy it, and if you needle her about it, she's less likely to open up to the idea. I would give her a lot of praise and dirty talk while she blows you, tell her how good she makes you feel. Eventually start working in how hot it would be for you to feel your cum shooting in HER mouth- when you voice your desire, make it personal to her. A little buttering up never hurts

Pineapple

If you can change you diet an eat more fruit like pineapple it will change the taste of your cum, makes it sweeter.

Might like it better then

nakdsub said:

You obviously knew this before you married her...

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Interesting comment... Every other post by Ramrod325 seems to call her "girlfriend".

Wife to be

Well, she's a wife to be. Trying to get the hang of the word wife. Thanks for the suggestion.

So, then, back to what nakedsub said. There's more to life than "just swallowing". Is it a "deal breaker" or no? Best to know before you marry her. Surely there's more positives within this relationship than this one "negative"?

However, if she has a "firm no" regarding this topic you won't be able to "get her to do it" regardless.


Good luck.

Ramrod325 said:

This is something I so miss in my relationship. My wife has never swallowed me before and her excuse is the texture triggers her gag reflex. Now when I ask her she says the thought of it makes her gag. I have giving her a cream pie before and went down on her right after, I don't find it to be that bad of a taste. Any suggestions?

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Have you ever considered that it may very well be the truth, not an excuse? I'm that way; sometimes it's fine, but if I think it's going to make me gag and possibly vomit, I'll pass because I don't think either of us wants to associate blowjobs with barfing. Similarly, if my nose is really congested or my neck hurts a lot, I'll pass on giving oral because it's not going to be fun for either of us in those situations. None of these things are excuses, they're just the reality of having a lighter gag reflex, sinus issues and a neck injury.

Would you want her to try to make you do something that you found utterly repulsive or painful?

I'm on the 'figure out if it's a dealbreaker or point of resentment now, and be glad you're getting oral' bandwagon.

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It reminds me of the people who all bought homes around O'Hare Field then complained about the noise......

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Bravo!

If only more people would take responsibility for their own circumstances. Thanks for putting such a succinct point on it!.......Carney

Why would you want her to do something she dislikes?

There are many things you could try...but the bottom line is some swallow and some spit..Looks like you found the later..

I've always swallowed, but to be honest-- haven't for quit a while now.

I have issues with the texture as well. Its not the taste at all-- so no amount of trying to change the taste makes any difference at all. Its the texture. I can't even eat egg whites that aren't cooked all the way-- and cum has that sort of same mucus'y texture. I have no problems with it anywhere on my body-- but its not easy for me to swallow.

Also- ejaculating deep into the throat for me would not solve the problem. I would probably gag even more.

Don't force her to like or do something that makes her feel like throwing up. Its not a rejection of you at all-- she probably does have issues with the texture. How would you like it if you were forced to eat something that made you feel like gagging when you had sex?!

I don't swallow and I can tell you from my experiences, the more a guy pushes me to swallow the less likely I am to even consider it because I hate it THAT MUCH. I think it's extremely offensive to try to get someone you care about to do something that they truly don't want to do.

Be glad she's willing to have your cock in her mouth because there are a lot of women who won't even do that.

So I guess my answer is...."you don't."

No cum diet....

No cum in my mouth. Period. I'm very upfront about this...usually discussing it even before the opportunity presents itself to really piss me off...my partner can cum anywhere on my body (or in my body, if it is monogamous relationship and we've both been tested)...but the mouth is off limits. That being said, I will suck a cock like it's nobody's business, so it isn't like I feel that the act itself is dirty or wrong.

I think maybe the OP should seriously consider whether or not he NEEDS someone to swallow his cum in order to be fulfilled in life. If the answer is yes, and it very well might be, then choosing a different partner is the only responsible thing to do. Otherwise....somewhere down the road...cheating will almost be guaranteed. She isn't going to change her mind about this.

If you force her (or try to) the odds are good that it will turn her off to it even more. That is probably the last thing you want to do.

Still haven't figured out your relationship. Boyfriend/girlfriend, engaged, or married? I don't want you to take this the wrong way but if your SO is deadset against it and you are trying to make her do something she is deadset against, then you are a dickhead. She should dump you or you should dump her if this is the way you feel. If you're not married then I highly recommend that you never get married.

Monkiey10 said:

I'm very upfront about this...usually discussing it even before the opportunity presents itself to really piss me off...my partner can cum anywhere on my body (or in my body, if it is monogamous relationship and we've both been tested)...but the mouth is off limits.

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This is why we say communication with your partner is paramount! In a caring relationship BOTH partners need to be able to share their desires and you BOTH work to find a compromise that is acceptable.

SweetErika said:

Would you want her to try to make you do something that you found utterly repulsive or painful?

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If the answer to this happens to be yes, you could offer a trade - she swallows once, she gets to fuck your ass with a strapon once, or something like that.

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Thanks for the advise on getting her to swallow, we will try. And to the non cock suckers, read the post before you blast. It says how do you get her too, not how to force her too. People want to jump to conclusions and try to be therapist sometimes. Must be what they were taught at therapy today?

Sorry ramrod but...

your post says she is, "totally against it." Yet you continue, it sure sounds like you're trying to FORCE her to do something she does not want to do!

Well, you don't need my two cents, since everybody's already said them, and you won't want them either, but here they are:

My suggestion to you is that you learn to live with it. Relationships, and especially marriages, are not about egging people into doing something they don't want to.

Here's some new advice: talk to her. She's explained that swallowing triggers her gag reflex. Ask her, kindly and without judgment, about her past experiences. Then it'll be your turn to share. Why would it make you so happy for her to swallow? Tell her the answer and see what she says.

Ultimately, what you need to do is be willing to make sacrifices. I've said this a few times on this board and I'm not sure anybody's ever gotten it, so let's see if I can make it make sense this time:

There are two ways of approaching a compromise. One is to say, "Aww, man. I have to give up something I want." The other is to say, "Yay!: I have a chance to help somebody else achieve something they want!" That latter attitude is the only way you'll be able to get your wifey/girlf/sig.other/whatever to consider inconveniencing herself. How?, and why? By showing that you are willing to inconvenience yourself. You enjoy having a woman swallow your emissions... but you love her so much that you are willing to forego that pleasure for the sake of her happiness and satisfaction. You love her more than you love yourself. If you are able to demonstrate that attitude to her, she may (may) be more inclined to reciprocate. This is an issue that could drive you apart... but it can also bring you together. It's all in how you approach it.

That's all I got.

Ramrod325 said:

<snip> And to the non cock suckers, read the post before you blast. It says how do you get her too, not how to force her too. People want to jump to conclusions and try to be therapist sometimes.

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Tip #2 - HT'ers say what they think, not necessarily what you want to hear. If all you want is validation for your point of view, you are (again), on the wrong board.

As previously pointed out, in your opening post, you indicate your SO is totally against swallowing and why. Yet here you are, seeking advice on how to get her to do exactly what she has no desire for. That certainly smacks of non consent, coercion or force. You give the impression that your desires trump hers, regardless of how she feels about it. That may not have been your intent, but it IS the impression that was conveyed (to more than one person, I might add).

Word choice is important in communication. Like it or not, it DOES directly influence the way people respond to you.

I have to jump on the bandwagon here with the others (and my previous post). There is really no line between your "how do you get her to" and your "not how do you force her to". If she has already stated that she is dead set against it then no means no, it doesn't mean "no but feel free to find a way to get me to".