First Spanking

her_soffie said:

Good luck with the experience. I'm looking forward to my first time as well. I think trust in your partner is a main ingredient to making this work....believing they know your limits, and how to take you just beyond it. You should have a safe word, just in case you needit, though.

Have fun !

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Thank you! Trust is there...saftey is assured...a safe word has been selected etc. I think what I'm most nervous about is the non-sexuality of the act. It's so new and foreign to me, but I look forward to it

knde said:

Thank you! Trust is there...saftey is assured...a safe word has been selected etc. I think what I'm most nervous about is the non-sexuality of the act. It's so new and foreign to me, but I look forward to it

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VelvetDarkness said:

Just a thought.

One thing I found is that my Master spanks me for his pleasure and amusement for the most part. I used to stay as still and quiet as I could but he gets far less enjoyment out of that. He loves to watch me moan and squirm. Obviously I don't know whether your guy will be more pleased with obedience and suppression of your responses or if he'll prefer you to react freely and let him see how much you are enduring just to serve him. It might be something to discuss with him beforehand though.

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Velvet, in a quick summary our relationship is more Teacher/Student than Master/Slave. I'm allowed free reign (to a point) but as you can imagine I want to be a stellar student

her_soffie said:

My guess is you will find it to be more sexual than you anticipate, although not in the most often thought of way. Sexuality covers a lot more territory than people think.

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knde said:

Her_Soffie, oooh please expand! That is probably the biggest mental hurdle to overcome. The idea of it NOT being sexual (in my narrow definition of what sexual is). I'm worried I may feel infantilised or silly, and I don't want that at all. Yes, my novice is showing :-(

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her_soffie said:

I can't speak for you, but for myself it is a matter of making myself totally vulnerable. It only becomes silly if you consider it a game, something you are playing at for only a short while.
If it is a true power exchange, a lifestyle you are committed to, the psycho/sexual aspect of it becomes much deeper. You are giving yourself to your Dom/Domme for their pleasure. This satisfies a need in the sub to please. That's how see it at least.

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Agreed. There is a sense of vulnerability. "If I can let him protect me, I can let him spank me." It's not a game, but it IS a new direction for me. Thus my concerns. I'm hoping to both mentally and sexually (if he lets it) enjoy it

sexycaz22 said:

I remember my first spanking with happy thoughts.

Like you, knde, I thought it to be a non-sexual act. But once I felt his hand hitting my asscheeks, suddenly I felt like I was floating on air, and I felt my arousal raising with each spank, with the warmth of his hand, rubbing and caressing. Oh, it felt so good!

Hell, I had that last night with a new Top, he is very sensual and I loved his hands all over my asscheeks, softly caressing and rubbing...opps, going off the topic!

Spankings is very erotic, at least in my opinion, but each one is different.

All I can advise, is be careful, be sure there is a safeword in place, know your limits and above all, ENJOY!

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I agree! I've always associated spankings with sex, but he wants to branch out to spankings with less focus on sex. It is my first time, so I don't doubt we will probably segue into sex, but it's not the plan for now.

Done, done, done and will do, !

oneguy4fun said:

Yes, spanking can actually be quite exciting. The first time I lay across my Goddess's lap I found that in itself to be exciting. I guess it was the excitement of the power exchange or feeling like a naughty school boy being punished. I now look forward to being spanked.

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Excitement is definitely high on my list of emotions! I also am very much looking forward to it, !

infinity706 said:

Well, the fact that spanking can actually cause someone to orgasm, it might be a little difficult to make it not sexual for you.

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knde said:

Well I'm certainly not expecting THAT to happen! Though now that you mention it, I can't help but wonder if I could orgasm that way...hmmm?!?

I do primarily consider spanking sexual, he doesn't. So this is me trying it out his way.

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This is not uncommon at all so dont be surprised if you at least get near orgasm...

I am a switch and enjoy being dom and sub... I find spanking on me and giving very very sexual.. Even though your Teacher may say he does not find it sexual, I suspect he really does.. I find myself getting a very nice hardon giving and recieving spankings... I am not into the extreme pain, just enough to arouse ones attention... They can be very erotic depending on your threshold and how painfull you want him to be... or he wants to give...

I will be anxious to hear how it goes...I bet you will like it. Then you have the future to experience a swat on your breasts, nipples and your kitty... those areas can make both sub and dom very aroused.. Just the thought of you geting spanked is arousing to me.. I saw your pic.. and you are stunning.. He is a VERY lucky Teacher/dom to not only have such a willing sub, but also a beautiful one with a gorgeous body to add.. I would have soo much fun with a sub like you..

Good luck babe and share the details with us!!
STG

Sun Tan Guy said:

This is not uncommon at all so dont be surprised if you at least get near orgasm...

I am a switch and enjoy being dom and sub... I find spanking on me and giving very very sexual.. Even though your Teacher may say he does not find it sexual, I suspect he really does.. I find myself getting a very nice hardon giving and recieving spankings... I am not into the extreme pain, just enough to arouse ones attention... They can be very erotic depending on your threshold and how painfull you want him to be... or he wants to give...

I will be anxious to hear how it goes...I bet you will like it. Then you have the future to experience a swat on your breasts, nipples and your kitty... those areas can make both sub and dom very aroused.. Just the thought of you geting spanked is arousing to me.. I saw your pic.. and you are stunning.. He is a VERY lucky Teacher/dom to not only have such a willing sub, but also a beautiful one with a gorgeous body to add.. I would have soo much fun with a sub like you..

Good luck babe and share the details with us!!
STG

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Great! Another thing to add to the mass of feelings about this, .

He does enjoy it in a sexual context, but is attempting to put it in a non-sexual context. We are in a "Reward and Punishment" phase, and I expressed interest in a spanking being a punishment tool (or even a reward if I like it).

Haha! I will be sure to fill you in (but not all the gory details!). Thank you once again. I'll be sure to let him know how lucky he is, .

coastal-boy said:

anticipation. I love running my flogger along her body. She never knows which it will be...the flogger or my hand but her body seems to love both.

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knde said:

Well...considering I was struck speechless when he suggested a paddle, it's safe to assume I won't be encouraging use of a flogger just yet!

General question to all, do you prefer quiet or loud? A part of me thinks that in being the submissive, I should be quiet (take it like a big girl). Then a part of me thinks, if it hurts right I should be loud. He's given me freedom to do as I wish but I'm just curious.

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EmpressFi said:

Well for me, I prefer a paddle to a flogger. Not because a flogger is more intense, but quite the opposite. I want it to sting, I want it to hurt. And a flogger is more of a thuddy pain. Use that on my back please, but use cane, paddle, crop, bare hand on my ass.

As far as loud or quiet, I think that's about as individual as whether you're a moaner or a screamer. When being spanked.. I moan at first but have been known to cry out. . Depends, does the top want you to respond honestly or only how he wants you to respond? I'm a submissive but I'm a screamer both when coming and at when it hurts.

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I haven't used either...beginner. They just seem a tad intimidating from where I stand (hopefully that changes in the future).

I'm reserved. I want to scream but I hold it back in (out of habit). He didn't specify. He said to respond as I please.

It happens on Wednesday and I've thought of nothing else since we agreed on the date, .

knde said:

Great! Another thing to add to the mass of feelings about this, .

He does enjoy it in a sexual context, but is attempting to put it in a non-sexual context. We are in a "Reward and Punishment" phase, and I expressed interest in a spanking being a punishment tool (or even a reward if I like it).

Haha! I will be sure to fill you in (but not all the gory details!). Thank you once again. I'll be sure to let him know how lucky he is, .

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Sun Tan Guy said:

As a good dom, he should put it in the non sexual context, but if your D/s relationship has sexual undertones, he inside will want you to enjoy it. and when you do.. so will he.. He most likely wont want to jerk off, or have you suck him off as he does it, I cant see him enjoying it that way, but after the pain has subsided, then the rewards should cum for you both.... Him first of course...

Details babe.. the more details the better.. hee heee..

As far as paddles or floggers.. honestly I prefer a crop and then a flogger and then my hand.. I wouldnt want to use a paddle.. Too hard... I can manipulate a crop better.. and I love to hear the snap.. I can also manipulate the flogger easier too..

If he is permitting you to make noise..then doo it!!!!!!!!!!! I love hearing reactions.. it can be very arousing..the louder the better too.. Let him hear how much his swatting is affecting you.and it will arouse him.. very much.....

This is all becoming too arousing.. If he ever decides your not the sub he wants.. please contact me first letting me know... I think you would be a lot of fun....

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Yes it does have sexual overtones. We are focusing on the non-sexual for now. I'm not sure how we will both react after the spanking, but intimacy would be delightful (if I don't hurt too much!).

Haha! Have to wait till Thursday then, as it happens on Wednesday.

Yikes! I have no clue about these things. Like Basil in Fawlty Towers, "I know nothhhiing!" I'm sure I'll be learning soon though, .

Noise it is! I think out of habit I'll start out reserved and then go with the flow i.e. the harder he spanks, the louder I get.

Indeed! Not for you alone...it's all I've been thinking about. I doubt it. I'm a goooooood Sub, . He's not letting go anytime soon.