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Not specifically DD/lg, but related:
He asks which day is more convenient for me to go out.
He asks if there's somewhere I'd be more comfortable going.
He opens doors, and offers his hand to help me stand up.
He holds my hand securely as i try to walk across a dirt parking lot in heels.
He puts his arm around me when we're walking down the street, and he holds my hand in the car.
I didn't ask him to do any of these things, i didn't have to negotiate for them. He took the initiative to do them because he wants to.
I think any dynamic is going to be most successful when both partners are in it because they want to, and because it comes naturally to them. If an lg or bg has to top from the bottom, it may be that her partner is new and still finding his way, it may be that they need to work on communication, or it may simply be that DD/lg isn't a good fit for him.
A person can learn to do something for the sake of a partner's happiness, and there is value in that. But it will never be as rewarding, or blossom as fully, as a dynamic that has developed organically between two people who aren't trying to be anything.
Not specifically DD/lg, but related:
He asks which day is more convenient for me to go out.
He asks if there's somewhere I'd be more comfortable going.
He opens doors, and offers his hand to help me stand up.
He holds my hand securely as i try to walk across a dirt parking lot in heels.
He puts his arm around me when we're walking down the street, and he holds my hand in the car.
I didn't ask him to do any of these things, i didn't have to negotiate for them. He took the initiative to do them because he wants to.
I think any dynamic is going to be most successful when both partners are in it because they want to, and because it comes naturally to them. If an lg or bg has to top from the bottom, it may be that her partner is new and still finding his way, it may be that they need to work on communication, or it may simply be that DD/lg isn't a good fit for him.
A person can learn to do something for the sake of a partner's happiness, and there is value in that. But it will never be as rewarding, or blossom as fully, as a dynamic that has developed organically between two people who aren't trying to be anything.
Not everyone does age play. I don't. It doesn't necessarily squick me out, I just don't need it or want it. The fact that some people do is a total non-issue for me. Everyone is different!
Hi Mooch!
I'm gonna throw this in for those who don't know:
Apparently Moochie does 'age play,' which is pretty self-explanatory. It's when a 'little' acts younger than they are, for whatever reason (and I think this is almost always non-sexual.). If that's what she likes, and her partner's down with it, good for her!
I bring this up because it's a common misunderstanding that every little does age play, that age play is always a part of DD/lg. It's not. The truth is - hang on to your hats - every little does whatever the hell they want. Seriously. It's like anything else. Each couple works out their own stuff. Aside from a basic framework that includes a certain degree of nurturing and guidance, everything else is a blank page waiting to be filled in.
