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First, a little background for those unfamiliar with my situation. I have been with my husband for 20+ years, and we have been married for 16+ years. I have known that I was submissive for longer than that, and tried, though failed miserably, to approach the topic of BDSM in general, and my submissive and other kinky proclivities specifically, through quite passive-agressive means before and when we firs were married. Due to a variety of circumstances, those ideas were pushed aside for many years. Our sex life has always been good and included adventure, so I was never unsatisfied. However, a few years ago, we earnestly began anew to discuss my kinks and desires, as well as his. I try to point out/explain the ways he often unconsciously demonstrates domination that turns me on. He is quite interested in "figuring this BDSM thing out," as it pertains specifically to us.
I mentioned BDSM gatherings in passing to my husband recently. His questions, a few days later: "What is the point? What would we get from them?" We live in a small town, so we would be looking at going to probably Minneapolis for a measure of anonymity, given the area in which we live and his relatively public position. He told me that he is more than willing to try almost anything to learn, if it would be of benefit to helping him please me.
He is not much for joining and participating in online venues such as this. My answers were not very satisfactory, as I have never been involved in a RL BDSM community, so I told him I would pose these question here, on his behalf.
So, what is the point/benefit of becoming becoming involved in a RL community? Are there any? I discussed education, safety, etc, but I know I missed the mark with my explanation. And, now, I am rambling. Help!
I mentioned BDSM gatherings in passing to my husband recently. His questions, a few days later: "What is the point? What would we get from them?" We live in a small town, so we would be looking at going to probably Minneapolis for a measure of anonymity, given the area in which we live and his relatively public position. He told me that he is more than willing to try almost anything to learn, if it would be of benefit to helping him please me.
He is not much for joining and participating in online venues such as this. My answers were not very satisfactory, as I have never been involved in a RL BDSM community, so I told him I would pose these question here, on his behalf.
So, what is the point/benefit of becoming becoming involved in a RL community? Are there any? I discussed education, safety, etc, but I know I missed the mark with my explanation. And, now, I am rambling. Help!