march_manness
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- May 24, 2004
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The lady I've been dating for 2 years and I have been talking about getting married. A little background... I was married for 20+ years. Five years ago, on a January Saturday morning my ex told me she was divorcing me and never looked back. I was shocked, and devastated. Since we have 3 kids (now in high school & college) our divorce took almost a year to finalize.
About 2 years ago I met someone through a mutual friend on Facebook and we fell in love. We are the same age; she has 2 college age kids and is divorced after a 20+ year marriage as well.
Our relationship is wonderful -- we enjoy doing pretty much everything together. She builds me up and encourages me in ways I've never had in previous relationships, is incredibly easy to get along with, and the give and take of a relationship seems to come naturally to both of us.
One of the fears I have about getting remarried is this... during the first couple of years after my divorce, I very much enjoyed my new-found freedom and met & dated a lot of women. Part of me just wants to stay single... and be free to meet and date women as I desire. On the other hand, I truly love my girlfriend. She is incredibly kind, sexy, attractive, and more than I deserve in almost every way. Our sex is better than I've ever known and I feel like I'd be bat-shit crazy to give that up.
I've had a couple of my guy-friends remarry and wound up really unhappy and filled with regret. We are going to a counselor (starting tonight, actually) to talk through some of our fears & concerns but I wanted to just throw this out there and get the HT Cafe wisdom too.
Thanks!
About 2 years ago I met someone through a mutual friend on Facebook and we fell in love. We are the same age; she has 2 college age kids and is divorced after a 20+ year marriage as well.
Our relationship is wonderful -- we enjoy doing pretty much everything together. She builds me up and encourages me in ways I've never had in previous relationships, is incredibly easy to get along with, and the give and take of a relationship seems to come naturally to both of us.
One of the fears I have about getting remarried is this... during the first couple of years after my divorce, I very much enjoyed my new-found freedom and met & dated a lot of women. Part of me just wants to stay single... and be free to meet and date women as I desire. On the other hand, I truly love my girlfriend. She is incredibly kind, sexy, attractive, and more than I deserve in almost every way. Our sex is better than I've ever known and I feel like I'd be bat-shit crazy to give that up.
I've had a couple of my guy-friends remarry and wound up really unhappy and filled with regret. We are going to a counselor (starting tonight, actually) to talk through some of our fears & concerns but I wanted to just throw this out there and get the HT Cafe wisdom too.
Thanks!