Lord Pmann
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whoa...
does that seem just a little out of left field?
I thought the same thing, mate.
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whoa...
does that seem just a little out of left field?
I think he's bi, or at least open-minded. He knows I've only had sex with 1 person, so maybe that's part of the motivation. He also knows that I would flat out say "no" to a girl. He thinks he can "slowly corrupt me"
ah, ok. maybe he's onto something there.
while we're at it... *are* you corruptible? or is he embarking on a fools errand?
He is a good man, and I am happy with him in every other area of our lives together. We just seem to have this recurring issue with sex.
I don't look 18 anymore, but I think I still look pretty good, which is why I'm a little surprised that he isn't attracted to my body. I think it's a mental thing on his part. I'll put in some effort to work out again. Whenever I've done so in the past, it never changed my overall weight, I just got firmer.
He's my best friend. I'd like to try to work on these things with him, but he never wants to talk about it, and whenever I try to "initiate" something it fails horribly. He's either tired, or isn't in the mood, or whatever else. Whenever I try to suggest something that I would like to do he thinks it's "boring."
His kinks include anal sex, deep throating and having an open relationship. Those are all hard no's for me, and they always have been.
So he's given up. He's been smoking weed which seems to have mellowed (killed) his sex drive, so he "just doesn't care anymore."
But other areas of our life are really great. We have a great home life, and we're good partners. I wish he would just work on the sex thing a little bit. He just gets discouraged and gets shut down.
I'm inclined to think that anyone who believes they can change another is acting foolish.
Belle_Nuit said:Truthfully, I don't know. Sometimes I like the idea. Sometimes it terrifies me.
I can understand both the attraction and the terror. If you decide to do it, insist on choosing the man so at least it is someone that you trust.
i was never much of a pot smoker, but even when i was, i found it to have a negative impact on my libido. obviously however, that's not exactly a universal result. my point here however is that the responses can be anywhere on the spectrum.kalamain quoth:
i don't smoke or ever have so i have no personal experience...only what my friends did when i was younger.
good link, kalamain. the problem with anecdotal evidence--and definitely am including my own in that statement--is that people may have any possible responses, but in terms of the OP, it's her guy's specific response that's relevant here. so if it's within the range of possibility, it needs to be considered, you know?http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201003/how-does-marijuana-affect-your-sex-life
YMMV?
maybe he is one of the people that suffers a drop?
i was never much of a pot smoker, but even when i was, i found it to have a negative impact on my libido. obviously however, that's not exactly a universal result. my point here however is that the responses can be anywhere on the spectrum.
good link, kalamain. the problem with anecdotal evidence--and definitely am including my own in that statement--is that people may have any possible responses, but in terms of the OP, it's her guy's specific response that's relevant here. so if it's within the range of possibility, it needs to be considered, you know?
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If you're having issues bringing in a third is not going to help them. Not at all.
He doesn't actually have low T.
We ended up having make up sex this afternoon. He wants to have a threesome (with a man). I'm not really opposed to the idea, but not really thrilled by it either. I'm conflicted because its like if I don't entertain the idea with him, then he gets shut down and basically turns his sex drive off.
OH Boy,
See this what happens to lots of relationships... She gets tired of his immature, selfish & stupid shit. She ends up somewhere maybe a little tipsy and some Decent looking dude who knows how to treat a lady pays her some attention and maybe makes a pass or a suggestion and the next thing... juices are flying everywhere and she realizes that She doesn't need that sorry ass, limp dicked bastard and not only can survive without him, she can have a damned good time doing it!
What? I help when I can...
My sex life is non-existent. My partner of 7 years has told me our sex life is terrible because
1. he is not attracted to my body anymore - I have gotten soft
2. I say no to "everything" that he wants to do
3. he can't make me orgasm, so what's the point anyway
He's decided that he wants to stay with me because I'm a "good partner" and a "good person." I'm stable, financially, but apparently boring.
I'm frustrated because his body has changed to, and I still find him attractive. I'm frustrated because I feel like I can't say no to something because he completely shuts down. I'm frustrated because I can't orgasm without a vibe... I've never been able to. I'm just wired differently, have a higher threshold or something. I'm tired of having to take care of his ego. He's decided that sex just isn't worth it anymore, so why bother trying at all.
He's decided that I'm "boring" even though I don't think he knows me very well.
I'm just tired of being told how unattractive and boring I am, and then being made to feel like I deserved it because I hurt his ego.
Sounds like he's blaming his low T levels on you.
Know any doctors that can prescribe you a solution? If not, go buy some Viagra, mash it up and put it in a glass of wine for him tonight. When he wakes up with a raging hard-on, "be there" for him.
Just a thought.
You seem like an intelligent, articulate woman and based on the sly pics you've posted I'd say you deserve to be appreciated both emotionally and physically!
LOL!
Mash up the Viagra and a box of laxatives and bake it into brownies and serve it up to him with a nice glass of organic milk. Go out with your friends to a quiet bar and flirt with other men, when you come home ask him if he enjoyed his night.
LOL!
Mash up the Viagra and a box of laxatives and bake it into brownies and serve it up to him with a nice glass of organic milk. Go out with your friends to a quiet bar and flirt with other men, when you come home ask him if he enjoyed his night.
I like the way you think, Jenny.
Ever work with the Russian mafia?
What many, if not most, people don't seem to understand is that a relationship is made up of TWO people, and the behaviors of one affects the behaviors of the other, positive or negative, good or bad, that is what happens. When one person stops trying or becomes overly demanding, the other one follows suit, either in retaliation or in self preservation. As you well know, when this kind of thing happens, animosity grows, driving a wedge between the two individuals.
What you must do is decide for yourself if your partner is providing YOU with what you need physically and emotionally to remain being your partner at all, let alone consider making any changes for their benefit.
From your description, it sounds like it is time to dump the worthless piece of shit and find someone who loves you for you and not what you can do for them. Life is too short to put up with mean people.