Mindfondler
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I've done several searches on the forum and I haven't been able to find a "how to" thread that covers this topic (apologies if I missed one somehow!). I imagine that I'm not the only person who might have this question, so here goes...
How can I learn to get better at giving "dirty talk"?
Please let me explain. I'm not terrible at talking dirtily. If my wife asks me to help her cum by whispering a few dirty affirmations in her ear, then I can oblige and they usually do the trick. However, my wife also expects me to be able to "warm her up" in this way for an extended time, and I don't feel comfortable or confident about that. I quickly "dry up" and don't know what to say.
I ought to be able to do this! I have a good vocabulary and quite a wide imagination, I'm not shocked by dirty words (although I usually try to express myself more elegantly), and I'm able to use my voice suggestively and seductively. However, the stark need to make the talk "dirty" seems to constrain my mind so that I become tongue-tied and awkward. I'm better at dirty humour than dirty descriptive talk, but you can imagine that my anxious insertion of a joke at an inappropriate moment has been a disastrous mood-killer. There's also the complication that some of the ideas that I'd like to express when I feel hot are likely to be a turn-off for my wife.
My wife doesn't do "dirty talk" herself, and doesn't give me many clues as to what she wants, so I feel rather isolated and nervous when she asks me to serve up a dirty monologue for her. I think she's surprised and a little frustrated when I struggle to provide it.
I'd be very grateful for any suggestions on how to improve my technique and confidence. I'm actually quite proficient at public speaking, so I wonder whether I should be applying techniques like talking into a mirror or recording myself, but both of those ideas seem ridiculous when applied in this context.
Many thanks for any constructive thoughts.
MF
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How can I learn to get better at giving "dirty talk"?
Please let me explain. I'm not terrible at talking dirtily. If my wife asks me to help her cum by whispering a few dirty affirmations in her ear, then I can oblige and they usually do the trick. However, my wife also expects me to be able to "warm her up" in this way for an extended time, and I don't feel comfortable or confident about that. I quickly "dry up" and don't know what to say.
I ought to be able to do this! I have a good vocabulary and quite a wide imagination, I'm not shocked by dirty words (although I usually try to express myself more elegantly), and I'm able to use my voice suggestively and seductively. However, the stark need to make the talk "dirty" seems to constrain my mind so that I become tongue-tied and awkward. I'm better at dirty humour than dirty descriptive talk, but you can imagine that my anxious insertion of a joke at an inappropriate moment has been a disastrous mood-killer. There's also the complication that some of the ideas that I'd like to express when I feel hot are likely to be a turn-off for my wife.
My wife doesn't do "dirty talk" herself, and doesn't give me many clues as to what she wants, so I feel rather isolated and nervous when she asks me to serve up a dirty monologue for her. I think she's surprised and a little frustrated when I struggle to provide it.
I'd be very grateful for any suggestions on how to improve my technique and confidence. I'm actually quite proficient at public speaking, so I wonder whether I should be applying techniques like talking into a mirror or recording myself, but both of those ideas seem ridiculous when applied in this context.
Many thanks for any constructive thoughts.
MF
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